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Had a WTF? conversation with the wife (1 Viewer)

ClownCausedChaos2 said:
glumpy said:
I think answering the question of the son's father is up to her, not Eggroll. If unexpected allergies, health issues or different blood types haven't raised questions then there's no immediate need here, and from the OP it doesn't seem like there's much chance of finding out who the father is anyway.
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If you're talking to me, I didn't mean to imply that the OP should tell him. But he should urge his wife to. Health information is the least of the reasons why. The young man simply deserves to know.
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He will resent her forever when he does find out. And he will one day find out.

 
ClownCausedChaos2 said:
glumpy said:
I think answering the question of the son's father is up to her, not Eggroll. If unexpected allergies, health issues or different blood types haven't raised questions then there's no immediate need here, and from the OP it doesn't seem like there's much chance of finding out who the father is anyway.
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If you're talking to me, I didn't mean to imply that the OP should tell him. But he should urge his wife to. Health information is the least of the reasons why. The young man simply deserves to know.
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I guess it was toward your idea and others... while I am generally out front and center with everything this is not so simple. The first decision Eggroll has right now in this thread is how he responds to his wife--if at all. If he reaches the conclusion that their relationship is strong despite the indiscretions of her past then he very well may not want to mention any of her revelations at all.

And what is it exactly that the young man "deserves to know"? Based on her expose there is no tracking down his biological father, so the only thing this could accomplish is to hurt his relationship with his mother. There is nothing to gain here.

 
glumpy said:
ClownCausedChaos2 said:
glumpy said:
I think answering the question of the son's father is up to her, not Eggroll. If unexpected allergies, health issues or different blood types haven't raised questions then there's no immediate need here, and from the OP it doesn't seem like there's much chance of finding out who the father is anyway.
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If you're talking to me, I didn't mean to imply that the OP should tell him. But he should urge his wife to. Health information is the least of the reasons why. The young man simply deserves to know.
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I guess it was toward your idea and others... while I am generally out front and center with everything this is not so simple. The first decision Eggroll has right now in this thread is how he responds to his wife--if at all. If he reaches the conclusion that their relationship is strong despite the indiscretions of her past then he very well may not want to mention any of her revelations at all.And what is it exactly that the young man "deserves to know"? Based on her expose there is no tracking down his biological father, so the only thing this could accomplish is to hurt his relationship with his mother. There is nothing to gain here.
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He deserves to know the truth about where he came from. The OP said that he's a junior or senior in high school. He's a young adult, if not an adult in some eyes.

Whether he wants to continue in his life accepting that the man who he was raised to know as his father or if he wants to seek out his biological father should be left up to him. There is no right or wrong answer, but I just believe that he should be allowed to make that decision, not have that decision made for him.

 
ClownCausedChaos2 said:
glumpy said:
I think answering the question of the son's father is up to her, not Eggroll. If unexpected allergies, health issues or different blood types haven't raised questions then there's no immediate need here, and from the OP it doesn't seem like there's much chance of finding out who the father is anyway.
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If you're talking to me, I didn't mean to imply that the OP should tell him. But he should urge his wife to. Health information is the least of the reasons why. The young man simply deserves to know.
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Deserves to know that his mother cheated on his father during what seems like a one night stand and she has no idea who his biological father is? What exactly is the benefit that comes out of this revelation? Seems like only negative results can come from that. If I'm reading this correctly, she slept with a number of people whom she may not even remember the names of. What is he going to do? Publish a picture of his mom from 20 years ago in the classifieds saying "Did you bang this woman at a party in 1997? You could be my daddy. Call 555-555-5555 with info."

 
ClownCausedChaos2 said:
He deserves to know the truth about where he came from. The OP said that he's a junior or senior in high school. He's a young adult, if not an adult in some eyes.
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The OP has also suggested that there is no way to know. I see Magus beat me to this.

I should mention that everything I have posted presumes that their relationship has been a good one, that Eggroll trusts his wife despite this surprise and is able to get past these revelations from her past. If that is true he won't want to mention Any of this. I hope it's true for his sake and wish them luck.

 
Mrs Eggroll told her 1st husband the truth and the guy bolted. She didn't tell Eggroll what happened for 14 years because she did not want to lose him too. Clearly her feelings about this has changed recently.

 
Eggroll said:
ClownCausedChaos2 said:
Has she told her son?
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No. As far as she knows, only she and her ex know what happened, and no one has a definitive answer to the kid's lineage. Her preference (explained while tipsy) was not to know who the father is and just let everyone assume it was her ex.
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She should find out for the medical history. Does she not like the kid?

 
Clifford said:
Eggroll said:
Clifford said:
Well, if I were you I would be worried about what brought this on and her paternity question to you.

Do you care if you are the father of child #3?

And if I read your last post right, she had been married and divorced twice before you met her? Or are you marriage #2? How old was she when you met?
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I am marriage number 2. She was married roughly from age 20-23. Met me probably at 25 and got remarried around 27. Might not be exact but probably close.

As for the child #3 comments she had, during the conversation she asked if after all these years her ex- should care whether he was or was not the biological father of kid #2 (inferring he had so much invested what difference would it make). As a "for instance" kind of a comment, she asked me after all the time invested in kid #3 would I throw him overboard if I were not the biological father. I don't think that was her way of trying to show that I was not the real father, I think it was just to use as a comparison. The huge majority of the conversation all focused on things that happened way before me and had nothing to do with me. I was the one that tried to bring things more current and review what happened in my timeframe, not her. But she wanted to keep going back to ancient history with her ex. That was the weird part, it was like she went back to re-live the 90s. Anything involving me was pretty much left out of the conversation. when I dragged myself into the conversation she got irritated and wanted to get back to 20 years ago. I was mostly a footnote in the conversation and if I kept my mouth shut may not have been included at all.
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Given that description not as bad as it sounded originally. The lies that started out the relationship are still a big issue, but I think you can forgive that. It's still worrisome that she cheated on her ex and lied to you about her past relationship which seems like it could have changed things had you known the truth.
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It is also worrisome that while she was confessing her sins she told our friend Eggroll that she wishes she would have banged another guy. Not a real nice thing to say to your spouse.

 
TheMagus said:
ClownCausedChaos2 said:
glumpy said:
I think answering the question of the son's father is up to her, not Eggroll. If unexpected allergies, health issues or different blood types haven't raised questions then there's no immediate need here, and from the OP it doesn't seem like there's much chance of finding out who the father is anyway.
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If you're talking to me, I didn't mean to imply that the OP should tell him. But he should urge his wife to. Health information is the least of the reasons why. The young man simply deserves to know.
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Deserves to know that his mother cheated on his father during what seems like a one night stand and she has no idea who his biological father is? What exactly is the benefit that comes out of this revelation? Seems like only negative results can come from that. If I'm reading this correctly, she slept with a number of people whom she may not even remember the names of. What is he going to do? Publish a picture of his mom from 20 years ago in the classifieds saying "Did you bang this woman at a party in 1997? You could be my daddy. Call 555-555-5555 with info."
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Been trying to call that number all day and it has been busy. Just how many guys did Mrs. Eggroll bang in 1997????

 
Eggroll said:
ClownCausedChaos2 said:
Has she told her son?
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No. As far as she knows, only she and her ex know what happened, and no one has a definitive answer to the kid's lineage. Her preference (explained while tipsy) was not to know who the father is and just let everyone assume it was her ex.
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So why havent you brought up her drunken revelation to her since this happened 5 or so days ago? What are you waiting for?

 
Godsbrother said:
TheMagus said:
ClownCausedChaos2 said:
glumpy said:
I think answering the question of the son's father is up to her, not Eggroll. If unexpected allergies, health issues or different blood types haven't raised questions then there's no immediate need here, and from the OP it doesn't seem like there's much chance of finding out who the father is anyway.
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If you're talking to me, I didn't mean to imply that the OP should tell him. But he should urge his wife to. Health information is the least of the reasons why. The young man simply deserves to know.
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Deserves to know that his mother cheated on his father during what seems like a one night stand and she has no idea who his biological father is? What exactly is the benefit that comes out of this revelation? Seems like only negative results can come from that. If I'm reading this correctly, she slept with a number of people whom she may not even remember the names of. What is he going to do? Publish a picture of his mom from 20 years ago in the classifieds saying "Did you bang this woman at a party in 1997? You could be my daddy. Call 555-555-5555 with info."
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Been trying to call that number all day and it has been busy. Just how many guys did Mrs. Eggroll bang in 1997????
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I banged a lot of broads in 1997. Maybe I am the daddy.

 
The guy paying child support deserves to know the truth! Maybe get reimbursed too if he's not the guy.

 
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