League member was killed today in a car accident (1 Viewer)

[MindCrime]

Had this happen to a league last year. Had known him in other leagues, but the year prior, he came up with the idea to hold an IDP only dynasty league. "Sharkey" was a FF idp writer for another big site, great guy all around. It wasn't a money league that we could donate to his wife and kids, but we wanted to honor him anyway. We found a suitable replacement who took over his team, since renamed "the team that sharkey built" Also renamed the league "Sharkey's Machine" after him. It's not money to his family, but it keeps him in our thoughts every time we log in.

It's a tough time for all. Do what u can financially for his family, but most of all, keep his name synonymous with one of the things he loved doing...playing in that league.

 

[Carolina Hustler]

I assume that since you know the details of his accident/how he died, you would also be able to get in touch with his family. Find a new owner who will pay in to take over the team, give them a discount $100-200 if needed, and send the rest of his money to his family.

Flowers for his own funeral shouldn't be bought with his own money.. If you buy flowers, should buy them with your own money.

Only if you have no way of getting the money back to his family should you spend the money otherwise. I'd be inclined to leave the money in the pot and have the league run his team or replace him with a paying owner and either buy a trophy with, donate, or throw a league party with the money. The winner this season shouldn't get extra money, that's not fair to winners from other seasons.

If in any way, extra money is generated, it should go to his family, if the family can't be reached, it should either be donated in his name, or spent on something that benefits the whole league equally.

 

[NYCelt]

Our league is made up of close high school friends one of which we lost on 9/11. We decided to play out the season that year with his brother taking control of the team. Donated the pot that year to a lacrosse scholarship in his name and also got a huge trophy with his name engraved. Before the draft every year we have a moment of silence and toast.

 

[Football Critic]

So sorry for the loss.

I'm sure with the funeral costs, they could use the money...that should not even be a debate. Get a buddy to run his team, yes for free, and refund the money and make winners portion less. Its not really that hard. Do the right thing. If the buddy wins with his team, let him keep half of the remaining money, and the other half to charity in the decease name.

Some comments in this thread are rude, and what goes around comes around. Regardless how someone types in a forum, acts when they are owning a fantasy team, or smack talks when they own a fantasy team. These families that so many use as an excuse of why they cant manage a team to the best of their ability, are without a piece of their life.

Any smart ### remarks about this in any way is pathetic, and if your a low life to even cross that bridge, I would love to be there when your time comes.

 

[Football Critic]

Had this happen to a league last year. Had known him in other leagues, but the year prior, he came up with the idea to hold an IDP only dynasty league. "Sharkey" was a FF idp writer for another big site, great guy all around. It wasn't a money league that we could donate to his wife and kids, but we wanted to honor him anyway. We found a suitable replacement who took over his team, since renamed "the team that sharkey built" Also renamed the league "Sharkey's Machine" after him. It's not money to his family, but it keeps him in our thoughts every time we log in. It's a tough time for all. Do what u can financially for his family, but most of all, keep his name synonymous with one of the things he loved doing...playing in that league.

Great way to honor a league member, friend or not.

 

[Horses Mouth]

If you're looking for a legit guy to take over the team for the season and are willing to agree to the following, I'd be more than happy to do it. When I win the championship:1. No payment to me personally will be necessary, only a check payable of $500(deceased entry fee) to my preferred charity. 2. I pay nothing for waiver claims and trades.3. I select a trophy from a FBG's sponsor to be paid for from the remainder of the league dues, to be named after the deceased. No money out of my pocket, no money into it. I promise full committment regardless of the record and no future strings attached.PM me if this suites you.

I know a good FF attorney if you need to wrap that up in writing. Let me know big guy.

 

[Football Critic]

start making fake trades with his team

You should be ashamed of yourself.

 

[Football Critic]

If you're looking for a legit guy to take over the team for the season and are willing to agree to the following, I'd be more than happy to do it. When I win the championship:1. No payment to me personally will be necessary, only a check payable of $500(deceased entry fee) to my preferred charity. 2. I pay nothing for waiver claims and trades.3. I select a trophy from a FBG's sponsor to be paid for from the remainder of the league dues, to be named after the deceased. No money out of my pocket, no money into it. I promise full committment regardless of the record and no future strings attached.PM me if this suites you.

Dude.

Right!I would do it just to do it, and would do my best to make sure not to ruin his team. I would just try to win it for him so his fam could have more money. I'm a loud mouth, but that is only when it comes to football smack, when life and loss is involved...you have to do the right thing.I didnt even know the guy, or anyone in this league...just feel when anyone suffers a loss, its a horrible thing. I have interest in finding out what happens with this, please keep us informed.

 

[Ministry of Pain]

If dude really lived for fantasy football, he'd be pissed if the money went to flowers or something like that. If I got hit by a train tomorrow, I hope my league mates would use my entry fee to pay for beer and rounds of golf for everyone at next year's draft.

THIS

don't waste the money on silliness like flowers, doubtful the guy would want you doing that. If you have enough people locally I would use the $500 for a party next year or this year at the end of the season to honor him. Collectively have everyone vote on his line up each week and if he somehow wins then I would use the winnings to have a big celebration in his honor.

 

[Da Guru]

Wow..Thanks for the offers to help run the team. If things did not work out I would have taken you up.

I talked to a couple of league members last night and this morning. The guys brother said he would love to take the team over..we have never met him in person but feel he should have first shot if he wants it. The guy who talked to his brother said it was a little awkward mentioning FF, but that his brother understood was on board.

I have not ran this by the league as of yet but am thinking about proposing refunding the 500.00 to help cover any costs and just adjusting our payouts. There are 12 teams so instead of 6K there will be 5500.00. In a case like this I just think we should.

This is my 20th season playing FF and the first time we have lost a member in any league. The same person is in my FBB league as well..won`t be the same without all the comments on the website.

 

[Carolina Hustler]

Why should this years winner, if other than the team in question, pay 100% of the fee? That's not really fair to him..

 

[The_Wolfman]

My 2 cents...

Give the entry fee back to the family, as someone mentioned funerals are expensive and the extra money could really help out.

If it's ok with the family, take a portion of the winnings and purchase a league trophy named after the deceased. Death is a tragic thing, but time marches on and I know if the same thing happened to me I'd want my league mates to remember me in this same fashion.

 

[Ministry of Pain]

Wow..Thanks for the offers to help run the team. If things did not work out I would have taken you up.I talked to a couple of league members last night and this morning. The guys brother said he would love to take the team over..we have never met him in person but feel he should have first shot if he wants it. The guy who talked to his brother said it was a little awkward mentioning FF, but that his brother understood was on board.I have not ran this by the league as of yet but am thinking about proposing refunding the 500.00 to help cover any costs and just adjusting our payouts. There are 12 teams so instead of 6K there will be 5500.00. In a case like this I just think we should. This is my 20th season playing FF and the first time we have lost a member in any league. The same person is in my FBB league as well..won`t be the same without all the comments on the website.

 

[SwampDawg]

Lot's of good ideas mentioned here. We had a league member die in a car accident a few years ago during the off season. 10 of us chipped in and bought a traveling trophy for the champion starting the next year and had engraved as the "xxxx xxxx" Memorial Championship Trophy. I said 10 of us chipped in because obviously we didn't ask his replacement to donate and the 12th team in our league was his brother and we wanted it to be a surprise for him to see at the draft.

In your case I'd take $100 and get a trophy named after him, take the other $400 and donate it to a charity in his name, see if the family has designated one. Then pick someone from those that have volunteered here to run his team and that would donate any winnings back to the same charity. I'd be more then happy to do that as well.

 

[SwampDawg]

Wow..Thanks for the offers to help run the team. If things did not work out I would have taken you up.I talked to a couple of league members last night and this morning. The guys brother said he would love to take the team over..we have never met him in person but feel he should have first shot if he wants it. The guy who talked to his brother said it was a little awkward mentioning FF, but that his brother understood was on board.I have not ran this by the league as of yet but am thinking about proposing refunding the 500.00 to help cover any costs and just adjusting our payouts. There are 12 teams so instead of 6K there will be 5500.00. In a case like this I just think we should. This is my 20th season playing FF and the first time we have lost a member in any league. The same person is in my FBB league as well..won`t be the same without all the comments on the website.

Well Done

 

[Dr. Octopus]

Just got a call that an out of state league member was killed in a auto accident this morning. We have a 500.00 entry fee that has already been paid in full. This guy was divorced, no kids and lived to play FF and FBB and golf..I know not the best attributes but a good person. Always paid in full before the season and loved to talk crap. One of the best league members we have had.Trying to figure out what to do with his team since we do not know his family. Would like to return the money to someone in his family.Should the league take over the team?

First, sorry for your loss.Have the commish run his team as far as line-up changes - add/drops only out of necssaity. If he wins donate the money to a charity in his name that was closest to his heart. If your not sure what particular charity he would endorse contact his family or make a judgment call if that's not possible.

 

[WiDDoW_MaKeR]

Bump Jermichael Finley up a couple spots.

 

[Bronco Nation]

Sorry to hear such terrible news. Tough to deal with for all involved, for sure.

I'd be willing to actively run his team for the year and donate 100% of any winnings back to the league to do whatever you feel is right. Let me know if you'd like me to do it.

Best Regards,

Byron

ETA: I should have refreshed the page from last night - sorry for the too-late offer. Glad you worked out a great solution!

 

[LarryAllen'sJockstrap]

Giving his family the $$ seems a little weird; unless you know them very well. I would play his team out with the best lineup you can put together each week (including trades and FA pickups). If his team wins $$ this season, put it back in the pot as a bonus to next year's total.

 

[farroki]

Terrible. That is sad.

I will run the team if you need me to. If I win, give his family the money.

 

[delusional]

Take his $500 out of the pot & donate it to a local youth football organization around his area, in his name if possible

 

[Hoss Style]

Why should this years winner, if other than the team in question, pay 100% of the fee? That's not really fair to him..

I must be misunderstanding this, especially since your previous post made so much sense to me.Are you saying that the guy who wins the league might think it's not fair if his winnings that year are a bit less because an owner died and they refunded his money to his family if they needed it?

I must be misunderstading that. That would probably be the most D-bag thing I'd ever seen or heard of in any league. If that actually is what you're saying, maybe they could ask every owner to chip in a percentage more to cover the "pot" and that way the winner would get the same amount as before. But honestly, I can't imagine someone grumbling because a pay out might be less when someone dies. This, to me, is unfathomable.

Apologies if I'm misunderstanding.

 

[King of the Wolfies]

if i die during a season, i want a buddy to take over for me and let me win from the grave. use the winnings to buy a cheap trophy, and to pay for a few years worth of MFL fees, and the rest to my buddy who ran the team for me.

 

[bonesman]

I can't believe you guys don't have wills that specify what would happen to your team in an untimely event.

 

[LargeMouthBass]

If you're looking for a legit guy to take over the team for the season and are willing to agree to the following, I'd be more than happy to do it. When I win the championship:1. No payment to me personally will be necessary, only a check payable of $500(deceased entry fee) to my preferred charity. 2. I pay nothing for waiver claims and trades.3. I select a trophy from a FBG's sponsor to be paid for from the remainder of the league dues, to be named after the deceased. No money out of my pocket, no money into it. I promise full committment regardless of the record and no future strings attached.PM me if this suites you.

Dude.

Seriously.

 

[steelcityman]

Make a $500 donation to a chairty in his area, or any charity, in his name(its his money for the FFL). If you can find a charity, send some nice flowers to the funeral home and try to get as many league members to sign the card. With the $ left over, get strippers for next years draft. Get some newbie to take over his team this year, for free. League payouts will be $500 less, but I think thats nothing compared to the loss of a life and a friend. Sorry to hear about the loss of your buddy.

 

[j3r3m3y]

Just got an e-mail and I play his team this week. I am going to put what I feel would be the best lineup for his team. Then we need to decide as a league what to do..this is unreal.

If you lose to a dead guy your leaguemates better never let you forget it!

 

[Fullback Fro]

I miss shiny :sad:

 

[ahill84006]

I love the idea of using a portion of his entry fee to buy a sweet league trophy and naming it in his honor to be passed around each year. From what you tell me it sounds like he'd like that too.

 

[DoubleG]

I love the idea of using a portion of his entry fee to buy a sweet league trophy and naming it in his honor to be passed around each year. From what you tell me it sounds like he'd like that too.

We had a league member pass away a few years back and discussed this in our dynatsy league. While this sounds really nice, and at the risk of sounding a bit morbid, what do you do then when the next league member dies?

 

[Tony Reali]

Jesus, someone you know and loved is dead and all you can think about is what to do with his fantasy football team.

Return the money to his family to pay the astronomical costs for funerals nowadays (or whatever they choose to do with it) and have someone you know take the team over and just put $500 less in the pot.

Or maybe (and I may be going over the line here) not play this year to grieve for your friend and just return everyone's money

RIP to your friend

 

[RhymesMcJuice]

Return the money and substitute his score with the 6th best score of the week (5th best if the 6th is yours).

 

[mozzy84]

Make a $500 donation to a chairty in his area, or any charity, in his name(its his money for the FFL). If you can find a charity, send some nice flowers to the funeral home and try to get as many league members to sign the card. With the $ left over, get strippers for next years draft. Get some newbie to take over his team this year, for free. League payouts will be $500 less, but I think thats nothing compared to the loss of a life and a friend. Sorry to hear about the loss of your buddy.

if I die my guys better not do any of this besides the strippers part.

 

[moderated]

Make a $500 donation to a chairty in his area, or any charity, in his name(its his money for the FFL). If you can find a charity, send some nice flowers to the funeral home and try to get as many league members to sign the card. With the $ left over, get strippers for next years draft. Get some newbie to take over his team this year, for free. League payouts will be $500 less, but I think thats nothing compared to the loss of a life and a friend. Sorry to hear about the loss of your buddy.

if I die my guys better not do any of this besides the strippers part.

These charity/flowers/other bs suggestions reek of people trying to come off as compassionate and caring when in reality if they themselves died they would want the money used in a fun careless way to be remembered by.It's a league of all guys who play FF for decent money, if anything they want it either left in the pot or used for beer/strippers/etc, not given to the Jerry Lewis telethon.

 

[TidesofWar]

start making fake trades with his team

What a pair of asses

 

[Proximo]

Return the money to his family.

 

[Tony Reali]

in reality if they themselves died they would want the money used in a fun careless way to be remembered by.

Did you ask him?

 

[Carolina Hustler]

Make a $500 donation to a chairty in his area, or any charity, in his name(its his money for the FFL). If you can find a charity, send some nice flowers to the funeral home and try to get as many league members to sign the card. With the $ left over, get strippers for next years draft. Get some newbie to take over his team this year, for free. League payouts will be $500 less, but I think thats nothing compared to the loss of a life and a friend. Sorry to hear about the loss of your buddy.

if I die my guys better not do any of this besides the strippers part.

These charity/flowers/other bs suggestions reek of people trying to come off as compassionate and caring when in reality if they themselves died they would want the money used in a fun careless way to be remembered by.It's a league of all guys who play FF for decent money, if anything they want it either left in the pot or used for beer/strippers/etc, not given to the Jerry Lewis telethon.

I agree that the charity/flowers bit is silly.. But I think first option with the money should be to give it back to the family to help with funeral expenses.. And if that wasn't an option, you gotta keep the pot right for this years winner, if you can't get an owner to buy in, leave it in the pot. option 3 would be a party.

 

[Carolina Hustler]

Why should this years winner, if other than the team in question, pay 100% of the fee? That's not really fair to him..

I must be misunderstanding this, especially since your previous post made so much sense to me.Are you saying that the guy who wins the league might think it's not fair if his winnings that year are a bit less because an owner died and they refunded his money to his family if they needed it?

I must be misunderstading that. That would probably be the most D-bag thing I'd ever seen or heard of in any league. If that actually is what you're saying, maybe they could ask every owner to chip in a percentage more to cover the "pot" and that way the winner would get the same amount as before. But honestly, I can't imagine someone grumbling because a pay out might be less when someone dies. This, to me, is unfathomable.

Apologies if I'm misunderstanding.

Some money should go back to the family.. but every effort beyond that should be to keep the pot right.. Whether it be that the family can't be reached so the money stays, or that you find a new owner to buy in, or everyone kicks in a little extra.. It's not fair to the winner otherwise. Yea, I'm sure he's not going to make a stink about it, but it's still not fair

 

[benson_will_lead_the_way]

Buy an extravagant traveling trophy and name it after him.

I was in a league where the commish died, so we renamed the league in his honor.

 

[JuSt CuZ]

Bump Jermichael Finley up a couple spots.

classless

 

[JuSt CuZ]

start making fake trades with his team

Almost pissed myself

I feel it is important to respect all who have passed on by defending their honor, letting people come in a thread, and make jokes is not respectful to anyone.The three of you should get a room.

 

[Wrigley]

We changed our league name to honor one of our fallen members.

 

[Carolina Hustler]

start making fake trades with his team

Almost pissed myself

I feel it is important to respect all who have passed on by defending their honor, letting people come in a thread, and make jokes is not respectful to anyone.

 

[JetMaxx]

Wow..Thanks for the offers to help run the team. If things did not work out I would have taken you up.I talked to a couple of league members last night and this morning. The guys brother said he would love to take the team over..we have never met him in person but feel he should have first shot if he wants it. The guy who talked to his brother said it was a little awkward mentioning FF, but that his brother understood was on board.I have not ran this by the league as of yet but am thinking about proposing refunding the 500.00 to help cover any costs and just adjusting our payouts. There are 12 teams so instead of 6K there will be 5500.00. In a case like this I just think we should. This is my 20th season playing FF and the first time we have lost a member in any league. The same person is in my FBB league as well..won`t be the same without all the comments on the website.

Well Done

 

[RhymesMcJuice]

Wow..Thanks for the offers to help run the team. If things did not work out I would have taken you up.

I talked to a couple of league members last night and this morning. The guys brother said he would love to take the team over..we have never met him in person but feel he should have first shot if he wants it. The guy who talked to his brother said it was a little awkward mentioning FF, but that his brother understood was on board.



I have not ran this by the league as of yet but am thinking about proposing refunding the 500.00 to help cover any costs and just adjusting our payouts. There are 12 teams so instead of 6K there will be 5500.00. In a case like this I just think we should.

This is my 20th season playing FF and the first time we have lost a member in any league. The same person is in my FBB league as well..won`t be the same without all the comments on the website.

I would let it go with just the brother taking over the team. It's the nice thing to do but knowing people there's going to be someone who thinks it's unfair that the brother is in the league for free. In cases like this don't try to do too much.

 

[gsmayes]

personally, I don't think someone should take over the team this year unless it's family. I'd start his optimal lineup each week, determined after the games are played. not going to say what you should do with the money.

 

[fasteddie_21]

What a crappy news flash for you and your cronies. Honestly if you guys don't know any family, here's two thoughts with the knowledge I highly suggest either finding a kindred soul to pilot his team at no cost OR run the team as a league-owned collective (most guys would steer a ship lost at sea back home if they don't have to pay a league fee and get a cut - a CUT - of the winnings for their help:

1) Put the guy's league fees in a fund you guys can use to purchase a sweet memorial traveling trophy and put the rest toward a nice draft party in his honor next season. Yes, it's extremely indulgent, but really, your description of him as a guy who lived for this stuff would lend toward him enjoying that honor from wherever he is now.

2) Donate his league fees/PORTION of his team's winnings to a charity you guys believe in as a league (keep some for option #1 if his team wins on divine intervention).

Regardless, this really sucks and my condolences go out to you and your mates. We had a buddy pass away a week into the 2009 MLB season and I steered his ship in a league I'd retired from a year or two prior to a deep playoff bid in his honor and it was greatly appreciated by all. Good luck with a tough situation.

U

I think this is the best idea I would come up with too. My condolences on the news today, but I do think, from the description given, that this is a fantastic idea.

 

[Texasmouth]

We just had the same exact thing happen in our league this year. We found out this summer that the league member had taken his own life. I didnt really know the guy except through fantasy football but it was still very sad.

In one of my oldest leagues my friends father in law played as well, his team name was Bozo Pops so we named the league after him and kept the league name for years until the league fizzled out.

Good reminder that the people we play fantasy football with are actual people and not just names on the computer.