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Leaving job due to stress - any recourse? (1 Viewer)

carverlee

carverlee

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Any precedent? I have a boss that has turned into a complete assbag over the last year. I supervise 12 restaurant locations and suddenly the owner is intently studying surveillance cameras nightly and pointing out everything he doesn't like in realtime. It's gotten to the point I can't even have dinner with my family, or sleep in, or go to bed early, the phone is ringing. I've had managers quit from the pressure with no to little notice- which leaves me in charge until I get someone in place. We have 24 locations and the other 12 store district mgr is feeling the pain too.

I make near 100k a year with this franchise so this isn't something I could just drop and pick up somewhere else. But more times than not I'm unhappy and short with my family during the free time I do have simply because I hate my job so bad. Life is short, kids grow fast.

 
What kind of "recourse" are you expecting here? Like, a lawsuit?

Sounds like you just have a crappy boss and a stressful job. Which sucks, but unless you have better job options elsewhere, I'm not seeing where you have the leverage.

You might just consider having a talk with your boss. :shrug:

 
Annyong said:
Quit being a #### and say something to your boss
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Tell the guy who signs my paycheck that he's being an #######. I'm sure he'll understand because as described he's a very reasonable person. If not, I'm at the very least pigeon-holed.

My situation is specific but I'm sure there are a lot of plights out there similar to mine. Surely we can unite and boot & rally to make a difference judicially if there is no precedent. One just can't flip the script on longterm employees with no regard in this day and age.

One great man once said "Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek."

 
Is this a franchise? You might be able to get the parent company to do something if he is damaging their revenue or reputation.

 
How F'd will he be if you quit?

Figure that out, then depending on the answer to that, go have a nice chat with him, and explain why people are quitting, and why you are thinking about quitting.

 
Explain your work-home balance is way off. Let him know you want to improve and appreciate his input but you will be able to process his requests better if they come in one email instead of a bunch of phone calls. The email will also allow the boss to reread before sending to ensure he is getting his message through. Then you can just deal with one point of contact every morning.

 
I've seen this work in movies so I'm sure it will work in real life. Make sure you have a night that goes perfectly and then start showing that video on a continuous loop. Problem solved!

 
Don't quit, make him fire you. Just start sucking at your job. Show up late, masterbate in front of one of his cameras, etc.

 
And if you can't just quit, then you need to start lining up another job asap. Once that's in place, then you can have that talk with him.

 
Seems obvious that you and the other store manager need to sit this guy down and figure out what has changed and why.

 
Sorry, but most jobs that pay $100K and involve supervising people will come with stress. Just the way it is.

Deal with it or quit.

 
carverlee said:
Annyong said:
Quit being a #### and say something to your boss
Click to expand...
Tell the guy who signs my paycheck that he's being an #######. I'm sure he'll understand because as described he's a very reasonable person. If not, I'm at the very least pigeon-holed.

My situation is specific but I'm sure there are a lot of plights out there similar to mine. Surely we can unite and boot & rally to make a difference judicially if there is no precedent. One just can't flip the script on longterm employees with no regard in this day and age.

One great man once said "Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek."
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Ask for a meeting. Ask him what will it take to gain his trust so he doesn't feel the need to call you real-time on an issue. Ask if you can have a weekly or even daily, scheduled, meeting if needed to recap and go over his findings and yours; tell him this will allow you to prepare better, manage better and provide more specific and constructive feedback which will also save both of you time.

Most importantly, ask him what kind of pressures he is under - if he's micromanaging you this way, he either doesn't trust you or is on the hot seat himself.

 
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carverlee said:
Annyong said:
Quit being a #### and say something to your boss
Click to expand...
Tell the guy who signs my paycheck that he's being an #######. I'm sure he'll understand because as described he's a very reasonable person. If not, I'm at the very least pigeon-holed.
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Quite a bit of room between telling your boss he's an ####### and doing nothing. If you can't find a reasonable in between, management may not be for you.

 
eoMMan said:
Sorry, but most jobs that pay $100K and involve supervising people will come with stress. Just the way it is.

Deal with it or quit.
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Thats true to an extent. It doesnt mean that you should have to "deal with" a tyrant. Ultimately, you are right, quitting is an option. That being said, treat the boss like a person and talk to them. Worse case, you get fired from a job you hate and collect unemployment for awhile.

 
Reminded of the Drew Carey joke -

"Oh, you hate your job? Why didn't you say so? There's a support group for that. It's called everybody. They meet at the bar."

 
Arizona Ron said:
carverlee said:
Annyong said:
Quit being a #### and say something to your boss
Click to expand...
Tell the guy who signs my paycheck that he's being an #######. I'm sure he'll understand because as described he's a very reasonable person. If not, I'm at the very least pigeon-holed.

My situation is specific but I'm sure there are a lot of plights out there similar to mine. Surely we can unite and boot & rally to make a difference judicially if there is no precedent. One just can't flip the script on longterm employees with no regard in this day and age.

One great man once said "Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek."
Click to expand...
Ask for a meeting. Ask him what will it take to gain his trust so he doesn't feel the need to call you real-time on an issue. Ask if you can have a weekly or even daily, scheduled, meeting if needed to recap and go over his findings and yours; tell him this will allow you to prepare better, manage better and provide more specific and constructive feedback which will also save both of you time.

Most importantly, ask him what kind of pressures he is under - if he's micromanaging you this way, he either doesn't trust you or is on the hot seat himself.
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Some of the most constructive and concrete suggestions I've seen in the FFA in a long time. Excellent suggestions.

 
Otis said:
Arizona Ron said:
carverlee said:
Annyong said:
Quit being a #### and say something to your boss
Click to expand...
Tell the guy who signs my paycheck that he's being an #######. I'm sure he'll understand because as described he's a very reasonable person. If not, I'm at the very least pigeon-holed.

My situation is specific but I'm sure there are a lot of plights out there similar to mine. Surely we can unite and boot & rally to make a difference judicially if there is no precedent. One just can't flip the script on longterm employees with no regard in this day and age.

One great man once said "Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek."
Click to expand...
Ask for a meeting. Ask him what will it take to gain his trust so he doesn't feel the need to call you real-time on an issue. Ask if you can have a weekly or even daily, scheduled, meeting if needed to recap and go over his findings and yours; tell him this will allow you to prepare better, manage better and provide more specific and constructive feedback which will also save both of you time.

Most importantly, ask him what kind of pressures he is under - if he's micromanaging you this way, he either doesn't trust you or is on the hot seat himself.
Click to expand...
Some of the most constructive and concrete suggestions I've seen in the FFA in a long time. Excellent suggestions.
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Yeah, I was going to suggest sleeping with his wife or his bread inventory, but Ron's idea is better.

 
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