My FIL had to be hospitalized with pneumonia again Monday. I have a feeling he won't be with s too long now. :(
I've been going to see my FIL twice a week for the last 3 months or so because he has been so miserable since having to leave the assisted living place. He has to get dialysis MWF and is wiped out on those days which is why I would go Tue/Thur and sometimes the whole family on Saturday or Sunday. I stopped by Tuesday and he was curled up in the fetal position just shaking. He is completely out of it now not knowing where he is and has lost all concept of time. Mrs. SLB has finally realised that her Daddy is going to die soon and is in the "anger" stage which I am catching the full brunt of. This really sucks.
Mrs. SLB got a phone call yesterday morning that her Dad wants to stop doing dialysis. She talked to him and he is of sharp mind and he said that is what he wants so she didn't argue with him. She's so strong. We went out to see him yesterday afternoon and I asked him again if he was sure about this and if he knew what this all meant and he said he did. I tried really hard to hold the tears back but I just couldn't. Cal saw me, brought me a tissue and said "don't worry Daddy, everything is going to me alright." That made me want to cry more but I choked them back the best I could. My FIL said "I can't walk anymore, I don't feel like eating, I can't dance and it's hard to breathe and that's on a good day." Then he said to me what I was thinking, after everything this man has gone through in WWII, this is how he has to go out. Choosing to die. He just gave me that smile of his and said "well, I guess it won't be long now."I don't know if I'm depressed as much and I'm just really, really, sad. My FIL is one of the greatest men I've ever met in my life. I feel so, so, terrible for Mrs. SLB. Her Daddy was so good to her, something I would never say about her mother that died 14 years ago. This 88 year old man also has a 62 year old girlfriend that is beside herself right now too. She is a sweet lady, the kid of woman he deserved his whole life.He doesn't want a wake or even a memorial mass because "he doesn't want to bother anybody with all of that nonsense."So Mrs. SLB, her brother and sister are making funeral arrangements. I never thought it would end this way.