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Then you disagree with what he said above (in bold). Shouldn't be surprising that someone was offended by such a bold claim.jon_mx said:I think there are decent women in China, Japan, Europe and even here. If Johnnycakes found happiness there, great for him!Desperate people do desperate things. You can't bag a decent, sane western wife, and she couldn't hack eastern life so she latched on any white man that would take her.
Perfect couple.
Why not a pretty picture? You each have careers, no children, not getting along now. What is going to be the big difference if you guys get divorced or not?
He's one of those guys who needs a woman in his life to do the laundry, do the shopping, cook the food, etc. He's incapable of living alone.
I don't know if that is fair assumption based on what we know.
I disagree with what both of them said....what a stupid pissing contest. Just because you like the woman you are with, there is no reason to bag on someone who likes something different.Then you disagree with what he said above (in bold). Shouldn't be surprising that someone was offended by such a bold claim.I think there are decent women in China, Japan, Europe and even here. If Johnnycakes found happiness there, great for him!Desperate people do desperate things. You can't bag a decent, sane western wife, and she couldn't hack eastern life so she latched on any white man that would take her.
Perfect couple.
Let's try this on for size. Love is about giving, not what you get. Yeah, I joke a lot about how much my wife does for me... She does a lot. That how her love for me manifests itself. And I do a lot for her, too. Just don't publish it all here. But it's about giving. And trite as it may sound, if she'll be happier without you, you'll part ways, out of love. So go with the flow.... You want to stay married. Fine. You love her. Then give her what she wants.
It sounds like she is the one who wants it. I don't think there is anything you can really do here to change her mind. Your best bet is to probably stop hoping to salvage it just accept it. Maybe she will have a change of heart after you all are apart for a while. Good luck.
Sucks. I'd be devastated if my wife didn't want to be married any more. Assuming you've done everything you can to change her mind, It looks like there's not a whole lot left to do but wait her out. Assume the next year will suck, but try to take some solace in that fact that It Will get better over time. Not better in that you'll be living some banging new lifestyle with tons of chicks, free time etc, maybe you will, but if you're like me, you'll be happy if that part of your heart that belongs to your wife starts to hurt less and less over time. I really wish you good luck.caglassc said:
Not jealous. Just tired of the "marry a weak and dependent third world chick and all your relationship worries go away" that johnny boy posts.
Yup. Sucks to come to grips with it but you must. Sorry man.
GBGM, it's not that type or depressant. The classification refers to the fact that it suppresses the central nervous system, thus depressing (slowing down) speech and movements. There are other effects (increased release of dopamine) that can potentially lead to feelings of depression after the fact, but there are conflicting studies supporting both sides of this argument.
My advice to him is not to drink himself silly. The mornings after can be brutal when you're going through divorce. Social drinking is great. Drinking to drown your troubles when you're going through a life altering event can have very negative effects for some people. I was one of those people.
But otherwise solid advice as usual. Not that I'm saying go out and get plastered, just don't think it has to be avoided in social situations to help him create a new friend network
My advice to him is not to drink himself silly. The mornings after can be brutal when you're going through divorce. Social drinking is great. Drinking to drown your troubles when you're going through a life altering event can have very negative effects for some people. I was one of those people.
But otherwise solid advice as usual. Not that I'm saying go out and get plastered, just don't think it has to be avoided in social situations to help him create a new friend network
But yeah, I mean...go out, have a good time. Go meet new people. Go get some strange. But just be careful when you are at your darkest moments with it is all I'm saying.
I'd also highly recommend greenies!
Man, that's tough to read. You'll be fine, but you need to prepare yourself for the fact that it's over.
I haven't read everything, but you're getting good advice. Plenty of us have gone through the same thing, and believe it or not it can be worse, far worse, than what you're experiencing. That's not diminishing at all the impact because I know your head's spinning right now.
