Crazy story... impressive sleuthing by Fat Nick here. I've always wondered that for families losing kids like this, how much extra "suck" does it add that their "good boy" got caught up in a drug deal gone bad?
Honestly, living 20 minutes from where this story went down, AND in the town where the Penn State frat kid was from (and going to Penn State for grad school...), I've thought a lot about this lately. NOBODY deserves to die in either of the circumstances in these cases, but in both cases, the victims made voluntary actions that led to their demise.
The 4 deceased in this case were all using illegal drugs. Like it or not, drugs (in most states) are not legitimized, which means you're not exactly guaranteed the same level of safety when buying/doing drugs as you are going to CVS or in the case of some states, your local weed dispensary. These kids didn't deserve to die, but I also bet they knew that what they were doing was illegal, probably had come across dealers who had weapons before, and possibly knew DiNardo was a little...unstable. Again, not saying they deserved it, but they knew this wasn't the same as buying a slurpee.
Tim Piazza in the PSU Frat case drank himself to that state. He made the choice to ingest that much alcohol. Yes, there was peer pressure involved - very common in frats, and parties with college kids in general. Yes, there was likely an assumption that if you get too drunk,
someone will take care of you. Yes, the frat brothers were grossly negligent in their handling of the situation, which ultimately contributed to his death...but he made the decision to put himself in that environment and ingested the alcohol voluntarily.
I'm not trying to render judgement in the PSU case, or the DiNardo case at all - and I'm not detracting from what, as you said, "good boys" these victims were, but ultimately, they put themselves in this situation. My wife has been freaking out about the missing 4 guys, but when she found out that it was drug related, she said she felt much better. I initially felt odd about that, but when she explained, "because at least it's not random." I kind of got it.
While you shouldn't have to
expect someone will kill you or fail to protect you, the choices you make ultimately lead to the positions you are in.