***Official*** FFA iDating Thread (4 Viewers)

[Poke_4_Life]

I've been chatting about a week with a very cute 19-year old college girl who lives about an hour and a half away from me.  She's pretty cool, likes older men, and we seem to be getting along great.  Have talked several times on the phone and skyped last night, so I know I'm not getting catfished.  So here's the kicker... she is a virgin.  But I can tell you that she is very curious, her hormones are raging, and she wants me to be the one.

Of course, I know people in this thread would think that would be creepy, so I guess I won't.   

Wow, this is almost worthy of its own thread but then again it will get overrun by the pervs.  Keep up the good fight zed.  I believe in you.

 

[James Daulton]

I've been chatting about a week with a very cute 19-year old college girl who lives about an hour and a half away from me.  She's pretty cool, likes older men, and we seem to be getting along great.  Have talked several times on the phone and skyped last night, so I know I'm not getting catfished.  So here's the kicker... she is a virgin.  But I can tell you that she is very curious, her hormones are raging, and she wants me to be the one.

Of course, I know people in this thread would think that would be creepy, so I guess I won't.   

Why would you even consider this?  There's tons of red flags and yes a mid-40's dude "dating" a 19 year old is stupid and creepy.  If you can't pull chicks within 15 years of your age then methinks there's an issue with you.

 

[TLEF316]

Yeah, I gotta agree.

Driving an hour and a half to #### a 19 year old virgin seems pretty screwed up. Both parties have issues. 

 

[Wingnut]

Jeebus, just installed Bumble, theres no way all these chicks are real...theyre all 7s or hotter...not a single mediocre one. Time to get to swiping right....

 

[zed2283]

Well that's why I posted it, for you guys to help me keep some perspective.

 

[Major]

What's this about not being able to see chicks on Bumble?

I've never had an issue.

I was referring to the beehive/match section.  There are a bunch of expiring matches listed with their faces blurred up top in green.  I believe these are girls who swiped right on me but I haven't swiped on them?  I dunno.  I do know that the talent on Bumble is top notch.   Probably best ratio of hot to heifer on the internets.   

 

[Major]

I think they're expired matches, women who swiped on you but then chose not to start a conversation within 24 hours. If you pay money, you can re-start the clock on them and give them a second chance to message you.

Sounds like a scam.

Did some research and I guess the beeline is a relatively new feature.  Copied from Reddit:

How do BeeLine expirations work? 

When a woman swipes right, I see a blurred out image on the matches tab that says I can subscribe to BeeLine to see who is swiping right on them without having to find them in the normal swipe queue.

However, it also looks like it expires. If it expires (because I haven't found them in the normal swipe queue), will they still eventually turn up in the normal swipe queue? Or are they gone forever?

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[–]YourProduceCodes 10 points 8 days ago 

I just paid $9.99 to answer your question. From what I can tell, the beeline just shows who has swiped right on you. I don't know if it expires or not. But when you click on their picture, it brings up their profile, on which you can then swipe left or right. Hope that helps.

 

[wilked]

lol at no-brainer

zed goes on that date, he ends up either:

a) arrested (Dateline approach)

b) minus his kidneys

c) face to face with a teenage boy playing a joke

d) blackmailed for some serious dough

it does not end up:

e)  She then fills in as Zed's dance partner and it is as he is teaching her the dance routine that they fall in love. It all comes apart when Zed's friend falls seriously ill after her abortion and the foreign beauty gets her father, who saves the girl's life. He then learns what the foreign beauty has been up to, who with and worse - that he funded the illegal abortion. He bans his daughter from any further association with "those people". In the first deliberately willful action of her life, the foreign beauty later sneaks out to see Zed- ostensibly to apologize for her father's rudeness - and ends up consummating her relationship with Zed.

 

[EYLive]

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Go for it zed!

 

[mr fancypants]

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Go for it zed!

 Just be sure to report back.

 

[Poke_4_Life]

 Just be sure to report back.

Or activate some type of dead man's switch in case you die.  

 

[Major]

 Just be sure to report back.

Zedd - seems like an ideal time to vlog/snapchat your experience.  The kids love that stuff.  Make sure to post links.  

 

[James Daulton]

So ask for ID.  

I don't understand being so risk averse when the potential payoff is laying a hot 19yo. He already said he's skyping with her and she wants to get to know him more before they get together. There's plenty of opportunity for him to take the necessary precautions.

If a 45 year old guy has to ask the chick for ID, then she's too young.  What's wrong with chicks in the 25 - 35 range?  No ID needed, creep factor is significantly lower, and she's not a ####### teenager anymore.

 

[EYLive]

One man's creepy is another man's yummy. 

 

[cstu]

If a 45 year old guy has to ask the chick for ID, then she's too young.  What's wrong with chicks in the 25 - 35 range?  No ID needed, creep factor is significantly lower, and she's not a ####### teenager anymore.

What's wrong with a chick who is 19-24? 

 

[cstu]

Otis started a thread on a 20 year old and no one said she was too young.

 

[James Daulton]

What's wrong with a chick who is 19-24? 

For a 45 year old guy?  IMHO too young.  Are we so thirsty that we'll use any advantage we have (age, maturity) to corral young chicks?  Why can't we just be regular guys and do regular stuff to bed women who were born within 2 decades of us?

 

[cstu]

Because an 18 YO is so immature emotionally that its creepy.  This dude has no problem pulling tail (particularly in other countries),  so why not go for 25+?  Not like his options will be that much more limited plus he can tell himself he's not getting laid simply because some young girl needs a daddy figure.  I'd rather get laid because I'm attractive, funny, etc. 

Umm, I'm so immature emotionally that it's creepy...

 

[cstu]

For a 45 year old guy?  IMHO too young.  Are we so thirsty that we'll use any advantage we have (age, maturity) to corral young chicks?  Why can't we just be regular guys and do regular stuff to bed women who were born within 2 decades of us?

I don't get it - they're human beings who are going to have sex with someone, I don't get why age has anything to do with it.  I've said this before but my dad was 50 when he married my mom who was 20 so that's my perspective.

 

[mr fancypants]

Otis started a thread on a 20 year old and no one said she was too young.

There's a big difference between lusting and perpetrating.

 

[mr fancypants]

I don't get it - they're human beings who are going to have sex with someone, I don't get why age has anything to do with it.  I've said this before but my dad was 50 when he married my mom who was 20 so that's my perspective.

Ah, So now we get to the root of your issues.

 

[James Daulton]

I don't get it - they're human beings who are going to have sex with someone, I don't get why age has anything to do with it.  I've said this before but my dad was 50 when he married my mom who was 20 so that's my perspective.

How about 40 and 16?  Is that cool?  this chick is only 3 years older.

 

[James Daulton]

I don't get it - they're human beings who are going to have sex with someone, I don't get why age has anything to do with it.  I've said this before but my dad was 50 when he married my mom who was 20 so that's my perspective.

If you think age and maturity play no part into sex and relationships then you probably should take a step back and do some more research. 

 

[fatguyinalittlecoat]

Yeah, I'm not gonna get all sanctimonious but the huge age difference seems icky to me.  I'm probably biased though because I generally prefer my women to be older that that.  My perspective might be different if I was really into young women.

 

[PIK95]

One man's creepy is another man's yummy. 

Which one of you guys had the giant shark teeth thing going?  That would be gold in a profile I would guess.

 

[Captain Cranks]

I'm sure. But there are many men who do not want this. They want long term/possibly marriage. That's what I'm talking about in my posts on first dates. Not saying that if you and/or the chic drink on the first date then that's it. I'm saying for me at least, if I'm looking for serious, I want to cut to the chase on the first date and see what the dude is like without alcohol. Now if I just want to have fun then who cares, right? With all the tech out these days to do with dating, most people I would imagine don't want to be wasting their time with someone past a first date when looking for serious if it's not there. Alcohol tends to make it more "there" than not, in my experience. Take away the alcohol and you'll see the real person.

I took your advice and gave a girl I'm talking to the option of coffee, drinks, or dinner for the first date.  We've connected really well and are on the same page with regard to our ultimate relationship goals.  She chose coffee "sometime this week", and I'd like to think she's using the Curly vetting method rather than just giving herself a quick out.  

That said, I need some help.  Should I be making sure this happens on the weekend?  How is one expected to dress for a coffee date?  Any venue ideas other than a Starbucks/Caribou?  

 

[CurlyNight]

I took your advice and gave a girl I'm talking to the option of coffee, drinks, or dinner for the first date.  We've connected really well and are on the same page with regard to our ultimate relationship goals.  She chose coffee "sometime this week", and I'd like to think she's using the Curly vetting method rather than just giving herself a quick out.  

That said, I need some help.  Should I be making sure this happens on the weekend?  How is one expected to dress for a coffee date?  Any venue ideas other than a Starbucks/Caribou?  

What is she wearing in her pics? I'd say nice casual. Ask her what day is good for her and if she prefers a place in particular. This way next step is time to meet.

 

[zed2283]

Quick update:

19-yo college girl seems to have lost interest.  We've barely communicated in the last two weeks.  JD probably found her and convinced her it was creepy.

26-yo 6'1" girl invited herself over to watch the football game last night, so we hung out for a bit.  Probably wanted me to make a move but I'm just not into her.

Matched up on Bumble a couple of days ago with a cute 21-yo college girl.  She said she doesn't have any experience with older men but has found it very difficult to find people her age that are interesting to be around.  Also says she is a non-practicing Wiccan, and has at least one wicked looking tattoo.  I seem to remember people on this board espousing the "benefits" of Wiccan girls, so I'm curious if anyone has anything to say about that.  We're trying to figure out a time to try to meet up this weekend.  I'm also awaiting the go-ahead from JD

 

[EYLive]

Quick update:

19-yo college girl seems to have lost interest.  We've barely communicated in the last two weeks.  JD probably found her and convinced her it was creepy.

26-yo 6'1" girl invited herself over to watch the football game last night, so we hung out for a bit.  Probably wanted me to make a move but I'm just not into her.

Matched up on Bumble a couple of days ago with a cute 21-yo college girl.  She said she doesn't have any experience with older men but has found it very difficult to find people her age that are interesting to be around.  Also says she is a non-practicing Wiccan, and has at least one wicked looking tattoo.  I seem to remember people on this board espousing the "benefits" of Wiccan girls, so I'm curious if anyone has anything to say about that.  We're trying to figure out a time to try to meet up this weekend.  I'm also awaiting the go-ahead from JD

You should have smushed the Amazon. Do it for lil Zed and the FFA. A woman that forward is likely ultra thirsty and would have let you do Dentist type things to her. 

Maybe I've been watching too much Penny Dreadful, but the Wiccan chick sounds scary.

 

[zed2283]

You should have smushed the Amazon. Do it for lil Zed and the FFA. A woman that forward is likely ultra thirsty and would have let you do Dentist type things to her. 

Maybe I've been watching too much Penny Dreadful, but the Wiccan chick sounds scary.

Did I mention she had just come from running 10 miles and asked if she could take a shower?  This was the second time we've gotten together and the first time she's been to my house.

I've seen two of the Wiccan's three tattoos in pics.  One is a knife and butterfly on her arm and the scary one is a skull-looking thing on her leg with a hat on it that looks like an owl.  Or something like that...  Don't know where or what the third tattoo is.

 

[James Daulton]

Must be some fantastic conversations you have with these girls.  Taylor Swift, Wiccan stuff, One Direction, all the kinds of things you as a 40 year old are interested in.

I know, I know, the sex is great.  But here's the kicker, you can actually date someone you have things in common with, AND have great sex.  Crazy to comprehend, I know.  Although you won't be those gal's daddy's age, so you may lose some of your shine to them.

 

[zed2283]

Must be some fantastic conversations you have with these girls.  Taylor Swift, Wiccan stuff, One Direction, all the kinds of things you as a 40 year old are interested in.

I know, I know, the sex is great.  But here's the kicker, you can actually date someone you have things in common with, AND have great sex.  Crazy to comprehend, I know.  Although you won't be those gal's daddy's age, so you may lose some of your shine to them.

Well the 26-yo and I typically talk about Chemistry and work, since she is a lab chemist.  Last night we were discussing differential equations because she's taking a class in order to go to grad school.  

The Wiccan is studying history, and that was always my favorite subject in school.  And I actually think it would be a pretty interesting discussion regarding her religion.

So I guess you're right, nothing to talk about.

 

[EYLive]

Did I mention she had just come from running 10 miles and asked if she could take a shower?  This was the second time we've gotten together and the first time she's been to my house.

I've seen two of the Wiccan's three tattoos in pics.  One is a knife and butterfly on her arm and the scary one is a skull-looking thing on her leg with a hat on it that looks like an owl.  Or something like that...  Don't know where or what the third tattoo is.

Oh, man. She's an athlete, and a wants to do shower stuff. Imagine her stamina if she runs 10 miles BEFORE a shower date at the guy's house. Hubba hubba.
If nothing else, do it for the awesome stories.

Yeah, that third wiccan tattoo is probably of lucifer.

 

[Captain Cranks]

Well the 26-yo and I typically talk about Chemistry and work, since she is a lab chemist.  Last night we were discussing differential equations because she's taking a class in order to go to grad school.  

The Wiccan is studying history, and that was always my favorite subject in school.  And I actually think it would be a pretty interesting discussion regarding her religion.

So I guess you're right, nothing to talk about.

I know I'd much rather be talking chemistry than soaping up teets and ####.  Well played.  

 

[jon_mx]

Does anyone have any good hug stories?   

 

[zed2283]

I know I'd much rather be talking chemistry than soaping up teets and ####.  Well played.  

Does anyone have any good hug stories?   

 

[Timmay]

How is this the first time I ever saw this thread. Im pissed at myself. 

Zed, dont listen to some of these sad sacks. I would of went for the Amazon chick, after talking about the revolutionary war, i'd show her how it was done back in the old days. 

On the virgin chick, I dont think I would even go down that road, if real, she seems like someone who would get attached to that D and would be a psycho. 

 

[Captain Cranks]

I took your advice and gave a girl I'm talking to the option of coffee, drinks, or dinner for the first date.  We've connected really well and are on the same page with regard to our ultimate relationship goals.  She chose coffee "sometime this week", and I'd like to think she's using the Curly vetting method rather than just giving herself a quick out.  

That said, I need some help.  Should I be making sure this happens on the weekend?  How is one expected to dress for a coffee date?  Any venue ideas other than a Starbucks/Caribou?  

I had this 'date' last Saturday.  It somehow went well despite the fact that I was a nervous wreck hopped up on caffeine.  I don't think it would gone nearly as well had I not built a rapport with her previously via email.  We had already laid a lot of the groundwork about each other and what we're looking for beforehand, so we had a comfort level before we met.  Knowing what I know now, I would not agree to a coffee date again.  It's a priority to relax and have fun on a first date.  I'm not able to do that on caffeine...I need a drink to take the edge off the first meeting.

 

[EYLive]

I had this 'date' last Saturday.  It somehow went well despite the fact that I was a nervous wreck hopped up on caffeine.  I don't think it would gone nearly as well had I not built a rapport with her previously via email.  We had already laid a lot of the groundwork about each other and what we're looking for beforehand, so we had a comfort level before we met.  Knowing what I know now, I would not agree to a coffee date again.  It's a priority to relax and have fun on a first date.  I'm not able to do that on caffeine...I need a drink to take the edge off the first meeting.

Did you end the date with a hug?

 

[Captain Cranks]

Did you end the date with a hug?

Began and ended.  I know how to handle mine.  

 

[Bogart]

Matched up on Bumble a couple of days ago with a cute 21-yo college girl.  She said she doesn't have any experience with older men but has found it very difficult to find people her age that are interesting to be around.  Also says she is a non-practicing Wiccan, and has at least one wicked looking tattoo.  I seem to remember people on this board espousing the "benefits" of Wiccan girls, so I'm curious if anyone has anything to say about that.  We're trying to figure out a time to try to meet up this weekend.  I'm also awaiting the go-ahead from JD

The second girl I dated after my divorce was a Wiccan. Super fun, great in bed. Not sure if that had anything to do with her religion or not, but there wasn't anything bad caused by her religion. We just quit dating because I was trying to get rid of everything and be more of a minimalist, and she was a self proclaimed hoarder. We talked about her religion, and it did seem to lead her to be more open minded and more appreciative of what she had.

 

[saintfool]

I had this 'date' last Saturday.  It somehow went well despite the fact that I was a nervous wreck hopped up on caffeine.  I don't think it would gone nearly as well had I not built a rapport with her previously via email.  We had already laid a lot of the groundwork about each other and what we're looking for beforehand, so we had a comfort level before we met.  Knowing what I know now, I would not agree to a coffee date again.  It's a priority to relax and have fun on a first date.  I'm not able to do that on caffeine...I need a drink to take the edge off the first meeting.




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just be careful (and bring a tissue)

 

[Poke_4_Life]

I had this 'date' last Saturday.  It somehow went well despite the fact that I was a nervous wreck hopped up on caffeine.  I don't think it would gone nearly as well had I not built a rapport with her previously via email.  We had already laid a lot of the groundwork about each other and what we're looking for beforehand, so we had a comfort level before we met.  Knowing what I know now, I would not agree to a coffee date again.  It's a priority to relax and have fun on a first date.  I'm not able to do that on caffeine...I need a drink to take the edge off the first meeting.

Splash a little (or a lot) of Jameson in your decaf coffee.  Win/Win!

 

[zed2283]

21-year old Wiccan chick canceled on a meet up last Thursday, saying she wasn't feeling well.  Haven't heard from her since then.

Have been chatting a week with a 31-year old cutie on Match but nothing so far.

Matched with a hot 26-year old Filipina yesterday morning on Tinder, we chatted a bit, exchanged numbers, and met up for drinks yesterday evening (fastest progression in my iDating history, I believe).  The conversation was good, if not a little forced.  I'm not sure if she is shy or maybe a little uninteresting, but she's a hottie so I will pursue further.  She just got separated 5 months ago, so not exactly sure what she's looking for.  She texted me this morning at 6am...

About 10:30 last night I got a text from a 33-year old woman I dated from OKC for a couple months about 4 years ago.  I haven't seen her in 2 and a half years but we're facebook friends and chat occasionally.  She's been dating a guy for a year and a half, is in love, and everything is great.  About a month ago she told me that they had an agreement of sorts, where they recognize that monogamy is unrealistic, and she wanted to know if I would be open to something purely physical on an occasional and random basis.  I said that I would, and apparently my number came up last night.  She invited me over, telling me I had to be gone by 1am and that we had to be quiet because her 11-year old son was home sleeping.  Not a problem!

 

[EYLive]

NOW WE'RE TALKIN'!!

 

[Captain Cranks]

21-year old Wiccan chick canceled on a meet up last Thursday, saying she wasn't feeling well.  Haven't heard from her since then.

Have been chatting a week with a 31-year old cutie on Match but nothing so far.

Matched with a hot 26-year old Filipina yesterday morning on Tinder, we chatted a bit, exchanged numbers, and met up for drinks yesterday evening (fastest progression in my iDating history, I believe).  The conversation was good, if not a little forced.  I'm not sure if she is shy or maybe a little uninteresting, but she's a hottie so I will pursue further.  She just got separated 5 months ago, so not exactly sure what she's looking for.  She texted me this morning at 6am...

About 10:30 last night I got a text from a 33-year old woman I dated from OKC for a couple months about 4 years ago.  I haven't seen her in 2 and a half years but we're facebook friends and chat occasionally.  She's been dating a guy for a year and a half, is in love, and everything is great.  About a month ago she told me that they had an agreement of sorts, where they recognize that monogamy is unrealistic, and she wanted to know if I would be open to something purely physical on an occasional and random basis.  I said that I would, and apparently my number came up last night.  She invited me over, telling me I had to be gone by 1am and that we had to be quiet because her 11-year old son was home sleeping.  Not a problem!

Strong to very strong.  Bonus points for it being someone within 20 years of your age.  

 

[cstu]

About 10:30 last night I got a text from a 33-year old woman I dated from OKC for a couple months about 4 years ago.  I haven't seen her in 2 and a half years but we're facebook friends and chat occasionally.  She's been dating a guy for a year and a half, is in love, and everything is great.  About a month ago she told me that they had an agreement of sorts, where they recognize that monogamy is unrealistic, and she wanted to know if I would be open to something purely physical on an occasional and random basis.  I said that I would, and apparently my number came up last night.  She invited me over, telling me I had to be gone by 1am and that we had to be quiet because her 11-year old son was home sleeping.  Not a problem!

Yeah, sure they have an agreement.  You need to do the right thing and tell this guy what's going on behind his back before the guy marries her.

ETA: this is one of those 'mature' women James Daulton loves to talk about.

 

[mquinnjr]

Yeah, sure they have an agreement.  You need to do the right thing and tell this guy what's going on behind his back before the guy marries her.

ETA: this is one of those 'mature' women James Daulton loves to talk about.

I'd take the odds on this not being the case, too. Being out by XYZam time means to me it's not above board. Proceed with caution.

 

[Timmay]

Just because you are Polygamous, doesnt mean you want to see who is banging your girl.  Out by 1am was doing all parties involved a favor. 

 

[zed2283]

Matched with a hot 26-year old Filipina yesterday morning on Tinder, we chatted a bit, exchanged numbers, and met up for drinks yesterday evening (fastest progression in my iDating history, I believe).  The conversation was good, if not a little forced.  I'm not sure if she is shy or maybe a little uninteresting, but she's a hottie so I will pursue further.  She just got separated 5 months ago, so not exactly sure what she's looking for.  She texted me this morning at 6am...

The Filipina came over this evening to watch a movie.  Second date and, well, yeah...