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DO you sleep better when your SO isn't in bed with you? (1 Viewer)

snellman

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I was out of town last night and got a text from my wife this morning that read like this.

So I was really excited to have the bed all to myself so I could sleep really good..yup didn't happen. Slept like #### and up early. Apperantly I am used to your snoring.
I replied with a lol and asked what time our son's bible school program was tonight because I wanted to hopefully get home in time to go to it.  I then got this text

OK....I was thinking you would have said you couldn't sleep without me either !!?? But I gues not.
I am the type of person that can fall asleep anywhere and have no problems sleeping. When I am out I am out and she always gives me a hard time because of it.  I know she was partly being sarcastic, but I also think she was hurt a bit when I didn't lie and say I slept terrible.  

So, do you sleep better or worse when your SO isn't in bed with you?

 
Absolutely. I am such a horrible sleeper I can't really sleep next to anyone. It's always been an issue in my relationships but it's just something they will have to deal with otherwise I just can't get any quality sack time.

Usually they can't either with myntwisting and turning.

 
I was out of town last night and got a text from my wife this morning that read like this.

I replied with a lol and asked what time our son's bible school program was tonight because I wanted to hopefully get home in time to go to it.  I then got this text

I am the type of person that can fall asleep anywhere and have no problems sleeping. When I am out I am out and she always gives me a hard time because of it.  I know she was partly being sarcastic, but I also think she was hurt a bit when I didn't lie and say I slept terrible.  

So, do you sleep better or worse when your SO isn't in bed with you?
Yeah, you failed that test. 

Honestly, it doesn't matter much either way.  I pass out in about 2.2 seconds once I hit the bed either way.

 
I don't have that problem  because my wife is considerate enough to concoct some sort of guilt trip and drop it on me nightly whenever I'm away. It never generates any remorse or sympathy, but it always succeeds in sucking any enjoyment out of whatever I'm trying to do.

 
When you're there I sleep lengthwise

And when you're gone, I sleep diagonal in my bed....

Phish song. 

But really, I've found that if I'm truly in love, I sleep better with that person on my arm, curled around her, or on my chest. I love those moments. 

 
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because of my snoring, and getting up at roughly 4:30 each morning to run/workout, i sleep downstairs much more often than not  :shrug:

matter of fact, snoring can get so raucous that both my gf and daughter will hear it two floors up (LOOKATMEIHAVETHREELEVELESOFHOUSE!!!)

i sleep (alone) thru the evening quite peacefully - but those couple nights a week when i do get up to the bedroom and climb in with the gf, well ... i find myself being extremely restless with tossing and spreading out so much that i damn near edge her out to the floor.

aaaaaand if she does hit the floor, #### it - it's my castle, ya know?

 
Haven't slept in the same bed as my wife in over a year.  

Yes, much better sleep alone.

 
No difference. I'm asleep in usually only a few minutes and rarely wake up during the night.

 
It depends... when I go on my Canada trips without her, or on a business trip, I don't tend to have any issues falling asleep.

But at home I sleep like :censored: without her next to me... She works for the school district and has the Summer off so comes to bed a few hours after I do. I tend to toss and turn until she comes to bed.

Something about the familiarity of home and her next to me is needed for me to sleep.

 
The first few nights yes...after 3 or 4 nights i realized I was at least used to her being there (bad sleeping habits and all). 

 
I don't.  On normal nights, I'll fall asleep on the sofa watching TV.  When she's not here, I somehow stay up late watching TV and then struggle to fall asleep in bed. :shrug:  

 
We have a Queen sized.  We're thinking about getting two twins and utlizing the versatility of that (being able to put them together) so we can optimize comfort.  At the least, if they're together....I won't feel her flopping around as much. 

She has a harder time with the bed than I do. I like to sleep like a dog ( all four limbs sticking out in the same direction)....so she's always battling that. Plus, she really wants to be a sleeper.....but I don't think she'll admit that she's one of those people who only need 4-6 hours of sleep a night...

I usually sleep like a baby....fall asleep in about 30 seconds.

 
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We have a Queen sized.  We're thinking about getting two twins and utlizing the versatility of that (being able to put them together) so we can optimize comfort.  At the least, if they're together....I won't feel her flopping around as much. 

She has a harder time with the bed than I do. I like to sleep like a dog ( all four limbs sticking out in the same direction)....so she's always battling that. Plus, she really wants to be a sleeper.....but I don't think she'll admit that she's one of those people who only need 4-6 hours of sleep a night...

I usually sleep like a baby....fall asleep in about 30 seconds.
Get a King Sleep Number bed.. With the two different sides we very rarely feel the other one moving around... :thumbup:

Can't imagine ever going back to a Queen size bed, nor a non-sleep number bed. 

 
I've slept on the couch for like the last 8 years. It used to be due to my snoring but got a CPAP like a year ago and now it's just because I'm too hot / take up too much room (I think she was just so used to sleeping alone)

Vacations used to end up in a huge fight with my snoring waking her up.  One time I took the hotel couch cushions and made a bed under the bathroom sink.  CPAP has now made it so we can share a bed on vacation but separate beds still works better at home (plus I can here it whenever I want) 

 
Well between my husky and gf I'm usually left with a small portion of the bed so yea I usually sleep better lol.

 
It is more difficult to fall asleep when she's not there.  I have a lot of trouble falling asleep.  I usually end up watching TV for a half hour, then when my eyes finally start to get tired, I'll curl up around her.  If she's not there I have to spoon a pillow and that just doesn't work.

But, once I'm asleep I sleep much better when she's gone, because the pillow doesn't steal the covers or creep onto my half of the bed.

 
It is more difficult to fall asleep when she's not there.  I have a lot of trouble falling asleep.  I usually end up watching TV for a half hour, then when my eyes finally start to get tired, I'll curl up around her.  If she's not there I have to spoon a pillow and that just doesn't work.

But, once I'm asleep I sleep much better when she's gone, because the pillow doesn't steal the covers or creep onto my half of the bed.
Wife and I figured out a couple weeks after moving in together that sharing a blanket was NEVER going to work..

We both have our own comforters on the bed to prevent the "stealing".  :thumbup:  

 
much, much better.

she snores like a walrus. rolls around constantly and sniffs a lot because of her allergies.

 
I struggle to sleep without my wife beside me.  I don't need to hold or snuggle her, but can't sleep without her there for some reason.  Which sucks because she's gotten into the habit lately of staying up past midnight while I like to get to bed by 10:30.  So I'm dragging most days.  :sleep:

 
Wife and I figured out a couple weeks after moving in together that sharing a blanket was NEVER going to work..

We both have our own comforters on the bed to prevent the "stealing".  :thumbup:  
That's not a bad idea.  If we ever go to a king size bed, or a sleep number or something like that, we may have to go that route.  My wife is one of those "I want to be right next to you while I sleep" type of people, so she's constantly edging towards me in her sleep.  Drives me crazy.  I love going on vacation and getting a king size bed.  I lie next to her way over on her side of the bed and then when she falls asleep I move way over and it buys me most of the night of freedom (I'm a tosser and turner, and she sleeps like a log once she has all the covers).

 
Wife and I figured out a couple weeks after moving in together that sharing a blanket was NEVER going to work..

We both have our own comforters on the bed to prevent the "stealing".  :thumbup:  
That's not a bad idea.  If we ever go to a king size bed, or a sleep number or something like that, we may have to go that route.  My wife is one of those "I want to be right next to you while I sleep" type of people, so she's constantly edging towards me in her sleep.  Drives me crazy.  I love going on vacation and getting a king size bed.  I lie next to her way over on her side of the bed and then when she falls asleep I move way over and it buys me most of the night of freedom (I'm a tosser and turner, and she sleeps like a log once she has all the covers).
With a Sleep Number bed it gets even better in terms of the other person "invading" your space..

I have my number at 70.. hers is at 45.. this causes a "hill" between us.

I literally feel I'm going to roll down hill if I get near the middle so we have a pillow we place between us, so you are almost forced to stay on your side. :thumbup:

 
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Yes..I hardly ever move while sleeping but my wife flips flops all night..then stretching her arms and hitting me in the face all the while never waking up.

The sharing the blanket comment works.  We used to share the blanket but she rolls around so much she kept  ripping the blanket off me and waking me up.  Now we have 2 down comforters and each have our own and it really has helped.

 
Queen size bed has to be rough.  I don't miss those days.
We spent the first ~13 years together on a full size mattress.  The queen size felt amazing at first.  I'm now ready for a king, but it would require some adjustment to the bedroom space.

 
I don't like sleeping next to anyone. I sleep in the guest room when I stay at my gf house. And I sleep in the guest room when she stays at my house  :bag:

 
This is the bigger problem for me.  I can never really sleep well, but my tossing and turning or stealing blankets negatively impacts others.
I'm thinking that if I ever do settle down again and try to start a family me and the Mrs will need separate beds like a 50s TV couple.

 
She was complaining that I was a bed hog when I stayed over (I like to sleep diagonally in general, and play footsie) so I started sleeping more straight and on the edge and she complained that it felt like we were fighting. 

 
We always get a king size on vacation but 20+ years with the Queen size and it doesn't bother me at all. Our bedroom just won't fit a King size. We both sleep like logs, don't flop around much and share the same blanket. She gets up during the night to go to the bathroom but I barely ever notice.

 
If my wife's not around and I'm in the bed, there not much sleeping going on.  knowwhatimsayin?

 
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Three of the five black eyes i've received in my life came from my sleeping wife.

My Mary & i were both enormous, hadnt the luxury of kingsize beds nor a college education (the main function of which, i insist to this day, is to teach people to sleep two to a dorm bed) and were floppy as fresh-caught carp. She's been dead 20 yrs and i think i still got shin scars from kicks by her scabbyass size13 feet. Thankfully we kept very different hours, didnt have kids, never felt the need for the ritual and were as comfortable on the couch in front of the TV

ETA: Oddly, tho, i sleep on my side of the bed to this day

 
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Today marks one year of living with a girlfriend for the first time. Definitely prefer sleeping alone. In general, I go to sleep four hours later than her and wake up three hours after. That three hours of freedom at the end is pretty much what keeps me sane.

 

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