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How do you make friends in your early 30s? (1 Viewer)
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Rick Harrison
Footballguy
Continuing education classes. Sign up now, they start in January.
Bob Sacamano
Footballguy
Easiest and most expensive way is to have kids.
McGarnicle
Footballguy
Frisbee golf.
DallasDMac
Footballguy
Step 1: Build a time machine and travel back 20+ years.
The General
Footballguy
If you play a sport there will be a pickup game of it somewhere or a rec league of it.
Northern Voice
Footballguy
I have some new friends, I guess, who I met through Untappd, the beer app. We're doing a "bottle share" night once every couple months now and we talk a lot through the app and the Facebook group we created to organize the bottle shares 
McGarnicle
Footballguy
Don't join a cult imo.
Binky The Doormat
Footballguy
Exactly. Don't join a cult ...you start a cult.
That way you get all the money and girls.
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Insoxicated
I’m in my early 40s and find myself paring them back. Kickball/softball teams, comp cooking teams, whiskey clubs, Fantasy football leagues, “bar buddies”, tailgating groups.... not to mention 15-20 Old HS/College friends, etc... all have net some lifelong friends.
Not sure how much overlap you might have but those have worked for me.
Not sure how much overlap you might have but those have worked for me.
Northern Voice
Footballguy
Da Guru
Fair & Balanced
No....many league teams need free agents. Teams where nobody knows anybody and then being friends. My youngest daughter who is a first year HS teacher moved 45 minutes from us to young hip area but did not know anyone there. After playing co-ed softball, volleyball and kickball she now has 8-10 people she is really close with. There is a huge medical center where she lives and half the people were young doctors and nurses who moved into SE Michigan from elsewhere and they hang out all the time
Joe Summer
Footballguy
Get a girlfriend. WA-LA! Now you're friends with all of your girlfriend's friends' boyfriends.
-OZ-
Footballguy
rockaction
Footballguy
Forget it, your friending days are done. Meet younger people who want friends. Other than that, it's all BS.
bushdocda
Footballguy
I thought this article made a lot sense but then I learned about whiskey clubs from @icon 
https://www.inc.com/jessica-stillman/work-sleep-family-fitness-or-friends-pick-3.html
https://www.inc.com/jessica-stillman/work-sleep-family-fitness-or-friends-pick-3.html
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Zow
Footballguy
Zow
Footballguy
This is very true.I thought this article made a lot sense but then I learned about whiskey clubs from @icon
https://www.inc.com/jessica-stillman/work-sleep-family-fitness-or-friends-pick-3.html
And frankly since I’ve had kids it’s been near impossible just doing three of them when working 50-50 hrs.
wikkidpissah
Footballguy
Volunteer. Honest.
snogger
Footballguy
Any other ideas??eoMMan said:
I'm 50, work from home and have no idea how to "Make new friends" at this point in my life. Zero interest at this point of going to bars, etc.
Most things I do outside the house tend to be "individual" things like Cross Country Skiing, Photography, Drone flying... Living in a small town doesn't help as finding a group in the area to join isn't easy.
Guess I could always start going to the "Old Folks" 500/Rummy card games every other week.
McGarnicle
Footballguy
ourtime.comAny other ideas??
I'm 50, work from home and have no idea how to "Make new friends" at this point in my life. Zero interest at this point of going to bars, etc.
Most things I do outside the house tend to be "individual" things like Cross Country Skiing, Photography, Drone flying... Living in a small town doesn't help as finding a group in the area to join isn't easy.
Guess I could always start going to the "Old Folks" 500/Rummy card games every other week.
snogger
Footballguy
should have figured what that was before I clicked it.. time to clean up the browser historyourtime.comAny other ideas??
I'm 50, work from home and have no idea how to "Make new friends" at this point in my life. Zero interest at this point of going to bars, etc.
Most things I do outside the house tend to be "individual" things like Cross Country Skiing, Photography, Drone flying... Living in a small town doesn't help as finding a group in the area to join isn't easy.
Guess I could always start going to the "Old Folks" 500/Rummy card games every other week.
Jayrod
Footballguy
I turned 40 a week ago and have made a bunch of new friends in the last 10 years. They have come from 3 primary sources:
1. Church - My church is enormous, so every volunteer event or small group meeting typically ends up with meeting someone new.
2. Sports officiating - travelling together and getting yelled at together creates a nice bond.
3. Rotary Club - a great social network that does a lot of good. More older people in these than young typically and it depends entirely on where you live, but my club is pretty fantastic.
Shoot, I have actually made and lost track of friends in that time frame. My main social group consists of my family and one outside family (my BFF from HS and his family), but I have a lot of newer acquaintances that we get together with on weekends and minor holidays.
1. Church - My church is enormous, so every volunteer event or small group meeting typically ends up with meeting someone new.
2. Sports officiating - travelling together and getting yelled at together creates a nice bond.
3. Rotary Club - a great social network that does a lot of good. More older people in these than young typically and it depends entirely on where you live, but my club is pretty fantastic.
Shoot, I have actually made and lost track of friends in that time frame. My main social group consists of my family and one outside family (my BFF from HS and his family), but I have a lot of newer acquaintances that we get together with on weekends and minor holidays.
Honestly, just gotta find people with common interests and values. Figure out what you want out of the relationship (fly drones together, go watch Rambo movies, etc).Any other ideas??
I'm 50, work from home and have no idea how to "Make new friends" at this point in my life. Zero interest at this point of going to bars, etc.
Most things I do outside the house tend to be "individual" things like Cross Country Skiing, Photography, Drone flying... Living in a small town doesn't help as finding a group in the area to join isn't easy.
Guess I could always start going to the "Old Folks" 500/Rummy card games every other week.
I can understand how a small town would definitely hinder this.
snogger
Footballguy
Probably would help if I was good at "Small Talk".. I do have short talks with some people while out Skiing, hiking, takingHonestly, just gotta find people with common interests and values. Figure out what you want out of the relationship (fly drones together, go watch Rambo movies, etc).Any other ideas??
I'm 50, work from home and have no idea how to "Make new friends" at this point in my life. Zero interest at this point of going to bars, etc.
Most things I do outside the house tend to be "individual" things like Cross Country Skiing, Photography, Drone flying... Living in a small town doesn't help as finding a group in the area to join isn't easy.
Guess I could always start going to the "Old Folks" 500/Rummy card games every other week.
I can understand how a small town would definitely hinder this.
but they are just that, short..Need to figure out a way to take a "hey, nice day to get out and ski/hike/take photos" .. and expand on it..
NeverEnough
Footballguy
I'm headed toward 40 and have the same group of friends since HS or shortly after with a couple friends acquired along the way sprinkled in. No real interest in making new friends. People suck and too many folks just want to use you for their gain. I'm sure part of my lack of desire to socialize w/new people is also because I'm in introvert and I also find small talk to be boring and a waste of time. I'd rather talk about something meaningful.
Da Guru
Fair & Balanced
No offense but that sounds horrible.
I have a group of friends from HS that I see maybe one or twice a year but my life has changed so much and most of my friends now are people I met after college, people who were parents of my daughter friends when they were young, sports team parents who we traveled with and now are good friends. I have experienced so much more. The ones you really like you stick with, the ones I don`t care for I just let slide. I have 4 men friends who I have met in the last 15 years that would do anything for me or my family and I the same for them.
When I go out with my HS friends they still tell the same stories about when we got drunk in 10th grade, or fights we were in and on an on.
I have heard every story possible 100 times and they keep changing.."Remember the time we fought those 10 guys and beat the crap out of all of them...well is was 4 guys and one ran away.
NeverEnough
Footballguy
Let me elaborate. I have a small group of close friends. I am not one of these tools that counts acquaintances etc.I'm sorry that you think my particular friends are horrible. Also note that I said some I have known since HS & the others I met in my 20s. I think only 1, maybe 2, of them I have met in my 30s. I'm not the type to need 800 "friends" Thanks for playing!
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Da Guru
Fair & Balanced
Do not think they are horrible..nor do I think my old friends are horrible...I love them. Just that my life has evolved and expanded and so many more new experiences.
belljr
Footballguy
I'll be your friendAny other ideas??
I'm 50, work from home and have no idea how to "Make new friends" at this point in my life. Zero interest at this point of going to bars, etc.
Most things I do outside the house tend to be "individual" things like Cross Country Skiing, Photography, Drone flying... Living in a small town doesn't help as finding a group in the area to join isn't easy.
Guess I could always start going to the "Old Folks" 500/Rummy card games every other week.
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Insoxicated
There are clubs for everything.Any other ideas??
I'm 50, work from home and have no idea how to "Make new friends" at this point in my life. Zero interest at this point of going to bars, etc.
Most things I do outside the house tend to be "individual" things like Cross Country Skiing, Photography, Drone flying... Living in a small town doesn't help as finding a group in the area to join isn't easy.
Guess I could always start going to the "Old Folks" 500/Rummy card games every other week.
Photography Club. Drone/Plane/Copter flying club. Start online and you'll likely going to find some folks semi-local.
But yah.. if you live in a tiny town, only enjoy solitary hobbies, don't like to go to bars or sporting events.... you're either going to have to develop some social hobbies, move to a more populous area, or just accept not having a ton of friends :(
NeverEnough
Footballguy
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Insoxicated
This always makes me uncomfortable. I've had some entertaining moments in fights in the past... but I swear I never bring them up. And when someone brings them up (usually one of the same 2-3 guys), they get more elaborate every telling. I just smile and laugh politely... but I want to say "You're full of ####, I never did anything even close to that awesome".
fightingillini
Footballguy
This is why I don't keep in touch with anyone from HS. Personally I hated HS (not because of the people, but because I was a very immature person back then). I had a lot of so called "acquaintance" friends but no one that was really close. My best friend from childhood moved on from me in HS because I wasn't cool enough.
I went back to my 10 year reunion in 1998 just to see if things were different....nope....it was all the same, just 10 year later. Many of the cliques at my HS still existed 10 year later. So that was the last time I spoke to anyone from HS. The last thing I want to talk about is what happened in HS.
Zegras11
Footballguy
fightingillini
Footballguy
In your 30s it take a lot more effort to make friends. The best places to meet people in your 30s are at activities (most cities have certain clubs), church, volunteering for charities, and at work. Meet people and friend them on Facebook and keep in touch. Meet colleagues and connect with them on Linked in and keep in touch. Social media does help a lot in this case.
Bull Dozier
Footballguy
I've always been horrible at making friends, and if I did not have kids, I most likely would not have made any in the last 20 years. All of the friends I see on more than just an occasionally basis are parents of my kids friends, parents from their schools, or parents from their sports teammates. I'm not complaining, I've met some great people through those avenues, and is effiicient. But as someone said, it is an extremely expensive method.
