IvanKaramazov
Footballguy
Agreed all around. I completely understand that proselytizing is what we're supposed to do. But one thing that has made a big impression on me over the years -- in this thread, but also in many, many others -- is how many people seem to have had a negative experience with the church or with a particular believer, and how much that turns them off to Christianity. People anchor their entire system of unbelief to those experiences. And it's not just one or two people. This is a common experience, based on my reading of internet posts from strangers.It wasn't specifically for prodigal sons; a better word choice would be "bring a friend who needs Jesus" kind of service (actually, it was a play, now that I recall). But it was definitely awkward.
Thanks. And as @IvanKaramazov said, different churches have different styles with a more intentional "call to action" to use a business word where they will more actively try to bring people in.
That style is often mocked or frowned upon as you experienced but it's also biblical as one of Jesus most important teachings, often referred to as "The Great Commission" is to go out and make disciples of the faith.
Matthew 28:16-20 New Living Translation
16 Then the eleven disciples left for Galilee, going to the mountain where Jesus had told them to go. 17 When they saw him, they worshiped him—but some of them doubted!
18 Jesus came and told his disciples, “I have been given all authority in heaven and on earth. 19 Therefore, go and make disciples of all the nations,[a] baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. 20 Teach these new disciples to obey all the commands I have given you. And be sure of this: I am with you always, even to the end of the age.”
It's what Penn Jillette was talking about in the video above about how he respected the guy proselytizing to him.
It's costly though. It's a lot easier to be chill and never call people to action. People who follow Jesus' teaching there are often labeled "Bible Thumpers" or mocked for following the command. It's life.
In real life, I do actually try to win people over, but it is so subtle and light-handed that I'm not sure that it even counts as ministry. As you can imagine, I work around a lot of atheists/agnostics. The people in my circle who go to church are people who report to me or my peers. There are only two people in my peer group of 30 or so who I know for sure are church-goers, and I am one of those two. There are probably several who I don't know about, to be fair, but going to church on Sunday is not normal behavior for people like me. When people ask about my weekend, just saying something as simple as "Well, my wife and I went for a nice walk after church on Sunday, and then I pretty much just watched football the rest of the day" is kind of rebellious in a low-key way, because I'm sneaking in the "church" part. I'm making an intentional effort to make other people comfortable with Christianity and to re-normalize it in a place where it's gone barren. The @Paddington approach absolutely will not work in this setting, no offense to our OP. This feels cowardly TBH, but it's the best that I know how to do.
I never argue about religion IRL the way I do here. That's 100% counterproductive and I know that. And I'm also just not wired that way, for better or for worse.