Did your wife's habits in the bedroom change... (1 Viewer)

[L5UT1ger]

Im recently married. The nookie has been outstanding. I mean really fun. We are thinking of getting preggo this summer. I am older so i am ready and she is mid twenties so she is ready as we want about 3 or so kids.

Say we fastforward to two years after child one. Will the bedroom be the same?

 

[Scooby]

Im recently married. The nookie has been outstanding. I mean really fun. We are thinking of getting preggo this summer. I am older so i am ready and she is mid twenties so she is ready as we want about 3 or so kids.Say we fastforward to two years after child one. Will the bedroom be the same?

Yeah , u will have the kid sleeping with u

 

[Mrs. BSR]

I never changed but, according to what the guys say around here, some women do. For your sake, I hope it doesn't change.

 

[smotherhook]

er,, no. i used to gas my girlfriend everynight. i gas my wife a couple of times a week. they are the same person. also, see the thread about how long children sleep in the bed with parents.

 

[PlayaHata]

Your wife's habits will change mainly due to the fact that raising a family takes a tremendous amount of additional work above and beyond how you live now. Be prepared for a lot of "I'm too tired" especially with young children.

 

[top dog]

Abso-freakin'-lutely!

If you enjoy the sex, try really hard to NOT get her pregnant.

 

[top dog]

But since you point out that you are recently married, the sex is going to change for the worst eventually anyways.. Might as well have a kid and then you don't have to mow the grass anymore.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

er,, no. i used to gas my girlfriend everynight. i gas my wife a couple of times a week. they are the same person. also, see the thread about how long children sleep in the bed with parents.

Dutch oven?

 

[jonessed]

Kids take a lot of energy. Good sex takes a lot of energy. There are a lot of variables that go into this, but kids pretty much rearrange your life.

 

[packersfan]

I never changed but, according to what the guys say around here, some women do.

I've never met a married man who's wife didn't change and most of them - based on what they've told me - have changed rather dramatically. Looks like Mr. BSR found one of the diamonds in the rough.

 

[koby925]

er,, no. i used to gas my girlfriend everynight. i gas my wife a couple of times a week. they are the same person. also, see the thread about how long children sleep in the bed with parents.

Dutch oven?

HOT

 

[Horses Mouth]

paging Gordon Gekko and Dentist. paging Gordon Gekko and Dentist.....

 

[Wild Young Billy]

For me we've replaced quantity for quality. We might do it less often but it's better. I've been married 13 years and have 2 kids.

 

[RedmondLonghorn]

Not all kids end up sleeping in their parents' rooms or beds.

Don't let it get started...and that won't be a problem.

 

[Buck Bradcanon]

it will change for you too, not just her.

fast forward 8 years. shes peaking in terms of her drive in her early 30s so shes ready to go. meanwhile you are collecting social security while chasing around 3 little buggers all day. all you will want is 5 mins of Sportscenter at the end of the day and a decent nights sleep.

HTH.

 

[Sabertooth]

I never changed but, according to what the guys say around here, some women do. For your sake, I hope it doesn't change.

Riiiiiiiiiiiiight

 

[Paper Lions]

Not all kids end up sleeping in their parents' rooms or beds.

Don't let it get started...and that won't be a problem.

 

[General Malaise]

Im recently married. The nookie has been outstanding. I mean really fun. We are thinking of getting preggo this summer. I am older so i am ready and she is mid twenties so she is ready as we want about 3 or so kids.

Say we fastforward to two years after child one. Will the bedroom be the same?

ah man.....



I love this guy....

 

[Mrs. BSR]

I never changed but, according to what the guys say around here, some women do. For your sake, I hope it doesn't change.

Riiiiiiiiiiiiight

Unusual but true. Sorry.

 

[pigskinliquors]

For me we've replaced quantity for quality. We might do it less often but it's better. I've been married 13 years and have 2 kids.

We have also replaced quantity w/ quality; have been married 13 years, and have 2 kids. You're not Mrs. Liquors are you

 

[Bull Dozier]

Things are definitely less frequent than they used to be, and certain things are far less frequent (but that happens in my opinion due to marriage, not the kids), but I would definitely say that the quality has increased. Some things are far less frequent, but there are definitely things that get added over the years as well.

 

[toshiba]

I never changed but, according to what the guys say around here, some women do. For your sake, I hope it doesn't change.

My wife would say she didn't change either.

 

[Dentist]

http://www.nomarriage.com/marriedsex.html

http://www.nomarriage.com/postpartum_depression.html

 

[Fiddles]

Kids take a lot of energy. Good sex takes a lot of energy. There are a lot of variables that go into this, but kids pretty much rearrange your life.

tru

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

I never changed but, according to what the guys say around here, some women do. For your sake, I hope it doesn't change.

My wife would say she didn't change either.

 

[Mrs. BSR]

I never changed but, according to what the guys say around here, some women do. For your sake, I hope it doesn't change.

My wife would say she didn't change either.

Ask my husband if you don't believe me.

 

[Paper Lions]

I never changed but, according to what the guys say around here, some women do. For your sake, I hope it doesn't change.

My wife would say she didn't change either.

Ask my husband if you don't believe me.

Well if this isn't BSR's dream thread.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

I never changed but, according to what the guys say around here, some women do. For your sake, I hope it doesn't change.

My wife would say she didn't change either.

Ask my husband if you don't believe me.

I'm sure he's going to post something to the contrary in here.

 

[Navin R Johnson]

I never changed but, according to what the guys say around here, some women do. For your sake, I hope it doesn't change.

My wife would say she didn't change either.

Ask my husband if you don't believe me.

"Hey BSR, would you care to call bull#### on your wife's claim that she molests you on a regular basis... in a forum where she hangs out and reads everything?"

 

[Commish77]

it will change for you too, not just her.fast forward 8 years. shes peaking in terms of her drive in her early 30s so shes ready to go. meanwhile you are collecting social security while chasing around 3 little buggers all day. all you will want is 5 mins of Sportscenter at the end of the day and a decent nights sleep.HTH.

Don't forget taking a good, long, successful dump.

 

[L5UT1ger]

Im recently married. The nookie has been outstanding. I mean really fun. We are thinking of getting preggo this summer. I am older so i am ready and she is mid twenties so she is ready as we want about 3 or so kids.

Say we fastforward to two years after child one. Will the bedroom be the same?

ah man.....



I love this guy....

What? As long as i keep celebrating monthaversaries, Im golden I think

 

[Wild Young Billy]

For me we've replaced quantity for quality. We might do it less often but it's better. I've been married 13 years and have 2 kids.

We have also replaced quantity w/ quality; have been married 13 years, and have 2 kids. You're not Mrs. Liquors are you

 

[datonn]

Im recently married. The nookie has been outstanding. I mean really fun. We are thinking of getting preggo this summer. I am older so i am ready and she is mid twenties so she is ready as we want about 3 or so kids.Say we fastforward to two years after child one. Will the bedroom be the same?

Let's see.....I'll put it this way:BEFORE MARRIAGE - My now-wife would always seem to be in the mood to fool around. We were old-fashioned though...no actual "intercourse" before marriage. That said, the fooling-around was outstanding in its own right. AFTER MARRIAGE, BUT BEFORE KIDS - Once or twice a week, we'd enjoy a little in addition to more-frequent fooling around. Not the "quantity" I had been hoping for pre-marriage, but at least tolerable.AFTER KIDS - What's this "s-e-x" thing you are referring to?! OH! I have a vague recollection of what that used to be like....kind of?! Every man and every woman is different. However, my wife and I lost her mom AND our "middle child" in the womb within two years of having our oldest...and what had been a "trickle" after we were married stopped and subsequently rusted-shut. She doesn't realize just how damaging that has been to our relationship, nor does she even see that as a "problem" that she has played a major role in contributing to. Long story short, I might as well join a monastery and take a few vows for how dull that part of my life has become.I hope it works out better in your case! However, I've heard from a LOT of guys that they've got to ratchet-down their expectations in the bedroom about 3-4 notches after having kids. My wife switched into COMPLETE mom-mode after having kids. She's a wonderful mom, but she effectively forgot that she also has a husband too.

 

[Navin R Johnson]

Mrs. Liquors

 

[L5UT1ger]

Im recently married. The nookie has been outstanding. I mean really fun. We are thinking of getting preggo this summer. I am older so i am ready and she is mid twenties so she is ready as we want about 3 or so kids.Say we fastforward to two years after child one. Will the bedroom be the same?

Let's see.....I'll put it this way:BEFORE MARRIAGE - My now-wife would always seem to be in the mood to fool around. We were old-fashioned though...no actual "intercourse" before marriage. That said, the fooling-around was outstanding in its own right. :IBTL: AFTER MARRIAGE, BUT BEFORE KIDS - Once or twice a week, we'd enjoy a little in addition to more-frequent fooling around. Not the "quantity" I had been hoping for pre-marriage, but at least tolerable.AFTER KIDS - What's this "s-e-x" thing you are referring to?! OH! I have a vague recollection of what that used to be like....kind of?! Every man and every woman is different. However, my wife and I lost her mom AND our "middle child" in the womb within two years of having our oldest...and what had been a "trickle" after we were married stopped and subsequently rusted-shut. She doesn't realize just how damaging that has been to our relationship, nor does she even see that as a "problem" that she has played a major role in contributing to. Long story short, I might as well join a monastery and take a few vows for how dull that part of my life has become.I hope it works out better in your case! However, I've heard from a LOT of guys that they've got to ratchet-down their expectations in the bedroom about 3-4 notches after having kids. My wife switched into COMPLETE mom-mode after having kids. She's a wonderful mom, but she effectively forgot that she also has a husband too.

This story scares the bejezus out of me. My first wife quit having sex with me after she got the engagement ring. I have pretty much concluded that Yasmin contributed heavily to that change but thats a different story.This time around, it has been wonderful in comparison. Not in comparison, its been wonderful all the way around.

 

[datonn]

This story scares the bejezus out of me. My first wife quit having sex with me after she got the engagement ring. I have pretty much concluded that Yasmin contributed heavily to that change but thats a different story.This time around, it has been wonderful in comparison. Not in comparison, its been wonderful all the way around.

Yeah, not meaning to "scare" you at all....just being honest. For me though, if I had to choose between lots of sex or having my two daughters, I'll choose my two daughters. My opinion, however, is that it shouldn't EVER have to be a "choice" but since my wife has essentially put me in that unenviable position, I'd rather be in my daughters' lives 24/7/365 (well, 12/7/350...LOL) than be "weekend Dad" or worse. Sucks big-time, but it's not as though I don't have ten other positive things in my life to help fill the void. Still, I could sure use a little "#11" from time to time to, if you know what I'm saying...

 

[kOOk]

Yes.

 

[Mrs. BSR]

I never changed but, according to what the guys say around here, some women do. For your sake, I hope it doesn't change.

My wife would say she didn't change either.

Ask my husband if you don't believe me.

I'm sure he's going to post something to the contrary in here.

I never changed but, according to what the guys say around here, some women do. For your sake, I hope it doesn't change.

My wife would say she didn't change either.

Ask my husband if you don't believe me.

"Hey BSR, would you care to call bull#### on your wife's claim that she molests you on a regular basis... in a forum where she hangs out and reads everything?"

If I felt that my body changed after I had kids and that I didn't want sex on a regular basis, I would say so. Women are really weird about this stuff sometimes. I enjoy sex with my husband and always have. I don't know what else to tell you. I hope, for the OP's sake, his wife doesn't change but you never know.

 

[L5UT1ger]

This story scares the bejezus out of me. My first wife quit having sex with me after she got the engagement ring. I have pretty much concluded that Yasmin contributed heavily to that change but thats a different story.This time around, it has been wonderful in comparison. Not in comparison, its been wonderful all the way around.

Yeah, not meaning to "scare" you at all....just being honest. For me though, if I had to choose between lots of sex or having my two daughters, I'll choose my two daughters. My opinion, however, is that it shouldn't EVER have to be a "choice" but since my wife has essentially put me in that unenviable position, I'd rather be in my daughters' lives 24/7/365 (well, 12/7/350...LOL) than be "weekend Dad" or worse. Sucks big-time, but it's not as though I don't have ten other positive things in my life to help fill the void. Still, I could sure use a little "#11" from time to time to, if you know what I'm saying...

There is a book i read that you might like. It has some religious stuff, but thats not the important part of it. The actual message is very very good about what to do if this kind of this happens. If you are interested PM me. I dont remember the name of the book right off hand, but my new wife and I both read it and discussed the possibility of our sex life losing its luster after we got engaged, but before we got married. It made me think about some things I had never thought about. Ill get back to you with the name if you are interested.

 

[Brutis]

For me we've replaced quantity for quality. We might do it less often but it's better. I've been married 13 years and have 2 kids.

We have also replaced quantity w/ quality; have been married 13 years, and have 2 kids. You're not Mrs. Liquors are you

I've been with my wife 12 years, married 9 and I still like the quantity over quality.

 

[Yankee23Fan]

For about 2 years after my son was born we had a really bad problem with how much it changed. But instead of being passive agressive or letting it ruin a great relationship we talked about it a lot and worked at it, and that ability to talk led to it not only getting better, but surpassing pre-kid habits.

Nothing makes for a great marital sexual relationship more then simple open and honest communication between two people that want to make each other happy.

 

[L5UT1ger]

For about 2 years after my son was born we had a really bad problem with how much it changed. But instead of being passive agressive or letting it ruin a great relationship we talked about it a lot and worked at it, and that ability to talk led to it not only getting better, but surpassing pre-kid habits.Nothing makes for a great marital sexual relationship more then simple open and honest communication between two people that want to make each other happy.

Now this post gives me hope!

 

[Pick]

4 kids here and the sex gets better and better. Still get it as often, too (5-7 times per week).

 

[LHUCKS]

Still get it as often, too (5-7 times per week).

Jesus, I'm single and dating some pretty good looking girls and don't even want it that much...where do you find the energy?

 

[Buck Bradcanon]

Still get it as often, too (5-7 times per week).

Jesus, I'm single and make more than 75k and dating some pretty good looking girls and don't even want it that much...where do you find the energy?

fixed

 

[RedmondLonghorn]

4 kids here and the sex gets better and better. Still get it as often, too (5-7 times per week).

That almost sounds like too often.

 

[Mr. Know-It-All]

For about 2 years after my son was born we had a really bad problem with how much it changed. But instead of being passive agressive or letting it ruin a great relationship we talked about it a lot and worked at it, and that ability to talk led to it not only getting better, but surpassing pre-kid habits.Nothing makes for a great marital sexual relationship more then simple open and honest communication between two people that want to make each other happy.

WTH? Who wants to talk to the wife? I just want to have sex with her.

 

[Dentist]

4 kids here and the sex gets better and better. Still get it as often, too (5-7 times per week).

That almost sounds like too often.

Yeah.. it really does.. maybe my drive is just way down now that i'm 30.. but even if you combine rub-outs + secks with the gf per week it doesn't hit 7, and in no way do I feel deprived.

 

[Wild Young Billy]

4 kids here and the sex gets better and better. Still get it as often, too (5-7 times per week).

He's in Utah. He's got 4 kids and 3 wives. He gets a different one every third night. 5-7 sounds like a good number under those circumstances.

 

[Bowbiejuke]

Your wife's habits will change mainly due to the fact that raising a family takes a tremendous amount of additional work above and beyond how you live now. Be prepared for a lot of "I'm too tired" especially with young children.

It will take a good year after the first kid, for her to even really like sex again. At this point in time, she will want to get preggo again and restart the vicious cycle.