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***Official*** FFA iDating Thread (2 Viewers)

CurlyNight said:
The inequality  in looks where you see an average guy with a hot chic is also true vice versa, with an average chic with a hot dude. Look at LeBron James who imo is good looking married an average looking woman (imo) in his childhood sweetheart. He could have picked an eye candy but he went with both his heart and mind. So for those of you who are only looking at looks in profiles first, you may be narrowing your field and possibly missing out on a soul mate which is what we all strive for when looking for long term/marriage.
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If I don't find her attractive, it's not happening.

 
CurlyNight said:
Yep. There is some pressure for us to have to be of certain weight. A few pounds and we are fat. But the guy has a beer belly and is fine. :D My friend is getting married next month. We are having a hell of a time finding a size 26 bra. She looks pretty anorexic/unhealthy to me but hey the guy likes it that way.
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It's really strange, but in some instances stuff like that becomes attractive to the women who love them.  I told my wife I was going to start dying my beard and sides of my head because the gray is getting out of control.  She told me not to and that she likes that it's getting gray.  Then I started going on Propecia because I noticed I'm starting to thin out up top.  She's like, "I wouldn't.  I think it's cute that you're going bald."  WTF?  No dude I've ever met would say to his wife, "I think it's cute that you're growing a pouch."  

 
Captain Cranks said:
It's really strange, but in some instances stuff like that becomes attractive to the women who love them.  I told my wife I was going to start dying my beard and sides of my head because the gray is getting out of control.  She told me not to and that she likes that it's getting gray.  Then I started going on Propecia because I noticed I'm starting to thin out up top.  She's like, "I wouldn't.  I think it's cute that you're going bald."  WTF?  No dude I've ever met would say to his wife, "I think it's cute that you're growing a pouch."  
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She loves you the way you are. And she doesn't want you to do that because she doesn't want other women to be attracted to you

 
CurlyNight said:
The inequality  in looks where you see an average guy with a hot chic is also true vice versa, with an average chic with a hot dude. Look at LeBron James who imo is good looking married an average looking woman (imo) in his childhood sweetheart. He could have picked an eye candy but he went with both his heart and mind. So for those of you who are only looking at looks in profiles first, you may be narrowing your field and possibly missing out on a soul mate which is what we all strive for when looking for long term/marriage.
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That's because he just bangs all the young 20 something eye candy he wants on the side.

 
offdee said:
I REALLY disagree about the moving to phone calls quickly.  Women (especially 20's and 30's women) just don't communicate like this anymore and suggesting phone calls comes off as creepy old guy.  Just that suggestion alone too early will make them disappear.  Plus, a phone call really exposes any flaws in your game....it can quickly become awkward, and if the woman senses any type of non-confidence or whatever they feel is "lack of chemistry, by random silent moments while chatting on the call"....you're done.

With texting you have time to think about the proper responses and also incorporate all the things that I just mentioned above about not being so responsive, making her think you live this robust life, to keep them interested and intrigued.  
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This is correct IMO.  I met a buddy of mine at a bar where he is a regular a couple months ago, and the next day he texted me that the bartender was interested, but insisted that she hated texting and that I had better call her.  Going completely against my instincts, I called, and it was a disaster.  She didn't really understand who I was or why I was calling at first, and worse, she was at work.  She texted me later "oh now I know who you are, so sorry for not putting it together," but it was basically impossible to get rid of the awkwardness.

 
Soootch said:
Told ya.  :coffee:
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That's a good idea.  Just need to wait until my kids go back to college in a few weeks.... I'm not sure yet if I like her but probably more shaking off the rust.  She's really cute with a good personality but talks a lot.  She has a decent job but no money and lives with her mom.  I realize that any girl between 45-50 will have some warts but I'm still deciding which warts are acceptable.  

 
stlrams said:
That's a good idea.  Just need to wait until my kids go back to college in a few weeks.... I'm not sure yet if I like her but probably more shaking off the rust.  She's really cute with a good personality but talks a lot.  She has a decent job but no money and lives with her mom.  I realize that any girl between 45-50 will have some warts but I'm still deciding which warts are acceptable.  
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:penalty:

 
stlrams said:
That's a good idea.  Just need to wait until my kids go back to college in a few weeks.... I'm not sure yet if I like her but probably more shaking off the rust.  She's really cute with a good personality but talks a lot.  She has a decent job but no money and lives with her mom.  I realize that any girl between 45-50 will have some warts but I'm still deciding which warts are acceptable.  
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All the more reason to just swing for the fences.  If you're attracted to her than there isn't much downside.    Good dating practice, most likely some sex on the regular with a cute woman and will also up your confidence for all of your other women because this is one you will probably not ended up caring that much about. And the harsh reality is that by doing all of this she will want you even more!

 
Soootch said:
Yeah I don't know.

Sounds nuts but I think in many situations it makes more sense to hit up the AMP a few times a month. Maybe it ends up costing a bit more than dating but you're saving tons of time, aggravation and drama, and ROI is guaranteed.
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I think everyone would agree with that conclusion.

 
stlrams said:
Great thread as I'm newly divorced 50 year.  Went out on 2 idates with one girl and never ever even offer to pay for drinks etc.   I'm $175 in right now with no major action.  Do I go for the 3rd date?  She's a divorced 47yr old with one kid. 
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see if she wants to Netflix and chill 

 
zed2283 said:
PM'd.  Taken a month and a half ago.
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You are nice looking, I'd say 7-8. You have a nice smile which is important. Hopefully you smile a lot. It not only lifts your mood even if you aren't feeling it but shows you are a happy with yourself/confident person..

 
CurlyNight said:
You are nice looking, I'd say 7-8. You have a nice smile which is important. Hopefully you smile a lot. It not only lifts your mood even if you aren't feeling it but shows you are a happy with yourself/confident person..
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You forgot to tell me I look younger than my age, which obviously will serve me well in chasing 20-somethings. :P  

But thank you for the compliments :D  

 
Captain Cranks said:
It's really strange, but in some instances stuff like that becomes attractive to the women who love them.  I told my wife I was going to start dying my beard and sides of my head because the gray is getting out of control.  She told me not to and that she likes that it's getting gray.  Then I started going on Propecia because I noticed I'm starting to thin out up top.  She's like, "I wouldn't.  I think it's cute that you're going bald."  WTF?  No dude I've ever met would say to his wife, "I think it's cute that you're growing a pouch."  
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Because you are well beyond the trying part of the relationship. You've settled in, which is cool. But here you find a 500 page thread on how my wife has gained weight whereas on a women's forum you don't find such a thread or talk about it. Men in general seem to place looks higher on the scale whereas women maybe not as much.

 
zed2283 said:
You forgot to tell me I look younger than my age, which obviously will serve me well in chasing 20-somethings. :P  

But thank you for the compliments :D  
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Well you are talking to someone when at 23 dated and even married a 46 year old who looked his age much to my parents chagrin. He was very charming and funny as hell. I was a rebel of sorts back then. Should have just kept it at dating but I was a bit wild and daring in my 20s. :D

 
CurlyNight said:
Well you are talking to someone when at 23 dated and even married a 46 year old who looked his age much to my parents chagrin. He was very charming and funny as hell. I was a rebel of sorts back then. Should have just kept it at dating but I was a bit wild and daring in my 20s. :D
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You see, guys?  Perfectly normal.

 
So the texts with the 26-year old have been getting hot and heavy the last couple of nights.  She's ready to burst, all I need to do is invite her out for drinks.  I know it sounds dumb but I'm hesitant because I really don't like tall chicks (again, she's 6'1" and taller than me) and her face is a 6.  But that body and attitude...

I'm going to PM offdee for an official ruling.

 
zed2283 said:
So the texts with the 26-year old have been getting hot and heavy the last couple of nights.  She's ready to burst, all I need to do is invite her out for drinks.  I know it sounds dumb but I'm hesitant because I really don't like tall chicks (again, she's 6'1" and taller than me) and her face is a 6.  But that body and attitude...

I'm going to PM offdee for an official ruling.
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You're way over thinking this.  Go have some fun.

(I'm way out of the game and happily married, so this is like voyeur smut for me.)

 
Thorn said:
This is correct IMO.  I met a buddy of mine at a bar where he is a regular a couple months ago, and the next day he texted me that the bartender was interested, but insisted that she hated texting and that I had better call her.  Going completely against my instincts, I called, and it was a disaster.  She didn't really understand who I was or why I was calling at first, and worse, she was at work.  She texted me later "oh now I know who you are, so sorry for not putting it together," but it was basically impossible to get rid of the awkwardness.
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Did your buddy prank you?

 
zed2283 said:
So the texts with the 26-year old have been getting hot and heavy the last couple of nights.  She's ready to burst, all I need to do is invite her out for drinks.  I know it sounds dumb but I'm hesitant because I really don't like tall chicks (again, she's 6'1" and taller than me) and her face is a 6.  But that body and attitude...

I'm going to PM offdee for an official ruling.
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A good/great personality can make a person way more attractive than what you see with your eyes

 
zed2283 said:
So the texts with the 26-year old have been getting hot and heavy the last couple of nights.  She's ready to burst, all I need to do is invite her out for drinks.  I know it sounds dumb but I'm hesitant because I really don't like tall chicks (again, she's 6'1" and taller than me) and her face is a 6.  But that body and attitude...

I'm going to PM offdee for an official ruling.
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So, I opened up the first 2 face shots and was like "uhhh, no".  Then I opened up the third pic of the body in bra in panties and was like "woah, what the hell?!", had to recheck other two pics again to make sure it was the same girl.  I have to assume for rating purposes that the body is maintained like that and it wasn't just a good snapshot in time.

Now this is all science GB, so reporting it like it is...

- Face (and knowing she's 6'1") =  4.5

5: Starting to be unattractive, but certain qualities work in her favor. Nothing major, but minor problems are more common
4: Not attractive. Major flaws start piling up (overweight, blemishes, etc.)

- Body = 7.5

8: One of the hotter women at the club, one of the hotter girls at school (upper class of hot women)
7: Cute girl at the club, in classes, at work, in apt building. Definitely cute, but not tops locally. 

OVERALL: Above averages out to an offdee official 6 which I think is very appropriate, and she falls in line exactly with that rating's definition.

6: Fairly attractive, no major flaws but maybe minor ones

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With all that said you are definitely overthinking this.  You are in a slump and you have a great body being offered up on a platter.  Move forward and use it to build up your confidence.  Be very up front with her that you're just enjoying dating right now and not looking for anything serious...it will actually make her want you more.  Rome wasn't built in a day GB, start small and dream big! Have fun!

 
offdee said:
So, I opened up the first 2 face shots and was like "uhhh, no".  Then I opened up the third pic of the body in bra in panties and was like "woah, what the hell?!", had to recheck other two pics again to make sure it was the same girl.  I have to assume for rating purposes that the body is maintained like that and it wasn't just a good snapshot in time.

Now this is all science GB, so reporting it like it is...

- Face (and knowing she's 6'1") =  4.5

5: Starting to be unattractive, but certain qualities work in her favor. Nothing major, but minor problems are more common
4: Not attractive. Major flaws start piling up (overweight, blemishes, etc.)

- Body = 7.5

8: One of the hotter women at the club, one of the hotter girls at school (upper class of hot women)
7: Cute girl at the club, in classes, at work, in apt building. Definitely cute, but not tops locally. 

OVERALL: Above averages out to an offdee official 6 which I think is very appropriate, and she falls in line exactly with that rating's definition.

6: Fairly attractive, no major flaws but maybe minor ones

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With all that said you are definitely overthinking this.  You are in a slump and you have a great body being offered up on a platter.  Move forward and use it to build up your confidence.  Be very up front with her that you're just enjoying dating right now and not looking for anything serious...it will actually make her want you more.  Rome wasn't built in a day GB, start small and dream big! Have fun!
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Yeah, I figured I was being a little generous with the 6 face.  The body pic was taken the other night.  Thus you understand my dilemma.

You're probably right.  We'll see what happens.  Thanks!

 
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In the interest of the thread, here is an 18-year old I scored on my last trip south a month and a half ago.  You may understand why I have such a hard time finding anything around here that meets my rigid standards.  She was tiny and perfect.

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zed2283 said:
In the interest of the thread, here is an 18-year old I scored on my last trip south a month and a half ago.  You may understand why I have such a hard time finding anything around here that meets my rigid standards.  She was tiny and perfect.

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7.5  (trending towards 8...and wouldn't fault anybody giving that)

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8: One of the hotter women at the club, one of the hotter girls at school (upper class of hot women)

7: Cute girl at the club, in classes, at work, in apt building. Definitely cute, but not tops locally. 

 
Just a little update on me from way back in the thread, haven't been around much...

Now active on Tinder, POF, and Match.  Not really doing that well on those.  Tinder has been absolutely nothing last couple months.  I need better pictures and I need to update my profile - been lazy about that.  Have gone on a couple Match dates with a 35yo blonde (I'm 44) who is pretty cute but a little big for my taste.

Good news is the hot 25yo is now a full fledged FWB so I'm getting that just about whenever I want.  She's cool with me dating but it's hard to be motivated with iDating when you've got that on the side.  But I would like more action so maybe I'll get off my ### and work harder.

 
17seconds said:
Just a little update on me from way back in the thread, haven't been around much...

Now active on Tinder, POF, and Match.  Not really doing that well on those.  Tinder has been absolutely nothing last couple months.  I need better pictures and I need to update my profile - been lazy about that.  Have gone on a couple Match dates with a 35yo blonde (I'm 44) who is pretty cute but a little big for my taste.

Good news is the hot 25yo is now a full fledged FWB so I'm getting that just about whenever I want.  She's cool with me dating but it's hard to be motivated with iDating when you've got that on the side.  But I would like more action so maybe I'll get off my ### and work harder.
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Wow, nice.  Good to know that we old dudes can get some young ones around here occasionally too.

I feel like Tinder has gotten really terrible in the last few weeks.  90% of the profiles look fake to me.

 
zed2283 said:
In the interest of the thread, here is an 18-year old I scored on my last trip south a month and a half ago.  You may understand why I have such a hard time finding anything around here that meets my rigid standards.  She was tiny and perfect.

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I've got to be honest, a 41 year old dude dating an 18 year old is creepy IMHO.  Mid-late 20's ok, but 18?  And for a dude like you who has no trouble finding gals, you shouldn't need to be an authority, father, whatever figure to these girls to get them.

If a 41 year old dude tried to date my 18 year old, I'd have a nice chat with him.  Plus any 18 yo who'd want to date you clearly has issues that someone who can get normal girls shouldn't need to rely on.  Again, just MHO.

 
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Bucky86 said:
I feel like this was a slow troll... "oh poor me. I can't even get a stuck up offdee 6 to write me back. I'm sooooo000 sad. I'm just forced to sob and whack off to memories from last month where I'm banging this ####### OFFDEE 9 chick. Pooooooor meeeee...." #### YOU
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To be fair, she was an offdee 7.5

 
zed2283 said:
So the texts with the 26-year old have been getting hot and heavy the last couple of nights.  She's ready to burst, all I need to do is invite her out for drinks.  I know it sounds dumb but I'm hesitant because I really don't like tall chicks (again, she's 6'1" and taller than me) and her face is a 6.  But that body and attitude...

I'm going to PM offdee for an official ruling.
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When you're taking batting practice, it doesn't have to be from Nolan Ryan.  Step up to the plate homey!

 
zed2283 said:
In the interest of the thread, here is an 18-year old I scored on my last trip south a month and a half ago.  You may understand why I have such a hard time finding anything around here that meets my rigid standards.  She was tiny and perfect.

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South America?  Love me some Brazil and Colombia.  Very gringo friendly (Brazil especially).  

 
James Daulton said:
I've got to be honest, a 41 year old dude dating an 18 year old is creepy IMHO.  Mid-late 20's ok, but 18?  And for a dude like you who has no trouble finding gals, you shouldn't need to be an authority, father, whatever figure to these girls to get them.

If a 41 year old dude tried to date my 18 year old, I'd have a nice chat with him.  Plus any 18 yo who'd want to date you clearly has issues that someone who can get normal girls shouldn't need to rely on.  Again, just MHO.
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Uhhhh... 

Dating for relationship? Sure... 41yo maybe shouldn't date 18yo seriously. 

Dating for fun/sex/sport? Especially while in another country? Why the hell not? 

 

 
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Uhhhh... 

Dating for relationship? Sure... 41yo maybe shouldn't date 18yo seriously. 

Dating for fun/sex/sport? Especially while in another country? Why the hell not? 

 
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I guess it sort of begs the question: how low would you go?  18 just seems like a child to me.  Not to mention, is legality the only barrier?  Would you have sex with a 16 year old in Brazil if it was legal?  

 
offdee said:
7.5  (trending towards 8...and wouldn't fault anybody giving that)

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7: Cute girl at the club, in classes, at work, in apt building. Definitely cute, but not tops locally. 
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Uhhhh... 

Dating for relationship? Sure... 41yo maybe shouldn't date 18yo seriously. 

Dating for fun/sex/sport? Especially while in another country? Why the hell not? 

 
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Because an 18 YO is so immature emotionally that its creepy.  This dude has no problem pulling tail (particularly in other countries),  so why not go for 25+?  Not like his options will be that much more limited plus he can tell himself he's not getting laid simply because some young girl needs a daddy figure.  I'd rather get laid because I'm attractive, funny, etc. 

 
Thorn said:
I guess it sort of begs the question: how low would you go?  18 just seems like a child to me.  Not to mention, is legality the only barrier?  Would you have sex with a 16 year old in Brazil if it was legal?  
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I'd like to say I wouldnt, but if a 5'11 fully developed 16 year old Brazilian future Victorias secret model willingly  offered it up (and if that's legal in brazil, I have no idea) i don't think I'd be able to turn it down.

I'd kinda feel like a #### afterwards, but I dont think I could pass for moral reasons.

 
James Daulton said:
Because an 18 YO is so immature emotionally that its creepy.  This dude has no problem pulling tail (particularly in other countries),  so why not go for 25+?  Not like his options will be that much more limited plus he can tell himself he's not getting laid simply because some young girl needs a daddy figure.  I'd rather get laid because I'm attractive, funny, etc. 
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Don't know if you're talking about me or not, but I have all kinds of problems pulling tail except in other countries.

As to the age, everyone is different, and people in other countries tend to grow up a lot faster than they do here.  18-25 year olds are waaaaay more mature than they are here.

 
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