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[Sister Havana]

I actually sent the first message to a guy. He had an interesting profile and a picture of his dogs, and he mentioned they were rescue dogs, so I asked him about them and told him my dog is also a rescue. He also said that he was a Bears and Cubs fan so I talked about that too. He read the message - no answer yet, but he also hasn't deleted it. We'll see if he responds.

 

[Disco Stu]

Woz - Here my advice -

Play up the baseball/softball angle. That's huge for you. Mention that you play and coach.

Downplay the law school thing - do a little aww schucks - it's not that great, routine. Ask her what she's studying/ if she know what she wants to do. It's important to downplay to balance out the talking about yourself regarding baseball.

Ask her where she goes out. Ask her where she's travelled and where she'd like to travel.

This is a dangerous spot for you, since you'll be tempted to talk too much about yourself.If it were me, I'd jump on the "anything else you find yourself burning to ask me" bit. That's a possible opening to ask her out.

The more I do this, the more I see that arranging a meeting within the first day or two is huge. I think others have said this as well. She'll be getting new messages daily, and it's natural that the latest guy is going to be the one who's consuming the majority of her thoughts. You don't want to miss your window.

 

[Kraft...]

Woz - Here my advice -Play up the baseball/softball angle. That's huge for you. Mention that you play and coach.Downplay the law school thing - do a little aww schucks - it's not that great, routine. Ask her what she's studying/ if she know what she wants to do. It's important to downplay to balance out the talking about yourself regarding baseball. Ask her where she goes out. Ask her where she's travelled and where she'd like to travel.

Avoid the law school talk IMO, keep it light by playing up the sports/travel angles

 

[krista4]

Woz - Here my advice -Play up the baseball/softball angle. That's huge for you. Mention that you play and coach.Downplay the law school thing - do a little aww schucks - it's not that great, routine. Ask her what she's studying/ if she know what she wants to do. It's important to downplay to balance out the talking about yourself regarding baseball. Ask her where she goes out. Ask her where she's travelled and where she'd like to travel.

Avoid the law school talk IMO, keep it light by playing up the sports/travel angles

 

[Disco Stu]

The more I do this, the more I see that arranging a meeting within the first day or two is huge. I think others have said this as well. She'll be getting new messages daily, and it's natural that the latest guy is going to be the one who's consuming the majority of her thoughts. You don't want to miss your window.

Example of needing to strike while the iron's hot..."Cribbage girl" and I were supposed to meet last Tuesday. She had to work late, so she called to reschedule. I wasn't available the rest of the week, so we settled on tonight. Yesterday I emailed her to confirm, and for whatever reason she didn't reply. Missed the window I guess.I figured I'd give her until lunch to confirm and then make other plans. So now I'm meeting the first skinny blonde from yesterday instead.

 

[Keys Myaths]

The more I do this, the more I see that arranging a meeting within the first day or two is huge. I think others have said this as well. She'll be getting new messages daily, and it's natural that the latest guy is going to be the one who's consuming the majority of her thoughts. You don't want to miss your window.

Example of needing to strike while the iron's hot..."Cribbage girl" and I were supposed to meet last Tuesday. She had to work late, so she called to reschedule. I wasn't available the rest of the week, so we settled on tonight. Yesterday I emailed her to confirm, and for whatever reason she didn't reply. Missed the window I guess.I figured I'd give her until lunch to confirm and then make other plans. So now I'm meeting the first skinny blonde from yesterday instead.

This has happened to me quite a bit since I've come back. It's difficult.

 

[Disco Stu]

The more I do this, the more I see that arranging a meeting within the first day or two is huge. I think others have said this as well. She'll be getting new messages daily, and it's natural that the latest guy is going to be the one who's consuming the majority of her thoughts. You don't want to miss your window.

Example of needing to strike while the iron's hot..."Cribbage girl" and I were supposed to meet last Tuesday. She had to work late, so she called to reschedule. I wasn't available the rest of the week, so we settled on tonight. Yesterday I emailed her to confirm, and for whatever reason she didn't reply (was sitting unread as of this posting despite her being online several times). Missed the window I guess.I figured I'd give her until lunch to confirm and then make other plans. So now I'm meeting the first skinny blonde from yesterday instead.

This has happened to me quite a bit since I've come back. It's difficult.

I may have jumped the gun on the first original chick. I just sent a message saying I wasn't going to make it out tonight, and she replied within minutes. Says she's hoping we can work something out sometime.

 

[larry_boy_44]

so the one girl that got to "open communication" last night and me have talked a bit, we've e-mailed back and forth a bunch of times...

and then there are like 4 other girls that are right before open communication...

I'm a little nervous about how exactly you juggle 4 or 5 girls like that... lol

I've always had a hard enough time with one...

 

[Keys Myaths]

You need to get a face to face with the first one soon, Larry. Don't exchange e-mails forever.

 

[larry_boy_44]

You need to get a face to face with the first one soon, Larry. Don't exchange e-mails forever.

I know... working on it... we e-mailed last night, she got off the computer (I'm assuming, she didn't really say) at like 10:30 and she e-mailed me at 6:30 this morning...but has never replied to my response, so i'm assuming she's in class or something...

 

[Alias]

beauty and no brains - go get her!

 

[Disco Stu]

so the one girl that got to "open communication" last night and me have talked a bit, we've e-mailed back and forth a bunch of times...and then there are like 4 other girls that are right before open communication...I'm a little nervous about how exactly you juggle 4 or 5 girls like that... lolI've always had a hard enough time with one...

It's not that difficult online. I sometimes struggle to keep stuff straight that's talked about in person or on the phone though (another reason to avoid the phone, no records to refer back to).Was she the only child or is she the one with family nearby?Did we already talk about ____ or was that a different girl?[strykerpks]Is this the girl who likes the shocker?[/strykerpks]

 

[krista4]

beauty and no brains - go get her!

Interesting that a model can be less than 5 feet tall.

 

[Keys Myaths]

so the one girl that got to "open communication" last night and me have talked a bit, we've e-mailed back and forth a bunch of times...and then there are like 4 other girls that are right before open communication...I'm a little nervous about how exactly you juggle 4 or 5 girls like that... lolI've always had a hard enough time with one...

It's not that difficult online. I sometimes struggle to keep stuff straight that's talked about in person or on the phone though (another reason to avoid the phone, no records to refer back to).Was she the only child or is she the one with family nearby?Did we already talk about ____ or was that a different girl?[strykerpks]Is this the girl who likes the shocker?[/strykerpks]

Just don't look at the stomach, and keep your eye on the prize.

 

[larry_boy_44]

so the one girl that got to "open communication" last night and me have talked a bit, we've e-mailed back and forth a bunch of times...and then there are like 4 other girls that are right before open communication...I'm a little nervous about how exactly you juggle 4 or 5 girls like that... lolI've always had a hard enough time with one...

It's not that difficult online. I sometimes struggle to keep stuff straight that's talked about in person or on the phone though (another reason to avoid the phone, no records to refer back to).Was she the only child or is she the one with family nearby?Did we already talk about ____ or was that a different girl?[strykerpks]Is this the girl who likes the shocker?[/strykerpks]

well, the last one won't be too much of an issue... lol as, from thier profiles, I doubt I'm gonna be getting any of that kind of thing anytime soon... (although that's not really what I'm looking for so its all good)I'm a little worried about that kind of stuff, though...

 

[Kraft...]

[strykerpks]Is this the girl who likes the shocker?[/strykerpks]

 

[Woz]

gonna rip off an e-mail here pretty quick. will update w/ text when i do so you guys can call me an idiot for what i've said. still waiting on sweet j's layout of girls for me...

 

[larry_boy_44]

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[Woz]

The more I do this, the more I see that arranging a meeting within the first day or two is huge. I think others have said this as well. She'll be getting new messages daily, and it's natural that the latest guy is going to be the one who's consuming the majority of her thoughts. You don't want to miss your window.

Example of needing to strike while the iron's hot..."Cribbage girl" and I were supposed to meet last Tuesday. She had to work late, so she called to reschedule. I wasn't available the rest of the week, so we settled on tonight. Yesterday I emailed her to confirm, and for whatever reason she didn't reply. Missed the window I guess.I figured I'd give her until lunch to confirm and then make other plans. So now I'm meeting the first skinny blonde from yesterday instead.

I'd completely agree with this. You really gotta go all out right away, I had a bunch of girls who made it obvious they wanted to get together, but I was a little unsure and drug my feet and paid the price because the messages/phone calls fizzled out within a couple of weeks. Until this blonde I never really was into this all the way and if that's the case for anybody just don't even bother. Had a bunch of messages from girls basically telling me they hadn't heard from me for awhile, or my messages were bland, so I missed my chance or whatever. Kinda stupid since it's their loss, but that's how it works I guess.

 

[Sister Havana]

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Hey, I am posting my own updates in here too.

 

[Disco Stu]

gonna rip off an e-mail here pretty quick. will update w/ text when i do so you guys can call me an idiot for what i've said. still waiting on sweet j's layout of girls for me...

Seems like you'd be better off posting here before you hit send.

 

[larry_boy_44]

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Hey, I am posting my own updates in here too.

I know... just wanted to say hi...

 

[parasaurolophus]

gonna rip off an e-mail here pretty quick. will update w/ text when i do so you guys can call me an idiot for what i've said. still waiting on sweet j's layout of girls for me...

Seems like you'd be better off posting here before you hit send.

 

[Disco Stu]

so the one girl that got to "open communication" last night and me have talked a bit, we've e-mailed back and forth a bunch of times...and then there are like 4 other girls that are right before open communication...I'm a little nervous about how exactly you juggle 4 or 5 girls like that... lolI've always had a hard enough time with one...

It's not that difficult online. I sometimes struggle to keep stuff straight that's talked about in person or on the phone though (another reason to avoid the phone, no records to refer back to).Was she the only child or is she the one with family nearby?Did we already talk about ____ or was that a different girl?[strykerpks]Is this the girl who likes the shocker?[/strykerpks]

Just had a slip up. On the phone with the girl I'm seeing tonight...me: "So when do you get your daughter back?"her: "Daughter? You mean son?"me: "errr... yeah"

 

[JAA]

Woz - Here my advice -Play up the baseball/softball angle. That's huge for you. Mention that you play and coach.Downplay the law school thing - do a little aww schucks - it's not that great, routine. Ask her what she's studying/ if she know what she wants to do. It's important to downplay to balance out the talking about yourself regarding baseball. Ask her where she goes out. Ask her where she's travelled and where she'd like to travel.

 

[Woz]

Here's what I'm about to send. Will wait five minutes. If there are any glaring problems (seems a little long), let me know.

Hey Emily,

I completely understand the whole "things that need to be done and be stable" as far as money goes since there's not a whole lot of that around for us as students. However, I am very impressed that you even think about while in undergrad. Most of the people I hung out with, and I should include myself in this too occassionally, in undergrad were mainly concerned with where they could get the money for their next trip to the bar. You must have a good head on your shoulders and I'm sure you'll be fine when you get out into the "real world" (which isn't so bad).

It's also very impressive that you mentioned you liked softball. Do you play for your college team? If so, what position? I played outfield for my undergrad and have spent the last few summers playing MN amateur ball here for some tiny town near St. Cloud (which is actually pretty neat - the whole town comes out to watch!) and have been the head coach for a high school JV team for three years. So, I guess the answer as to what I like to do for fun would be playing baseball as much as I possibly can, as well as also hanging out with friends and the other normal stuff people our age do.

To answer your question about law school, it's something I knew I wanted to do since I was about seven years old and my mom let me stay up late to watch "Matlock" with her. I must say it's not as glamorous being a law student and lawyer as my little seven year old brain thought, but it's not so bad either since I'm kind of a big nerd and I'll be able to both enjoy my job and be set up financially...

Hopefully I answered your questions. I do have some more "burning things to ask" you, but I was thinking it'd just be easier to ask you if you'd feel comfortable getting together sometime maybe for coffee, dinner, or to hit some balls at the batting cage and learn more about each other that way. So, would you like to?

- Mike

 

[Woz]

gonna rip off an e-mail here pretty quick. will update w/ text when i do so you guys can call me an idiot for what i've said. still waiting on sweet j's layout of girls for me...

Seems like you'd be better off posting here before you hit send.

Way ahead of you, read my ####

 

[s_ezy]

a little long

 

[Disco Stu]

Here's what I'm about to send. Will wait five minutes. If there are any glaring problems (seems a little long), let me know.

A little???

 

[Tremendous Upside]

Here's what I'm about to send. Will wait five minutes. If there are any glaring problems (seems a little long), let me know. Hey Emily, I completely understand the whole "things that need to be done and be stable" as far as money goes since there's not a whole lot of that around for us as students. However, I am very impressed that you even think about while in undergrad. Most of the people I hung out with, and I should include myself in this too occassionally, in undergrad were mainly concerned with where they could get the money for their next trip to the bar. You must have a good head on your shoulders and I'm sure you'll be fine when you get out into the "real world" (which isn't so bad). It's also very impressive that you mentioned you liked softball. Do you play for your college team? If so, what position? I played outfield for my undergrad and have spent the last few summers playing MN amateur ball here for some tiny town near St. Cloud (which is actually pretty neat - the whole town comes out to watch!) and have been the head coach for a high school JV team for three years. So, I guess the answer as to what I like to do for fun would be playing baseball as much as I possibly can, as well as also hanging out with friends and the other normal stuff people our age do.To answer your question about law school, it's something I knew I wanted to do since I was about seven years old and my mom let me stay up late to watch "Matlock" with her. I must say it's not as glamorous being a law student and lawyer as my little seven year old brain thought, but it's not so bad either since I'm kind of a big nerd and I'll be able to both enjoy my job and be set up financially... Hopefully I answered your questions. I do have some more "burning things to ask" you, but I was thinking it'd just be easier to ask you if you'd feel comfortable getting together sometime maybe for coffee, dinner, or to hit some balls at the batting cage and learn more about each other that way. So, would you like to? - Mike

Critiques:*Too long*Don't like the whole repeated use of "impressive" Is it really that impressivem that she likes softball?*Law school paragraph starts out fine (Matlock line), but I would cut out the 2nd line (the big nerd thing comesout of left field)*Don't like the "so, would you like to" ending...Unnecessary and actually redundant

 

[Drifter]

Woz -

Take out the part about "When I was an undergrad". You're trying to find points of similarity, not point out things that separate you. The rest of that paragraph is fine, just don't point out that she's a mere undergrad and you are so much older and wiser.

Also, take out the "set up financially" line. It's too early to know if this will be a turn on or turn off for this girl. You don't know if she's looking to be secure financially or meet a guy that donates his time counselling non-profits.

 

[Keys Myaths]

Here's what I'm about to send. Will wait five minutes. If there are any glaring problems (seems a little long), let me know. Hey Emily, I completely understand the whole "things that need to be done and be stable" as far as money goes since there's not a whole lot of that around for us as students. However, I am very impressed that you even think about while in undergrad. Most of the people I hung out with, and I should include myself in this too occassionally, in undergrad were mainly concerned with where they could get the money for their next trip to the bar. You must have a good head on your shoulders and I'm sure you'll be fine when you get out into the "real world" (which isn't so bad). It's also very impressive that you mentioned you liked softball. Do you play for your college team? If so, what position? I played outfield for my undergrad and have spent the last few summers playing MN amateur ball here for some tiny town near St. Cloud (which is actually pretty neat - the whole town comes out to watch!) and have been the head coach for a high school JV team for three years. So, I guess the answer as to what I like to do for fun would be playing baseball as much as I possibly can, as well as also hanging out with friends and the other normal stuff people our age do.To answer your question about law school, it's something I knew I wanted to do since I was about seven years old and my mom let me stay up late to watch "Matlock" with her. I must say it's not as glamorous being a law student and lawyer as my little seven year old brain thought, but it's not so bad either since I'm kind of a big nerd and I'll be able to both enjoy my job and be set up financially... Hopefully I answered your questions. I do have some more "burning things to ask" you, but I was thinking it'd just be easier to ask you if you'd feel comfortable getting together sometime maybe for coffee, dinner, or to hit some balls at the batting cage and learn more about each other that way. So, would you like to? - Mike

1. You're too "impressed" with her too many times.2. After coffee, dinner, hit some balls--the next line shouldn't be "So, would you like to?", it's, "Which one would you like to do?"

 

[Drifter]

Here's what I'm about to send. Will wait five minutes. If there are any glaring problems (seems a little long), let me know. Hey Emily, I completely understand the whole "things that need to be done and be stable" as far as money goes since there's not a whole lot of that around for us as students. However, I am very impressed that you even think about while in undergrad. Most of the people I hung out with, and I should include myself in this too occassionally, in undergrad were mainly concerned with where they could get the money for their next trip to the bar. You must have a good head on your shoulders and I'm sure you'll be fine when you get out into the "real world" (which isn't so bad). It's also very impressive that you mentioned you liked softball. Do you play for your college team? If so, what position? I played outfield for my undergrad and have spent the last few summers playing MN amateur ball here for some tiny town near St. Cloud (which is actually pretty neat - the whole town comes out to watch!) and have been the head coach for a high school JV team for three years. So, I guess the answer as to what I like to do for fun would be playing baseball as much as I possibly can, as well as also hanging out with friends and the other normal stuff people our age do.To answer your question about law school, it's something I knew I wanted to do since I was about seven years old and my mom let me stay up late to watch "Matlock" with her. I must say it's not as glamorous being a law student and lawyer as my little seven year old brain thought, but it's not so bad either since I'm kind of a big nerd and I'll be able to both enjoy my job and be set up financially... Hopefully I answered your questions. I do have some more "burning things to ask" you, but I was thinking it'd just be easier to ask you if you'd feel comfortable getting together sometime maybe for coffee, dinner, or to hit some balls at the batting cage and learn more about each other that way. So, would you like to? - Mike

Critiques:*Too long*Don't like the whole repeated use of "impressive" Is it really that impressivem that she likes softball?*Law school paragraph starts out fine (Matlock line), but I would cut out the 2nd line (the big nerd thing comesout of left field)*Don't like the "so, would you like to" ending...Unnecessary and actually redundant

I thought the nerd part was good. So many hot girls always refer to themselves as nerds or dorks. Since he's established he's a bit of a jock, he can play the "I'm a nerd" card and it comes out in a positive way.

 

[Kraft...]

Here's what I'm about to send. Will wait five minutes. If there are any glaring problems (seems a little long), let me know.

Hey Emily,

I completely understand the whole "things that need to be done and be stable" as far as money goes since there's not a whole lot of that around for us as students. However, I am very impressed that you even think about while in undergrad. Most of the people I hung out with, and I should include myself in this too occassionally, in undergrad were mainly concerned with where they could get the money for their next trip to the bar. You must have a good head on your shoulders and I'm sure you'll be fine when you get out into the "real world" (which isn't so bad).

It's also very impressive that you mentioned you liked softball. Do you play for your college team? If so, what position? I played outfield for my undergrad and have spent the last few summers playing MN amateur ball here for some tiny town near St. Cloud (which is actually pretty neat - the whole town comes out to watch!) and have been the head coach for a high school JV team for three years. So, I guess the answer as to what I like to do for fun would be playing baseball as much as I possibly can, as well as also hanging out with friends and the other normal stuff people our age do.

To answer your question about law school, it's something I knew I wanted to do since I was about seven years old and my mom let me stay up late to watch "Matlock" with her. I must say it's not as glamorous being a law student and lawyer as my little seven year old brain thought, but it's not so bad either since I'm kind of a big nerd and I'll be able to both enjoy my job and be set up financially...

Hopefully I answered your questions. I do have some more "burning things to ask" you, but I was thinking it'd just be easier to ask you if you'd feel comfortable getting together sometime maybe for coffee, dinner, or to hit some balls at the batting cage and learn more about each other that way. So, would you like to?

- Mike

I'd lose the bold, otherwise looks decent to me

 

[Woz]

Woz -Take out the part about "When I was an undergrad". You're trying to find points of similarity, not point out things that separate you. The rest of that paragraph is fine, just don't point out that she's a mere undergrad and you are so much older and wiser.Also, take out the "set up financially" line. It's too early to know if this will be a turn on or turn off for this girl. You don't know if she's looking to be secure financially or meet a guy that donates his time counselling non-profits.

went that route because she talks about how she is securing her finances and stuff. also playing the odds that girls see a guy who makes money as a bonus.

 

[Drifter]

Woz, you've got her on the hook. She's already impressed with the law school thing, you don't need to bring it up anymore. As soon as you drop the baseball on her you'll be golden unless you woz it up and blather on too much - go for the date now, be proactive and humble. I'd go with someting like this:Chick -Softball, huh? I love playing amateur baseball, though I've been in a bit of a slump at the plate - maybe you could give me some pointers. You seem like you've got your life together and your priorities in the right place. In other words, the type of person I'd enjoy getting to know in person as opposed to behind a keyboard. As far as "burning questions" go, the one that pops to mind is if you'd like to go to *place* on *date* - they have a great *something* I bet you'd enjoy.-Wozzy Bear

I don't think he needs to keep it short and, in this case, at this time, the detail on his baseball is appropriate and a positive. I do agree that he needs to ask her out in this email.

 

[Tremendous Upside]

Here's what I'm about to send. Will wait five minutes. If there are any glaring problems (seems a little long), let me know. Hey Emily, I completely understand the whole "things that need to be done and be stable" as far as money goes since there's not a whole lot of that around for us as students. However, I am very impressed that you even think about while in undergrad. Most of the people I hung out with, and I should include myself in this too occassionally, in undergrad were mainly concerned with where they could get the money for their next trip to the bar. You must have a good head on your shoulders and I'm sure you'll be fine when you get out into the "real world" (which isn't so bad). It's also very impressive that you mentioned you liked softball. Do you play for your college team? If so, what position? I played outfield for my undergrad and have spent the last few summers playing MN amateur ball here for some tiny town near St. Cloud (which is actually pretty neat - the whole town comes out to watch!) and have been the head coach for a high school JV team for three years. So, I guess the answer as to what I like to do for fun would be playing baseball as much as I possibly can, as well as also hanging out with friends and the other normal stuff people our age do.To answer your question about law school, it's something I knew I wanted to do since I was about seven years old and my mom let me stay up late to watch "Matlock" with her. I must say it's not as glamorous being a law student and lawyer as my little seven year old brain thought, but it's not so bad either since I'm kind of a big nerd and I'll be able to both enjoy my job and be set up financially... Hopefully I answered your questions. I do have some more "burning things to ask" you, but I was thinking it'd just be easier to ask you if you'd feel comfortable getting together sometime maybe for coffee, dinner, or to hit some balls at the batting cage and learn more about each other that way. So, would you like to? - Mike

Critiques:*Too long*Don't like the whole repeated use of "impressive" Is it really that impressivem that she likes softball?*Law school paragraph starts out fine (Matlock line), but I would cut out the 2nd line (the big nerd thing comesout of left field)*Don't like the "so, would you like to" ending...Unnecessary and actually redundant

I thought the nerd part was good. So many hot girls always refer to themselves as nerds or dorks. Since he's established he's a bit of a jock, he can play the "I'm a nerd" card and it comes out in a positive way.

I guess, but I also think that's something that coudl go either way...She may have zero interest in someone who defines themselves as a nerd...I think it is potentially far more polarizing than the whole financial future thing (not that I like that either)...I would just stay positive, and even though it has made strides, the word "nerd" can still be a negative one for people

 

[Drifter]

Woz -Take out the part about "When I was an undergrad". You're trying to find points of similarity, not point out things that separate you. The rest of that paragraph is fine, just don't point out that she's a mere undergrad and you are so much older and wiser.Also, take out the "set up financially" line. It's too early to know if this will be a turn on or turn off for this girl. You don't know if she's looking to be secure financially or meet a guy that donates his time counselling non-profits.

went that route because she talks about how she is securing her finances and stuff. also playing the odds that girls see a guy who makes money as a bonus.

I know. It could work - it's just a risky play since a statement like that can be polarizing.ETA - I used polarizing here before I saw TU using it above. Too funny.

 

[strykerpks]

so the one girl that got to "open communication" last night and me have talked a bit, we've e-mailed back and forth a bunch of times...and then there are like 4 other girls that are right before open communication...I'm a little nervous about how exactly you juggle 4 or 5 girls like that... lolI've always had a hard enough time with one...

It's not that difficult online. I sometimes struggle to keep stuff straight that's talked about in person or on the phone though (another reason to avoid the phone, no records to refer back to).Was she the only child or is she the one with family nearby?Did we already talk about ____ or was that a different girl?[strykerpks]Is this the girl who likes the shocker?[/strykerpks]

Just don't look at the stomach, and keep your eye on the prize.

TOTALLY uncalled for!!

 

[Woz]

Woz, you've got her on the hook. She's already impressed with the law school thing, you don't need to bring it up anymore. As soon as you drop the baseball on her you'll be golden unless you woz it up and blather on too much - go for the date now, be proactive and humble. I'd go with someting like this:Chick -Softball, huh? I love playing amateur baseball, though I've been in a bit of a slump at the plate - maybe you could give me some pointers. You seem like you've got your life together and your priorities in the right place. In other words, the type of person I'd enjoy getting to know in person as opposed to behind a keyboard. As far as "burning questions" go, the one that pops to mind is if you'd like to go to *place* on *date* - they have a great *something* I bet you'd enjoy.-Wozzy Bear

I don't think he needs to keep it short and, in this case, at this time, the detail on his baseball is appropriate and a positive. I do agree that he needs to ask her out in this email.

I'm asking her out for sure. Here's the lastest draft:Hey Emily, I completely understand the whole "things that need to be done and be stable" as far as money goes since there's not a whole lot of that around for us as students. However, I am very impressed that you even think about it. Most of the people I hang out with, and I should include myself in this too occassionally, are mainly concerned with where they could get the money for their next trip to the bar. You must have a good head on your shoulders and I'm sure you'll be fine when you get out into the "real world" (which isn't so bad). It's also very cool that you mentioned you liked softball. Do you play for your college team? If so, what position? I played outfield for my undergrad and have spent the last few summers playing MN amateur ball here for some tiny town near St. Cloud (which is actually pretty neat - the whole town comes out to watch!) and have been the head coach for a high school JV team for three years. So, I guess the answer as to what I like to do for fun would be playing baseball as much as I possibly can, as well as also hanging out with friends and the other normal stuff people our age do.To answer your question about law school, it's something I knew I wanted to do since I was about seven years old and my mom let me stay up late to watch "Matlock" with her. I must say it's not as glamorous being a law student and lawyer as my little seven year old brain thought, but it's not so bad either since I'm kind of a big nerd and I'll be able to both enjoy my job. What are you studying right now and do you know yet what you'd like to do?Hopefully I answered your questions. I do have some more "burning things to ask" you, but I was thinking it'd just be easier to ask you if you'd feel comfortable getting together sometime maybe for coffee, dinner, or to hit some balls at the batting cage and learn more about each other that way. So, what do you think? If you're not up for the whole date thing, I thought maybe you'd at least be interested in going to the cage together sometime since I had a bit of a down year at the plate this summer and thought maybe you could give me some pointers. - Mike

 

[larry_boy_44]

girl gave me her AIM... so that's good...

IM convo > e-mail convo IMO...

chatting wit' her ATM (although she just went away to get her mail and such as she just got home from being by her 'rents (I'm assuming) up in northern WI)

(note: is it a good sign that she e-mailed me before she got her mail and started doing her laundry after being out of town for a few days? Yes, right?)

 

[Tremendous Upside]

Woz -Take out the part about "When I was an undergrad". You're trying to find points of similarity, not point out things that separate you. The rest of that paragraph is fine, just don't point out that she's a mere undergrad and you are so much older and wiser.Also, take out the "set up financially" line. It's too early to know if this will be a turn on or turn off for this girl. You don't know if she's looking to be secure financially or meet a guy that donates his time counselling non-profits.

went that route because she talks about how she is securing her finances and stuff. also playing the odds that girls see a guy who makes money as a bonus.

I know. It could work - it's just a risky play since a statement like that can be polarizing.ETA - I used polarizing here before I saw TU using it above. Too funny.

Yeah, I thought it was pretty funny we both used that...I would make this communication more baout baseball, commonality than anything else and then ask her out...It doesn't have to be veryshort, but I wouldn't send that multi volume epic Woz wrote up there either

 

[dancingbones]

Woz, you've got her on the hook. She's already impressed with the law school thing, you don't need to bring it up anymore. As soon as you drop the baseball on her you'll be golden unless you woz it up and blather on too much - go for the date now, be proactive and humble. I'd go with someting like this:Chick -Softball, huh? I love playing amateur baseball, though I've been in a bit of a slump at the plate - maybe you could give me some pointers. You seem like you've got your life together and your priorities in the right place. In other words, the type of person I'd enjoy getting to know in person as opposed to behind a keyboard. As far as "burning questions" go, the one that pops to mind is if you'd like to go to *place* on *date* - they have a great *something* I bet you'd enjoy.-Wozzy Bear

 

[Disco Stu]

Woz -Take out the part about "When I was an undergrad". You're trying to find points of similarity, not point out things that separate you. The rest of that paragraph is fine, just don't point out that she's a mere undergrad and you are so much older and wiser.Also, take out the "set up financially" line. It's too early to know if this will be a turn on or turn off for this girl. You don't know if she's looking to be secure financially or meet a guy that donates his time counselling non-profits.

went that route because she talks about how she is securing her finances and stuff. also playing the odds that girls see a guy who makes money as a bonus.

Do you even make real money yet? You're still a student right?If she isn't interested in money, she may see that as bragging. If she is interested in money, she's already figured out that lawyers make money.

 

[Woz]

Woz -Take out the part about "When I was an undergrad". You're trying to find points of similarity, not point out things that separate you. The rest of that paragraph is fine, just don't point out that she's a mere undergrad and you are so much older and wiser.Also, take out the "set up financially" line. It's too early to know if this will be a turn on or turn off for this girl. You don't know if she's looking to be secure financially or meet a guy that donates his time counselling non-profits.

went that route because she talks about how she is securing her finances and stuff. also playing the odds that girls see a guy who makes money as a bonus.

I know. It could work - it's just a risky play since a statement like that can be polarizing.ETA - I used polarizing here before I saw TU using it above. Too funny.

Yeah, I thought it was pretty funny we both used that...I would make this communication more baout baseball, commonality than anything else and then ask her out...It doesn't have to be veryshort, but I wouldn't send that multi volume epic Woz wrote up there either

dude, i can't write short e-mails. just don't know how.eta: i also think this girl has a head on her shoulders and wouldn't mind reading an articulate e-mail rather than some wisecrack one. if i'm looking to one-night this chick or was e-mailing a girl who i'd only be interesting in physically, then no way do i send an e-mail like this. but in this case i think the girl may like it.

 

[parasaurolophus]

so the one girl that got to "open communication" last night and me have talked a bit, we've e-mailed back and forth a bunch of times...and then there are like 4 other girls that are right before open communication...I'm a little nervous about how exactly you juggle 4 or 5 girls like that... lolI've always had a hard enough time with one...

It's not that difficult online. I sometimes struggle to keep stuff straight that's talked about in person or on the phone though (another reason to avoid the phone, no records to refer back to).Was she the only child or is she the one with family nearby?Did we already talk about ____ or was that a different girl?[strykerpks]Is this the girl who likes the shocker?[/strykerpks]

Just don't look at the stomach, and keep your eye on the prize.

TOTALLY uncalled for!!

two words GBgrill lighter

 

[Drifter]

I like the latest version Woz. I'd just drop the (it's not so bad) part. Once again, you want to draw attention to similarities not to things that point out how you're different.

 

[Tremendous Upside]

Woz -Take out the part about "When I was an undergrad". You're trying to find points of similarity, not point out things that separate you. The rest of that paragraph is fine, just don't point out that she's a mere undergrad and you are so much older and wiser.Also, take out the "set up financially" line. It's too early to know if this will be a turn on or turn off for this girl. You don't know if she's looking to be secure financially or meet a guy that donates his time counselling non-profits.

went that route because she talks about how she is securing her finances and stuff. also playing the odds that girls see a guy who makes money as a bonus.

I know. It could work - it's just a risky play since a statement like that can be polarizing.ETA - I used polarizing here before I saw TU using it above. Too funny.

Yeah, I thought it was pretty funny we both used that...I would make this communication more baout baseball, commonality than anything else and then ask her out...It doesn't have to be veryshort, but I wouldn't send that multi volume epic Woz wrote up there either

dude, i can't write short e-mails. just don't know how.

The problem with that email, IMO, isn't that any one part of it is "bad," but that it just is too all over the place, touching on too many subjects of yours and hers, asking too many questions, etc...If I got that email I wouldn't even know what to reply to first, and more than likely I would either ignore most of it, try to answer everything and get frustrated by the amount of time it was taking, or never even get to the most important question, "Do you want to go out?"

 

[Woz]

my other problem that still bugs me is that the pictures of me up there are rather dated and i've probably put on like 5-10 lbs. of muscle since then. but i don't know how to tell these girls that and don't have any recent pictures.

 

[larry_boy_44]

my other problem that still bugs me is that the pictures of me up there are rather dated and i've probably put on like 5-10 lbs. of muscle since then. but i don't know how to tell these girls that and don't have any recent pictures.

5-10 pounds of muscles, so I'm assuming you look better, let them notice it when you meet them...that's like being worried 'cuz you lost 30 pounds since a pic was taken... why? If they liked you before you dropped the weight, they'll like you after, too...