Destination Weddings (1 Viewer)

[fatguyinalittlecoat]

You do know that the wedding is about the bride and groom right.

I think this is the disconnect between me and the "destination weddings are awesome crowd." Weddings are often a big deal for people other than the bride and groom. I'm particularly thinking about parents of the bride and groom, for whom it also is a very special day, and their feelings should be accomodated if possible.

There were probably at least 20 people at my wedding that I would sorta describe as my mother's guests -- relatives of hers that I didn't know well and some of her close friends. I think my mom would have been unhappy if those people could not have been there to celebrate that day with her. No way any of those people would have come to a destination wedding.

 

[Bucky86]

You do know that the wedding is about the bride and groom right.

I think this is the disconnect between me and the "destination weddings are awesome crowd." Weddings are often a big deal for people other than the bride and groom. I'm particularly thinking about parents of the bride and groom, for whom it also is a very special day, and their feelings should be accomodated if possible.

There were probably at least 20 people at my wedding that I would sorta describe as my mother's guests -- relatives of hers that I didn't know well and some of her close friends. I think my mom would have been unhappy if those people could not have been there to celebrate that day with her. No way any of those people would have come to a destination wedding.

1. That's not the bride or grooms problem. It's THEIR day.

2. This is a GREAT reason to have a destination wedding.

 

[McGarnicle]

You do know that the wedding is about the bride and groom right.

I think this is the disconnect between me and the "destination weddings are awesome crowd." Weddings are often a big deal for people other than the bride and groom. I'm particularly thinking about parents of the bride and groom, for whom it also is a very special day, and their feelings should be accomodated if possible.There were probably at least 20 people at my wedding that I would sorta describe as my mother's guests -- relatives of hers that I didn't know well and some of her close friends. I think my mom would have been unhappy if those people could not have been there to celebrate that day with her. No way any of those people would have come to a destination wedding.

1. That's not the bride or grooms problem. It's THEIR day.2. This is a GREAT reason to have a destination wedding.

We kept our wedding down to around 70 guests, just closest family & friends. If we did extended families, parents' friends, etc., it would've been ridiculously huge, probably 300+ guests. I know people felt slighted, but hey sorry. It was our day, certainly the only wedding I'll ever have.

 

[Judge Smails]

Can't speak for your friends, but if I were planning a destination wedding, I would not feel slighted or pissed off in the least if people couldn't make it for whatever reason. Personally, I would do the super intimate destination wedding with immediate family and closest of friends and then do a get together back home.

I wouldn't think there would be any problem telling your friends that you would love to go, but just can't swing it financially right now.

My son's friend did this. Destination wedding in Cabo - those that wanted to go went, then they had a barbecue get together back home the following month. I have no problem with that approach.