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At ER with 90-year-old Dad. Will answer any questions! (1 Viewer)

Sinn Fein said:
Hope your dad is ok!

Probably should have gone to Urgent Care first.
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Urgent care?  NoNoNo

Urgent care is meant for the flu, minor lacerations, and other minor ailments for relatively healthy people.  Not for 90 year olds who have SOB.  Good call on the ER. 

 
James Daulton said:
Examples of said witty quips?

Good luck to your pops.  Does he have any current conditions that would cause the SOB?
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When asked about his medical issues I described his prostate as being the size of a fully inflated volleyball. Crickets.  The nurse, who looks a bit like Katy Perry and has a substantial rack looked at me like I was speaking Swedish.

Dad has congestive heart failure and we suspect he has fluid in his lungs.

 
Best wishes, man. I got nothing else for you.

Oh, are you nervous this might be it? Not that any of us ever are, but are you at all prepared? How old are you?

 
Dad got cleaned up and he pooped some more. How am I supposed to impress hot nurse while he is keeping her occupied cleaning up his 90-year-old, wrinkled butt?  

No report on nurse handling catheter duty.  I had to go move my car which I had left right at the entrance doors.  

 
rockaction said:
Best wishes, man. I got nothing else for you.

Oh, are you nervous this might be it? Not that any of us ever are, but are you at all prepared? How old are you?
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It could be it. I would be ok with it.  He has zero quality of life at this point.  Mom died a year and a half ago and he has been living with 24-7 sitters since then. Fighting us on going into a nursing home.  I am 53.

 
James Daulton said:
Why's he getting a foley?  Has he not been passing urine?  This may be the one instance where being a dude is a major disadvantage. 
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He wears external (condom) catheters all the time since he is unable to get to the bathroom.  They went ahead with the foley to get a clean urine sample.  I wish they would make the foley permanent.

When I type "foley" autocorrect changes it to "filet."  That hurts down in the nether regions.

 
Okay, I know my grandmother had very little quality of life when she passed at 92. I'm personally unprepared for my father passing at this point. He's 71, I'm 43.

Best to you and him.

 
Chest X-ray (Dad's, not nurse's) shows lots of fluid in his lungs. Waiting for blood and urine tests. Dad is asleep now that he has pooped and made all the nurses miserable.

 
Temperature is normal. He has an irregular heartbeat.  Watching it on the monitor is like watching the NASDAQ on the morning when the unemployment report comes out. His heartbeat is irregular but his colon is not!

 
Dad is battling phlebotomist who came to draw blood.  She's cute too.  I would like to poke her right in the phlebotom. 

Dad is in pain. He takes hydrocodone for his messed up back.  Needs some now but nobody can answer whether or not he can have one. I think I need one myself.

 
worrierking said:
Dad is battling phlebotomist who came to draw blood.  She's cute too.  I would like to poke her right in the phlebotom. 

Dad is in pain. He takes hydrocodone for his messed up back.  Needs some now but nobody can answer whether or not he can have one. I think I need one myself.
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judging by your somewhat cavalier attitude up in here, i am compelled to drop a - username doesn't check out - opine on this thread. 

and, hey, best wishes for your pop to be OK - hang in there!

 
otb_lifer said:
judging by your somewhat cavalier attitude up in here, i am compelled to drop a - username doesn't check out - opine on this thread. 

and, hey, best wishes for your pop to be OK - hang in there!
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I was the worrierking 30 years ago. Now I try to use humor to get around stress.  The name , btw, is an obscure Warren Zevon song.

 
Dad's mood has gone from irritated to hostile.  He is revving the grump-o-meter in the red.  He is in pain, fearful and there is no tv here so he can watch Meet the Press.  

 
worrierking said:
Dad's mood has gone from irritated to hostile.  He is revving the grump-o-meter in the red.  He is in pain, fearful and there is no tv here so he can watch Meet the Press.  
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can we refer to him as 'cantankerous' and the nurse as 'comely'?  has all the makings of a "Three's Company" episode ....

:loco:

 
His blood pressure keeps fluctuating.  Went from normal extremely low and back again.  It just dipped to 80 over 30 again.  They won't give him pain pills with it like this.  They don't know the firestorm they might be creating if he doesn't get his hydrocodone.  From this angle Dad looks like Hector Salamanca in Breaking Bad.

 
I have no humor or questions...after losing both parents in the last 2 years...just best wishes to you and your pops.

Awesome that you can be there for him and with him during stuff like this (well...minus the pooping)

 
Thanks Sho. I am basically all he has.  My brother is in Georgia and I have no other family nearby. It is both an extreme honor and a substantial burden being his caregiver. 

 
The Z Machine said:
Sorry to hear about your pops. I wish you both the best.

Does he have a DNR or other advance directives in place?
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Dad has a living will.  He does not wish to be kept alive under extreme circumstances.  But he is not emotionally ready to go and I will hold off on signing a DNR for now. If his status changes to where his death is inevitable I will sign one.

 
I am currently going through what you're experiencing and I have much empathy for you. My 75 year-old mom has small vessel dementia and her medical condition has dipped significantly in the past couple months. She has very little quality of life. I'm the only immediate family member within 1000 miles. A very detailed, explicit advance directive is a must.  Best wishes to you and your father. 

 
The Dreaded Marco said:
I am currently going through what you're experiencing and I have much empathy for you. My 75 year-old mom has small vessel dementia and her medical condition has dipped significantly in the past couple months. She has very little quality of life. I'm the only immediate family member within 1000 miles. A very detailed, explicit advance directive is a must.  Best wishes to you and your father. 
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I went through similar with my mother. She had Alzheimer's and passed away in August 2015. 

 
Dad has pneumonia and is being admitted. He'll be in ICU overnight. Probably a regular room by noon tomorrow.  

Thanks for all the good wishes in here.  I am going to be busy for a bit an will be off line.  You guys helped me quite a bit although there were probably a few hot nurse lines that could have been delivered that you missed.  I should have posted a picture, I realize.

 
worrierking said:
Thanks Sho. I am basically all he has.  My brother is in Georgia and I have no other family nearby. It is both an extreme honor and a substantial burden being his caregiver. 
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I'm both sad and relieved (that sounds bad) that I was not there at the very end for either of them passing.  Tried getting there for my mom but she passed while I was in my way.   Being 11 hours away was tough but did insulate me from some of it.

Her passing was much more unexpected and sudden.  My dad was over a longer period.  I got to help out while he was still pretty with it...and then again a couple weeks before he passed I got to spend some more time with him.

 
rockaction said:
Okay, I know my grandmother had very little quality of life when she passed at 92. I'm personally unprepared for my father passing at this point. He's 71, I'm 43.

Best to you and him.
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At 90, you hope for an easy, quiet death for a loved one. 

 
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