Maybe the wife will talk to me again within the next week, but not sure. I got upset with something and how she said it...escalated quickly- with kids in the backseat on our way to the beach. As always, everything is my fault. If she's upset by something I've done, I have to listen and explain that I understand why she's upset whether I agree or no...and form some kind of genuine apology. If I defend my words or actions, that means I don't care that I've upset her. tbh- I don't like upsetting anybody, so this isn't the end of the world to me- and something I've worked on over the years. If shes said or done something that upsets me, it's my fault for being too...sensitive/paranoid/whatever...or I've expressed my hurt in the wrong way. So then shes upset with me and I have to go back to the same plan for when I've said/done something upsetting to her. Basically- I'm not allowed to be upset with her...ever.
And we went to the beach.
How was your day?