Why are the holiday's so damn difficult. Before we had kids my wife and I would try to go to both families on Thanksgiving. Dinner at one, pie at the other. 4 years ago her sister starting hosting for their family and dinner would never be on time, it would be 1-3 hours later than she said it would due to people showing up late, the turkey not being done... When that started to happen, and we had our daughter we decided we would just do one family and switch each year. We would also switch the family we spend Christmas with to alternate, so we would spend a holiday with each family. Last year we went to her sisters for thanksgiving, guess which house my wife wants to go to this year, after we told my Aunt we would go to her's??She is upset that we are going to see my parents twice and not see her family (keep in mind her sister and kids were over 2 weeks ago). When I was in college my mom starting have a "second" thansgiving dinner for just myself, sister, and brother since we could not always get back for the big family get together. She has kept doing this, just the immediate family. My Aunt has the entire family over. We would only be seeing my cousins, aunts and uncles once, and we don't get together with them very often since they are out of towners.I have tried to explain to my wife that we both agreed when we had kids we would stop going to both families, and that last year we went to her side. She magically does not remember this and wants to go to her sisters so they can see our 6 week old (they have all come over to the house to see her since she was born) yet none of my extended family has seen her, and this would be their only chance.