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My Mom Died Wednesday (1 Viewer)

I’m sorry for your loss Joe. I lost my mom 4.5 years ago, and every day I’ve had a moment where I think of her and smile (once I got beyond the think of her and cry part). Praying for peace and comfort for you and your family. 

 
Joe Bryant said:
Sorry for sad news but part of the beauty of this forum is it's a community and we can share real stuff. 

My Mom died last night. 

She had been in poor health for a good while. She'd had two heart attacks over the past ten years.

She went to the hospital Friday with chest pains and had a heart attack Saturday at the hospital.

It had been an up and down thing in the hospital for the past few days. She was better then worse then better then died Wednesday night. 

Monday, she was better, she was off the breathing tube and pretty much all there mentally. We talked and laughed and got to have the "You're a good mom - You're a good son" talk. I started it and I'm not sure why I did but it felt natural and right. 

She felt it too I think as she clearly told me goodbye as I was leaving. She said, "I'll see you on the other side". I said, "How about I see you tomorrow". She was mostly right. 

I'm ok here. Don't worry about me. I don't share this looking for sympathy or anything like that. My Mom had a very strong faith and I don't see this as a tragedy at all.

76 years with a family she saw grow up that she loved dearly and loved her the same way is about as good as it gets. It's the natural progression of life.

My world feels a little different today as you guys who have lost a parent can attest, but it's not unnatural. 

Rock on, Mom. Much love.
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My sincere condolences, Joe. Hardest thing I ever went through was losing my mom. Losing a parent fundamentally changes you.

Take your time and let yourself feel the grief. It's part of the healing.

Words are no good sometimes. Praying for you and your family. 

 
Joe Bryant said:
Sorry for sad news but part of the beauty of this forum is it's a community and we can share real stuff. 

My Mom died last night. 

She had been in poor health for a good while. She'd had two heart attacks over the past ten years.

She went to the hospital Friday with chest pains and had a heart attack Saturday at the hospital.

It had been an up and down thing in the hospital for the past few days. She was better then worse then better then died Wednesday night. 

Monday, she was better, she was off the breathing tube and pretty much all there mentally. We talked and laughed and got to have the "You're a good mom - You're a good son" talk. I started it and I'm not sure why I did but it felt natural and right. 

She felt it too I think as she clearly told me goodbye as I was leaving. She said, "I'll see you on the other side". I said, "How about I see you tomorrow". She was mostly right. 

I'm ok here. Don't worry about me. I don't share this looking for sympathy or anything like that. My Mom had a very strong faith and I don't see this as a tragedy at all.

76 years with a family she saw grow up that she loved dearly and loved her the same way is about as good as it gets. It's the natural progression of life.

My world feels a little different today as you guys who have lost a parent can attest, but it's not unnatural. 

Rock on, Mom. Much love.
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I’m sorry.  I’m spending the week watching my father in law slip away this week - we may not see the end but we will not likely see him again. 

I have no doubt based on your statements that in talking to you toward the end she discovered she will be remembered, she is forgiven for any wrongs she perceives she has committed, and she did not waste her time here on earth.  

Those are really what we all need.  Well done as a son. 

 
Glad to see you at peace, Joe.  My Mom passed away about 3 years ago and I've found that it isn't the Mother's Day type things that are hard.  It's sitting home on some random Sunday night realizing that it was about the time she'd call every week to check in on how my weekend was.  Or going through a bunch of recipes and see her very distinctive handwriting.

Be well and celebrate her.

 
My condolences Joe. I lost my father in July and my wife lost her mother in July. It was a hard 2018. But they both led full, happy lives, were good people, and passed surrounded by friends and family. And they were both strong in their faith. My wife and I saw them both looking up, talking to someone near the end. My wife is convinced they were both chatting with the angels preparing for their journey, and I tend to believe she is right. I'm sure your mom was doing the same. Take care.

 
So sorry for your loss Joe. I'm glad you had the opportunity to say goodbye. Also thank you for the reminder to cherish all time spent with our loved ones. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

 
Sorry to hear Joe.

I'm glad to hear that you got those precious end of life talks with her. I just lost my father to glioblastoma this past spring. Looking back, those talks are something I'd have loved to experienced, but his mind left us well before his body did. Always be thankful for that opportunity, for that's something many don't get to experience.

From all I've seen of you here, she gave you an environment growing up where you were able to develop a fantastic moral compass (even if I like to rib you at times about it  ;) ).

 
Joe - I’m so sorry to here this.  She had to have been a remarkable woman to raise such a wonderful person as yourself.  I don’t say this to suck up but I mean it - you’re a great dude and have created a wonderful community here.  Prayers for you and your family.

 
ShamrockPride said:
Sorry to hear Joe.

I'm glad to hear that you got those precious end of life talks with her. I just lost my father to glioblastoma this past spring. Looking back, those talks are something I'd have loved to experienced, but his mind left us well before his body did. Always be thankful for that opportunity, for that's something many don't get to experience.

From all I've seen of you here, she gave you an environment growing up where you were able to develop a fantastic moral compass (even if I like to rib you at times about it  ;) ).
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M grandfather died at 101 last year. His body finally failed, but he was talking about politics and the Yankees right to the end. My grandmother died at 94 last year. Her body was fine right until the end, but she stopped recognizing who any of us were about 5 years ago. Trust me when I say you want to pray that the body goes before the mind.

 
So sorry to hear it Joe, best to you and your fam. I’m fortunate to have both my parents still, but they’re starting to really show their age, and I am so sad at the thought of losing them one day. It must be a really hard change.

Condolences to you and yours. 

 
Sorry to hear that Joe.  I can’t imagine what that’s like.  But I’m glad to know you had a good run together.  I bet she was a real nice lady.  We’re all here for you.  

 
Joe Bryant said:
jvdesigns2002 said:
It's times like these when I wish I was better with words--as I find it very difficult to find the right things to say.   While we all understand that death is a part and a certainty of life--I think that we all also understand that it's one of the hardest things that any human being has to deal with when it happens to somebody that they love.   I truly send all of my deepest condolences to you and your family. I also wanted to thank you for sharing this news with us.  By creating this community--you basically created a giant family that you are the head of.   I appreciate you treating us like family and sharing the news.   Whether you intended it or not--I think that you will feel lots of genuine love coming your way from this family/community that you have created. 
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Thank jv. You nailed it. I was hesitant to post as I didn't want it to feel like a fishing for sympathy thing but the reason I did, is exactly what you said - We're all in this together. Ram Dass has one of my favorite lines:  "We're all just walking each other home at night". I love that. And that's why I posted as I know we have a real community here. As goofy as it is sometimes. Thank you very much to everyone for the words. They are felt and appreciated. Thanks.
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JV did put this very well. You've created and lead an excellent community here, and it shows. So sorry for your loss Joe, and I'm happy you got those final hours / conversation with her. All time with loved ones is priceless, but that "this is essentially goodbye" interaction you posted about is the cherry on top. 

 
Sorry for your loss Joe.  Even when expected, it is never easy.  I have not figured out how to take my mother's phone number out of my cell phone directory after a couple of years.  Glad that you have a decent outlook over mortality, it is not an easy thing.

 
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