my lifes in the crapper (1 Viewer)

[playin4beer]

im not embelishing anything as for drugs then i admit i smoke something that helps my nervesand i do drink a little too much but its the only thing that helps me open up around people........or open up just to myself

Forget getting a job. Go on welfare, and write a damn book about your life because your situation is so uncommon that people would buy it just to hear what you have to say.Become an arthur.

i do like to write........i used to be in a couple bands and enjoyed writing music and i think i could write proseand also for the record those bands were death/black metal bands and thats pretty much why my catholic aunt hates me

yeah, no way it's the drug use.

weed is not a drug.........and my family doesnt know what i do..............its only like once or twice a week

You would be better off smoking pole for lose change.

Be careful....A little joke about the White House "no smoking" policy, President Clinton and "poles" got me a short time out.....

 

[PeaceBringer]

Sorry you are struggling and letting your anxiety get the better of you.

The cannabis will interfere with your employability. Most stocking jobs will require you to pass a drug test.

Antidepressants are not a "magic" answer, they can help but it will take a good 3-4 weeks before noticing any therapuetic effects. Given the "death" mettle propenisty odds are a lot of underlying depression, certainly the negative and dissmive reaction to most suggestions fits as well.

Fear essentially creates the very condition you ultimately fear at some level or another. Socially phobic, particularly of women, then live alone, rejected anyway.

 

[simey]

as for happiness no.......im in a constant state of panic........even when i dont have money issues but i chalk that up to never having had a meaningful relationship with a woman to enrich my life a little and have some emotional support

You need to get yourself in a stable state before you even start thinking about having a meaningful relationship with a woman. Young man, if you are seriously wanting a job, it isn't a wise choice to smoke pot right now, because so many places of employment will give you a drug test. If you are serious about getting help for your social phobia, there are clinics that will take you on a sliding fee scale, and if you have no money at all.These are two public clinics in the bronx that are part of the NY Health and Hospital Corportation (HHC). They take people on sliding fee scales, etc. Talk to them.- morrisania diagnostic and treamment center 718-960-2777- segundo ruiz belvis diagnostic and treament center 718-579-4000This is a private clinic in the bronx. They take people on sliding fee scales too, and people who have no money. - Morris Heights Health Center 718-716-4400good luck to you, and don't give up

 

[texasheat]

i dont know what it is to have confidence or to even feel happy

There's nothing in life you're confident about and there's nothing in life that makes you happy?

im only confident in 2 of my abilities drawing and cookingas for happiness no.......im in a constant state of panic........even when i dont have money issues but i chalk that up to never having had a meaningful relationship with a woman to enrich my life a little and have some emotional support

Do you feel like you have any control over your life?

absolutely not.......i feel im getting pushed around by a lot of people in my life and thats not just in my head its validi let people walk all over me

How exactly does one take advantage of someone without a home, job or money? :serious:

 

[the rover]

a meaningful relationship with a woman to enrich my life a little and have some emotional support

 

[BroncoFreak_2K3]

a meaningful relationship with a woman to enrich my life a little and have some emotional support

someone finally got this....

 

[adonis]

i dont know what it is to have confidence or to even feel happy

There's nothing in life you're confident about and there's nothing in life that makes you happy?

im only confident in 2 of my abilities drawing and cookingas for happiness no.......im in a constant state of panic........even when i dont have money issues but i chalk that up to never having had a meaningful relationship with a woman to enrich my life a little and have some emotional support

Do you feel like you have any control over your life?

absolutely not.......i feel im getting pushed around by a lot of people in my life and thats not just in my head its validi let people walk all over me

So why do you come here asking for advice on what to do, when you don't feel like you can do anything to change the outcome of your life?You're essentially asking us to suggest that you do something which you believe to be impossible.

 

[buster c]

it's funny to see that the old axiom is still so true: stand up to a bully (shadyrider) and he'll go away.

#1: get some meds for tourettes. it probably is the root cause of your social disorder.

#2: after you stabilize that disorder, challenge yourself to pull yourself out of your hole. simple mind over matter. will yourself to get control and do not give up until you have done so.

#3: celebrate that success by paying back your pals who have subsidized you up to now.

 

[KnowledgeReignsSupreme]

Wow that sucks big time. Your parents wont take you back in until you get back on your feet?

Sounds like more to the story.

 

[adonis]

i dont know what it is to have confidence or to even feel happy

There's nothing in life you're confident about and there's nothing in life that makes you happy?

im only confident in 2 of my abilities drawing and cookingas for happiness no.......im in a constant state of panic........even when i dont have money issues but i chalk that up to never having had a meaningful relationship with a woman to enrich my life a little and have some emotional support

Do you feel like you have any control over your life?

absolutely not.......i feel im getting pushed around by a lot of people in my life and thats not just in my head its validi let people walk all over me

So why do you come here asking for advice on what to do, when you don't feel like you can do anything to change the outcome of your life?You're essentially asking us to suggest that you do something which you believe to be impossible.

My question is mainly rhetorical, so I'll just say what I was planning to say to your response anway:Before you can change anything in your life, you have to feel like you have the ability to change your life. Until you have that belief, you won't be successful at either being happy, or building confidence.Again, if you're not fishing, the first thing you have to do is think about ways in which you can regain control of your life. Whether that's through medication, counseling, or just adopting (forcing) a mental attitude that you can control your destiny, and you will do it.Before you can do anything positive in the future, you have to believe that. Get help to arrive at that belief if you need to, and then you'll have a foundation for happiness and confidence, but as of now, you have none. Good luck![/dr. phil]

 

[Uber]

i dont know what it is to have confidence or to even feel happy

There's nothing in life you're confident about and there's nothing in life that makes you happy?

im only confident in 2 of my abilities drawing and cookingas for happiness no.......im in a constant state of panic........even when i dont have money issues but i chalk that up to never having had a meaningful relationship with a woman to enrich my life a little and have some emotional support

Do you feel like you have any control over your life?

absolutely not.......i feel im getting pushed around by a lot of people in my life and thats not just in my head its validi let people walk all over me

So why do you come here asking for advice on what to do, when you don't feel like you can do anything to change the outcome of your life?You're essentially asking us to suggest that you do something which you believe to be impossible.

My question is mainly rhetorical, so I'll just say what I was planning to say to your response anway:Before you can change anything in your life, you have to feel like you have the ability to change your life. Until you have that belief, you won't be successful at either being happy, or building confidence.Again, if you're not fishing, the first thing you have to do is think about ways in which you can regain control of your life. Whether that's through medication, counseling, or just adopting (forcing) a mental attitude that you can control your destiny, and you will do it.Before you can do anything positive in the future, you have to believe that. Get help to arrive at that belief if you need to, and then you'll have a foundation for happiness and confidence, but as of now, you have none. Good luck![/dr. phil]

Meanwhile he's going to be sleeping under a bridge next week.Great advice.

 

[adonis]

i dont know what it is to have confidence or to even feel happy

There's nothing in life you're confident about and there's nothing in life that makes you happy?

im only confident in 2 of my abilities drawing and cookingas for happiness no.......im in a constant state of panic........even when i dont have money issues but i chalk that up to never having had a meaningful relationship with a woman to enrich my life a little and have some emotional support

Do you feel like you have any control over your life?

absolutely not.......i feel im getting pushed around by a lot of people in my life and thats not just in my head its validi let people walk all over me

So why do you come here asking for advice on what to do, when you don't feel like you can do anything to change the outcome of your life?You're essentially asking us to suggest that you do something which you believe to be impossible.

My question is mainly rhetorical, so I'll just say what I was planning to say to your response anway:Before you can change anything in your life, you have to feel like you have the ability to change your life. Until you have that belief, you won't be successful at either being happy, or building confidence.Again, if you're not fishing, the first thing you have to do is think about ways in which you can regain control of your life. Whether that's through medication, counseling, or just adopting (forcing) a mental attitude that you can control your destiny, and you will do it.Before you can do anything positive in the future, you have to believe that. Get help to arrive at that belief if you need to, and then you'll have a foundation for happiness and confidence, but as of now, you have none. Good luck![/dr. phil]

Meanwhile he's going to be sleeping under a bridge next week.Great advice.

He can use his grandma's computer all day but he'll be sleeping under a bridge next week...yeah...uh huh.

 

[acapella]

Well, if this is legit ... check out the Salvation Army. You can get food and housing in the short term. Moreover, they will help you get setup with food stamps, Medicaid and some much-needed counseling.

 

[identikit]

The only person who can save this thread is Saints Man.

 

[Moe Green]

PM Abraham.

why?and thanks guys for the suggestions and help

youve alla ctually cheered me up a lot today

What brought you to FBG's?

ive lurked for a few weeks on a few football forums........ive joined this one and the giants message board just to have something to do sometimesi should have got into message boards a long time ago

i use the same name on the giants board too if anyone else is on there

Well, you at least have had access to a computer and the internet for a few weeks...grandma must take regular vacations.

no my aunt is away.my grandmother is here......i also have my friends tax office i could use during tax season, one of my married friends has no problem lending me his wireless laptop or even letting me use his desktop most of the timeand there is also the library

If only you put in all the time that you spend on the internet, looking for jobs.Seriously man, Im not saying youre lying but I think youre exaggerating your situation a bit.

no im actually ommiting a lot........do i have to say every little tid bit?

Like what? Are you into drugs?

no i mean like i also have tourrette syndrome for example

Shouldn't you be typing ####, ####, or ### every three words then?

 

[texasheat]

Aunt Kathy must have come home.

 

[Joe_Mama]

"i used to be in a couple bands and enjoyed writing music and i think i could write prose

and also for the record those bands were death/black metal bands and thats pretty much why my catholic aunt hates me

bandmates arent always friends..........if you were ever in a band youd understand what i mean"

Oh, great, at 60 years of age, I've got to learn how to play the accordian or whatever so so I can join a death/black metal band--whatever the hell those are--just to understand what you mean. While I'm taking music lessons, will you promise to keep looking for a job? Time to cowboy up, partner. Forget about all your social diseases and get out there and go to work. Join the Army...or do you now have flat feet? If Tourette' syndrome makes you cuss, nobody in the Army will notice. Trust me on that.

 

[desert rose]

Grocery stores and restaurants throw out a lot of food everyday that is in pretty good shape. A lot of people go dumpster diving for food. You can probably score a lot of produce and bread that way. Find a food pantry for free food (staples, usually), and a soup kitchen for cooked food. If you do end out on the streets, you can stay at a rescue mission at night while you're out searching for a job. A lot of churches will help people with food even if you aren't religious.

How much is your rent? Maybe you could move in with someone on their couch and pay a lot less than your tiny closet of a room. If things are really bad, and you are homeless, you should head south, at least for the winter. The weather is a lot more forgiving.

Don't wait to read the newspaper classifieds to look for a job. Get out and walk around. There's always a "help wanted" sign in every restaurant or store I go to. Walk in, ask for an application and fill it out. Then ask to speak to the manager and see if they are interested in starting you ASAP. Don't be picky. There's plenty of time for that after you get your feet under you. When you have enough to live on, look into a technical school. They usually help you with filling out loan applications and defer payment until you are finished. Many of them even help you find a job.

 

[Penguin]

You need to change your attitude, it's terribly negative. I know it's easier to say than do, but you have to find some way to get out of your mental funk. You won't be able to get out of your financial mess until you fix your mental "mess." If this means going on medication than by all means do so.

Also, make amends with your aunt, find religion, do whatever you have to. Moving in with your grandmother/aunt would be ideal (other than the aunt hating you.) It would allow you to pay back the back rent, save money and slowly but surely get your act together.

A prepaid cell phone would help, just buy the minimum amount of minutes. You have to have a phone, a phone of your own. You'll want to be able to talk to employers when they call, not wait for your sister to tell you, only to find out the position was filled an hour before you called back.

 

[deep vacuum]

How do you feel about moving to India for employment?

 

[Moe Green]

How do you feel about moving to India for employment?

Well he has Tourette's. He'd probably be worshiped as a god there.

 

[Shutterbug]

look im not fishing for sympathy or lame jokes here........im only asking for suggestions because i dont know what else to do

i told you im seeking help

Didn't read the entire thread. From the sounds of it (if you are not fishing), you may suffer from a moderate case of agoraphobia. Only way to kick that, is to force yourself to do the things you are afraid of. You need to show yourself that nothing bad is going to happen if you <fill in the blank>. Living your life in fear, is not really living.You say you are an artist. Not really sure what type of artist you are, but perhaps you could apply for jobs in an art museum or a house painting company. Also, venture out to the library and read up on applying for grants to go to school. If you get anxious being in public buildings, sit by a door or a restroom. Gives you a sense of being able to escape, should you feel the need.

What will not help you is sitting in front of a computer between 7-5pm. You should be out looking for a job. Make yourself presentable and hit the pavement. After 5pm search help wanted ads online. Make a list of all the places you will hit the next day.

If you get kicked out of your place, if friends and family are not an option, go to a shelter. Churches should be able to help as well. Some sort of outreach center. If you want to PM me your city, I can locate places in your area that can and will help you.

Apply for gov. assistance. That is what it is there for. Utilize it.

Take control of your life. You can and will get past this. Keep your chin up.

If this is fishing - just consider me naive. I rather try to help and look like an idiot than to dismiss it as a fishing trip all together.

 

[Capella]

Go read that Denny's thread. The one where thousands of people waited hours for a free 6 dollar meal. Other than the bored retired people with nothing better to do with their life, do you want to know why people are standing outside in the cold for that ####? Because they're broke. They're hungry. That situation today illustrated how desperate some people are.

I'll say the same thing everybody else has likely said and that you have ignored. You need to cut the excuses and get outside and get the #### to work. You're 24. You're likely strong. You're capable. Call the local lawnmower guy and ask if he needs a guy to push a mower. Put up a flyer stating you'll get up on a roof and clean out gutters. People hate doing that crap. Go to Mcdonald's. Burger King. Get some money and enroll in the community college.

Do something.

You may think you're young and it will fall into place, but it won't unless you make it. Now is the time future employers want to see what you're made of. You're no longer a kid. If you're sitting on your ### now, you're worthless. Look in the mirror, who would hire you? Stop smoking weed too, stupid. Whether you want to debate if its a drug or not, it's a losing bet.

You know who thinks pot is a drug? A prospective employer. And you won't get a job there if you're a ### #### burnout. Especially not when you're competing with guys your own age who gave that crap up three years ago in college or some guy 10 years older than you with a gazillion times more experience who would wipe the floors of the boss' office with pride so he can feed his family.

Stop making excuses and get to work somewhere. Be a ####ing man.

 

[Novice2]

Well, for starters your spelling and grammar is better than 90% of the FBG's in these forums, so you've got that going for you.

Might be a good time to look for work in areas that you haven't thought about before now. Since you are online, search through any and all job opportunities on places like Craigslist.org and Monster.com.

Time to "think outside the box". Hell, be a dishwasher or a clown that sings telegrams. Try anything.

Don't let yourself fall into a funk/depression. Go visit old people in a nursing home; try to cheer them up.

Good luck.

i cant do certain work that requires people skills because i suffer from crippling social phobia......its hard for me to even leave the house and the only jobs i was ever good at were working with my hands and not dealing with people

Well damn. I just thought i didn't like people. Now i know i just have one of them phobias.These guys will hire anyone.

 

[tomarken]

Go read that Denny's thread. The one where thousands of people waited hours for a free 6 dollar meal. Other than the bored retired people with nothing better to do with their life, do you want to know why people are standing outside in the cold for that ####? Because they're broke. They're hungry. That situation today illustrated how desperate some people are.I'll say the same thing everybody else has likely said and that you have ignored. You need to cut the excuses and get outside and get the #### to work. You're 24. You're likely strong. You're capable. Call the local lawnmower guy and ask if he needs a guy to push a mower. Put up a flyer stating you'll get up on a roof and clean out gutters. People hate doing that crap. Go to Mcdonald's. Burger King. Get some money and enroll in the community college. Do something.You may think you're young and it will fall into place, but it won't unless you make it. Now is the time future employers want to see what you're made of. You're no longer a kid. If you're sitting on your ### now, you're worthless. Look in the mirror, who would hire you? Stop smoking weed too, stupid. Whether you want to debate if its a drug or not, it's a losing bet. You know who thinks pot is a drug? A prospective employer. And you won't get a job there if you're a ### #### burnout. Especially not when you're competing with guys your own age who gave that crap up three years ago in college or some guy 10 years older than you with a gazillion times more experience who would wipe the floors of the boss' office with pride so he can feed his family. Stop making excuses and get to work somewhere. Be a ####ing man.

There's a 0.000001% chance the OP isn't fishing, but either way this is a good ####### posting.

 

[e-mom]

ok maybe i used crippling too loosely....it only cripples me with women but it makes other aspects of life extremely difficult but not impossible

sometimes i do find ways to cope and work around it but ive decided to seek a doctor and get medication

and then i probably wont need to drink and smoke anymore

but its not like its rare for people to self medicate

no im not some junkie or drunk.........ive never broken the law or done anything wrong to anyone

if you met me you would not think i was any type of abuser

I thought this was Moonhead up until this part.

 

[e-mom]

Guy admits to being an occassional smoker and is instantly labeled a "drug addict"?.....AwesomeAt this point desperation will probably guide you better than medication. Especially if your seeking social anxiety type of fixes that may lead to your ambition going completely down the drain. My advice would be to decline the free tokes and force yourself to go out there and hit the pavement searching for jobs before you get the boot from your apartment.It is going to suck, but just ask yourself, what more do you have to lose at this point? Now is the time to put yourself into uncomfortable situations and learn from your weaknesses. Also, try to make your image as clean cut and personable as possible. Being broke is no time for personal expression.

im just reaching out to talk about things and get some fresh perspectives from the outside looking ini knew id catch heatim disgusted not because its directed at me but just that some people can be so low in generali can only imagine if someone weaker than i ever comes in for advice and catches this kind of haterade and it led them further into the darknesssad

Here's honesty......First off, this is a message board. Who cares what people say about you? Learn to shrug it off. You sound like you like to feel sorry for yourself. Man up.Second, no one here can help you, but you. It's all on you and it sounds like you don't want to help yourself being that you are making excuses for almost every suggestion in this thread. How much time have you already wasted in this thread when you could have been out looking for jobs on-line or in person?It's on you, man.

Thanks for the new sig.

 

[e-mom]

If you have the drawing talent like you mentioned, you might want to focus your attention to positions/companies that have a need for that skill. Until then, get a job doing anything to make some money to help get you back on your feet.

I wish you the best. Chin up, something will work out for you.

 

[thatguy]

Those telling him to "just man up", I think, are greatly underestimating how crippling Tourette's syndrome combined with social phobia can be toward one's ability to even leave his home, let alone interact with society in a meaningful way. Yes, the poster needs to receive treatment for these conditions, but it's difficult to receive said treatment when he can't get a job or insurance because he's terrified to enter the world.

If this is not a fishing expedition, I feel for the original poster and wish him the best of luck.

 

[cstu]

Those telling him to "just man up", I think, are greatly underestimating how crippling Tourette's syndrome combined with social phobia can be toward one's ability to even leave his home, let alone interact with society in a meaningful way. Yes, the poster needs to receive treatment for these conditions, but it's difficult to receive said treatment when he can't get a job or insurance because he's terrified to enter the world. If this is not a fishing expedition, I feel for the original poster and wish him the best of luck.

Like I said earlier, you don't have to have social skills to have a career in IT.This guy seems like someone who is going nowhere in life and is blaming all of his problems on everyone else.

 

[QUEZILLA]

How do you feel about moving to India for employment?

Well he has Tourette's. He'd probably be worshiped as a god there.

 

[Capella]

Those telling him to "just man up", I think, are greatly underestimating how crippling Tourette's syndrome combined with social phobia can be toward one's ability to even leave his home, let alone interact with society in a meaningful way. Yes, the poster needs to receive treatment for these conditions, but it's difficult to receive said treatment when he can't get a job or insurance because he's terrified to enter the world.

Shut up. He's just lazy.

 

[thatguy]

Those telling him to "just man up", I think, are greatly underestimating how crippling Tourette's syndrome combined with social phobia can be toward one's ability to even leave his home, let alone interact with society in a meaningful way. Yes, the poster needs to receive treatment for these conditions, but it's difficult to receive said treatment when he can't get a job or insurance because he's terrified to enter the world.

Shut up. He's just lazy.

Well I guess that puts me in my place.

 

[Capella]

Those telling him to "just man up", I think, are greatly underestimating how crippling Tourette's syndrome combined with social phobia can be toward one's ability to even leave his home, let alone interact with society in a meaningful way. Yes, the poster needs to receive treatment for these conditions, but it's difficult to receive said treatment when he can't get a job or insurance because he's terrified to enter the world.

Shut up. He's just lazy.

Well I guess that puts me in my place.

I don't care about putting you in your place. I see this every day. He's just lazy and is making excuses for it. There's no excuse for him not to work right now. He needs somebody in his life to tell him that, and while he may not want to listen to a bunch of ###holes on the message board giving him the truth, it's sure as hell a lot better than the coddling and excuse-making he's likely received throughout his life that got him to this point. That's what you're giving him. That's what he wants to hear. His life is/was probably full of enablers. It sucks to say this but it's reality. It's the world we live in nowadays.

 

[thatguy]

Those telling him to "just man up", I think, are greatly underestimating how crippling Tourette's syndrome combined with social phobia can be toward one's ability to even leave his home, let alone interact with society in a meaningful way. Yes, the poster needs to receive treatment for these conditions, but it's difficult to receive said treatment when he can't get a job or insurance because he's terrified to enter the world.

Shut up. He's just lazy.

Well I guess that puts me in my place.

I don't care about putting you in your place. I see this every day. He's just lazy and is making excuses for it. There's no excuse for him not to work right now. He needs somebody in his life to tell him that, and while he may not want to listen to a bunch of ###holes on the message board giving him the truth, it's sure as hell a lot better than the coddling and excuse-making he's likely received throughout his life that got him to this point. That's what you're giving him. That's what he wants to hear. His life is/was probably full of enablers. It sucks to say this but it's reality. It's the world we live in nowadays.

Fair enough I guess. Telling me to shut up seems pretty harsh though, hence the "puts me in my place" comment. It implies to me that you believe yourself to be the qualified authority in the matter and nothing I say has any merit.All I'm saying is that for a lot of people, it's not as easy as simply "manning up". I would never presume to understand how difficult it is to walk a mile in another's shoes. If this guy is for real, it sounds like it can be pretty agonizing.

 

[Capella]

Those telling him to "just man up", I think, are greatly underestimating how crippling Tourette's syndrome combined with social phobia can be toward one's ability to even leave his home, let alone interact with society in a meaningful way. Yes, the poster needs to receive treatment for these conditions, but it's difficult to receive said treatment when he can't get a job or insurance because he's terrified to enter the world.

Shut up. He's just lazy.

Well I guess that puts me in my place.

I don't care about putting you in your place. I see this every day. He's just lazy and is making excuses for it. There's no excuse for him not to work right now. He needs somebody in his life to tell him that, and while he may not want to listen to a bunch of ###holes on the message board giving him the truth, it's sure as hell a lot better than the coddling and excuse-making he's likely received throughout his life that got him to this point. That's what you're giving him. That's what he wants to hear. His life is/was probably full of enablers. It sucks to say this but it's reality. It's the world we live in nowadays.

Fair enough I guess. Telling me to shut up seems pretty harsh though, hence the "puts me in my place" comment. It implies to me that you believe yourself to be the qualified authority in the matter and nothing I say has any merit.All I'm saying is that for a lot of people, it's not as easy as simply "manning up". I would never presume to understand how difficult it is to walk a mile in another's shoes. If this guy is for real, it sounds like it can be pretty agonizing.

I'm sorry for telling you to shut up. I have tourette's.

 

[thatguy]

Those telling him to "just man up", I think, are greatly underestimating how crippling Tourette's syndrome combined with social phobia can be toward one's ability to even leave his home, let alone interact with society in a meaningful way. Yes, the poster needs to receive treatment for these conditions, but it's difficult to receive said treatment when he can't get a job or insurance because he's terrified to enter the world.

Shut up. He's just lazy.

Well I guess that puts me in my place.

I don't care about putting you in your place. I see this every day. He's just lazy and is making excuses for it. There's no excuse for him not to work right now. He needs somebody in his life to tell him that, and while he may not want to listen to a bunch of ###holes on the message board giving him the truth, it's sure as hell a lot better than the coddling and excuse-making he's likely received throughout his life that got him to this point. That's what you're giving him. That's what he wants to hear. His life is/was probably full of enablers. It sucks to say this but it's reality. It's the world we live in nowadays.

Fair enough I guess. Telling me to shut up seems pretty harsh though, hence the "puts me in my place" comment. It implies to me that you believe yourself to be the qualified authority in the matter and nothing I say has any merit.All I'm saying is that for a lot of people, it's not as easy as simply "manning up". I would never presume to understand how difficult it is to walk a mile in another's shoes. If this guy is for real, it sounds like it can be pretty agonizing.

I'm sorry for telling you to shut up. I have tourette's.

Apology accepted.

 

[moby fan]

Those telling him to "just man up", I think, are greatly underestimating how crippling Tourette's syndrome combined with social phobia can be toward one's ability to even leave his home, let alone interact with society in a meaningful way. Yes, the poster needs to receive treatment for these conditions, but it's difficult to receive said treatment when he can't get a job or insurance because he's terrified to enter the world.

Shut up. He's just lazy.

Well I guess that puts me in my place.

I don't care about putting you in your place. I see this every day. He's just lazy and is making excuses for it. There's no excuse for him not to work right now. He needs somebody in his life to tell him that, and while he may not want to listen to a bunch of ###holes on the message board giving him the truth, it's sure as hell a lot better than the coddling and excuse-making he's likely received throughout his life that got him to this point. That's what you're giving him. That's what he wants to hear. His life is/was probably full of enablers. It sucks to say this but it's reality. It's the world we live in nowadays.

Fair enough I guess. Telling me to shut up seems pretty harsh though, hence the "puts me in my place" comment. It implies to me that you believe yourself to be the qualified authority in the matter and nothing I say has any merit.All I'm saying is that for a lot of people, it's not as easy as simply "manning up". I would never presume to understand how difficult it is to walk a mile in another's shoes. If this guy is for real, it sounds like it can be pretty agonizing.

I'm sorry for telling you to shut up. I have tourette's.

Apology excepted.

Nice spelling, jerk.

 

[thatguy]

Those telling him to "just man up", I think, are greatly underestimating how crippling Tourette's syndrome combined with social phobia can be toward one's ability to even leave his home, let alone interact with society in a meaningful way. Yes, the poster needs to receive treatment for these conditions, but it's difficult to receive said treatment when he can't get a job or insurance because he's terrified to enter the world.

Shut up. He's just lazy.

Well I guess that puts me in my place.

I don't care about putting you in your place. I see this every day. He's just lazy and is making excuses for it. There's no excuse for him not to work right now. He needs somebody in his life to tell him that, and while he may not want to listen to a bunch of ###holes on the message board giving him the truth, it's sure as hell a lot better than the coddling and excuse-making he's likely received throughout his life that got him to this point. That's what you're giving him. That's what he wants to hear. His life is/was probably full of enablers. It sucks to say this but it's reality. It's the world we live in nowadays.

Fair enough I guess. Telling me to shut up seems pretty harsh though, hence the "puts me in my place" comment. It implies to me that you believe yourself to be the qualified authority in the matter and nothing I say has any merit.All I'm saying is that for a lot of people, it's not as easy as simply "manning up". I would never presume to understand how difficult it is to walk a mile in another's shoes. If this guy is for real, it sounds like it can be pretty agonizing.

I'm sorry for telling you to shut up. I have tourette's.

Apology excepted.

Nice spelling, jerk.

Spelling was fine. Just used the wrong word. Thanks for pointing it out, buddy.

 

[TxBuckeye]

There's a 0.000001% chance the OP isn't fishing....

I think you are way overestimating the probability here. I honestly can't believe this many fish are STILL jumping in the boat as ridiculous as his story has gotten.

 

[moby fan]

Those telling him to "just man up", I think, are greatly underestimating how crippling Tourette's syndrome combined with social phobia can be toward one's ability to even leave his home, let alone interact with society in a meaningful way. Yes, the poster needs to receive treatment for these conditions, but it's difficult to receive said treatment when he can't get a job or insurance because he's terrified to enter the world.

Shut up. He's just lazy.

Well I guess that puts me in my place.

I don't care about putting you in your place. I see this every day. He's just lazy and is making excuses for it. There's no excuse for him not to work right now. He needs somebody in his life to tell him that, and while he may not want to listen to a bunch of ###holes on the message board giving him the truth, it's sure as hell a lot better than the coddling and excuse-making he's likely received throughout his life that got him to this point. That's what you're giving him. That's what he wants to hear. His life is/was probably full of enablers. It sucks to say this but it's reality. It's the world we live in nowadays.

Fair enough I guess. Telling me to shut up seems pretty harsh though, hence the "puts me in my place" comment. It implies to me that you believe yourself to be the qualified authority in the matter and nothing I say has any merit.All I'm saying is that for a lot of people, it's not as easy as simply "manning up". I would never presume to understand how difficult it is to walk a mile in another's shoes. If this guy is for real, it sounds like it can be pretty agonizing.

I'm sorry for telling you to shut up. I have tourette's.

Apology excepted.

Nice spelling, jerk.

Spelling was fine. Just used the wrong word. Thanks for pointing it out, buddy.

Way to justify your deficiencies, tough guy.

 

[Mopap]

so here i am......24 and i dont know how to maintain any sort of life

ive been unemployed for 4 months and im behind over a thousand on my rent. my only work experience is in painting, construction and HVAC and they are all dead industries right now it appears where i live

the landlord wants me out......ive begged and borrowed all i can over the past few months

if i have to leave i have nowhere to go...nobody in my family is willing to take me in..not even either of my parents

whats the next step? where do i go from here?

i just dont see any answers

any suggestions? right now it looks like it would be better to no longer exist

I've read nothing but this first post. If it's a fishing trip fine.24? my 23 year old son just moved out. I and my wife would let him back if it came to that. Your parents wouldn't let you back? Think hard on what you might have done to deserve that.

For me, as a parent, it's an incredibly short list of things.

And some of those might even be forgiven.

 

[Binky The Doormat]

There's a 0.000001% chance the OP isn't fishing....

I think you are way overestimating the probability here. I honestly can't believe this many fish are STILL jumping in the boat as ridiculous as his story has gotten.

I hopped to the end after only being able to take about 10-15 posts. Some good hearted people here man. This kind of fishing is really low.

 

[thatguy]

Those telling him to "just man up", I think, are greatly underestimating how crippling Tourette's syndrome combined with social phobia can be toward one's ability to even leave his home, let alone interact with society in a meaningful way. Yes, the poster needs to receive treatment for these conditions, but it's difficult to receive said treatment when he can't get a job or insurance because he's terrified to enter the world.

Shut up. He's just lazy.

Well I guess that puts me in my place.

I don't care about putting you in your place. I see this every day. He's just lazy and is making excuses for it. There's no excuse for him not to work right now. He needs somebody in his life to tell him that, and while he may not want to listen to a bunch of ###holes on the message board giving him the truth, it's sure as hell a lot better than the coddling and excuse-making he's likely received throughout his life that got him to this point. That's what you're giving him. That's what he wants to hear. His life is/was probably full of enablers. It sucks to say this but it's reality. It's the world we live in nowadays.

Fair enough I guess. Telling me to shut up seems pretty harsh though, hence the "puts me in my place" comment. It implies to me that you believe yourself to be the qualified authority in the matter and nothing I say has any merit.All I'm saying is that for a lot of people, it's not as easy as simply "manning up". I would never presume to understand how difficult it is to walk a mile in another's shoes. If this guy is for real, it sounds like it can be pretty agonizing.

I'm sorry for telling you to shut up. I have tourette's.

Apology excepted.

Nice spelling, jerk.

Spelling was fine. Just used the wrong word. Thanks for pointing it out, buddy.

Way to justify your deficiencies, tough guy.

Not justifying mine. Just pointing out yours. We've all got 'em.

 

[The_Burning_Bush]

Didn't read the entire thread. From the sounds of it (if you are not fishing), you may suffer from a moderate case of agoraphobia. Only way to kick that, is to force yourself to do the things you are afraid of. You need to show yourself that nothing bad is going to happen if you <fill in the blank>.

 

[Your Mother]

ok maybe i used crippling too loosely....it only cripples me with women but it makes other aspects of life extremely difficult but not impossible

sometimes i do find ways to cope and work around it but ive decided to seek a doctor and get medication

and then i probably wont need to drink and smoke anymore

but its not like its rare for people to self medicate

no im not some junkie or drunk.........ive never broken the law or done anything wrong to anyone

if you met me you would not think i was any type of abuser

Good luck doing that without money or health insurance

why are you doing this?

doing what? He cant get medication for his problems cuz he doesnt have a job. He cant get a job cuz hes a drug addict. He doesnt even think weed is a drug. How can anyone help him?

Wow, should we dig up some of your past threads? "Waaah, my wife spends all my money", "Waaah, My job sucks, I'm going to play poker professionally", etc.

 

[scottybo]

The way people have been laid off lately, I'm surprised more threads like this haven't popped up.

 

[bluemagic]

well guys i think im going to put out ads looking for anyone willing to document me going on a wilderness odyssey

i think its the best option i have and if i can learn to live on the edge like that then all my other problems should pale in comparison

if anyone has any wilderness survival tips they would be greatly appreciated

or if anyone knows of a good secluded wooded area with a good amount of food to catch

 

[scottybo]

well guys i think im going to put out ads looking for anyone willing to document me going on a wilderness odysseyi think its the best option i have and if i can learn to live on the edge like that then all my other problems should pale in comparisonif anyone has any wilderness survival tips they would be greatly appreciatedor if anyone knows of a good secluded wooded area with a good amount of food to catch

 

[moby fan]

well guys i think im going to put out ads looking for anyone willing to document me going on a wilderness odysseyi think its the best option i have and if i can learn to live on the edge like that then all my other problems should pale in comparisonif anyone has any wilderness survival tips they would be greatly appreciatedor if anyone knows of a good secluded wooded area with a good amount of food to catch

OH WHATEVER