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It really IS a biggie. MAKE IT a biggie. Take Raiderfan's advice and run with it. Otherwise you prolong the uncomfortablness, your emotional pain, and your start to bouncing back.ETA: is this your house/apt, hers, or both?
I'd tell her she has 2-3 minutes to do so before my foot found a place between her buttocks.He won't do that. Do tell her she's got 2-3 weeks to find a place though.Wait. It's HIS place, she's living there with him, and she broke up with him? No.16, if this is the case, you need to throw her out now. I'm not kidding. Like, literally, don't even finish this sentence I'm writing, just throw her out NOW. Why are you still reading? I thought I told you to stop reading and thr- dude, I'm not kidding. THROW HER OUT NOW ! Stop reading this. STOP IT !! OK, if you're not going to stop reading, I'm going to stop writing.Yeah. That mindset needs to change ASAP. Don't try to make her jealous, don't CARE if she's jealous, don't KNOW if she's jealous. Sever ties. Kick her out if she doesn't move very soon.This poor kid... you can almost hear his desperate hope as you read the bolded.
It really is a biggie. If it's your place, make her stay with friends. She must have someone with a couch. If it's your place, leave. Find a couch somewhere. You need one of you to move out by the end of today. You could even be nice and say tomorrow (though that's probably too nice).
Tell her to get a storage locker and a hotel room. I'm not joking. Out.
Yep. You can't risk getting sucked in by her vortex of ineptitude. She has friends she can stay with. Make her.
He didn't catch her cheating on him. You can act a little civil and give her a few days to find a place. Although if she had any heart, she wouldn't stay there and should have lined up a place before breaking the news.Tough situation.I'd tell her she has 2-3 minutes to do so before my foot found a place between her buttocks.He won't do that. Do tell her she's got 2-3 weeks to find a place though.Wait. It's HIS place, she's living there with him, and she broke up with him? No.16, if this is the case, you need to throw her out now. I'm not kidding. Like, literally, don't even finish this sentence I'm writing, just throw her out NOW. Why are you still reading? I thought I told you to stop reading and thr- dude, I'm not kidding. THROW HER OUT NOW ! Stop reading this. STOP IT !! OK, if you're not going to stop reading, I'm going to stop writing.Yeah. That mindset needs to change ASAP. Don't try to make her jealous, don't CARE if she's jealous, don't KNOW if she's jealous. Sever ties. Kick her out if she doesn't move very soon.
Exactly right. No matter what we say, he won't believe it either, it'll be the "they don't understand my situation" mindset. Can't blame him for that, I was the exact same way in those shoes. I wouldn't have listened to you humps either.
That's why I'm being so blunt and direct. Praying some of it will sink in.
Civil? Are you kidding? I'm not saying he should physically cast her out like a bouncer at an unsavory gin joint, but WTF is up with : "Well, after 6 years, I don't want to be with you anymore, but I'm going to go ahead and keep living in your apartment." WHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT? She expects him to watch the woman he loves walk in and out the door every day like nothing's wrong? What kind of sadistic #### is that?He didn't catch her cheating on him. You can act a little civil and give her a few days to find a place. Although if she had any heart, she wouldn't stay there and should have lined up a place before breaking the news.Tough situation.I'd tell her she has 2-3 minutes to do so before my foot found a place between her buttocks.He won't do that. Do tell her she's got 2-3 weeks to find a place though.Wait. It's HIS place, she's living there with him, and she broke up with him? No.16, if this is the case, you need to throw her out now. I'm not kidding. Like, literally, don't even finish this sentence I'm writing, just throw her out NOW. Why are you still reading? I thought I told you to stop reading and thr- dude, I'm not kidding. THROW HER OUT NOW ! Stop reading this. STOP IT !! OK, if you're not going to stop reading, I'm going to stop writing.Yeah. That mindset needs to change ASAP. Don't try to make her jealous, don't CARE if she's jealous, don't KNOW if she's jealous. Sever ties. Kick her out if she doesn't move very soon.
for 4 weeks from now when she's still living with you. Be sure to let us know if you still think it's "no biggie".
When you live together, it's still a shared residence. Breakups occur because of both people. She's just the one to initiate it. It's wrong of her to stay but it wouldn't be the worst thing to do to give her a couple of days to get her #### and get out. Take the high road and he'll feel better about himself in the long run. Like I said, if she cheated all bets are off. Her stuff would've been out the door in 10 minutes.Civil? Are you kidding? I'm not saying he should physically cast her out like a bouncer at an unsavory gin joint, but WTF is up with : "Well, after 6 years, I don't want to be with you anymore, but I'm going to go ahead and keep living in your apartment." WHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT? She expects him to watch the woman he loves walk in and out the door every day like nothing's wrong? What kind of sadistic #### is that?He didn't catch her cheating on him. You can act a little civil and give her a few days to find a place. Although if she had any heart, she wouldn't stay there and should have lined up a place before breaking the news.Tough situation.I'd tell her she has 2-3 minutes to do so before my foot found a place between her buttocks.He won't do that. Do tell her she's got 2-3 weeks to find a place though.Wait. It's HIS place, she's living there with him, and she broke up with him? No.16, if this is the case, you need to throw her out now. I'm not kidding. Like, literally, don't even finish this sentence I'm writing, just throw her out NOW. Why are you still reading? I thought I told you to stop reading and thr- dude, I'm not kidding. THROW HER OUT NOW ! Stop reading this. STOP IT !! OK, if you're not going to stop reading, I'm going to stop writing.Yeah. That mindset needs to change ASAP. Don't try to make her jealous, don't CARE if she's jealous, don't KNOW if she's jealous. Sever ties. Kick her out if she doesn't move very soon.
It doesn't ease your pain, but these guys are right. Your ability to love, to think you have/had the "one" is very different in your early to mid twenties. As you get older, wiser, more secure in your job and finances, you'll have all kinds of other options along with different perspectives. Trust me, I had the greatest hottest most beautiful girl when i was in my early 20s. We were engaged to by married. She broke it off because I wasn't Mormon. At the time, I was devastated. ALL my guy friends agreed she was a 9.5 on a 10 scale. By the time I was 30, I thanked God we didn't get married. And this was well before meeting my wife. Just give it time, have some fun, you are only twenty something and carefree for a short time.
Consider yourself lucky. I had a similar situation when I was 26 and almost put a ring on it. So glad I didn't. I'd be miserable right now. Focus on yourself, live life, make money and 
women.
Agreed. I'd give her until the end of the weekend at best. She shouldn't get to live rent free in your pad while she finds the ideal landing place. It's not your job to make this smooth for her. Her decision to end the relationship was real and she has to go.
This is spot on.
Although he may be feeling it right now, this isn't the end of the world. It's a sad situation but not an angry one. Better to look back on this in the future and be proud that you handled it like an adult not a child. It would be too easy to just say "#### that #####" Forget about her, it's not about her anymore. It about you. Move on with a little personal pride and dignity.It's been said, but she should have found a place before she dropped the news. Her problem, not yours.
You poor, dumb, naive *******. Why did she not have a place lined up before she dumped you? Are you going to give me some bull#### about it just happening? Because that's wrong - she's thought about this for awhile. Does she have any friends? Will they refuse to let her use a couch? Can she afford a hotel?You said you want to try a hail mary. Guess what? You letting her stomp all over your manhood like this (yes, letting her stay with you is a pansy move) hurts your chances of a lasting reconciliation. I've gotten together with a chick after I split with her. She was out very quickly. I let her keep her stuff in my garage for a couple weeks but after that I sent her a text saying to have her stuff out by the end of the weekend or I'd toss it all.I also broke up with someone while living with them. Things ended horribly. If I ever see her again I'll be hard pressed not to punch her in her ovaries. If you want any chance at a hail mary working you absolutely MUST get her into a new place. Immediately. It's not your job to figure out where. If you want to regain your emotional sanity she must move out. Immediately. The only possible reason she should still be living there is if you're a pathetic excuse for a man missing his spine and ####. I know you're going to give us some excuses about it being different and not wanting her to live on the street but she wouldn't. She'd find a friend. Go ahead and continue to ignore us but we're not wrong. She needs to move out IMMEDIATELY.
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It's so cliche but sometime soon down the road you'll look back at this and sigh with relief. "Saw things so much clearer, once you were in my rearview mirror"
Good luck with that. Have you two had the post-breakup hookup yet?ETA at Evilgrin's Ahnuld shtick. You're killing it in here guy.
#### the high road.
Good for you, man. If you're in the Bay Area, you'll be able to score new poontang in no time. It was harder to get a cab to the Harris Restaurant than it was to get laid on the business trips I took out there. Of course, I'm also spectacularly handsome and charming with a huge penis. And if that doesn't work out, I hear the gay scene out there isn't lacking. You'll be a rotisserie chicken in no time.
1) I'd say were both pretty much similar when we met and now. I dont have as much muscle, put on about 5-10 pounds but she went fr being 103 to her present weight of 113. She's beautiful but I'm a confident guy so I wouldn't say I outkickrd my coverage if that's what you're asking.2) We both are registered nurses so I guess we went through applying to nursing school, getting through nursing school, passing the boards, and then looking and finally finding jobs the past 6 years. So i guess that's what helped bond us together.
She's quite the puppet master.
It'll work. Unless she has a preternatural tolerance level for unrelenting low-grade Schwarzenegger impressions, but that, my friend, is what the cattle prod is for. "Be prepared", I learned that in Boy Scouts.'Raiderfan32904 said:
Bay Area. So if you have contacts out there will be accepting and thankful.
So, a doctor found her attractive and now she's trading up. He's probably married, and that's why she still lives with you.
That's when she broke the news.
Yes. It should be so ubiquitous that every time she thinks about his schvantz, all she can picture is the back of someone else's head. Preferably something distinctive that really burns into the memory like a girl with super bright pink hair or a guy with a pronounced bald spot.
to each his own
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