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***Official*** FFA iDating Thread (1 Viewer)
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so... suggestion?ETA: It's from Office Space. Thought maybe she'd have some humor."If not, that's cool too. " ????
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Disco Stu
Confirmed FBGal
Drop the "if not..." bit. It adds nothing, and comes across poorly.I'd also avoid the word "fine". The reader is responsible for adding tone, and "fine" is way too easy to apply a negative tone to. Maybe just replace "that's fine" with "OK".And if you want to answer her question, you could close with "Mike (aka the only 25 year old on the planet without a myspace)".
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Mr. Pickles
Footballguy
HOT
thanks buddy for the encouragement
hmmmm, just as i thought i was taking another blow to the gut and almost down, got a message from the following chick looking to go to dinner with me:
http://meetme.hotornot.com/r/?emid=OYSRAQK
http://meetme.hotornot.com/r/?emid=OYSRAQK
krista4
Footballguy
OK...would it be terrible of me to join eHarmony again just to have stories to share here? I guess I know the answer to that. But really, reading all this just makes it sound very amusing and fun, and I did enjoy it before. I just don't really want to date anyone, which I guess should be a gating item for joining a dating site. What if I didn't lead anyone on and just had fun, maybe even met people and saw what happened? I mean, theoretically, someone could come along who just blows me away, though the chances of that are infinitesimal. But it seems like I could have fun and share with the FFA anyway.
But is it a mean thing to do, if there is almost zero chance I'd really want to date anyone?
But is it a mean thing to do, if there is almost zero chance I'd really want to date anyone?
you know i'm pretty new to the game. i stretched when i talked to girls in HS, chased Emily around for like 2-3 years and didn't give effort anywhere else, then met Katie and Lauri in succession. Wit has never been my thing. And when the #### haven't I not rambled?Give it a try though if you're not back again with your gf (are you?? sure as hell seemed like it when i was home). I'd like to see how you do.
yes. if i were into you and taking the time to e-mail you, it'd be nice if you were at least serious. what you're going to do is lead guys on and that's not very nice - especially to the shy ones.OK...would it be terrible of me to join eHarmony again just to have stories to share here? I guess I know the answer to that. But really, reading all this just makes it sound very amusing and fun, and I did enjoy it before. I just don't really want to date anyone, which I guess should be a gating item for joining a dating site. What if I didn't lead anyone on and just had fun, maybe even met people and saw what happened? I mean, theoretically, someone could come along who just blows me away, though the chances of that are infinitesimal. But it seems like I could have fun and share with the FFA anyway.But is it a mean thing to do, if there is almost zero chance I'd really want to date anyone?
Otis
Footballguy
Agreed, GB. Agreed.
Keys Myaths
Pokerguy
Why would it be mean? That's ridiculous. It's like a guy asking you out and you not wanting to date.OK...would it be terrible of me to join eHarmony again just to have stories to share here? I guess I know the answer to that. But really, reading all this just makes it sound very amusing and fun, and I did enjoy it before. I just don't really want to date anyone, which I guess should be a gating item for joining a dating site. What if I didn't lead anyone on and just had fun, maybe even met people and saw what happened? I mean, theoretically, someone could come along who just blows me away, though the chances of that are infinitesimal. But it seems like I could have fun and share with the FFA anyway.But is it a mean thing to do, if there is almost zero chance I'd really want to date anyone?
So essentially, you do want to date someone. You just don't want to consider meeting a bunch of crazies actually dating.OK...would it be terrible of me to join eHarmony again just to have stories to share here? I guess I know the answer to that. But really, reading all this just makes it sound very amusing and fun, and I did enjoy it before. I just don't really want to date anyone, which I guess should be a gating item for joining a dating site. What if I didn't lead anyone on and just had fun, maybe even met people and saw what happened? I mean, theoretically, someone could come along who just blows me away, though the chances of that are infinitesimal. But it seems like I could have fun and share with the FFA anyway.But is it a mean thing to do, if there is almost zero chance I'd really want to date anyone?
krista4
Footballguy
No, I don't want to go on dates. I think I've been very clear on that.It's probably a bad idea, I guess. I thought it might simply be fun, story-wise.So essentially, you do want to date someone. You just don't want to consider meeting a bunch of crazies actually dating.OK...would it be terrible of me to join eHarmony again just to have stories to share here? I guess I know the answer to that. But really, reading all this just makes it sound very amusing and fun, and I did enjoy it before. I just don't really want to date anyone, which I guess should be a gating item for joining a dating site. What if I didn't lead anyone on and just had fun, maybe even met people and saw what happened? I mean, theoretically, someone could come along who just blows me away, though the chances of that are infinitesimal. But it seems like I could have fun and share with the FFA anyway.But is it a mean thing to do, if there is almost zero chance I'd really want to date anyone?
dotman
Footballguy
You can do it! Have you read anything people suggested about emails though? Because it doesn't seem like it. But think about, if the chick was interested she'd let you know. You seem to think her not flat out saying no means she might be. I think she just doesn't want to be mean. How long are you gonna keep exchanging stupid emails?thanks buddy for the encouragement
Because it'd be easy as hell for her to just not reply or say no thanks. Super easy to do online and I've done it plenty of times already. It's possible she's being nice or it's possible she is shy/nervous. I think it's worth one more. Besides, an e-mail takes a couple of seconds to right and it's a break from work.You can do it! Have you read anything people suggested about emails though? Because it doesn't seem like it. But think about, if the chick was interested she'd let you know. You seem to think her not flat out saying no means she might be. I think she just doesn't want to be mean. How long are you gonna keep exchanging stupid emails?thanks buddy for the encouragement
"Chicken wings..." what have I got to lose?You were all set to break the rules for dude that turned psycho. You admit here that dating was fun and seem to be open to the possibilities of finding someone that "blew you away". Maybe you've said you didn't want to date a few times, but you're really not making it all too clear.No, I don't want to go on dates. I think I've been very clear on that.It's probably a bad idea, I guess. I thought it might simply be fun, story-wise.So essentially, you do want to date someone. You just don't want to consider meeting a bunch of crazies actually dating.OK...would it be terrible of me to join eHarmony again just to have stories to share here? I guess I know the answer to that. But really, reading all this just makes it sound very amusing and fun, and I did enjoy it before. I just don't really want to date anyone, which I guess should be a gating item for joining a dating site. What if I didn't lead anyone on and just had fun, maybe even met people and saw what happened? I mean, theoretically, someone could come along who just blows me away, though the chances of that are infinitesimal. But it seems like I could have fun and share with the FFA anyway.
But is it a mean thing to do, if there is almost zero chance I'd really want to date anyone?
krista4
Footballguy
Fair enough. But I wasn't ready to break the rules for that guy...could have (he continued to pursue for quite a while and was apologetic about the psycho episode) but didn't. You're right, though--I guess I do find "dating" to be fun, but I have no interest in a relationship. And with me, there seems to be no casual dating--things seem to get all Wozzy serious really fast even if that's not what I want. So I would prefer to avoid dating altogether just to avoid the seemingly inevitable relationship part of it. That said, I love meeting new people if I can just keep them at arm's length.You were all set to break the rules for dude that turned psycho. You admit here that dating was fun and seem to be open to the possibilities of finding someone that "blew you away". Maybe you've said you didn't want to date a few times, but you're really not making it all too clear.No, I don't want to go on dates. I think I've been very clear on that.It's probably a bad idea, I guess. I thought it might simply be fun, story-wise.So essentially, you do want to date someone. You just don't want to consider meeting a bunch of crazies actually dating.OK...would it be terrible of me to join eHarmony again just to have stories to share here? I guess I know the answer to that. But really, reading all this just makes it sound very amusing and fun, and I did enjoy it before. I just don't really want to date anyone, which I guess should be a gating item for joining a dating site. What if I didn't lead anyone on and just had fun, maybe even met people and saw what happened? I mean, theoretically, someone could come along who just blows me away, though the chances of that are infinitesimal. But it seems like I could have fun and share with the FFA anyway.
But is it a mean thing to do, if there is almost zero chance I'd really want to date anyone?
dotman
Footballguy
The girl? To me it just didn't seem like you were getting anywhere. I think your best chance is just to not reply and maybe she thinks that she better get on the ball if she does want to see you. I bet if you do manage to work a yes out of her now she wouldn't show. If this is similar to your other exchanges maybe that's why they didn't show. And I am not with her.Because it'd be easy as hell for her to just not reply or say no thanks. Super easy to do online and I've done it plenty of times already. It's possible she's being nice or it's possible she is shy/nervous. I think it's worth one more. Besides, an e-mail takes a couple of seconds to right and it's a break from work.You can do it! Have you read anything people suggested about emails though? Because it doesn't seem like it. But think about, if the chick was interested she'd let you know. You seem to think her not flat out saying no means she might be. I think she just doesn't want to be mean. How long are you gonna keep exchanging stupid emails?thanks buddy for the encouragement
I see what you're saying, but if she's shy I think she takes it as I'm no longer interested and she doesn't want to face that. That's how I'd be at least. And the one who didn't show from idating had talked to me a few times on the phone prior so that's different.The girl? To me it just didn't seem like you were getting anywhere. I think your best chance is just to not reply and maybe she thinks that she better get on the ball if she does want to see you. I bet if you do manage to work a yes out of her now she wouldn't show. If this is similar to your other exchanges maybe that's why they didn't show. And I am not with her.Because it'd be easy as hell for her to just not reply or say no thanks. Super easy to do online and I've done it plenty of times already. It's possible she's being nice or it's possible she is shy/nervous. I think it's worth one more. Besides, an e-mail takes a couple of seconds to right and it's a break from work.You can do it! Have you read anything people suggested about emails though? Because it doesn't seem like it. But think about, if the chick was interested she'd let you know. You seem to think her not flat out saying no means she might be. I think she just doesn't want to be mean. How long are you gonna keep exchanging stupid emails?thanks buddy for the encouragement"Chicken wings..." what have I got to lose?
BassNBrew
Footballguy
Honestly it would put you in a group that represents at least 50% on the i-dating females in your age group. You like the concept of dating in theory and you enjoy the attention of being courted, however you have issues / baggage / work / other commitments that are preventing you from being free to pursue a relationship.Ideally if you're looking for i-friends or penpals you have a pretty large pool here to work with. Yes someone could come along that blows you away, but you'd have to likely meet them face to face for that to happen. I don't think anyone here can answer the question you posed for you, we all have to look in the mirror and be comfortable with our own actions.OK...would it be terrible of me to join eHarmony again just to have stories to share here? I guess I know the answer to that. But really, reading all this just makes it sound very amusing and fun, and I did enjoy it before. I just don't really want to date anyone, which I guess should be a gating item for joining a dating site. What if I didn't lead anyone on and just had fun, maybe even met people and saw what happened? I mean, theoretically, someone could come along who just blows me away, though the chances of that are infinitesimal. But it seems like I could have fun and share with the FFA anyway.But is it a mean thing to do, if there is almost zero chance I'd really want to date anyone?
krista4
Footballguy
Missed on almost every front here, but I understand I haven't given you enough information to be more on target. The last sentence is true, though.Honestly it would put you in a group that represents at least 50% on the i-dating females in your age group. You like the concept of dating in theory and you enjoy the attention of being courted, however you have issues / baggage / work / other commitments that are preventing you from being free to pursue a relationship.Ideally if you're looking for i-friends or penpals you have a pretty large pool here to work with. Yes someone could come along that blows you away, but you'd have to likely meet them face to face for that to happen. I don't think anyone here can answer the question you posed for you, we all have to look in the mirror and be comfortable with our own actions.OK...would it be terrible of me to join eHarmony again just to have stories to share here? I guess I know the answer to that. But really, reading all this just makes it sound very amusing and fun, and I did enjoy it before. I just don't really want to date anyone, which I guess should be a gating item for joining a dating site. What if I didn't lead anyone on and just had fun, maybe even met people and saw what happened? I mean, theoretically, someone could come along who just blows me away, though the chances of that are infinitesimal. But it seems like I could have fun and share with the FFA anyway.But is it a mean thing to do, if there is almost zero chance I'd really want to date anyone?
Alias
Footballguy
Ok clarify something for me here, why does she want your myspace? Does she just want to be your iFriend so she can send you myspace messages?Just got this message back from her :sigh:Hi, I might change my mindBut to be honest I would prefer not to do anything on Monday. Monday is my first day back to work and I will be starting school again that day as well. Like I said maybe Friday night, but I'm pretty swamped this coming week being that I am coming back to town after being gone for 6 weeks. Random question, do you have a m-y-s-p-a-c-e? If I don't type it like that it just puts the word "spam" in there.Talk to you later,Emily Oh come ####### on. She is saying enough to not shoot me down, but it's like pulling teeth with her. Yes, I understand she may be busy these times, but I'd think if she really was serious she'd say like "here's my number though, call me the following weekend." I honestly can't tell if she's playing me (can't see someone like her doing this online though) or if she really is that shy/hesitant and I need to bear with it. Next reply here? I don't have myspace so that's out.
pretty normal question to ask someone around my age to see what they're about and stuff and to communicate with themOk clarify something for me here, why does she want your myspace? Does she just want to be your iFriend so she can send you myspace messages?Just got this message back from her :sigh:Hi, I might change my mind
BassNBrew
Footballguy
Really???Missed on almost every front here, but I understand I haven't given you enough information to be more on target. The last sentence is true, though.Honestly it would put you in a group that represents at least 50% on the i-dating females in your age group. You like the concept of dating in theory and you enjoy the attention of being courted, however you have issues / baggage / work / other commitments that are preventing you from being free to pursue a relationship.Ideally if you're looking for i-friends or penpals you have a pretty large pool here to work with. Yes someone could come along that blows you away, but you'd have to likely meet them face to face for that to happen. I don't think anyone here can answer the question you posed for you, we all have to look in the mirror and be comfortable with our own actions.OK...would it be terrible of me to join eHarmony again just to have stories to share here? I guess I know the answer to that. But really, reading all this just makes it sound very amusing and fun, and I did enjoy it before. I just don't really want to date anyone, which I guess should be a gating item for joining a dating site. What if I didn't lead anyone on and just had fun, maybe even met people and saw what happened? I mean, theoretically, someone could come along who just blows me away, though the chances of that are infinitesimal. But it seems like I could have fun and share with the FFA anyway.But is it a mean thing to do, if there is almost zero chance I'd really want to date anyone?
Plenty of different reasons why people end up in relationships. If there wasn't anything positive about a relationship you wouldn't even consider joining a dating site. Now obvioulsy if the likely outcome is that the negatives outweigh the positives in your life then a relationship isn't a good idea. Nothing wrong with reaching that conclusion. Nothing wrong with having other priorites in your life.I find you statement above to be pretty much dead on most of the time. That said, I knew one girl who went on a hundred first i-dates in one year without a second date. It's possible to dip your toes in the water if you stay disciplined.
krista4
Footballguy
This was the sentence that I was referring to as being pretty much entirely off: "You like the concept of dating in theory and you enjoy the attention of being courted, however you have issues / baggage / work / other commitments that are preventing you from being free to pursue a relationship." But really, it's not worth getting into why. I agree that there are many positives about relationships--undoubtedly. What concerns me slightly is that despite those positives I just can't fathom doing it. Makes me feel like I'm really odd, given that 99% of people seem to crave a relationship when what I usually feel like I need instead is more solitude. But again, not worth such a deep analysis of that here...I've spent plenty of my real-life time trying to balance intimacy and solitude.I really do appreciate your thoughts on this, which make plenty of sense for a "normal" person.Really???Missed on almost every front here, but I understand I haven't given you enough information to be more on target. The last sentence is true, though.Honestly it would put you in a group that represents at least 50% on the i-dating females in your age group. You like the concept of dating in theory and you enjoy the attention of being courted, however you have issues / baggage / work / other commitments that are preventing you from being free to pursue a relationship.Ideally if you're looking for i-friends or penpals you have a pretty large pool here to work with. Yes someone could come along that blows you away, but you'd have to likely meet them face to face for that to happen. I don't think anyone here can answer the question you posed for you, we all have to look in the mirror and be comfortable with our own actions.OK...would it be terrible of me to join eHarmony again just to have stories to share here? I guess I know the answer to that. But really, reading all this just makes it sound very amusing and fun, and I did enjoy it before. I just don't really want to date anyone, which I guess should be a gating item for joining a dating site. What if I didn't lead anyone on and just had fun, maybe even met people and saw what happened? I mean, theoretically, someone could come along who just blows me away, though the chances of that are infinitesimal. But it seems like I could have fun and share with the FFA anyway.But is it a mean thing to do, if there is almost zero chance I'd really want to date anyone?Plenty of different reasons why people end up in relationships. If there wasn't anything positive about a relationship you wouldn't even consider joining a dating site. Now obvioulsy if the likely outcome is that the negatives outweigh the positives in your life then a relationship isn't a good idea. Nothing wrong with reaching that conclusion. Nothing wrong with having other priorites in your life.I find you statement above to be pretty much dead on most of the time. That said, I knew one girl who went on a hundred first i-dates in one year without a second date. It's possible to dip your toes in the water if you stay disciplined.
I'm probably just not normal. 
BassNBrew
Footballguy
I knew that would come off the wrong way when I wrote it. It wasn't a shot at you. We all like dating in theory, it's the other stuff that comes with it that makes it difficult in many cases. I think a majority of us like positive attention being directed our way. Heck, we wouldn't bother grooming if positive attention wasn't a concern. "issues / baggage / work / other commitments" seems like a negative statement. Would it be fair to say that one of your issues (priorities) is the need for solitide? You want your cake and you want to eat it too, nothing wrong with that That might be possible in the i-dating world if you can stay disciplined to avoid going all Woz as you stated. I know I said that you'll have to answer this yourself, but it's feasible to be part of that 50%, have some fun, and be honest with yourself and others IMO. I don't know how important it is to be "normal", but having a handle on where your at and what your needs / priorites are seems to be much more important.This was the sentence that I was referring to as being pretty much entirely off: "You like the concept of dating in theory and you enjoy the attention of being courted, however you have issues / baggage / work / other commitments that are preventing you from being free to pursue a relationship." But really, it's not worth getting into why. I agree that there are many positives about relationships--undoubtedly. What concerns me slightly is that despite those positives I just can't fathom doing it. Makes me feel like I'm really odd, given that 99% of people seem to crave a relationship when what I usually feel like I need instead is more solitude. But again, not worth such a deep analysis of that here...I've spent plenty of my real-life time trying to balance intimacy and solitude.I really do appreciate your thoughts on this, which make plenty of sense for a "normal" person.Really???Missed on almost every front here, but I understand I haven't given you enough information to be more on target. The last sentence is true, though.Honestly it would put you in a group that represents at least 50% on the i-dating females in your age group. You like the concept of dating in theory and you enjoy the attention of being courted, however you have issues / baggage / work / other commitments that are preventing you from being free to pursue a relationship.Ideally if you're looking for i-friends or penpals you have a pretty large pool here to work with. Yes someone could come along that blows you away, but you'd have to likely meet them face to face for that to happen. I don't think anyone here can answer the question you posed for you, we all have to look in the mirror and be comfortable with our own actions.OK...would it be terrible of me to join eHarmony again just to have stories to share here? I guess I know the answer to that. But really, reading all this just makes it sound very amusing and fun, and I did enjoy it before. I just don't really want to date anyone, which I guess should be a gating item for joining a dating site. What if I didn't lead anyone on and just had fun, maybe even met people and saw what happened? I mean, theoretically, someone could come along who just blows me away, though the chances of that are infinitesimal. But it seems like I could have fun and share with the FFA anyway.But is it a mean thing to do, if there is almost zero chance I'd really want to date anyone?
Plenty of different reasons why people end up in relationships. If there wasn't anything positive about a relationship you wouldn't even consider joining a dating site. Now obvioulsy if the likely outcome is that the negatives outweigh the positives in your life then a relationship isn't a good idea. Nothing wrong with reaching that conclusion. Nothing wrong with having other priorites in your life.I find you statement above to be pretty much dead on most of the time. That said, I knew one girl who went on a hundred first i-dates in one year without a second date. It's possible to dip your toes in the water if you stay disciplined.I'm probably just not normal.
parasaurolophus
Footballguy
hi.
I post on a fantasy football message board.
I dont even post about fantasy football.
jesus christ I have issues.
want to meet at louise's for a drink?
man I suck
I post on a fantasy football message board.
I dont even post about fantasy football.
jesus christ I have issues.
want to meet at louise's for a drink?
man I suck
krista4
Footballguy
You've got Woz-speak down for sure.
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krista4
Footballguy
Sister Havana
Footballguy
I got a really great, creative message on Plentyoffish today - it was in the same format as the About Me section of my profile (if you've seen my profile you'll know what I mean). It was obvious that he'd actually read my profile and didn't just look at the pictures. Although speaking of pictures - he's very cute! And he lives in the next town over from me - this could be promising.
And he lives in the next town over from me - this could be promising.
Disco Stu
Confirmed FBGal
Sister Havana said:I got a really great, creative message on Plentyoffish today - it was in the same format as the About Me section of my profile (if you've seen my profile you'll know what I mean). It was obvious that he'd actually read my profile and didn't just look at the pictures. Although speaking of pictures - he's very cute!
Speaking of great, creative messages... I got this one last night.
Keys Myaths
Pokerguy
XWozkrista4 said:
the shark pool.
Keys Myaths
Pokerguy
KnowledgeReignsSupreme
Footballguy
Had kids = less demand for her.She is looking for something serious, but will give the booty away to anyone who looks like they would be worthwhile to trap them.
Simple really.
At 8:30 AM?? No, I'm sitting in Wills and Trusts, bored
she makes fun of me all the time. i'm sure she can handle a little dished her way tooeta: and i didn't ask for the 100 and it was given to me contigent that i stay here - not that i regulate my conduct in anyway
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Bankerguy
Footballguy
Woz,Did you actually take this money?
She sent it in the mail (didn't think she would, but I was impressed). Am holding it to buy her dinner or drinks if/when we should meet.
mr. furley
Footballguy
huh? is that good or bad?
Bankerguy
Footballguy
I have been pretty quiet with my i.dating updates lately. Mainly becasue nothing has been really exciting or noteworthy.
I have been struggling transitioning from just going out to score which was easy enough, to now wanting to meet someone that has there life together. It seems the whole casual dating thing has passed me by.....I can't believe I just said that.
Krista....I might need a new profile review with my new goal in mind.
I have been struggling transitioning from just going out to score which was easy enough, to now wanting to meet someone that has there life together. It seems the whole casual dating thing has passed me by.....I can't believe I just said that.
Krista....I might need a new profile review with my new goal in mind.
Bankerguy
Footballguy
I am sure you could care less with what I am about to type, but I will do it anyway.Personally, I would rather have my balls removed then to accept $100 from a female stranger from a message board. It just seems pathetic even if as you say you plan to buy her some drinks.Sorry, not trying to be a ####.....but accepting the money just leaves me :shuked:.
