Took the plunge and joined eHarmony.
Here's hoping!

I did the eHarmony thing about four years ago, my one and only foray into iDating (until I was matched with a guy who had previously stalked me). I actually felt like I got a lot out of those short answer questions...I would definitely have continued communication with the "killing spree" guy, just in hopes he was as hilarious as it might seem.
Alias, I've meant to mention to you--don't rule out an eHarmony match just because her picture is not yet available. I never let someone see my picture until he asked, just for privacy's sake. Probably about 1/4 of the people who closed a communication with me (before we started any) said it was because I didn't have a picture available. I figured those guys were stupid, and certainly not people that I was interested in getting to know anyway.
If you ever want thoughts on eHarmony, I'm happy to help.
I actually never do, well - if they have 0 photos on the site I close it immediately. There is an option to hide your photo until a later stage, I let those slip through the cracks. I don't want to have to wait until Open Communication to see what she looks like, that is just a little too much of an investment.I may hit you up for some advice later thanks for the offer.
A little too much? GB you eharmony guys, but I don't see how you have the necessary patience. I consider myself a patient person, but the main appeal of idating is to quickly browse through hundreds of people. Spending time on someone I haven't seen a picture of sounds -EV.And going through all the stages and structure sounds like a beating. Today on plentyoffish I set up a meeting with the blonde in the fifth or sixth brief message to her and one with "cribbage girl" in the second. Much more efficient IMO.
I think these guys are WAY overstating the amount of effort in eHarmony.First stage is to answer five multiple choice questions. Takes one minute, tops.
Second stage is sending "must haves" and "cant stands" that you selected at the beginning of signing up for the site. Five seconds, tops.
Third stage is answering three "short answer" questions like the ones Norville linked. Might take a minute to answer each, but once you've done so you just cut and paste from when you've answered the questions before. Five minutes (if writing the answer anew), tops.
Then you're in the "email" stage, and by then I always felt like I knew someone well enough that I'd either get together with him or I'd stop communication.
I fail to see how less than 10 minutes or so is "too much" work.