"If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yo (2 Viewers)

[Monsieur Meursault]

2) We both are registered nurses so I guess we went through applying to nursing school, getting through nursing school, passing the boards, and then looking and finally finding jobs the past 6 years. So i guess that's what helped bond us together.

So she has met some interesting Dr. type at her new job, no? Or at the very least, someone with some power/authority?

 

[Keerock]

2) We both are registered nurses so I guess we went through applying to nursing school, getting through nursing school, passing the boards, and then looking and finally finding jobs the past 6 years. So i guess that's what helped bond us together.

"Nice shot, nurse!":####er:

 

[Evilgrin 72]

2) We both are registered nurses so I guess we went through applying to nursing school, getting through nursing school, passing the boards, and then looking and finally finding jobs the past 6 years. So i guess that's what helped bond us together.

"Nice shot, nurse!":####er:

He'd say his portfolio is strong......to quite strong.

 

[Kev4029]

Thanks a ton guys. The support had helped a lot to change my mindset.

Funny actually came home later then her (she had work) and I could already tell she was a bit jealous when she found out who I was hanging out with.Still don't feel totally happy, but I was able to enjoy myself last night.

Wait, you guys are still living together?

This poor kid... you can almost hear his desperate hope as you read the bolded.

Yeah. That mindset needs to change ASAP. Don't try to make her jealous, don't CARE if she's jealous, don't KNOW if she's jealous. Sever ties. Kick her out if she doesn't move very soon.

and post nudies over at :e:

Pretty sure this is the best advice yet.

 

[Christo]

You dumb, lucky, *******.

 

[The Hank]

Amazing to see your progression from title of thread/1st post to now #16.

Good show

 

[Quint]

and when she finally does move out, be sure to have something else to do that day. don't get suckered into humping all her stuff to her new place. she can pay the movers herself.

 

[cstu]

2) We both are registered nurses so I guess we went through applying to nursing school, getting through nursing school, passing the boards, and then looking and finally finding jobs the past 6 years. So i guess that's what helped bond us together.

"Nice shot, nurse!":####er:

He'd say his portfolio is strong......to quite strong.

Lots of money to be made in biotech stocks.

 

[optionmaven]

Some quick answers. No Hail Mary plans in place.

Tell me I can talk you out of this. There is still 14 seconds left int the 2nd quarter. You are only down 3 inches to the other guys pennnis. We can do this. How bad do you want it/her/him?

 

[DA RAIDERS]

Nothing will make the hurt go away. It's done. Over. You 2 were too young. She needs/wants to get piped out by a bunch of dudes. You should do the same(but with girls )

What you need is a slump buster.

Sux0rs, but it's just life.

 

[The Hank]

Some quick answers. No Hail Mary plans in place.

Tell me I can talk you out of this. There is still 14 seconds left int the 2nd quarter. You are only down 3 inches to the other guys pennnis. We can do this. How bad do you want it/her/him?

I think he's taking a knee, going to let the clock run out, and go into halftime down 3 (in.)

 

[Angry Beavers]

Been there once upon a time. All kinds of good advice in here. Tell her she needs to take the next couple days off to find a place and if not, oh well, her stuff goes out on the tree lawn and she can figure it out from there. Short of putting her stuff on the sidewalk, I would not be packing or moving her stuff. Tell her you are no longer comfortable with her being there and that there are going to be some changes, like you bringing strange home, so she really needs to go.

 

[Apple Jack]

Move on. If you end up back together it's not going to be a result of you trying to get her back. Drink, make yourself go do things, drink, exercise, drink, and #### indiscriminately.

 

[John Bender]

Go be 20.

Drink a lot and get some strange. Stop being a sad sack.

 

[zed2283]

Lots of good advice in here. We've all been there, kid. I only have one thing to add.

Take a trip to South America.

 

[PrinceofDarkness]

I'd hate to have to write down the number of times I tried the Hail Mary to save a relationship. It NEVER works, ever.Here's what I would say to her:"You're doing the right thing - life's too short to be unhappy". Be very matter-of-fact - not snide OR weepy. Wish her the best and get her the hell out of your place. You don't have to be mean, but she needs to understand that her staying there doesn't help either of you move on.

This might be the best piece of advice in the whole thread. It is a practical guide to moving her out and you moving on.

 

[LongDuckDong]

Only other piece of advice I'd give you is don't beat yourself up too much when you don't take your own advice. Love has caused the best of us to do ridiculous, crazy things that we'd never, ever do if our minds were sane.

I have no other good advice in this matter. We all put it on a pedastal, and we all think our situations are unique and at the end of the day, the only guarantee you have is that at some point someone new will come around and she'll vanish for the most part from your mind. When that happens is 50% fate and 50% you making yourself emotionally available to receive it.

 

[No. 16]

Really appreciate all the help guys.

Not much to update now.

I just have this weekend to get through. We're going to a mutual friends wedding together on Saturday. We don't want to pull attention away from the wedding since a lot of our friends will be there and have no idea, plus don't want to deal with all those questions.

It's crazy right now how at peace I feel. Don't have any resentment towards her and wish her the best. Though let's see how that changes. Hanging out with my friends last night and all the advice in hear have really helped.

FFA never fails.

 

[ArcticEdge]

Last ditch effort? Eh, you may get some post-break-up sex down the line, but it's true she won't ever want to come back until you are actually over her - and there's the rub. Just don't do any of the following (or if you do, please share it here):- post up pictures of you guys around the apartment- write her a poem based off a crappy Rock Ballad- send her parents a letter- drunk dial her and start crying- throw up moments before the first time you're about to have sex with a different girl- purposely post about new escapades on an internet forum for pretty much the sole purpose you know she checks it and you want to make her jealous- live together broken up for more than a few days- remain on a cell phone plan with herYWIA

Oh my GB..

 

[Evilgrin 72]

Really appreciate all the help guys.Not much to update now. I just have this weekend to get through. We're going to a mutual friends wedding together on Saturday. We don't want to pull attention away from the wedding since a lot of our friends will be there and have no idea, plus don't want to deal with all those questions.It's crazy right now how at peace I feel. Don't have any resentment towards her and wish her the best. Though let's see how that changes. Hanging out with my friends last night and all the advice in hear have really helped.FFA never fails.

I know I've been goofing around a lot in the thread, but I really hope you stay that way. I know how much it sucks, man.Now seriously, after the weekend, throw her out. You have to. It's the only way you're ever going to move on. It took me moving 2,000 miles away from the "one that got away" before I had any chance of forgetting about her. Being 20 steps away is emotional suicide.

 

[jamny]

Really appreciate all the help guys.Not much to update now. I just have this weekend to get through. We're going to a mutual friends wedding together on Saturday. We don't want to pull attention away from the wedding since a lot of our friends will be there and have no idea, plus don't want to deal with all those questions.It's crazy right now how at peace I feel. Don't have any resentment towards her and wish her the best. Though let's see how that changes. Hanging out with my friends last night and all the advice in hear have really helped.FFA never fails.

Ugh. Having to go to a friends wedding now. Brutal.

 

[Quint]

Really appreciate all the help guys.

Not much to update now.

I just have this weekend to get through. We're going to a mutual friends wedding together on Saturday. We don't want to pull attention away from the wedding since a lot of our friends will be there and have no idea, plus don't want to deal with all those questions.

It's crazy right now how at peace I feel. Don't have any resentment towards her and wish her the best. Though let's see how that changes. Hanging out with my friends last night and all the advice in hear have really helped.

FFA never fails.

while i firmly believe alcohol is the cause, and solution, to most of life's problems, this is one night where i'd abstain. reasoning: even though you just broke up, it's still a wedding and emotions will be running high (probably for both of you). even with the best intentions, a few drinks will likely exacerbate any lingering thoughts about getting back with her.

on the other hand, if you're looking for one last roll in the sheets before she bounces, keep her champagne glass full the whole time and that should be a lock.

good luck either way.

 

[ArcticEdge]

16, I hate to be a real downer, but I agree with some on here that she is seeing somebody else. I'd bet a lot of money on it. I wouldnt confront her, as there is no point, but SHE'S GOTTA GO!

She can go stay with a friend. She should of thought of her living situation before she dropped this on you.

 

[ArcticEdge]

Really appreciate all the help guys.Not much to update now. I just have this weekend to get through. We're going to a mutual friends wedding together on Saturday. We don't want to pull attention away from the wedding since a lot of our friends will be there and have no idea, plus don't want to deal with all those questions.It's crazy right now how at peace I feel. Don't have any resentment towards her and wish her the best. Though let's see how that changes. Hanging out with my friends last night and all the advice in hear have really helped.FFA never fails.

How are you both getting to this wedding?

 

[Apple Jack]

Last ditch effort? Eh, you may get some post-break-up sex down the line, but it's true she won't ever want to come back until you are actually over her - and there's the rub.

Just don't do any of the following (or if you do, please share it here):

- post up pictures of you guys around the apartment

- write her a poem based off a crappy Rock Ballad

- send her parents a letter

- drunk dial her and start crying

- throw up moments before the first time you're about to have sex with a different girl

- purposely post about new escapades on an internet forum for pretty much the sole purpose you know she checks it and you want to make her jealous

- live together broken up for more than a few days

- remain on a cell phone plan with her

YWIA

Oh my GB..

Yikes. I have, however, in a pretty obnoxious mood gone into detail about how much sex, better sex, I was having. The horse had left the barn at that point and we had developed a bit of a competitive relationship, built on comedy. She always struggled with me keeping my bartender shift because I get approached pretty frequently. She was always insecure. So I just took that to the nth degree. We're actually still friends and still have sex occasionally. That guy she's with sure is lucky.

 

[Zegras11]

16, I hate to be a real downer, but I agree with some on here that she is seeing somebody else. I'd bet a lot of money on it. I wouldnt confront her, as there is no point, but SHE'S GOTTA GO! She can go stay with a friend. She should of thought of her living situation before she dropped this on you.

 

[ArcticEdge]

16, I hate to be a real downer, but I agree with some on here that she is seeing somebody else. I'd bet a lot of money on it. I wouldnt confront her, as there is no point, but SHE'S GOTTA GO! She can go stay with a friend. She should of thought of her living situation before she dropped this on you.

I must have missed it, but I have not seen the poor kid acknowledge that she is seeing another..

 

[Zow]

Really appreciate all the help guys.

Not much to update now.

I just have this weekend to get through. We're going to a mutual friends wedding together on Saturday. We don't want to pull attention away from the wedding since a lot of our friends will be there and have no idea, plus don't want to deal with all those questions.

It's crazy right now how at peace I feel. Don't have any resentment towards her and wish her the best. Though let's see how that changes. Hanging out with my friends last night and all the advice in hear have really helped.

FFA never fails.

That sounds awful.

 

[Zegras11]

16, I hate to be a real downer, but I agree with some on here that she is seeing somebody else. I'd bet a lot of money on it. I wouldnt confront her, as there is no point, but SHE'S GOTTA GO! She can go stay with a friend. She should of thought of her living situation before she dropped this on you.

I must have missed it, but I have not seen the poor kid acknowledge that she is seeing another..

He'll know for sure soon enough...

 

[Steed]

You should bail on the wedding. Send your friends a card with $ to cover your plate. Call them and let them know why, no need to carry on with the charade.

 

[thayman]

Really appreciate all the help guys.Not much to update now. I just have this weekend to get through. We're going to a mutual friends wedding together on Saturday. We don't want to pull attention away from the wedding since a lot of our friends will be there and have no idea, plus don't want to deal with all those questions.It's crazy right now how at peace I feel. Don't have any resentment towards her and wish her the best. Though let's see how that changes. Hanging out with my friends last night and all the advice in hear have really helped.FFA never fails.

Bring a chick home from the wedding to have very loud secks with. Report back.

 

[Zow]

Go be 20.

Drink a lot and get some strange. Stop being a sad sack.

Eh, it's the end of a six year relationship, not his choice, and he really didn't seriously mess up in any way. I don't care who you are, that's going to sting a bit and there's going to be some length of crapp time.

 

[The Hank]

Really appreciate all the help guys.

Not much to update now.

I just have this weekend to get through. We're going to a mutual friends wedding together on Saturday. We don't want to pull attention away from the wedding since a lot of our friends will be there and have no idea, plus don't want to deal with all those questions.

It's crazy right now how at peace I feel. Don't have any resentment towards her and wish her the best. Though let's see how that changes. Hanging out with my friends last night and all the advice in hear have really helped.

FFA never fails.

That sounds awful.

Awkward city... I would stay for dinner then GTH out of there.

 

[ArcticEdge]

16, I hate to be a real downer, but I agree with some on here that she is seeing somebody else. I'd bet a lot of money on it. I wouldnt confront her, as there is no point, but SHE'S GOTTA GO! She can go stay with a friend. She should of thought of her living situation before she dropped this on you.

I must have missed it, but I have not seen the poor kid acknowledge that she is seeing another..

He'll know for sure soon enough...

He seems like he is in denial about it though. If she is banging another guy(which she is), that's pretty good closure.

 

[humpback]

Really appreciate all the help guys.Not much to update now. I just have this weekend to get through. We're going to a mutual friends wedding together on Saturday. We don't want to pull attention away from the wedding since a lot of our friends will be there and have no idea, plus don't want to deal with all those questions.It's crazy right now how at peace I feel. Don't have any resentment towards her and wish her the best. Though let's see how that changes. Hanging out with my friends last night and all the advice in hear have really helped.FFA never fails.

Bang a bridesmaid.

 

[Zegras11]

16, I hate to be a real downer, but I agree with some on here that she is seeing somebody else. I'd bet a lot of money on it. I wouldnt confront her, as there is no point, but SHE'S GOTTA GO! She can go stay with a friend. She should of thought of her living situation before she dropped this on you.

I must have missed it, but I have not seen the poor kid acknowledge that she is seeing another..

He'll know for sure soon enough...

He seems like he is in denial about it though. If she is banging another guy(which she is), that's pretty good closure.

Maybe to start the thread, but not now....

 

[Zegras11]

You should bail on the wedding. Send your friends a card with $ to cover your plate. Call them and let them know why, no need to carry on with the charade.

This isn't a bad idea... call in sick and explain later... then go party with friends.It could get really weird if one/both of you get drunk and something slips out from one/both of you.Or it could be Hangover I hilarious. Report back.

 

[ArcticEdge]

16, I hate to be a real downer, but I agree with some on here that she is seeing somebody else. I'd bet a lot of money on it. I wouldnt confront her, as there is no point, but SHE'S GOTTA GO! She can go stay with a friend. She should of thought of her living situation before she dropped this on you.

I must have missed it, but I have not seen the poor kid acknowledge that she is seeing another..

He'll know for sure soon enough...

He seems like he is in denial about it though. If she is banging another guy(which she is), that's pretty good closure.

Maybe to start the thread, but not now....

He started the thead yesterday..

 

[Zow]

A couple of thoughts/questions:

1) You say that you need to get in shape. How would you rate yourself and her when you first got together and how would you rate yourself now? Were you equals to begin with, but now she is higher up the scale?

2) What has changed in the last year? It looks like you both got jobs. Were you both looking for work prior to that and you had an "us against the world" approach? Were you helping her through tough times? Women like to lean on guys until they no longer have a need for them. Once she found a job, met new people (and new guys), you pretty much weren't needed.

As mentioned, women don't break things off until they know they have some prospects. She may not be banging another guy, but she has at least one fella that she knows she already has on the hook. If she comes back to you, it's b/c that guy didn't want her. Do you really want to be her backup plan?

1) I'd say were both pretty much similar when we met and now. I dont have as much muscle, put on about 5-10 pounds but she went fr being 103 to her present weight of 113. She's beautiful but I'm a confident guy so I wouldn't say I outkickrd my coverage if that's what you're asking.2) We both are registered nurses so I guess we went through applying to nursing school, getting through nursing school, passing the boards, and then looking and finally finding jobs the past 6 years. So i guess that's what helped bond us together.

You gotta stop calling her this.

 

[Carver]

16, I hate to be a real downer, but I agree with some on here that she is seeing somebody else. I'd bet a lot of money on it. I wouldnt confront her, as there is no point, but SHE'S GOTTA GO! She can go stay with a friend. She should of thought of her living situation before she dropped this on you.

I must have missed it, but I have not seen the poor kid acknowledge that she is seeing another..

He'll know for sure soon enough...

Were just trying to make sure it isnt via walking in on Dr. Dreamboat plowing her on his sofa. Because as bad as it is NOW, the image of Doc giving him the old' shooter Mcgavin double pistols gesture (butt naked and balls deep) would be MUCH, MUCH worse.

 

[Zegras11]

16, I hate to be a real downer, but I agree with some on here that she is seeing somebody else. I'd bet a lot of money on it. I wouldnt confront her, as there is no point, but SHE'S GOTTA GO! She can go stay with a friend. She should of thought of her living situation before she dropped this on you.

I must have missed it, but I have not seen the poor kid acknowledge that she is seeing another..

He'll know for sure soon enough...

He seems like he is in denial about it though. If she is banging another guy(which she is), that's pretty good closure.

Maybe to start the thread, but not now....

He started the thead yesterday..

But he said, "FFA never fails"

 

[DA RAIDERS]

Don't go to the wedding.

Or just go to the ceremony. Don't go to the reception.

Whotf cares what people think, they're all gonna know soon anyway. And unless this is YOUR best friend getting married, they couldn't care less if you are there or not.

 

[Quint]

Don't go to the wedding. Or just go to the ceremony. Don't go to the reception. Whotf cares what people think, they're all gonna know soon anyway. And unless this is YOUR best friend getting married, they couldn't care less if you are there or not.

sage advice.

 

[Wrigley]

Don't go to the wedding. Or just go to the ceremony. Don't go to the reception. Whotf cares what people think, they're all gonna know soon anyway. And unless this is YOUR best friend getting married, they couldn't care less if you are there or not.

in fact, you should bring a date

 

[jamny]

Yeah, I gotta go along with the call to not go to the wedding. Unless you're in the wedding party, make an excuse, send the cash and stay home. It probably won't overshadow anything if you keep the situation quiet until after it.

 

[Zow]

Dude, don't go to the wedding. You realize up until at least after dinner a wedding is 99% talking about how awesome love is? And you'd have to sit there next to a girl you loved for 6 years who just broke up with you? And pretend you're still together? I can't imagine a worse scenario. May as well go watch her be with another dude.

(Seriously, if I woulda had to do this when I was in your shoes I would have wound up in a corner having a meltdown and looked like an idiot in front of real people instead of just posting about it on the FFA)

 

[Bob Sacamano]

Tell her that now that you're a single guy, your "new things" are porking hookers in the living room and zapping your room-mate with a cattle prod every 20 minutes or so. A couple of hookers and a cattle prod can't cost more than a few hundred bucks. She'll be gone by sundown.

 

[St. Louis Bob]

I also believe the phrase is "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, kill it."

 

[Bob Sacamano]

Really appreciate all the help guys.Not much to update now. I just have this weekend to get through. We're going to a mutual friends wedding together on Saturday. We don't want to pull attention away from the wedding since a lot of our friends will be there and have no idea, plus don't want to deal with all those questions.It's crazy right now how at peace I feel. Don't have any resentment towards her and wish her the best. Though let's see how that changes. Hanging out with my friends last night and all the advice in hear have really helped.FFA never fails.

I know I've been goofing around a lot in the thread, but I really hope you stay that way. I know how much it sucks, man.Now seriously, after the weekend, throw her out. You have to. It's the only way you're ever going to move on. It took me moving 2,000 miles away from the "one that got away" before I had any chance of forgetting about her. Being 20 steps away is emotional suicide.

You know they're going to hook up at the wedding, right?

 

[Bob Sacamano]

Really appreciate all the help guys.Not much to update now. I just have this weekend to get through. We're going to a mutual friends wedding together on Saturday. We don't want to pull attention away from the wedding since a lot of our friends will be there and have no idea, plus don't want to deal with all those questions.It's crazy right now how at peace I feel. Don't have any resentment towards her and wish her the best. Though let's see how that changes. Hanging out with my friends last night and all the advice in hear have really helped.FFA never fails.

Ugh. Having to go to a friends wedding now. Brutal.

After the happy couple leaves and can no longer be brought down by your news, be liberal with the breakup news. Then start on bridesmaids who don't know your ex. Once you've exhausted opportunities that make you feel like you're taking the high road, move immediately to the wimmens in attendance who have most seen your ex naked.And for god's sake, don't hook up with the ex.