How often do you want to see your kids after they become adults? (1 Viewer)

[Bull Dozier]

The whole texting thing has helped wreak havoc with the act of actually talking to one's kids. My two eldest are busy college graduates- one working/living in The Big Apple, and the other having just finished up in Philly. Because texts are swapped a few times a week, it seems to take the edge off of the need for a phone call. Before I realize it- it's been over a month since I've spoken to either.

I miss them. A lot.

Mine are young (6,3,1) but this choked me up a bit

Mine are 4 & 2 and I don't want to think about a day when I talk to and see them infrequently. I'm sure they will call and visit less than I would like, but they have lives to lead.

Got to be honest, this thread is making me appreciate the silly conversations my son and I have about Paw Patrol or whatever other thing he has on his mind!

Emjoy them while they are young, that is for sure.

My boys are 12 and 14 now. I've always felt that as they become older, more mature, more self reliant, our relationship has gotten better, and I've enjoyed spending time with them more. But, I'll never have those Saturday mornings where they climb into my bed and lie next to me while they watch a cartoon. Now they just go downstairs and turn on ESPN. It's cool because we can talk about the college football playoff, or our fantasy football teams, but it's different.

 

[glock]

The whole texting thing has helped wreak havoc with the act of actually talking to one's kids. My two eldest are busy college graduates- one working/living in The Big Apple, and the other having just finished up in Philly. Because texts are swapped a few times a week, it seems to take the edge off of the need for a phone call. Before I realize it- it's been over a month since I've spoken to either.

I miss them. A lot.

Mine are young (6,3,1) but this choked me up a bit

Life is funny. My 16 year old? He's a good kid. And he's a truly "brilliant" kid with the caveat being that he won't take input from anyone. When he was 3- and a VERY early talker- he told his Mom and I, "It's my life." He has had to follow his own path since day one. He's also battling ADHD and depression. Love him to pieces, by why couldn't he have been FIRST!? The other two were easy by comparison. I'm too old for this...

 

[PIK95]

Here's the thing. I talk to my Mom on the phone once a week. She generally calls me. I normally don't speak to my Dad unless I see him when I visit them. And I visit them maybe 4 or 5 times a year.

But I like and respect my folks. I'm sure my Mom wishes I called more often (my brother calls every day, I gather). But I don't have much to say to her. I'm going to talk about work? I hate work. I've been that way since college. It never occurred to me call more often. I'm a crappy friend and brother that way too. I don't go out of my way to stay in touch. So if my son inherits my anti-social gene, I'm sure I won't talk to him as much as I'd like (and I'll be old and decrepit by the time he's out of the house anyway). If he ends up being the social type or unusual attached to his mother, I'm sure he'll call us more often.

Maybe your mom should watch more soccer

My folks watch 2-3 games a week. But my Dad develops weird favorites. For years, he'd talk about Benoit Assou-Ekoto as if he was Messi.

That must have been his early Spurs months.

 

[NutterButter]

Want them to buy houses in my neighborhood and raise their families there. Hope to see them as often as possible.

That would be pretty cool. Maybe I'll bribe them by offering to make the down payment.

 

[NutterButter]

The whole texting thing has helped wreak havoc with the act of actually talking to one's kids. My two eldest are busy college graduates- one working/living in The Big Apple, and the other having just finished up in Philly. Because texts are swapped a few times a week, it seems to take the edge off of the need for a phone call. Before I realize it- it's been over a month since I've spoken to either.

I miss them. A lot.

Mine are young (6,3,1) but this choked me up a bit

Mine are 4 & 2 and I don't want to think about a day when I talk to and see them infrequently. I'm sure they will call and visit less than I would like, but they have lives to lead.

Got to be honest, this thread is making me appreciate the silly conversations my son and I have about Paw Patrol or whatever other thing he has on his mind!

Its such a gradual process and its amazing the way the mind works where you just drift from one phase of parenting to the next with each having their really cool aspects as well as their drawbacks. I loved the 2-5 range and I thought I'd miss them so much but now that my kids are 6 and 9 I'm loving these respective areas as well and I don't really even think about the 2-5 range that much. I find as the kids get older the interactions become less frequent but are so much richer.