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How long did you take on paternity leave? (1 Viewer)

ghostguy123

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Assuming you were actually able to take an extended stay based on what your work allowed you to take, or how much vacation time you had saved up allowed you to take.................................

I think my work allows for up to something like 10-12 weeks for paternity FMLA. No chance I would take anything remotely close to that unless some sort of unthinkable tragedy were to occur.

I could take like 8 full weeks if I really wanted to, and would get paid my usual rate for all 8 weeks, though I would be bone dry in the PTO department until I build it back up. I don't want to do that.

I was thinking of either taking 3 weeks off, or doing intermittent FMLA for 4-5 weeks where I work maybe part time hours in weeks 3-5.

I am not sure an extended time off would be good for my sanity. I would probably get a bit stir crazy after 2-3 weeks.

What did you guys do, or wish you did different?

 
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On a side note, the longest stretch of days in a row I have had off since I started working 11 years ago is ten days. I have never been a vacationer, so we have never taken any long trips anywhere.

 
Mario Kart said:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zIhKAQX5izw

We shouldn't have to worry about using PTO time or fear losing a job because of this. One of the things we, as Americans, should prioritize in the near future in this country.
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Two reasons I can't watch that. One, I can't stand hearing that guys voice for more than 1 second. Two, was hoping to get some input on what people did, not look to start a revolution.

Thanks anyway though.

 
Had baby on Monday. Rest of week was no questions asked off for free. Worked on next Monday to clear pressing issues. Tues-Fri used vacation days. Back to work.

9 days off :shrug:

 
Was it enough? Wish you took more? Less?? Same?

I sort of have to have something figured out when the time comes. My particular job doesn't allow me to just come and go when I am ready.

I also can't just randomly leave in the middle of a work day to go home for something. When I am at work, I am there for the duration of that work day.

 
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ghostguy123 said:
Was it enough? Wish you took more? Less?? Same?

I sort of have to have something figured out when the time comes. My particular job doesn't allow me to just come and go when I am ready.

I also can't just randomly leave in the middle of a work day to go home for something. When I am at work, I am there for the duration of that work day.
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Are you a shed herder ?

Pretty simple, tell your boss you will need to leave at a moments notice somewhere in this two week period, ask him for a number you can call to get someone in to backfill

 
wilked said:
ghostguy123 said:
Was it enough? Wish you took more? Less?? Same?

I sort of have to have something figured out when the time comes. My particular job doesn't allow me to just come and go when I am ready.

I also can't just randomly leave in the middle of a work day to go home for something. When I am at work, I am there for the duration of that work day.
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Are you a shed herder ?

Pretty simple, tell your boss you will need to leave at a moments notice somewhere in this two week period, ask him for a number you can call to get someone in to backfill
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I am a registered nurse on a specialized unit. It just simply can not work that way.

 
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3 weeks for both children. It seemed like a good amount of time to spend with the kids, help my wife, and by the end I was ready to go back.

 
Why exactly do you need time off? Is it to help with breastfeeding and diapers or is there something I am missing?

How much time do dads take off for their second child compared to their first?

 
chauncey said:
Why exactly do you need time off? Is it to help with breastfeeding and diapers or is there something I am missing?

How much time do dads take off for their second child compared to their first?
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My wife couldn't breastfeed, so yes, helping with the feedings that occur every two hours around the clock.Yes, helping with diapers.

Helping my wife and allowing her to rest from the c-sections that she had (which are considered major abdominal surgery).

Bonding with my children.

Need me to continue?

 
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my company gave two weeks paid paternity leave I took two weeks paid paternity leave

 
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chauncey said:
Why exactly do you need time off? Is it to help with breastfeeding and diapers or is there something I am missing?

How much time do dads take off for their second child compared to their first?
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Chances are you are both a bad husband and poor father.

Or am I missing something?

In all seriousness though, yes, you are missing quite a bit here.

 
When my twin sisters were born, my dad went straight to the bar, passed out cigars and got shammered. Stumbled to work the next day.

Good old days, man.

 
Doing 3 weeks right now.. 2 months later when she goes back to work

 
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ghostguy123 said:
chauncey said:
Why exactly do you need time off? Is it to help with breastfeeding and diapers or is there something I am missing?

How much time do dads take off for their second child compared to their first?
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Chances are you are both a bad husband and poor father.

Or am I missing something?

In all seriousness though, yes, you are missing quite a bit here.
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Or maybe he is a hard worker and dedicated and busy at his job and his wife was totally fine with him making that sacrifice? Your child will remember exactly zero minutes of those three weeks you spent loafing around the house in your boxers.

 
Otis said:
ghostguy123 said:
chauncey said:
Why exactly do you need time off? Is it to help with breastfeeding and diapers or is there something I am missing?

How much time do dads take off for their second child compared to their first?
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Chances are you are both a bad husband and poor father.

Or am I missing something?

In all seriousness though, yes, you are missing quite a bit here.
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Or maybe he is a hard worker and dedicated and busy at his job and his wife was totally fine with him making that sacrifice? Your child will remember exactly zero minutes of those three weeks you spent loafing around the house in your boxers.
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Yea but in the end your kid is only that young once. There will always be more work and more cases. As much as we think we matter at our jobs, we really don't. It will get done.

 
As a father of three, I can honestly say, I dont remember ####. It was well over a week as my wife had a C section all three times.

 
And we wonder why American businesses want to get the hell out and go find a workforce where they don't have to pay 2 weeks vacation everytime somebody has a kid because it takes 2 people (plus every female relative) to figure out how to stick a ### in a kid's mouth.

 
fantasycurse42 said:
ghostguy123 said:
I think my work allows for up to something like 10-12 weeks
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WAT? NFW!My company is generous with time, they give the mother 3 months and the father 1 month.
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My company just bumped from 1 week to 9 weeks for paternity leave, and can be broken up as you wish. Maternity leave is 15 weeks non-Caesarian and 17 weeks Caesarian. Now, I just have to get married and starting having kids. :mansion:

 
pollardsvision said:
And we wonder why American businesses want to get the hell out and go find a workforce where they don't have to pay 2 weeks vacation everytime somebody has a kid because it takes 2 people (plus every female relative) to figure out how to stick a ### in a kid's mouth.
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Why would a business care how I choose to use my vacation time?

 
Captain Quinoa said:
ClownCausedChaos2 said:
chauncey said:
Why exactly do you need time off? Is it to help with breastfeeding and diapers or is there something I am missing?

How much time do dads take off for their second child compared to their first?
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My wife couldn't breastfeed, so yes, helping with the feedings that occur every two hours around the clock.
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You fed your babies 12 times/day??
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Maybe I'm not remembering correctly. I could have sworn that newborn babies drink just a few ounces every few hours for the first several weeks.

It's been several years and it was all a blur from the lack of sleep, though.

 
Don't recall exactly with my first one, but he was born early December so I think I took a few days, maybe a week but then had Christmas vacation

This was also during the economic collapse so I took 3 weeks unpaid in January an February (basically work a week, take a week off)

It was nice...watched a lot of food network

I only took a few days with the 2nd and 3rd kids...only so much you can do

 
Leeroy Jenkins said:
Otis said:
ghostguy123 said:
chauncey said:
Why exactly do you need time off? Is it to help with breastfeeding and diapers or is there something I am missing?

How much time do dads take off for their second child compared to their first?
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Chances are you are both a bad husband and poor father.

Or am I missing something?

In all seriousness though, yes, you are missing quite a bit here.
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Or maybe he is a hard worker and dedicated and busy at his job and his wife was totally fine with him making that sacrifice? Your child will remember exactly zero minutes of those three weeks you spent loafing around the house in your boxers.
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Yea but in the end your kid is only that young once. There will always be more work and more cases. As much as we think we matter at our jobs, we really don't. It will get done.
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In part you're right. But sometimes there are actually things you over others may need to handle. There's also the career impact. People notice the guys who don't milk every day of their vacation every year. People who care about the job and feel bad getting away are, as I've seen it, the ones who advance, while the guys who always put themselves first often languish. There's value at our job in being the guy who instead of milking that full month of leave instead says "you know what, I can't leave the team all that time to cover my stuff; I'll take 5 days and I'll be back in next Monday."

And it's not like you don't see them while they're that young. You come home every night and have weekends etc. You can make the "they'll never be this age again" argument at any point in their lives. You still have responsibilities that don't allow you to see it all. That's life.

It's the difference between those who are willing to sacrifice and those who aren't. We all make our choices.

This obviously doesn't all apply to every career and field. It's just been my experience. Your mileage will probably vary.

 
9 Days. My company at the time allowed employees to use their 2 weeks of sick, and I never got sick. I left 1 day in the bank.

Back then I had 2 weeks vacation, and 2 weeks sick. The current company I work for just gives 3 weeks PTO, they got rid of sick last year.

 
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I remember when my law firm put in a formal "paternity leave" policy about 10 years ago and we all chuckled a bit at the notion that any of us would actually take paternity leave. There was just no way any guy was going to tell his partners he'd be gone for a week on paternity leave, the culture would not allow it. My son was born on a Saturday and I left the hospital and went straight to my office on Sunday for about 4 hours to take care of some things. I drove my wife and son home Monday morning, spent a few hours at home then went in. I think I took a day or two at home that first week and that was it. When my daughter was born 5 years later and I had left the law firm, I think I spent most of the first week at home, but I took PTO or worked from home for any days off.

I worked at a printing factory in Germany back in the late 80s and remember one guy taking 6 months at home, fully paid, when his kid was born. I'm not sure on the details, but I think the parents get about 18 months total, fully paid, and can split some of the time between mother and father.

 
Otis said:
ghostguy123 said:
chauncey said:
Why exactly do you need time off? Is it to help with breastfeeding and diapers or is there something I am missing?

How much time do dads take off for their second child compared to their first?
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Chances are you are both a bad husband and poor father.

Or am I missing something?

In all seriousness though, yes, you are missing quite a bit here.
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Or maybe he is a hard worker and dedicated and busy at his job and his wife was totally fine with him making that sacrifice? Your child will remember exactly zero minutes of those three weeks you spent loafing around the house in your boxers.
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His post made you think it is because he is a hard worker?

 
I took three weeks off with my first but he was transferred to another city's NICU for ten days. And I was bartending at the time in college so easily replaceable.

With my "real" job I took a week off and WFH (worked from Home/Hospital) the next two. My wife was in the hospital for 12 days with our 2nd son and he was in the NICU for 15 days. So the wife was pretty in and out of it and I just worked on and off throughout the day/night in between going to visit my son and what not, one of the big benefits of my job is I can work anywhere so butts in seats isn't as important. Working remote occasionally is encouraged.

 
ghostguy123 said:
chauncey said:
Why exactly do you need time off? Is it to help with breastfeeding and diapers or is there something I am missing?

How much time do dads take off for their second child compared to their first?
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Chances are you are both a bad husband and poor father.

Or am I missing something?

In all seriousness though, yes, you are missing quite a bit here.
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Was going to try and offer thoughts and advice, but it looks like you've got it all figured out so there's no need. Stay classy.

 
I suppose i could have just started a thread asking how much vacation time we all get......

I am definitely doing two full weeks. Maybe three. I have 250 hours of PTO right now and will have about 300 when the baby comes. Three weeks will cost me 108 plus I will use another 80 to pay for health insurance for 2016. Still leaves me a nice cushion.

Was talking to my assnt manager this morning about 4-5 weeks intermittent. Probably wont do that though. Three weeks seems plenty to help out the wife, get some good bonding time in, make sure the 11 year old is doing what she needs to be doing, and to do a few projects around the house.

 
Otis said:
It's the difference between those who are willing to sacrifice and those who aren't. We all make our choices.
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Either choice represents a form of sacrifice. If it hurts my career to spend more time with my family, I'm perfectly happy to sacrifice my career prospects.I took the maximum that my job allowed each time. I think a month with my first kid and two weeks with the second.

 
fatguyinalittlecoat said:
Otis said:
It's the difference between those who are willing to sacrifice and those who aren't. We all make our choices.
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Either choice represents a form of sacrifice. If it hurts my career to spend more time with my family, I'm perfectly happy to sacrifice my career prospects.I took the maximum that my job allowed each time. I think a month with my first kid and two weeks with the second.
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It's not possible for this to affect my career either positively or negatively.

 
I took a couple days off for each kid. then I'd go back to work but maybe leave early or go in late here and there over the next week.

 
fatguyinalittlecoat said:
Otis said:
It's the difference between those who are willing to sacrifice and those who aren't. We all make our choices.
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Either choice represents a form of sacrifice. If it hurts my career to spend more time with my family, I'm perfectly happy to sacrifice my career prospects.I took the maximum that my job allowed each time. I think a month with my first kid and two weeks with the second.
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This. I take every day they give me. A lot of times though it's a day here and there. However as far as sacfricing. I'm a guy who will do the grunt work no wants to do. Or come in and support labs from 7pm to 2am.

So it's not like I'm telling my coworkers fu.

 
I took a couple days right after birth. Then I think I took 4 weeks with each kid after my wife went back to work at 12 weeks. Basically, delayed them going into day care an extra month. Was allowed to use sick time to cover nearly all of that time.

 
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