***Official*** FFA iDating Thread (1 Viewer)

[Capella]

mother ####er

 

[mr. furley]

mother ####er

 

[Disco Stu]

man, i don't know what to say in these ####### e-mails

Woz, I've mentioned this before, too, but I'll mention it again...make them about the girl instead of about you. You did well in these by mentioning something about their professions (nurse, lawyer) and why that interested you, but pick out something else about each girl that makes her different and intriguing, and ask her about it. That's right--ask her a question (other than "do you want to get a drink?"), give her a chance to talk about herself a little. Don't try to impress her.

Don't give her too much and scare her off. Just something short and simple and open-ended. Never anything remotely negative.You sent her a message, so she already knows you're interested. If she wants to find out something about you, she'll click on your profile (it's right there!). If she thinks you're good looking enough and you don't say something stupid, she'll respond.

 

[krista4]

mother ####er

 

[Disco Stu]

mother ####er

"Read, deleted."

 

[Keys Myaths]

seriously, i'm beginning to think any quality girl likely wouldn't have to resort to idating.

you'd be wrong.

Met some incredible people on there. We weren't right for each other, obviously, but saying that is pretty wrong.

 

[Keys Myaths]

just e-mailed "3"

Good. Now get more lines in the water.Edit: I figured you'd like that one and hadn't even noticed the "law" thing. She just looked "pure" or some horse####...

definitely my type Krista wanna go read what I sent to them to make sure i didn't #### up?

can you post them here? I'm new to this thread.

I guess. To 3:Hey Shannon, My name is Mike and I will be living in the Twin Cities to complete my third year of law school. I see you are a lawyer and while I haven't dated inside our profession yet, dating outside of it hasn't been working out so well either so I figured I'd give it a shot. I too am new to the area and don't want this cold to keep me down as well as the books, so maybe we can find some things to do to keep our mind off work. Let me know if you'd like to have a drink or get together sometime...Take care,Mike To 8:Hey Katie, my name is Mike and I'll be a third year law student in the Twin Cities so I'm fairly new to the area and thought I'd give this a shot. To be honest, you are perhaps one of the only normal looking people I've seen on here so figured I'd send you a message. Your profile suggests you have a friend who has had some success here and that's also why I'm here because I've heard good things about it, so who knows, we should meet for a drink sometime and see if it works for us too. Take care,MikeTo 10:Hey, my name is Mike and I wanted to say I like your profile. I find it very cool that you're a nurse - it's a great profession where a lot of good is done. Not so much like mine where I on occassion defend pedophiles and other fun people... Anyways, if you'd like to have a drink sometime let me know. Take care,Mike

These are awesome.

Wait, this happened?No.Mikey, you're now required to e-mail me your messages before you send them out. This is just wrong.

 

[Capella]

pedophiles

sorry, woz.

 

[Slinger]

i suck at life

What would Mark Grace do?

slumpbuster

Woz. I know you're different than your average guy, but you really do need to go to your local bar and sleep with the least attractive woman possible. I don't care if she has a beard, have a few shots of JD and tap that.The following week, pick up someone who's a tad bit more attractive.Rinse and repeat and you'll get your mojo back.

 

[BassNBrew]

#### I just blew away a long response to Woz's replies.

Woz...You came of as pompous, insecure, 3rd gradish, weird, mean spirited, unsuccessful, psycho, boorish...all in the same note. Well done, that takes talent.

 

[Keys Myaths]

#### I just blew away a long response to Woz's replies.Woz...You came of as pompous, insecure, 3rd gradish, weird, mean spirited, unsuccessful, psycho, boorish...all in the same note. Well done, that takes talent.

And only a few of those actually describe him.j/k, gb.

 

[Slinger]

i suck at life

What would Mark Grace do?

slumpbuster

 

[BassNBrew]

Courtesy of Cappy, this may help you Woz.

 

[BassNBrew]

Hey Woz...why not pay Krista $101 to write your next e-mail responses for you. You could learn a few things and I'm sure she'd be money in getting you replies.

 

[Keys Myaths]

More importantly than anything, don't bring up pedophiles. Pretty much ever.

It's so sad that this needed to be said, but I'm laughing really hard right now.

 

[Bankerguy]

Geez...been busy in here lately.

 

[strykerpks]

Wow..just wow...Woz, as has been stated earlier, keep it short and sweet. Pick like 2 things about her profile that shows you're paying attention. Make a quick joke (doesn't even have to be good) and ask a question or two. Don't offer too much about yourself, leave her intrigued. Give her a reason to want to respond. Here's a sample email that worked for me...she mentioned moving here and she had a caption on pic that mentioned it was her 3rd time being maid of honor...

Hi Katie,Always a bridesmaid, never a bride huh? I know that feeling I stood up in my 6th wedding last weekend and have my 7th coming in September! Such good friends we are! So, you are moving the Milwaukee? Will you be working in MPS? What area of the city do you plan to move to? You can get a hold of me on IM as strykerpks. Or you can shoot an email my way with the same name to gmail.com. Hope to hear from you soon!Matt

Katie just left my place Although she is getting pretty clingy

 

[Mr. Pickles]

More importantly than anything, don't bring up pedophiles. Pretty much ever.

I'm seeing a pattern here..

 

[Sea Leopard of Death]

What's goin on?

 

[Alias]

woz read this, SERIOUSLY:

http://gunwitch.fastseduction.com

particularly the bolded part:

The conversation. You don't need to worry about what you aren't saying to get into women’s pants. It’s what you’re saying to keep you -out of them- that you need be concerned about. Try not to swear so much you ####### #######, its not really sexy. Don't talk about puke, ####, piss, ejaculate, death, your horrid job, her horrid job, illness, religion, politics, rape, child molestation, pornography, or SEX (yes that's right no sex talk, being sexual yet tactful with your words is what women call "subtle”, and as was mentioned, gets them thinking sexually EASIER than saying it outright). Nothing NEGATIVE. You don't wanna talk about her problems or negative things, so if it comes up change the subject. Otherwise, she'll tend to associate negative things with you. It’s the same problem that talking about romance and love ect, causes, except in reverse. You don’t wanna talk about these things that she associates as GOOD with you, because it will prod her to put you into a dating "make him wait" “start a relationship” frame of reference. The same goes for negative topics. You want the topics as neutral. People underestimate the power of just getting to know each other as a comfort builder between folks, so they complicate it with LOADS of "say this, say that" armchair psychology.

add abortion to that list

 

[Keys Myaths]

Wow..just wow...Woz, as has been stated earlier, keep it short and sweet. Pick like 2 things about her profile that shows you're paying attention. Make a quick joke (doesn't even have to be good) and ask a question or two. Don't offer too much about yourself, leave her intrigued. Give her a reason to want to respond. Here's a sample email that worked for me...she mentioned moving here and she had a caption on pic that mentioned it was her 3rd time being maid of honor...

Hi Katie,Always a bridesmaid, never a bride huh? I know that feeling I stood up in my 6th wedding last weekend and have my 7th coming in September! Such good friends we are! So, you are moving the Milwaukee? Will you be working in MPS? What area of the city do you plan to move to? You can get a hold of me on IM as strykerpks. Or you can shoot an email my way with the same name to gmail.com. Hope to hear from you soon!Matt

Katie just left my place Although she is getting pretty clingy

Waiiit.So, your name is Matt, you're iDating a girl named Katie, and she's getting clingy?I know how this ends. RUN!!!

 

[strykerpks]

Wow..just wow...Woz, as has been stated earlier, keep it short and sweet. Pick like 2 things about her profile that shows you're paying attention. Make a quick joke (doesn't even have to be good) and ask a question or two. Don't offer too much about yourself, leave her intrigued. Give her a reason to want to respond. Here's a sample email that worked for me...she mentioned moving here and she had a caption on pic that mentioned it was her 3rd time being maid of honor...

Hi Katie,Always a bridesmaid, never a bride huh? I know that feeling I stood up in my 6th wedding last weekend and have my 7th coming in September! Such good friends we are! So, you are moving the Milwaukee? Will you be working in MPS? What area of the city do you plan to move to? You can get a hold of me on IM as strykerpks. Or you can shoot an email my way with the same name to gmail.com. Hope to hear from you soon!Matt

Katie just left my place :(Although she is getting pretty clingy

Waiiit.So, your name is Matt, you're iDating a girl named Katie, and she's getting clingy?I know how this ends. RUN!!!

 

[mr. furley]

Hope to hear from you soon!Matt

Katie just left my place Although she is getting pretty clingy

Matt>

 

[strykerpks]

Hope to hear from you soon!Matt

Katie just left my place Although she is getting pretty clingy

Matt>

 

[Keys Myaths]

Hope to hear from you soon!Matt

Katie just left my place Although she is getting pretty clingy

Matt>

 

[mr. furley]

Hope to hear from you soon!Matt

Katie just left my place Although she is getting pretty clingy

Matt>

:(

:awkwardmanhugw/buttsqueeze:

 

[Keys Myaths]

Hope to hear from you soon!Matt

Katie just left my place Although she is getting pretty clingy

Matt>

:(

:awkwardmanhugw/buttsqueeze:

 

[krista4]

Wow..just wow...Woz, as has been stated earlier, keep it short and sweet. Pick like 2 things about her profile that shows you're paying attention. Make a quick joke (doesn't even have to be good) and ask a question or two. Don't offer too much about yourself, leave her intrigued. Give her a reason to want to respond. Here's a sample email that worked for me...she mentioned moving here and she had a caption on pic that mentioned it was her 3rd time being maid of honor...

Hi Katie,Always a bridesmaid, never a bride huh? I know that feeling I stood up in my 6th wedding last weekend and have my 7th coming in September! Such good friends we are! So, you are moving the Milwaukee? Will you be working in MPS? What area of the city do you plan to move to? You can get a hold of me on IM as strykerpks. Or you can shoot an email my way with the same name to gmail.com. Hope to hear from you soon!Matt

Katie just left my place Although she is getting pretty clingy

I guess it's obvious, but this is a pretty much perfect contact. It's light and breezy; it's short; it shows some interest in the girl; and it doesn't mention pedophilia. A+++++++

 

[Keys Myaths]

So, I might be headed back in here soon, although cautiously.

AA has been a HUGE disappointment. After two weeks, it feels like a cult, and it's making me extremely uncomfortable. The no-dating thing was fine...until they started laying on more "rules" that had nothing to do with stopping drinking. It's sad that I have to do the whole sobriety thing on my own, but they kept telling me what a bad person I was in EVERY aspect of my life, and how horrible my life is right now, and that they had the only solution.

Sounds way too much like I'm being indoctrinated, rather than helped.

As far as this is concerned, it'll be a little bit until I'm sure I can handle this on my own, but I don't see the harm in coming back.

 

[Drifter]

Hey. I defend pedophiles. You look sorta normal. Wanna go out?

 

[krista4]

So, I might be headed back in here soon, although cautiously.AA has been a HUGE disappointment. After two weeks, it feels like a cult, and it's making me extremely uncomfortable. The no-dating thing was fine...until they started laying on more "rules" that had nothing to do with stopping drinking. It's sad that I have to do the whole sobriety thing on my own, but they kept telling me what a bad person I was in EVERY aspect of my life, and how horrible my life is right now, and that they had the only solution.Sounds way too much like I'm being indoctrinated, rather than helped.As far as this is concerned, it'll be a little bit until I'm sure I can handle this on my own, but I don't see the harm in coming back.

Good luck; I think you can do it. No doubt AA does a lot of good for a lot of people, but the people I've known who went through it...yeah, that come out a bit odd on the other side. Very obsessive and as you said, indoctrinated. I'm sure it doesn't happen to everyone...

 

[Alias]

So, I might be headed back in here soon, although cautiously.AA has been a HUGE disappointment. After two weeks, it feels like a cult, and it's making me extremely uncomfortable. The no-dating thing was fine...until they started laying on more "rules" that had nothing to do with stopping drinking. It's sad that I have to do the whole sobriety thing on my own, but they kept telling me what a bad person I was in EVERY aspect of my life, and how horrible my life is right now, and that they had the only solution.Sounds way too much like I'm being indoctrinated, rather than helped.As far as this is concerned, it'll be a little bit until I'm sure I can handle this on my own, but I don't see the harm in coming back.

Hey Keys -I have never done AA but know guys that have. To be honest I didn't think you were an alcoholic, at least compared to the guys that I know that entered the program - those guys were serious binge drinkers that would go on 3-4 day benders - I am talking being drunk all the time. I think so long as you don't crave the sauce you should be o.k. I like to drink but I really only go out once maybe twice a week - if anything I think I need to go out more. I also have a fridge stocked with beers and I never drink them when I am alone - to health conscious. Not trying to be the devil here, but if it is not working for you I say get out. The way you describe it, it almost sounds like it is run in a church by a pragmatic preacher or something.

 

[Disco Stu]

Hey. I defend pedophiles. You look sorta normal. Wanna go out?

This is going to be funny for awhile...

 

[larry_boy_44]

sorta off the cuff.... no good??

No. Way too...weird. Don't have to dive into the legal thing. Say something nice about them. Avoid putting down others. Avoid the drink thing early on, talk to them once or twice first. They'll feel more comfortable. More importantly than anything, don't bring up pedophiles. Pretty much ever.

trying to be funny i guess

how did I miss this thread???

 

[Keys Myaths]

So, I might be headed back in here soon, although cautiously.AA has been a HUGE disappointment. After two weeks, it feels like a cult, and it's making me extremely uncomfortable. The no-dating thing was fine...until they started laying on more "rules" that had nothing to do with stopping drinking. It's sad that I have to do the whole sobriety thing on my own, but they kept telling me what a bad person I was in EVERY aspect of my life, and how horrible my life is right now, and that they had the only solution.Sounds way too much like I'm being indoctrinated, rather than helped.As far as this is concerned, it'll be a little bit until I'm sure I can handle this on my own, but I don't see the harm in coming back.

Hey Keys -I have never done AA but know guys that have. To be honest I didn't think you were an alcoholic, at least compared to the guys that I know that entered the program - those guys were serious binge drinkers that would go on 3-4 day benders - I am talking being drunk all the time. I think so long as you don't crave the sauce you should be o.k. I like to drink but I really only go out once maybe twice a week - if anything I think I need to go out more. I also have a fridge stocked with beers and I never drink them when I am alone - to health conscious. Not trying to be the devil here, but if it is not working for you I say get out. The way you describe it, it almost sounds like it is run in a church by a pragmatic preacher or something.

Thanks John. Maybe I am, maybe I'm not. Still feel I am, but that program is just NOT for me.

 

[Keys Myaths]

sorta off the cuff.... no good??

No. Way too...weird. Don't have to dive into the legal thing. Say something nice about them. Avoid putting down others. Avoid the drink thing early on, talk to them once or twice first. They'll feel more comfortable. More importantly than anything, don't bring up pedophiles. Pretty much ever.

trying to be funny i guess

how did I miss this thread???

You coming to the charity event?

 

[strykerpks]

sorta off the cuff.... no good??

No. Way too...weird. Don't have to dive into the legal thing. Say something nice about them. Avoid putting down others. Avoid the drink thing early on, talk to them once or twice first. They'll feel more comfortable. More importantly than anything, don't bring up pedophiles. Pretty much ever.

trying to be funny i guess

how did I miss this thread???

You coming to the charity event?

Good luck to ya Keys. Im just a PM away...

 

[Disco Stu]

I signed up at plentyoffish yesterday. Looks pretty promising...

Outstanding response rate here. Uploaded a few pics to the underground. Hope to meet at least one of those three Saturday.

Hey Stu, whatever happened to the cute redhaired hairdresser? I think I was in with her myself. Seem to recall you lived far away from one another and were having trouble getting together...

Yeah, I kind of dropped it after that. I also got the impression that she enjoyed myspace public attention, which I'm not into at all. I don't want to be one of those schlubs drooling over some chick's myspace.She did send me a message there last weekend. And then I noticed her at POF, so I sent her a "familiar face" type note. I actually owe a response on that one. Maybe I should pursue this more just for you...

I thought she was the cutest girl that anyone posted.

Update:Message exchange at POF...

Hey "Red",

I just registered here about an hour ago. While I was trying to figure this place out, a familiar smile and crop of red hair along the bottom of the screen caught my eye.

Any luck with this site?

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No luck....a friend of mine told me about this site a month or so ago. I just think I'm in a funk, too picky and not ready to meet anyone, other than friends.

Let me know how it works for ya...

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I've gotta agree with the "too picky" part. I mean c'mon, you don't even want to meet ME???

Happy Birthday! Hope you're having a good one.

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Thanks! Sure we can meet. I just started thinking you probably live too far away :(

 

[larry_boy_44]

sorta off the cuff.... no good??

No. Way too...weird. Don't have to dive into the legal thing. Say something nice about them. Avoid putting down others. Avoid the drink thing early on, talk to them once or twice first. They'll feel more comfortable. More importantly than anything, don't bring up pedophiles. Pretty much ever.

trying to be funny i guess

how did I miss this thread???

You coming to the charity event?

what charity event?? Where???

 

[parasaurolophus]

So, I might be headed back in here soon, although cautiously.AA has been a HUGE disappointment. After two weeks, it feels like a cult, and it's making me extremely uncomfortable. The no-dating thing was fine...until they started laying on more "rules" that had nothing to do with stopping drinking. It's sad that I have to do the whole sobriety thing on my own, but they kept telling me what a bad person I was in EVERY aspect of my life, and how horrible my life is right now, and that they had the only solution.Sounds way too much like I'm being indoctrinated, rather than helped.As far as this is concerned, it'll be a little bit until I'm sure I can handle this on my own, but I don't see the harm in coming back.

Hey Keys -I have never done AA but know guys that have. To be honest I didn't think you were an alcoholic, at least compared to the guys that I know that entered the program - those guys were serious binge drinkers that would go on 3-4 day benders - I am talking being drunk all the time. I think so long as you don't crave the sauce you should be o.k. I like to drink but I really only go out once maybe twice a week - if anything I think I need to go out more. I also have a fridge stocked with beers and I never drink them when I am alone - to health conscious. Not trying to be the devil here, but if it is not working for you I say get out. The way you describe it, it almost sounds like it is run in a church by a pragmatic preacher or something.

Thanks John. Maybe I am, maybe I'm not. Still feel I am, but that program is just NOT for me.

this may be the only telling sign so far in what I have read that you may actually have a problem.I didnt think you did before. I thought you were being a little over dramatic. I still pretty much feel that way. However, i think that many people who do have a problem have a very strong reaction against AA. So You should at least make sure you examine this closely to make sure it is not a defensive move.

 

[strykerpks]

sorta off the cuff.... no good??

No. Way too...weird. Don't have to dive into the legal thing. Say something nice about them. Avoid putting down others. Avoid the drink thing early on, talk to them once or twice first. They'll feel more comfortable. More importantly than anything, don't bring up pedophiles. Pretty much ever.

trying to be funny i guess

how did I miss this thread???

You coming to the charity event?

what charity event?? Where???

LINK

 

[Keys Myaths]

So, I might be headed back in here soon, although cautiously.AA has been a HUGE disappointment. After two weeks, it feels like a cult, and it's making me extremely uncomfortable. The no-dating thing was fine...until they started laying on more "rules" that had nothing to do with stopping drinking. It's sad that I have to do the whole sobriety thing on my own, but they kept telling me what a bad person I was in EVERY aspect of my life, and how horrible my life is right now, and that they had the only solution.Sounds way too much like I'm being indoctrinated, rather than helped.As far as this is concerned, it'll be a little bit until I'm sure I can handle this on my own, but I don't see the harm in coming back.

Hey Keys -I have never done AA but know guys that have. To be honest I didn't think you were an alcoholic, at least compared to the guys that I know that entered the program - those guys were serious binge drinkers that would go on 3-4 day benders - I am talking being drunk all the time. I think so long as you don't crave the sauce you should be o.k. I like to drink but I really only go out once maybe twice a week - if anything I think I need to go out more. I also have a fridge stocked with beers and I never drink them when I am alone - to health conscious. Not trying to be the devil here, but if it is not working for you I say get out. The way you describe it, it almost sounds like it is run in a church by a pragmatic preacher or something.

Thanks John. Maybe I am, maybe I'm not. Still feel I am, but that program is just NOT for me.

this may be the only telling sign so far in what I have read that you may actually have a problem.I didnt think you did before. I thought you were being a little over dramatic. I still pretty much feel that way. However, i think that many people who do have a problem have a very strong reaction against AA. So You should at least make sure you examine this closely to make sure it is not a defensive move.

I have. I really don't want to leave, because it did so much for my dad. I thought long/hard about it last night, to make sure that I wasn't just making excuses.I'm really not. It might be the Madison people, but the stories/discussions about sobriety don't bother me, the steps really didn't bother me, it was the attitude of the program in general.

 

[parasaurolophus]

I have. I really don't want to leave, because it did so much for my dad. I thought long/hard about it last night, to make sure that I wasn't just making excuses.I'm really not. It might be the Madison people, but the stories/discussions about sobriety don't bother me, the steps really didn't bother me, it was the attitude of the program in general.

Madison is just plain weird.You may want to give another city a chance. Maybe something a little less socialistic. Actually Keys Madison might be your whole problem. If you arent drinking, it pretty much sucks.

 

[Keys Myaths]

Actually Keys Madison might be your whole problem. If you arent drinking, it pretty much sucks.

Yeah, not leaving.My job is too awesome. But anyway, enough about me. I want more stories!

 

[Woz]

last night = bad

remind me not to e-mail when i'm drinking alone next time

 

[larry_boy_44]

last night = badremind me not to e-mail when i'm drinking alone next time

what did you do???

 

[Woz]

last night = badremind me not to e-mail when i'm drinking alone next time

what did you do???

had two cute girls give a "read deleted" to some bad e-mails i sent

 

[krista4]

I signed up at plentyoffish yesterday. Looks pretty promising...

Outstanding response rate here. Uploaded a few pics to the underground. Hope to meet at least one of those three Saturday.

Hey Stu, whatever happened to the cute redhaired hairdresser? I think I was in with her myself. Seem to recall you lived far away from one another and were having trouble getting together...

Yeah, I kind of dropped it after that. I also got the impression that she enjoyed myspace public attention, which I'm not into at all. I don't want to be one of those schlubs drooling over some chick's myspace.She did send me a message there last weekend. And then I noticed her at POF, so I sent her a "familiar face" type note. I actually owe a response on that one. Maybe I should pursue this more just for you...

I thought she was the cutest girl that anyone posted.

Update:Message exchange at POF...

Hey "Red",

I just registered here about an hour ago. While I was trying to figure this place out, a familiar smile and crop of red hair along the bottom of the screen caught my eye.

Any luck with this site?

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No luck....a friend of mine told me about this site a month or so ago. I just think I'm in a funk, too picky and not ready to meet anyone, other than friends.

Let me know how it works for ya...

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I've gotta agree with the "too picky" part. I mean c'mon, you don't even want to meet ME???

Happy Birthday! Hope you're having a good one.

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Thanks! Sure we can meet. I just started thinking you probably live too far away :(

Well played! (Of course, I hand out "well played" cards at this point to anyone who doesn't mention pedophilia.) Hope you two get a chance to get together.

 

[strykerpks]

Well played! (Of course, I hand out "well played" cards at this point to anyone who doesn't mention pedophilia.) Hope you two get a chance to get together.

Sig-worthy

 

[Woz]

I signed up at plentyoffish yesterday. Looks pretty promising...

Outstanding response rate here. Uploaded a few pics to the underground. Hope to meet at least one of those three Saturday.

Hey Stu, whatever happened to the cute redhaired hairdresser? I think I was in with her myself. Seem to recall you lived far away from one another and were having trouble getting together...

Yeah, I kind of dropped it after that. I also got the impression that she enjoyed myspace public attention, which I'm not into at all. I don't want to be one of those schlubs drooling over some chick's myspace.She did send me a message there last weekend. And then I noticed her at POF, so I sent her a "familiar face" type note. I actually owe a response on that one. Maybe I should pursue this more just for you...

I thought she was the cutest girl that anyone posted.

Update:Message exchange at POF...

Hey "Red",

I just registered here about an hour ago. While I was trying to figure this place out, a familiar smile and crop of red hair along the bottom of the screen caught my eye.

Any luck with this site?

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No luck....a friend of mine told me about this site a month or so ago. I just think I'm in a funk, too picky and not ready to meet anyone, other than friends.

Let me know how it works for ya...

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I've gotta agree with the "too picky" part. I mean c'mon, you don't even want to meet ME???

Happy Birthday! Hope you're having a good one.

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Thanks! Sure we can meet. I just started thinking you probably live too far away :(

Well played! (Of course, I hand out "well played" cards at this point to anyone who doesn't mention pedophilia.) Hope you two get a chance to get together.

fine, if you're gonna make fun of me, you're writing my next series of e-mails