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Last time it was 5th grade teacher with what i consider inappropriate conduct. This time its a guy i know.
Background: we have attended his christmas party. Fireworks party We occasionally tie boats together on the lake and hang out, kids swim we drink eat swim. We are friendly but I wouldn't call us friends. His daughter and my daughter are good friends.
This guy and wife are at the lakeside bar/restraunt with 2 other couples. The kids about 8 of them all girls around 12years old are at one side of the table parents at the other end of the table. (im not there). Drinking has been going on for a few hours. (Pontoon is transport.
My daughter was going to sleep over at the guys house. She came home instead.
As it was conveyed to me this morning, this happened a few weeks back and its been really bothering her.
One of the girls while talking about what 12 year girls talk about says she is straight. My daughter doesn't know what that means and she asks a loud "am i straight?" The guy says...apparently in a lower voice so that the adults can hear but not the kids "if she was straight I bet she would #### me." My daughter hears this as well as at least a couple of the other girls.....
What's the shark move
Not looking to fight, (but more than willing) my daughter wanted me to know but she's afraid it will hurt her relationship with her friend and the clique.
Do i let it be and just keep her away from him?
Talk to him? Ive always thought he was ok.
Im from the postition that one of the worst thing an older man can do is sexualize his daughter or any girls around that age. They get enough of that and it helps if they can have men see them as people not little women.
(on a side note, i long for the day when i have to deal with 15 or 16 year old dudes, not 40 something men)
Background: we have attended his christmas party. Fireworks party We occasionally tie boats together on the lake and hang out, kids swim we drink eat swim. We are friendly but I wouldn't call us friends. His daughter and my daughter are good friends.
This guy and wife are at the lakeside bar/restraunt with 2 other couples. The kids about 8 of them all girls around 12years old are at one side of the table parents at the other end of the table. (im not there). Drinking has been going on for a few hours. (Pontoon is transport.
My daughter was going to sleep over at the guys house. She came home instead.
As it was conveyed to me this morning, this happened a few weeks back and its been really bothering her.
One of the girls while talking about what 12 year girls talk about says she is straight. My daughter doesn't know what that means and she asks a loud "am i straight?" The guy says...apparently in a lower voice so that the adults can hear but not the kids "if she was straight I bet she would #### me." My daughter hears this as well as at least a couple of the other girls.....
What's the shark move
Not looking to fight, (but more than willing) my daughter wanted me to know but she's afraid it will hurt her relationship with her friend and the clique.
Do i let it be and just keep her away from him?
Talk to him? Ive always thought he was ok.
Im from the postition that one of the worst thing an older man can do is sexualize his daughter or any girls around that age. They get enough of that and it helps if they can have men see them as people not little women.
(on a side note, i long for the day when i have to deal with 15 or 16 year old dudes, not 40 something men)
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