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I think they are just medication managers at this point.Aren't psychiatrists supposed to be helping out more than that? Or have they just become de facto "doctors of the mind"?
I think they are just medication managers at this point.Aren't psychiatrists supposed to be helping out more than that? Or have they just become de facto "doctors of the mind"?
What is it that you are trying to get out of therapy at this point? I think you need to answer that for yourself and then that will guide you to your next step. I’m sure you’re different from 9 years ago and maybe the therapist is too. maybe you need to work on something else that they are not pushing you to. Probably the best thing to do is to think about what your goals are now and then talk to your therapist about that and see if it’s still a good fit. Or tell them that you are trying to figure that out and maybe they will either be able to help identify those goals and a path or they won’t be particularly helpful. Either way, that will probably give you your answer about what to do.I probably know what the responses will be here, but my relationship with my therapist has gotten kind of stale. I've been going to him for over 9 years now and it's kind of the same thing every session. I like him a lot, it's like going to chat with a good friend for an hour, a friend with a lot of insight and suggestions. But I feel that for $40/hour it should almost be magical. Is it time to cut ties and try and find someone else?
I also feel the same way about my calls with my psychiatrist. I don't even talk to the doctor... just nurse practitioner. She doesn't ask me anything except "how I'm doing with my medications". She refills them and then schedules me for two months out. Boom, $40. Aren't psychiatrists supposed to be helping out more than that? Or have they just become de facto "doctors of the mind"?
That, or it's working very well for you. You seem to be describing a good result.What is it that you are trying to get out of therapy at this point? I think you need to answer that for yourself and then that will guide you to your next step. I’m sure you’re different from 9 years ago and maybe the therapist is too. maybe you need to work on something else that they are not pushing you to. Probably the best thing to do is to think about what your goals are now and then talk to your therapist about that and see if it’s still a good fit. Or tell them that you are trying to figure that out and maybe they will either be able to help identify those goals and a path or they won’t be particularly helpful. Either way, that will probably give you your answer about what to do.I probably know what the responses will be here, but my relationship with my therapist has gotten kind of stale. I've been going to him for over 9 years now and it's kind of the same thing every session. I like him a lot, it's like going to chat with a good friend for an hour, a friend with a lot of insight and suggestions. But I feel that for $40/hour it should almost be magical. Is it time to cut ties and try and find someone else?
I also feel the same way about my calls with my psychiatrist. I don't even talk to the doctor... just nurse practitioner. She doesn't ask me anything except "how I'm doing with my medications". She refills them and then schedules me for two months out. Boom, $40. Aren't psychiatrists supposed to be helping out more than that? Or have they just become de facto "doctors of the mind"?
What is it that you are trying to get out of therapy at this point?
I was listening to Conan O'Brien podcast, he had Maria Bamford on, she's a really funny person who is really open about her issues.Have a good friend who is trying to get some help for one of their kids and they can’t find anybody who comes recommended because they are so booked up - months and months before they can get in to be seen
This issue has cropped up on the WaPo advice columns, too. Covid isolation did a number on this stuff.I was listening to Conan O'Brien podcast, he had Maria Bamford on, she's a really funny person who is really open about her issues.Have a good friend who is trying to get some help for one of their kids and they can’t find anybody who comes recommended because they are so booked up - months and months before they can get in to be seen
She was talking about this very thing, and I was blown away. People cannot get an appointment, even people with money to burn
It is a great question but also sometimes people don't know and need the therapist to help them find that. Sometimes people feel angry and don't know why or just feel off and can't really pinpoint what it is or how they want to feel.What is it that you are trying to get out of therapy at this point?
I think that's a great question to ask.
It is a great question but also sometimes people don't know and need the therapist to help them find that. Sometimes people feel angry and don't know why or just feel oit ff and can't really pinpoint what it is or how they want to feel.What is it that you are trying to get out of therapy at this point?
I think that's a great question to ask.
That’s a very helpful way of looking at it, much appreciated.It is a great question but also sometimes people don't know and need the therapist to help them find that. Sometimes people feel angry and don't know why or just feel oit ff and can't really pinpoint what it is or how they want to feel.What is it that you are trying to get out of therapy at this point?
I think that's a great question to ask.
I think one thing that is quite helpful is differentiating - and the tricky part, identifying - between thoughts, feelings and emotions.
We use the word, "feel," for both physical and emotional states, but I think it can be helpful to recognize we don't have much control over emotions. Oftentimes our emotions are physiological events that hit you without much warning.
- emotions start as sensations in the body
- feelings are generated from our thoughts about those emotions
Here's what I mean by that. We hear about someone we know who is hospitalized, we may feel sad or we may feel fear. We have an argument with our spouse, and in that moment we might experience anger, disgust, guilt. Our parents or kids give us a gift we were not expecting and we feel surprised or happy. See how I keep using the word "feel"? But what am I describing? It's more about emotions that our body is experiencing.
Feelings on the other than are what is generated when we ruminate about those emotions. If the emotion I am feeling is sadness, I might have thoughts that generate feelings of being lonely, vulnerable, despair, hurt.
I don't want to get too far into the weeds or we'll get off track. But understanding what your body is telling you is important. Being cognizant that our feelings come from our thoughts, we may have the epiphany that if I can interrupt my automatic thoughts - that continuous loop tape playing inside everyone's head - then to some degree I can control my feelings. Examine the thought you are having, determine if it's in fact true (it may be) or if in fact it's an irrational conclusion that is reinforcing the negative emotion you are feeling.
They're all interconnected but the key takeaway from what I am trying to say is our emotions just kind of exist. You are going to experience them, and while you can with practice regulate your emotions, the feelings you associate with those emotions are predetermined by the thoughts you are having.
Or as my hometown pastor in West Michigan likes to say, "You do what you do because you feel what you feel because you think what you think."
If you can interrupt that continuous loop tape in your head - by examining and analyzing your thoughts, and when they are false, replacing them with thoughts that are true and rational - then you can dramatically improve your thought patterns and the feelings will feel. In time that will bring your emotions down to a more manageable level.
I hope that helps someone, but if anything I wrote feels unclear please LMK.
That’s a very helpful way of looking at it, much appreciated.
What you think directly influences how you feel and how you behave.
So if you think you're a failure, you'll feel like a failure.
Then, you'll act like a failure, which reinforces your belief that you must be a failure.
What is it that you are trying to get out of therapy at this point? I think you need to answer that for yourself and then that will guide you to your next step. I’m sure you’re different from 9 years ago and maybe the therapist is too. maybe you need to work on something else that they are not pushing you to. Probably the best thing to do is to think about what your goals are now and then talk to your therapist about that and see if it’s still a good fit. Or tell them that you are trying to figure that out and maybe they will either be able to help identify those goals and a path or they won’t be particularly helpful. Either way, that will probably give you your answer about what to do.I probably know what the responses will be here, but my relationship with my therapist has gotten kind of stale. I've been going to him for over 9 years now and it's kind of the same thing every session. I like him a lot, it's like going to chat with a good friend for an hour, a friend with a lot of insight and suggestions. But I feel that for $40/hour it should almost be magical. Is it time to cut ties and try and find someone else?
I also feel the same way about my calls with my psychiatrist. I don't even talk to the doctor... just nurse practitioner. She doesn't ask me anything except "how I'm doing with my medications". She refills them and then schedules me for two months out. Boom, $40. Aren't psychiatrists supposed to be helping out more than that? Or have they just become de facto "doctors of the mind"?
At school we definitely saw an uptick in the 2 years or so “post-COVID”. Things aren’t ideal now but better than they were.Also, worth noting I am in one in five.
1 in 5 people experience a mental health crisis during a given calendar year. In America, it’s around 18-27% depending on the data set you are looking l at; that’s in “normal years”, and the post-COVID world has been anything but standard opening procedure.
@BobbyLayne im curious your thoughts on the “your thoughts influence your feelings”. I’ve heard the opposite before, that how your body feels influences your thoughts. Or the ideas our thoughts originate from feelings in the body. We feel discomfort, it makes us sad, we think negative thoughts. You think it’s the opposite?
I probably know what the responses will be here, but my relationship with my therapist has gotten kind of stale. I've been going to him for over 9 years now and it's kind of the same thing every session. I like him a lot, it's like going to chat with a good friend for an hour, a friend with a lot of insight and suggestions. But I feel that for $40/hour it should almost be magical. Is it time to cut ties and try and find someone else?
I also feel the same way about my calls with my psychiatrist. I don't even talk to the doctor... just nurse practitioner. She doesn't ask me anything except "how I'm doing with my medications". She refills them and then schedules me for two months out. Boom, $40. Aren't psychiatrists supposed to be helping out more than that? Or have they just become de facto "doctors of the mind"?
Yeah, I see the same thing in teaching. There are of course some teachers every kid loves and some every kid hates but for the most part it's mixed. There are teachers who are some kids just adore and then another group of kids despise and it's just that odd connection of personalities that makes or breaks things for people.Sucks about your therapist. I would like to think it's something they can grow into as they evolve in their career but part of me fears it's just their nature and it's how they will always be. Maybe some people respond better to that but I am totally with you, I would absolutely hate talking to someone who is so blank. I am not a therapist per se but I certainly do quite a bit of therapy in my career and there is a time and place for that kind of robotic approach, I don't think it's how you generally build a long term positive relationship. Like you said, the best way to gain someone's trust is to trust them, the best way to get someone to be vulnerable is to vulnerable with them. I know this isn't totally true but I think it's maybe partially true that it doesn't matter what kind of fancy psychology and methods someone knows, what really helps people is having someone they trust and respect who hears them out, makes them feel seen , is able to get deep with them and tells them the hard things that maybe other people aren't willing to say. I know there are definite strategies and approaches that work better for certain mental health concerns but you are totally right that in the end it's ultimately about the relationship.1:1 that posted about Sep 4? If so, has that improved?
Yes, I'm still training the psychiatry intern who we have; she will be switching her first name to doctor next year. She is perfectly competent, but it's just not a good fit. I have had some effective sessions but essentially I just don't connect with her. I've been very frank with her and explained to her the monotone voice (does. not. vary. pitch. and. pace.) is not helpful, and while she may possess empathy, she doesn't convey it. Fish eyes. I have had a few therapists and have talked about this with quite a few veterans. For a therapist to be effective, the clinician also has to exhibit vulnerability. There is a trust building process. Man, if I'm not getting anything from you, I don't feel like I'm going to be able to open up and go deep bc you are not invested.
I've given it a fair shake through 4-5 sessions but it's not working. I will likely request a change next week. Our program director is a mensch, he was super helpful on Friday and followed up with phone calls and emails to make sure I got the help I needed from the ER psychiatrist. The staff at the VA - at least in the program I utilize - man alive, they aren't just punching in and punching out. They are invested in the veterans and collectively the program functions very much like a surrogate family.
FTR I'm the dad.
I might do stand up after I graduate the program, the material is almost limitless.
- "Omar, put your phone away, please be present for your fellow veterans."
- "Paul, it's OK if you're 5 minutes late, I know you walk slow with two bad knees, but just come in quiet and sit down. The etiquette here is to not interrupt or greet your friends. You don't know what was being said, someone is in pain and they don't need you breaking that up OK pard?"
- "Liba - that's inappropriate. We have female staff and female veterans, that's not the world anymore. I don't care, you need to zip it or step outside but you can't say things like that, OK brother?"
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Connection is crucial. What that means though is different for each veteran. It's more art than science when it comes to treatment sometimes.
On our program's staff we have a diverse set of personalities. I've learned that is by design; different personalities mesh well with different types of therapists. We have one woman who has a nursing background who helps us with nutrition and understanding our prescriptions and the sort of mechanical aspects of managing your mental health. She loves the sound of her own voice; she expects short or monosyllabic answers from the veterans bc she wants to explore every aspect and nuance of the topic she is lecturing on. I could never work with her (she is my neighbor and we see her walking her dog, charming person, my wife loves her, but just wouldn't be a fit.) But some of the veterans respond very well to her. She has a matronly way and some of the guys will bring in their wives to their 1-on-1 session to help the spouse out. Another peer counselor we have is a female veteran and former Army Master Sergeant. She bosses people and orders them what they need to be doing if they plan on getting better. Again, bad fit for me. But for veterans who are somewhat passive and have gone through life respecting authority and following orders, she is perfect.
Sounds like her social skills aren't so good. Perhaps vets aren't the right setting for her. I think it's the right move requesting a change. You know the relationship isn't working so why waste time or just become more annoyed?Yeah, I see the same thing in teaching. There are of course some teachers every kid loves and some every kid hates but for the most part it's mixed. There are teachers who are some kids just adore and then another group of kids despise and it's just that odd connection of personalities that makes or breaks things for people.Sucks about your therapist. I would like to think it's something they can grow into as they evolve in their career but part of me fears it's just their nature and it's how they will always be. Maybe some people respond better to that but I am totally with you, I would absolutely hate talking to someone who is so blank. I am not a therapist per se but I certainly do quite a bit of therapy in my career and there is a time and place for that kind of robotic approach, I don't think it's how you generally build a long term positive relationship. Like you said, the best way to gain someone's trust is to trust them, the best way to get someone to be vulnerable is to vulnerable with them. I know this isn't totally true but I think it's maybe partially true that it doesn't matter what kind of fancy psychology and methods someone knows, what really helps people is having someone they trust and respect who hears them out, makes them feel seen , is able to get deep with them and tells them the hard things that maybe other people aren't willing to say. I know there are definite strategies and approaches that work better for certain mental health concerns but you are totally right that in the end it's ultimately about the relationship.1:1 that posted about Sep 4? If so, has that improved?
Yes, I'm still training the psychiatry intern who we have; she will be switching her first name to doctor next year. She is perfectly competent, but it's just not a good fit. I have had some effective sessions but essentially I just don't connect with her. I've been very frank with her and explained to her the monotone voice (does. not. vary. pitch. and. pace.) is not helpful, and while she may possess empathy, she doesn't convey it. Fish eyes. I have had a few therapists and have talked about this with quite a few veterans. For a therapist to be effective, the clinician also has to exhibit vulnerability. There is a trust building process. Man, if I'm not getting anything from you, I don't feel like I'm going to be able to open up and go deep bc you are not invested.
I've given it a fair shake through 4-5 sessions but it's not working. I will likely request a change next week. Our program director is a mensch, he was super helpful on Friday and followed up with phone calls and emails to make sure I got the help I needed from the ER psychiatrist. The staff at the VA - at least in the program I utilize - man alive, they aren't just punching in and punching out. They are invested in the veterans and collectively the program functions very much like a surrogate family.
FTR I'm the dad.
I might do stand up after I graduate the program, the material is almost limitless.
- "Omar, put your phone away, please be present for your fellow veterans."
- "Paul, it's OK if you're 5 minutes late, I know you walk slow with two bad knees, but just come in quiet and sit down. The etiquette here is to not interrupt or greet your friends. You don't know what was being said, someone is in pain and they don't need you breaking that up OK pard?"
- "Liba - that's inappropriate. We have female staff and female veterans, that's not the world anymore. I don't care, you need to zip it or step outside but you can't say things like that, OK brother?"
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Connection is crucial. What that means though is different for each veteran. It's more art than science when it comes to treatment sometimes.
On our program's staff we have a diverse set of personalities. I've learned that is by design; different personalities mesh well with different types of therapists. We have one woman who has a nursing background who helps us with nutrition and understanding our prescriptions and the sort of mechanical aspects of managing your mental health. She loves the sound of her own voice; she expects short or monosyllabic answers from the veterans bc she wants to explore every aspect and nuance of the topic she is lecturing on. I could never work with her (she is my neighbor and we see her walking her dog, charming person, my wife loves her, but just wouldn't be a fit.) But some of the veterans respond very well to her. She has a matronly way and some of the guys will bring in their wives to their 1-on-1 session to help the spouse out. Another peer counselor we have is a female veteran and former Army Master Sergeant. She bosses people and orders them what they need to be doing if they plan on getting better. Again, bad fit for me. But for veterans who are somewhat passive and have gone through life respecting authority and following orders, she is perfect.
I think I am going to talk to my program director at the VA next week about switching therapists. Just getting worse.
This week I observed a couple of troubling things. She makes Veterans feel small with her non-verbals. Like if we're going through a handout and people need time to talk, she wants to keep it moving. Like it's one thing to say gently "@Ilov80s That must have been really difficult for you. You should talk to your one-on-one about it bc that's really hard. So I'm going to pause you there so we can keep on track to get through this." Like a couple of times people in group therapy started to talk and she visibly slumped in her chair and titled her head to the side. She didn't cluck her tongue but I wasn't the only one to notice. I've also seen her interrupt veterans. Now, sometimes that is necessary - like if anyone says something sexist or misogynist, full stop. If someone isn't talking about how something or someone made them feel and they are just telling stories for the laughs, good time to redirect. But to just interrupt when someone is mid-sentence and they're not being disruptive....IDK, man, like I said, others have noticed it too.
Yesterday she canceled our in person bc she had a doctor's appt. No problem, I rescheduled (which caused me to miss a module I never miss.) We had technically difficulties that I don't think were on my end (she has had issues hosting groups remotely in the past.) Ending up using the video app + a phone call for the audio as a workaround, took 15 minutes (and she ended the seseion at 9:45 instead of 9:50 - 30 minutes instead of 50.) I was recounting to her what had happened to me last week, how I was diagnosed as hypo manic bc of a reaction to my antidepressant Rx, et al. She was not involved in any way (which says a lot - normal S.O.P. is to coordinate visits to the ER pysch clinic through your one-on-one but if you feel more comfortable you can reach out to the program director.) I'm about halfway through and she says "yeah, you talked about that in groups this week. What I'd like to know more about is what are you doing to prepare for your trip to Baltimore. You're going to be traveling, meeting up with your wife's friends, in large crowds.....how do you feel about it?"
In the moment I just adjusted on the fly and we discussed that. But later I was like WTAF did she interrupt me to say she wanted to talk about something more important? Like I understand repeating your statements back to you, mirroring, gentle prompts. But "naw I've already heard this one how about we go here instead?"
Pretty sure my Program Director will give me the green light. Might take a week or two to move caseloads around, our full-time staff supports other programs besids the PRRC. But I just don't think it's a healthy choice to keep putting up with her lack of empathy and compassion.
So @BobbyLayne I appreciate you referring to the connection between feelings-emotions-thoughts. The teen I am working with, she's definitely bothered quite regularly by unpleasant feelings-emotions-thoughts. She's almost certaily dealing with some level of complex ptsd. Her ace score would be super high. So far, we've knocked out the cutting and drinking. She's attending school regularly and has all As and Bs now so on the outside things look wonderful. She says she doesn't always feel the change though. She's still a little uncomfortable with the idea that she is successful because she doesn't believe she deserves success. We are working on 2 big things now:
1. Anger problem
She is way too passive. Bottles things up, goes along with others even when she doesn't want to and then rages out in situations where it's totally uncalled for and against people that often don't deserve it. She said she feels mad a lot and usually can't figure out why.
2. Anxiety
She has this general feeling that things will go wrong, like everything is just about to turn bad. This also seems to maybe have some connection to stomach problems. She barely eats and says it hurts her stomach when she eats almost anything. However, she also said that when she has anxiety, she feels it in her stomach. I've noted some correlation between her worrying and complaining her stomach hurts more. I do think the physical discomfort is probably connected to her mental health.
We are working on logging when she has unpleasant emotions and logging where she feels them in her body. The goal is try and trace those back to when she first started to feel them and recognize where they came from so she can "give them back" to the people who "gave them to her".
We are also working on some new mantras to replace her old ones. One that has organically come up a few times is that when things have gotten bad for her, really good things have come out of it. So I think we are starting to make some progress on using words to help calm her and replace her negative thoughts. It's a start but I am very optimistic she's going to get there.
I appreciate the resources. Where we are now from where she in February is truly mind blowing. We refer to as a miracle. She was totally ready to give up on herself and either take her life or just run away and see what life on the streets would be like. As a 14 year old girl with substance issues and a history of being abused, it's pretty obvious where that would have led. I wanted to help but like had no idea this much could change this fast. At this point, we are basically bonded for life. It's like those funny videos you see on the internet where a baby duck befriends a dog and then they are just inseparable despite it making no real sense.So @BobbyLayne I appreciate you referring to the connection between feelings-emotions-thoughts. The teen I am working with, she's definitely bothered quite regularly by unpleasant feelings-emotions-thoughts. She's almost certaily dealing with some level of complex ptsd. Her ace score would be super high. So far, we've knocked out the cutting and drinking. She's attending school regularly and has all As and Bs now so on the outside things look wonderful. She says she doesn't always feel the change though. She's still a little uncomfortable with the idea that she is successful because she doesn't believe she deserves success. We are working on 2 big things now:
1. Anger problem
She is way too passive. Bottles things up, goes along with others even when she doesn't want to and then rages out in situations where it's totally uncalled for and against people that often don't deserve it. She said she feels mad a lot and usually can't figure out why.
2. Anxiety
She has this general feeling that things will go wrong, like everything is just about to turn bad. This also seems to maybe have some connection to stomach problems. She barely eats and says it hurts her stomach when she eats almost anything. However, she also said that when she has anxiety, she feels it in her stomach. I've noted some correlation between her worrying and complaining her stomach hurts more. I do think the physical discomfort is probably connected to her mental health.
We are working on logging when she has unpleasant emotions and logging where she feels them in her body. The goal is try and trace those back to when she first started to feel them and recognize where they came from so she can "give them back" to the people who "gave them to her".
We are also working on some new mantras to replace her old ones. One that has organically come up a few times is that when things have gotten bad for her, really good things have come out of it. So I think we are starting to make some progress on using words to help calm her and replace her negative thoughts. It's a start but I am very optimistic she's going to get there.
That's awesome, brother man.
Take a look at this free guide. I don't think pages 1-3 are applicable to her situation, but there is section on Passive - Assertive - Aggressive communication style pages 4-7. I think you might find the Assertive Rights on page 7 helpful.
Pages 8-10 cover self-esteem. Maybe you could show her the affirmations on page 10 to see if those resonate.
Not a fan of page 11 but the Self-Care on page 12 might be helpful.
Page 13 is useful but only if you are already discussing mindfulness and using breathing techniques as one of her self-management tools. May be N/A.
Good luck. Will be praying for her.
Obviously all these techniques and strategies are really important but I also think caring positive relationships (which come in so many forms) matter more than anything.
100% competence and knowledge and skillset are all good but connection is everything. The level of crossover between teaching and therapy is interesting.Obviously all these techniques and strategies are really important but I also think caring positive relationships (which come in so many forms) matter more than anything.
100%
Especially working with adolescents.
But adults need that as well. The biggest reason I want to dump my therapist is I don’t think she’s all in. I get no feedback from her, expressionless face, none of the social queues someone is actively listening. There’s an undercurrent of arrogance (which may in fact just be her own insecurity), but it’s not my job to manage her.
I am fully empowered to manage my own mental health and I deserve better.
I think I am going to talk to my program director at the VA next week about switching therapists. Just getting worse.
Congratulations on finally getting a therapist that works for you, is respectful, etc. Sorry to hear though that it hasn't yet netted the results you want. Hopefully with patience there will be progress. I know your persistence is the right way to tackle something like this.I think I am going to talk to my program director at the VA next week about switching therapists. Just getting worse.
My new therapist is incredible. Thank God.
Today we concluded our 8-week theater troupe modality (with the awkward acronym VIA PATH - Veterans in Action: Performing Arts for Therapeutic Healing.)
Super fun. Basically put together 10 vignettes of spoken word, interpretive dance, and 3 veterans performed songs. My contribution was a poem I wrote, a choreographed piece with two other veterans set to David Bowie’s “Heroes” (2017 remix version), and functioning as the program narrator. Great turnout, crowd was around 180 for each performance. Immodestly I’d judge we killed it.
Aside - had no idea but a bunch of VA big wigs and a couple pols turned up. They were blown away which likely bodes well for future funding.
Still struggling with hypo mania (medically induced condition that should subside); it’s been 27 days with no change so changed up the cocktail mix. Will assess in two weeks.
Very frustrating. I didn’t opt into the program to get worse lol. I kind of understand now why people throw their pills away and conclude they’re treatment resistant. I’m not that exasperated yet but I have more empathy for anyone who has had something similar happen.
Because they desperately needed it to spell "SHIELD".with the awkward acronym VIA PATH
Tried it a few years back. Was meh for me but, looking no back I was probably too depressed for what it could offer help with. Give it a shot... You could probably score one for $20 on FB Marketplace if in a decently populated area. GLanybody here using a light therapy lamp for S.A.D. in winter?
thoughts? recommendations?
Congratulations on finally getting a therapist that works for you, is respectful, etc. Sorry to hear though that it hasn't yet netted the results you want. Hopefully with patience there will be progress. I know your persistence is the right way to tackle something like this.I think I am going to talk to my program director at the VA next week about switching therapists. Just getting worse.
My new therapist is incredible. Thank God.
Today we concluded our 8-week theater troupe modality (with the awkward acronym VIA PATH - Veterans in Action: Performing Arts for Therapeutic Healing.)
Super fun. Basically put together 10 vignettes of spoken word, interpretive dance, and 3 veterans performed songs. My contribution was a poem I wrote, a choreographed piece with two other veterans set to David Bowie’s “Heroes” (2017 remix version), and functioning as the program narrator. Great turnout, crowd was around 180 for each performance. Immodestly I’d judge we killed it.
Aside - had no idea but a bunch of VA big wigs and a couple pols turned up. They were blown away which likely bodes well for future funding.
Still struggling with hypo mania (medically induced condition that should subside); it’s been 27 days with no change so changed up the cocktail mix. Will assess in two weeks.
Very frustrating. I didn’t opt into the program to get worse lol. I kind of understand now why people throw their pills away and conclude they’re treatment resistant. I’m not that exasperated yet but I have more empathy for anyone who has had something similar happen.
I was recounting to her what had happened to me last week, how I was diagnosed as hypo manic bc of a reaction to my antidepressant Rx, et al. She was not involved in any way (which says a lot - normal S.O.P. is to coordinate visits to the ER pysch clinic through your one-on-one but if you feel more comfortable you can reach out to the program director.) I'm about halfway through and she says "yeah, you talked about that in groups this week. What I'd like to know more about is what are you doing to prepare for your trip to Baltimore. You're going to be traveling, meeting up with your wife's friends, in large crowds.....how do you feel about it?"
In the moment I just adjusted on the fly and we discussed that. But later I was like WTAF did she interrupt me to say she wanted to talk about something more important? Like I understand repeating your statements back to you, mirroring, gentle prompts. But "naw I've already heard this one how about we go here instead?"
My daughter's doc did the same thing. Insurance companies are the devil.Sigh. Just got back from what may be my last appointment with the therapist I've been seeing monthly (sometimes bi-monthly) for the past decade. He is moving to a "no insurance" model as of June and the cash fee is $200 a pop (versus my $20 co-pay). Ouch. I don't know what to do. Can't afford $200/mo. or even $200 every other month. Just not in the budget.
Sigh. Just got back from what may be my last appointment with the therapist I've been seeing monthly (sometimes bi-monthly) for the past decade. He is moving to a "no insurance" model as of June and the cash fee is $200 a pop (versus my $20 co-pay). Ouch. I don't know what to do. Can't afford $200/mo. or even $200 every other month. Just not in the budget.