Instinctive
Footballguy
Hey FFA fam. Did a search on this and could only find a post or two over in Political Roe discussion threads and randomly a couple in the credit card points thread, so making a new post.
Context: My wife and I are officially moving to the IVF stage after an extended period of trying to conceive, then trying IUI, and still not having success. I'm mostly doing ok, but the various medications, shots, procedures, etc have been hell on her (honestly the hardest part for me is just absorbing her stress and constantly providing support the best way I can). I talk about it super openly and it feels like every single time the topic comes up, the other person (especially dudes) has some variation of "we had a challenge too and I never felt like I could talk about it, so please let me be there for you," and they're super kind.
We've come to the conclusion today that basically nowhere will let you do 2-embryo transfer for our age profile now, which has her super down as it resigns us to going through it at least twice (family goal of two little ones) and she was really hoping to maximize chances of twins and not endure the full process more than once.
I've posted looking for two things:
1. If you've been through it, any advice on the best ways to support her, based on what you went through?
2. Since apparently pregnancy challenges (whether conceiving, miscarrying, something during birth, etc) are wildly common but nobody thinks they can talk about it, I figure I'm going to be the change I wish to see in the world, and maybe those who go through in the future can bump this and read through and share also.
*I would like to make one request, since there's lots of debate/discussion out there: please don't waste your time suggesting we try to adopt. We've been down that road and discussed it at length, and for various reasons, that's not what we want for us. I think it's an amazing thing and would prefer this not become a pros/cons of different options or philosophical kind of thread. That is not the purpose.
Context: My wife and I are officially moving to the IVF stage after an extended period of trying to conceive, then trying IUI, and still not having success. I'm mostly doing ok, but the various medications, shots, procedures, etc have been hell on her (honestly the hardest part for me is just absorbing her stress and constantly providing support the best way I can). I talk about it super openly and it feels like every single time the topic comes up, the other person (especially dudes) has some variation of "we had a challenge too and I never felt like I could talk about it, so please let me be there for you," and they're super kind.
We've come to the conclusion today that basically nowhere will let you do 2-embryo transfer for our age profile now, which has her super down as it resigns us to going through it at least twice (family goal of two little ones) and she was really hoping to maximize chances of twins and not endure the full process more than once.
I've posted looking for two things:
1. If you've been through it, any advice on the best ways to support her, based on what you went through?
2. Since apparently pregnancy challenges (whether conceiving, miscarrying, something during birth, etc) are wildly common but nobody thinks they can talk about it, I figure I'm going to be the change I wish to see in the world, and maybe those who go through in the future can bump this and read through and share also.
*I would like to make one request, since there's lots of debate/discussion out there: please don't waste your time suggesting we try to adopt. We've been down that road and discussed it at length, and for various reasons, that's not what we want for us. I think it's an amazing thing and would prefer this not become a pros/cons of different options or philosophical kind of thread. That is not the purpose.