Is this strange or not? Ep. 1 - co-sleeping (1 Viewer)

[AAABatteries]

Thought it was weird until I discovered how common it is in other parts of the world with pretty good outcomes. 

This is what I came in here to say.  Not that I'm surprised we are US/1st World centric but often many people can't afford for their kids to sleep anywhere but with them.

Having said that - I kept my four varmints as far away as possible so I could sleep.

Like with a lot of things in life - there is no right or wrong answer.  Except what gian said about smothering your kid by sleeping with them.  Hopefully anybody doing it takes precautions.

 

[ffweasel]

I thought everybody put the crib in their room during this phase. 

Our little man slept in a pack-n-play right next to our bed for maybe 2-3 months, then went to his crib in his own room. Been there ever since and has never even napped in our bed. He has always slept a minimum of 10 hours a night too. Being a first time parent I’d go into his room and listen to make sure he was breathing quite often. SIDS stories scared the heck out me. 

 

[Zow]

Our little man slept in a pack-n-play right next to our bed for maybe 2-3 months, then went to his crib in his own room. Been there ever since and has never even napped in our bed. He has always slept a minimum of 10 hours a night too. Being a first time parent I’d go into his room and listen to make sure he was breathing quite often. SIDS stories scared the heck out me. 

Greatest baby ever. 

 

[Dezbelief]

Being a first time parent I’d go into his room and listen to make sure he was breathing quite often.

I did this with our first child. My wife works nights so I got almost all of the nighttime duty. I was amazed someone so tiny would make it through the night all on their own. At first I was getting up and checking on her everytime I rolled over. By the time the second child came along I was confident I would be woken by crying if anything was amiss. 

 

[RJS113]

I’m a single dad, have my 5 year old son 50% of the time. About a year ago, my son started asking to sleep in my bed, and I let him most of the time.
 

That lasted about 2 or 3 months.  Mainly because I ended up having to wash the sheets like every other day. I wasn’t going to sleep with some chick one night, and then have him sleep on the same sheets the next night. Plus he wet the bed a couple times, so I had to put an end to it. 

 

[ffweasel]

Greatest baby ever. 

We had many people tell us we got super lucky with his sleeping. The first almost 2 weeks after his birth we lived in a hotel room with him (adopted and unable to leave that State) and it was the total opposite. It was rough going.. heh 

 

[AAABatteries]

Hopefully this turns out to be true and they can prevent these deaths going forward

Researchers Pinpoint Reason Infants Die From SIDS

@gianmarco - have you heard about this?

 

[jobarules]

Hopefully this turns out to be true and they can prevent these deaths going forward

Researchers Pinpoint Reason Infants Die From SIDS

@gianmarco - have you heard about this?

I belong to an Infant Death Facebook support group. There are so many mothers who lost their babies to SIDS. I cant imagine how they would feel about this news. The combo of grief/guilt must be debilitating for them and I hope this offers them some slight relief of guilt.

 

[Sand]

Only as babies.  The first child was doing great in his own bed until he could climb out, then refused to stay in there and wore us down by climbing out and coming in for hours on end.  He thought it was great fun, we didn't.  Luckily he outgrew it.  Second one pretty much slept on his own most of the time.  I was always afraid of rolling over them, but they're alive, so I guess it all turned out.

Hopefully this turns out to be true and they can prevent these deaths going forward

Researchers Pinpoint Reason Infants Die From SIDS

Wow - that is a reason I never would have thought of.  Hopefully they can figure something out to prevent it now.

 

[mr. furley]

Hopefully this turns out to be true and they can prevent these deaths going forward

Researchers Pinpoint Reason Infants Die From SIDS

@gianmarco - have you heard about this?

hot damn. it seems so obvious when reading it in print. 

hopefully they can sort out a test and solution for it :(   

growing up, the mother of one of my friend's lost two kids this way and the rumor among parents was that the dad (a bottom tier alcoholic) had something to do with it. that plagued the entire family and the dad eventually ended up killing himself. all the way through HS at least i can remember people saying he did it because he couldn't live with what he'd done. 

but, maybe, just maybe he couldn't live with the grief anymore :(  

in the intervening years one of the family's older sons lost a child to SIDS as well and he wound up drinking himself to death.

 

[Dezbelief]

hot damn. it seems so obvious when reading it in print. 

hopefully they can sort out a test and solution for it :(   

growing up, the mother of one of my friend's lost two kids this way and the rumor among parents was that the dad (a bottom tier alcoholic) had something to do with it. that plagued the entire family and the dad eventually ended up killing himself. all the way through HS at least i can remember people saying he did it because he couldn't live with what he'd done. 

but, maybe, just maybe he couldn't live with the grief anymore :(  

in the intervening years one of the family's older sons lost a child to SIDS as well and he wound up drinking himself to death.

I know(knew) a guy who felt guilty for putting an extra blanket on his infant on a cold night. The autopsy listed SIDS as COD, but that didn't stop the cops from hounding him. The couple divorced not long afterwards. A few years later he disappeared on an out of state trip to see his ex. His parents died not knowing what happened to him.

 

[nirad3]

My sister, who's a single mom with shared custody, still co-sleeps with my nephew.  He's 8 and while I don't necessarily think it's "weird", I can definitely tell it's caused my nephew to have serious attachment issues.  And to be honest, I don't know where he sleeps when he's with his dad... because he's already re-married and I would assume he doesn't sleep with his dad and step-mom.

When I'm not out of town, I tend to put my 9-year old boy to bed.  Many times I pass out in his bed for 15-20 minutes  

And there are maybe 1-2 nights every 3-4 months where he wakes up in the middle of the night and gets in bed with me.  I'm usually just too tired to deal with it so I just let him ride out the rest of the night with me.