Probably mentioned this before but I'm almost as old as you, so I forget a lot...On my bike ride home, I roll past a disc golf course. The more I see of it, the more I want to try it out. Every person I see out there looks high as a billy goat with grins like a ventriloquist dummy. And then, watching them just let one rip like T-Bell in a library? Man...how come I've never done this before? Next time I'm in Bakersfield, let's me and you give this a whirl.You should take up disc golf.Just kidding. That would lead to drugs.Truck: Thanks for this. I think this is where I am. If I give myself a budget, and stick to it, then that kind of is a self-defining thing about whether it is a problem. Right?The big problem here is bankroll. If I want to play "non-losing" 1-2NL over the course of a year (let's define that as one 8-hour session once a month of a year), than any bankroll less than $2k is tough, right? And I think talking my wife into bankrolling this hobby for $2k for a year is going to be difficult.'Good said:I have a wife and I gamble, so I guess I'll chime in:
I would talk to your wife and get to her root issue with gambling. For most wives, I think it comes down to the worry that it's going to end in financial ruin. Did she have a parent or relative with a gambling problem? Does she think it's a waste of time? Does she have a problem with poker specifically, or all gambling?
I'd then try to forge a compromise. Look at your yearly budget, figure out a sensible amount to play with every month -- something that would be akin to golfing expenses -- and agree with her that that will be your hard cap for how much you can play with. And stick to that. That might allay some of her concerns.
Lastly, I'd buy a couple books on poker. 2+2 always puts out some good stuff. Show her that you're making an effort to improve your game, and maybe even read up on poker bankroll management and take a more conservative stance. That'll show her that you're making an effort to lose less. And, if you get to a point where you're losing less money or even making money long-term, most women will stop worrying so much.
Another idea might be to start playing online instead of live. Live cash games are mighty expensive in terms of the rake, gas money, etc. There are still a few networks that are operating, Sportsbook.ag has a linked poker website that I've played on on occasion. Juicystakes.eu (formerly Cake poker) also serves US customers. That would allow you to get your fix, but to play for smaller stakes than you would otherwise be playing for live.
One option is to just save up $100/month or so over the course of the next year or so, and then play when I feel comfortable with my bankroll.
The problem I have with my wife is that even we both agreed on "money to be spent on a hobby," we still have the problem of me doing something she doesn't approve of. It's really similar to how she can spend two hours on a lazy weekend morning reading a book, but tell me I've been wasting the day playing video games.
But I really agree with your idea of trying to improve my game, and showing her that. And she can decide whether or not she wants to participate in those discussions (she won't).
Great, so according to Google, nobody's ever taken a picture of Fidel Castro eating a pastrami sandwich.
So, never?Probably mentioned this before but I'm almost as old as you, so I forget a lot...On my bike ride home, I roll past a disc golf course. The more I see of it, the more I want to try it out. Every person I see out there looks high as a billy goat with grins like a ventriloquist dummy. And then, watching them just let one rip like T-Bell in a library? Man...how come I've never done this before? Next time I'm in Bakersfield, let's me and you give this a whirl.You should take up disc golf.Just kidding. That would lead to drugs.Truck: Thanks for this. I think this is where I am. If I give myself a budget, and stick to it, then that kind of is a self-defining thing about whether it is a problem. Right?The big problem here is bankroll. If I want to play "non-losing" 1-2NL over the course of a year (let's define that as one 8-hour session once a month of a year), than any bankroll less than $2k is tough, right? And I think talking my wife into bankrolling this hobby for $2k for a year is going to be difficult.'Good said:I have a wife and I gamble, so I guess I'll chime in:
I would talk to your wife and get to her root issue with gambling. For most wives, I think it comes down to the worry that it's going to end in financial ruin. Did she have a parent or relative with a gambling problem? Does she think it's a waste of time? Does she have a problem with poker specifically, or all gambling?
I'd then try to forge a compromise. Look at your yearly budget, figure out a sensible amount to play with every month -- something that would be akin to golfing expenses -- and agree with her that that will be your hard cap for how much you can play with. And stick to that. That might allay some of her concerns.
Lastly, I'd buy a couple books on poker. 2+2 always puts out some good stuff. Show her that you're making an effort to improve your game, and maybe even read up on poker bankroll management and take a more conservative stance. That'll show her that you're making an effort to lose less. And, if you get to a point where you're losing less money or even making money long-term, most women will stop worrying so much.
Another idea might be to start playing online instead of live. Live cash games are mighty expensive in terms of the rake, gas money, etc. There are still a few networks that are operating, Sportsbook.ag has a linked poker website that I've played on on occasion. Juicystakes.eu (formerly Cake poker) also serves US customers. That would allow you to get your fix, but to play for smaller stakes than you would otherwise be playing for live.
One option is to just save up $100/month or so over the course of the next year or so, and then play when I feel comfortable with my bankroll.
The problem I have with my wife is that even we both agreed on "money to be spent on a hobby," we still have the problem of me doing something she doesn't approve of. It's really similar to how she can spend two hours on a lazy weekend morning reading a book, but tell me I've been wasting the day playing video games.
But I really agree with your idea of trying to improve my game, and showing her that. And she can decide whether or not she wants to participate in those discussions (she won't).![]()
That's just what the government wants you to think.Great, so according to Google, nobody's ever taken a picture of Fidel Castro eating a pastrami sandwich.
I think Woz was first.I think this is probably fifth or sixth.First post in GMTAN history from OB/GYN exam?
Great, so according to Google, nobody's ever taken a picture of Fidel Castro eating a pastrami sandwich.
WHAT IS THE MATTER WITH YOU?!? THAT LOOKS LIKE A GIANT VAGI NA!
Yeah, I opened Giant Beaver on a phone call and had to lie about what I was laughing at.Oh and Bravo on the pics. The cave one made me fake cough to cover up a guffaw in a meeting.
Stay on topic.How big do you think her ###### is??Just cyberstalked a girlfriend of mine from 25 years ago because I had a dream about her last night (probably hadn't even thought about her in 15 years). Met her on a group trip to the Soviet Union in High School and we went out over a summer until her father decided he didn't want her dating a white guy (they're Chinese). Anyway, she's a journalist in Chicago and I found a video of her online (not pr0n) and all I could think of while watching it was that I was the first guy to ever see her boobies. Good to see that I've matured a lot in that time.
ThanksHappy Birthday to Fat Drunk and Stupid and his many aliai.
Thanks, and go #### yourself in the ear.Happy birthday FDAS, and sorry about Alabama winning another title next year.
You realize they're just supposed to squash your boobs not actually screw you, right?I went in for a mammogram last fall and about an hour later, found out I was pregnant.She's a she, 34 and fairly attractive.Clear your schedules for tomorrow at 11. I'll be live-blogging my mammogram in here.did he fat finger his way to friending your peta?
Think sending GM in your place, Good Will Hunting-style, is the shark move here.Meeting with the owner of the Seattle firm I like tonight...two of the partners there tell me I'll be getting a formal offer.Driving to Portland for interviews with the firm I don't like as much tomorrow...they have me interviewing with 9 people in 5 sessions over 4 hours. This is the fourth interview. Who does this?
People who are afraid of making a decision and want to be able to say that you passed the hiring committee so it isn't their fault you turned out to be a nincompoop.Meeting with the owner of the Seattle firm I like tonight...two of the partners there tell me I'll be getting a formal offer.Driving to Portland for interviews with the firm I don't like as much tomorrow...they have me interviewing with 9 people in 5 sessions over 4 hours. This is the fourth interview. Who does this?
Like Ben Afleck, I've become very serious and severe in my older age. A younger me could have pulled this off, but I just don't know now...Think sending GM in your place, Good Will Hunting-style, is the shark move here.Meeting with the owner of the Seattle firm I like tonight...two of the partners there tell me I'll be getting a formal offer.Driving to Portland for interviews with the firm I don't like as much tomorrow...they have me interviewing with 9 people in 5 sessions over 4 hours. This is the fourth interview. Who does this?
"Parece que está todo hecho aquí...Parece que está todo hecho aquí"
"Looks like we're all done here...Looks like we're all done here"What the hell? Did he just stick his head in and take a quick look around?Done already.. Take that, YSR!