No. 16
Footballguy
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"If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yo (4 Viewers)
- Thread starter No. 16
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boots11234
Footballguy
Magnification. You are Asian after all.
valhallan
Footballguy
:golfclap:
gianmarco
Footballguy
naomi
Footballguy
Aye yi yi. I'm feeling the same (despite being as old as the OP). I was hoping he was younger because I have coworkers who talk like that all day long (they're 19/20) and it drives me nuts. I've just been keeping in mind that they'll be growing out of it soon.That was my sanity preserving hope :(
Beerguzzler
Footballguy
You are playing it entirely too cool. Call her up after you read my post, setup a date. If she agrees, ask her if she minds driving. Tell her about the DUI, say it was an extremely stupid thing to do. Shouldn't be an issue if she has interest and you may as well be up front about it.I was planning on calling her next week to set something up after I returned. Is it better to call this week to set something up for next week? Seems like a lot of time, but I guess the point is to let her know I'm interested and taking initiative.With this attitude your buddy has a much better shot than you, although from your description earlier she clearly was more into you. Two weeks from now you are going to be crying us a river about how wild and crazy your buddy is telling you that this chick is. Fortunately, you have a bunch of excuses why you didn't have time for her.I guess that i read into the other guy as being a closer friend so don't worry about calling him. If it was a better buddy it never hurts to be upfront and honest. All-in-all, my point stands. You need to find a different environment if you want to start landing a worthwhile gal....You couldn't do any worse. What the heck to I know, I am just an old, married Italian dude.
No. 16
Footballguy
You guys crack me up. It's a chat. I don't intend to have in-depth and personal conversations through text messaging or chat initially. Plus, I have to somewhat mirror her language because I am older, out of school, and we met in a professional setting. I didn't want to seem so "old" initially. I'm perfectly capable of writing at a higher level. If not, I doubt this thread would last so long.
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Steve Tasker
Footballguy
I understand you don't want to come off as "old", but that was - grammatically, at least - a pretty painful read. And I'm younger than you (I think). Have some respect for the English language, dammit.
nysportsfan
Footballguy
Call her up, ask her out (alone), a good start is for appetizers and drinks, and be honest why you need her to drive. Stop talking like a young kid, she is into you, in part, because you're the opposite of what she has to deal with on a regular basis.
Go out and get after it before Hawaii. Then have fun in Hawaii, and come back and continue building on it with her or find another bus in 15 minutes.
Go out and get after it before Hawaii. Then have fun in Hawaii, and come back and continue building on it with her or find another bus in 15 minutes.
cstu
Footballguy
I'm an old guy so I don't understand your generation's fear of talking to a girl on the phone.
Gr00vus
Footballguy
No emoticons & lolspeak == inability to communicate.
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No. 16
Footballguy
Going to call her before I go to work today to set something up. My only free time before I leave for HI on Thursday is in the afternoon tomorrow (have DUI class from 2000-2200).
Should I invite her out to Happy Hour tomorrow (knowing I have to cut it short before 2000) or just call her to set something up for next week?
Should I invite her out to Happy Hour tomorrow (knowing I have to cut it short before 2000) or just call her to set something up for next week?
valhallan
Footballguy
You could go to a DUI class with alcohol in your system? Man, CA is strange.
Keerock
Footballguy
yeah... how about going out for coffee?
Buck Bradcanon
Footballguy
No. 16
Footballguy
Didn't know I was required to drink at Happy Hour?
valhallan
Footballguy
Didn't know you learned how not to. There are only 54 page of evidence to the contrary.
Samuel L Bronkowitz
Footballguy
Those 1/2 off fountain drinks with free refills are killer deals. He'd be crazy to pass that up.
No. 16
Footballguy
Yes, because it is abnormal for a 20-something to drink when they go out. I guess the other 5 days a week sober mean nothing. I messed up and drove after drinking, got a DUI, and now have to deal with all the penalties. Doing it again is out of the question.
valhallan
Footballguy
You said you were going to a Happy Hour and then a DUI class. That struck me as odd since, having been through a DUI and the required classes myself, I know they will breathalyze you (or at least they do in VA).Coffee seems like a better move anyway.
Grahamburn
Footballguy
Why not just cut through the crap?
You: Hey, want to come over tonight, get loaded, and fool around?
Her: Sure. Oddly enough that's exacly what I want to do too.
You: Hey, want to come over tonight, get loaded, and fool around?
Her: Sure. Oddly enough that's exacly what I want to do too.
Ray Karpis
Footballguy
Seriously, I've just started noticing this...driving me nuts. I have to perform a mathematic calculation and adjust for timezone differences every other post.
Ray Karpis
Footballguy
No. 16 (at happy hour): So, whazzup?
Her: So why are you drinking soda at happy hour?
No. 16: Hey, gonna have to cut this short...gotta run to my DUI class.
Yeah, this seems like a solid first "date."
Her: So why are you drinking soda at happy hour?
No. 16: Hey, gonna have to cut this short...gotta run to my DUI class.
Yeah, this seems like a solid first "date."
cstu
Footballguy
What's the point of doing anything with a chick knowing you have to go somewhere later. If is fun ####-blocking yourself?
No. 16
Footballguy
That's why I was asking. I know I need to set up a date and do it soon or she may lose interest/lose out to exroommate but with my trip and obligations I only have free time tomorrow. So you think the better option is to call and set something up for next week?
cstu
Footballguy
Yes.
valhallan
Footballguy
Yes. If you have a shot with her, a week won't change that and could probably help.
naomi
Footballguy
Wouldn't doubt that. My chats don't have much grammatical integrity either.It's the trying too hard lingo like 'whack,' 'cool peoples,' and phrases like 'always down to party' that's
Not talking like that doesn't automatically translate into 'old', it translates into you sounding like more of your own person though.
Controller
Footballguy
Yes, sometimes the anticipation is greater than the realization. (That rhetorical, not an editorial) Let the mystery and the anticipation hang while you are away; if she is interested when you get back, you'll know fairly quickly.
IvanKaramazov
Footballguy
DA RAIDERS
Footballguy
This. Get a room downtown, take her somewhere fun. Head back to hotel. Liquor her up in the hotel bar if needed.
And if you plan on seeing any of these girls more than a couple times, tell them about the DUI.
sbonomo
Footballguy
16 you kill me....pick something where it is not weird that you are not participating. For instance: Hey chick that I want to date, would you like to grab a quick lunch or go check pier xxx where they have an art display up (insert whatever the heck you think she may be interested in other than a bar) on xx day. I am leaving town for vacation and wanted to hang out before I left. While actually spending time with her outside of a club you can see if there is any interest what so ever. Come on Casanova, grow a pair.
Maude
Footballguy
I imagine you with squirrel nuts.
Rick James
Footballguy
It's been like 3 or 4 weeks since she said to facebook her, right? Am I the only one who thinks he has no shot here?
No. 16
Footballguy
It's a Tuesday. No rush to plan something for next week. Plus, I need today to figure out where to take this girl.
nysportsfan
Footballguy
Step one: contact. checkstep two: contact out at night. checkstep three: arrange contact alone at bar. step four: make out after (at the minimum) meeting at bar for apps and drinksstep five: ask her to come over for a movie and hang outstep six: use pump/pills to add length and girth to seal dealsome guys might need an additional step between four and five, but that is how it should work.
No. 16
Footballguy
Called her on my way to class around 1930. Here's our convo from memory.
Her: Hey #16. What's up?
#16: Not much just get ready for my trip. How are you?
Her: Good.
#16: I'm going to be in Hawaii this weekend, but I wanted to see if you want to meet for drinks next Thursday.
Her: Where?
#16: [speakeasy type bar]. Have you been there before?
Her: Yah. They don't let large groups in and they try to keep everyone quiet. It's more of a date place.
#16: [caught off guard] Ah. One of the trainers at the gym I go works there as a bartender and he said I should check it out. So it's not crackin'?
Her: No, not really.
#16: Oh ok.
Her: If you do something else just let me know.
#16: Ok. Talk to you later.
So yah. Looks like I overplayed my lack of interest, I wasn't direct enough that I wanted to take her on a date, or she's plays games. Who knows.
I'll send her a text next time I'm in the area, but on to the next one.
ETA: Any type of play here with her?
Her: Hey #16. What's up?
#16: Not much just get ready for my trip. How are you?
Her: Good.
#16: I'm going to be in Hawaii this weekend, but I wanted to see if you want to meet for drinks next Thursday.
Her: Where?
#16: [speakeasy type bar]. Have you been there before?
Her: Yah. They don't let large groups in and they try to keep everyone quiet. It's more of a date place.
#16: [caught off guard] Ah. One of the trainers at the gym I go works there as a bartender and he said I should check it out. So it's not crackin'?
Her: No, not really.
#16: Oh ok.
Her: If you do something else just let me know.
#16: Ok. Talk to you later.
So yah. Looks like I overplayed my lack of interest, I wasn't direct enough that I wanted to take her on a date, or she's plays games. Who knows.
I'll send her a text next time I'm in the area, but on to the next one.
ETA: Any type of play here with her?
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cstu
Footballguy
First, good job calling her. It's much easier to read a person on the phone than through a text. That phone cleared up where you stand with her.
You're got to start building attraction with a chick and let her know that you like her. That doesn't mean being clingy but if you don't let her know right away that you have 'romantic' intentions with her she's going to put you in the friend category, like this one did.
Time to move on, have fun in HI.
You're got to start building attraction with a chick and let her know that you like her. That doesn't mean being clingy but if you don't let her know right away that you have 'romantic' intentions with her she's going to put you in the friend category, like this one did.
Time to move on, have fun in HI.
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No. 16
Footballguy
Understood, but weren't the signs there prior that she had interest? She's been pretty aggressive (Post-It Note, calling me to find out the plan, inviting me to meet at another bar, taking me away to dance with me, texting me after she left) and I did my best to be "alpha". Maybe I blew it by ditching her for my lady friend, but just want to make sure I'm at least reading her signals right. She seemed so aggressive, I thought this was a lock. I guess she's just friendly. Oh well.
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Beerguzzler
Footballguy
You had a shot, but blew it at the bar IMO. I also think you blew it inviting her out for drinks. If you already have a repoire with a woman you need more one on one time. You still potentially have a shot in Vegas because well it's Vegas. Definitely need to be more aggressive IMO if she does the same thing she did at the Bar with you earlier (don't ditch her this time).
simmonjm
Footballguy
I dont like the idea of making plans so far in advance, I think that might have turned her off (assuming you meant Thursday May 11th).
You generally played this whole chick wrong, but you not being able to counter her when she said the bold part doomed you.You could've played it off as if one or two friends will join you (surely I don't need to tell you what to do so that you eventually are alone w/ her?) at this place. You let her know some particular interesting detail about this stupid bar and you insist on checking this place out.... with her and your friends. Anything to get her out and potentially alone w/ her.
Stick to the text game, you aren't fast enough on your feet for the phone game at this point.
Rick James
Footballguy
I think it's telling that she hasn't been around you without a large group of friends.
Evilgrin 72
Distributor of Pain
No.16, I want to see two of the following three words in your next text correspondence with her. You choose which two.excoriateWouldn't doubt that. My chats don't have much grammatical integrity either.It's the trying too hard lingo like 'whack,' 'cool peoples,' and phrases like 'always down to party' that's
Not talking like that doesn't automatically translate into 'old', it translates into you sounding like more of your own person though.
solipsism(tic)
portend
Please post results. You'll thank me later.
Evilgrin 72
Distributor of Pain
How long does it take you to finish?
