***Official*** FFA iDating Thread (1 Viewer)

[mr. furley]

how many matches do you have at eHarmony? I have 24 and I close out like 5+ a day, might just be a lot of fish in NYC.

It gave me 23 initially when I signed up this morning.Oddly, I just opened the three that have already contacted me, and in the list of "five things you can't live without", two of them have listed The Economist.

forward those matches on to me!

 

[parasaurolophus]

out of curiosity, has there ever been a thread in the FFA that's been 100 pages long? this one should be there by this season's kickoff.

500+

this thread has way better quality.

have you seen the beer thread?

you think the beer thread has better quality?or were you answering murph's?

 

[Sister Havana]

Krista......I need a profile review.Help!!

Sorry, forgot! Will do it right now!ETA: bankerguy, I forgot what a hottie you are!

You have mail.

Got it. I'm going to have to agree with Krista here.

 

[Keys Myaths]

how many matches do you have at eHarmony? I have 24 and I close out like 5+ a day, might just be a lot of fish in NYC.

I usually get about 3-4 a day in Madison. Not bad, not great, but they do sometimes randomly match me with Chicago and Milwaukee, even though I tell it not to.

Nah, I'm pretty sure you're out of the age range I specified. They actually follow that strictly.

did you just call her old?

No, but she's older than a year older than me. My age range is set from 20-25. She's more mature than 25.

 

[krista4]

Krista......I need a profile review.Help!!

Sorry, forgot! Will do it right now!

Thanks girl!!

See edit above.

It's only a short 6 hour drive to my neck of the woods.You could be Mrs Bankerguy if you play your cards right.=joking=.......well only partly.

Suggested revisions sent!

 

[krista4]

how many matches do you have at eHarmony? I have 24 and I close out like 5+ a day, might just be a lot of fish in NYC.

I usually get about 3-4 a day in Madison. Not bad, not great, but they do sometimes randomly match me with Chicago and Milwaukee, even though I tell it not to.

Nah, I'm pretty sure you're out of the age range I specified. They actually follow that strictly.

:(

 

[DrJ]

IF you thought it was a joke....Why give a real address?Not cash the check?Anyway...I'll stop as it really isn't that big of a deal.Just not my style.

I sent cash. Yes, that's stupid, but I didn't want Woz to have my real name and address.

Sorry...I'll stop now.Back to i.dating!

FWIW, it doesn't bother me at all that he took the money...I expected it and think that he should have. I do, however, have a problem with the fact that he acts like a total **** to me, but that's more because I've probably helped him out more than anyone else here, not because I sent him the money.

woah, guess here's a case of the internet medium not catching or relaying sarcasm krista, i take your shots at me as playful and that's how i intend my responses to be taken. think of how you joke around with your good guy friends...

No offense, but historically you havent been very good at sarcasm or being funny or having any tact. Sounds like you may have offended a supporter?

She's kinda playing both sides of the fence a bit though - using "Woz" as a verb and adjective and things of that nature. Considering she's been helpful and paid him $100 to stay, I don't think Woz is out of line for interpreting these as sarcastic and playful comments. So what exactly is wrong with throwing back a few of his own?

 

[mr. furley]

out of curiosity, has there ever been a thread in the FFA that's been 100 pages long? this one should be there by this season's kickoff.

500+

this thread has way better quality.

have you seen the beer thread?

you think the beer thread has better quality?or were you answering murph's?

bof

 

[larry_boy_44]

out of curiosity, has there ever been a thread in the FFA that's been 100 pages long? this one should be there by this season's kickoff.

the What-If Sports draft that was held on football guys got to 500 pages...

 

[parasaurolophus]

how many matches do you have at eHarmony? I have 24 and I close out like 5+ a day, might just be a lot of fish in NYC.

I usually get about 3-4 a day in Madison. Not bad, not great, but they do sometimes randomly match me with Chicago and Milwaukee, even though I tell it not to.

Nah, I'm pretty sure you're out of the age range I specified. They actually follow that strictly.

:(

dont be sad krista.There are plenty of other guys in Madison just like Keys. Just check Madison East, Madison West, and Madison Memorial.

 

[krista4]

These are my stock 5 questions:

1. Your idea of adventure is:

A: whitewater rafting

B: karaoke singing

C: trying a different route to work

D: ordering a dish you've never tried before

O.k. so you are risk averse, where as I am...the opposite

2. If you went out to eat with a friend, which of the following would you prefer?

A: a nice 4-star restaurant

B: a basic steakhouse

C: an undiscovered hideaway

D: a hole in the wall with great food

you sound like a man...-2

3. If you could take a dream getaway, where would you most likely choose to spend a week?

A: Paris

B: Hawaii

C: hiking in the mountains

D: a cottage by the sea

trick question you need to choose option E: and come up with some place creative...-3

4. Your idea of a romantic time would be:

A: a quiet candle-lit restaurant

B: rollerblading on the beach

C: cooking dinner together at home

D: getting dressed up and going to a dance club together

You did not answer D so +1 ....-2

5. How would you assess your verbal intimacy skills?

A: I am extremely comfortable talking about my innermost needs and desires.

B: With the exception of a couple areas, I'm comfortable being verbally intimate.

C: I'm still learning to be verbally intimate, but my skills are improving.

D: It's hard work for me to discuss my intimate feelings.

+10 - winner

They really don't have any great multiple choice questions to choose from, oh well.

Are we a match?

evaluation above

Which five should I choose? I'm replying to "Troid" (???), who sent the traditional gender roles question.ETA: Ah hell, I'm just randomly choosing some.

 

[larry_boy_44]

how many matches do you have at eHarmony? I have 24 and I close out like 5+ a day, might just be a lot of fish in NYC.

I usually get about 3-4 a day in Madison. Not bad, not great, but they do sometimes randomly match me with Chicago and Milwaukee, even though I tell it not to.

how do you get local people??? lolI'm stuck with MN, Iowa, Indiana, & Michigan...let me just say Wisconsin chicks > those state's chicks...

 

[Disco Stu]

2. If you went out to eat with a friend, which of the following would you prefer?

A: a nice 4-star restaurant

B: a basic steakhouse

C: an undiscovered hideaway

D: a hole in the wall with great food

you sound like a man...-2

Seems like this should be more than a 2 point deduction.

 

[krista4]

IF you thought it was a joke....Why give a real address?Not cash the check?Anyway...I'll stop as it really isn't that big of a deal.Just not my style.

I sent cash. Yes, that's stupid, but I didn't want Woz to have my real name and address.

Sorry...I'll stop now.Back to i.dating!

FWIW, it doesn't bother me at all that he took the money...I expected it and think that he should have. I do, however, have a problem with the fact that he acts like a total **** to me, but that's more because I've probably helped him out more than anyone else here, not because I sent him the money.

woah, guess here's a case of the internet medium not catching or relaying sarcasm krista, i take your shots at me as playful and that's how i intend my responses to be taken. think of how you joke around with your good guy friends...

No offense, but historically you havent been very good at sarcasm or being funny or having any tact. Sounds like you may have offended a supporter?

She's kinda playing both sides of the fence a bit though - using "Woz" as a verb and adjective and things of that nature. Considering she's been helpful and paid him $100 to stay, I don't think Woz is out of line for interpreting these as sarcastic and playful comments. So what exactly is wrong with throwing back a few of his own?

I really don't want to get into this more, especially since it's more fun to do the real business of this thread instead, but I think randomly calling me a "skank", among other things, is not meant to be, nor is it, humorous or witty. It's just insulting, not playful. I think you need to get up to speed a bit more on Woz's various jabs and insults before commenting here.ETA: Far from the first time Woz has said stuff like that, though he later blames it on being drunk.

 

[krista4]

These are my stock 5 questions:

1. Your idea of adventure is:

A: whitewater rafting

B: karaoke singing

C: trying a different route to work

D: ordering a dish you've never tried before

O.k. so you are risk averse, where as I am...the opposite

2. If you went out to eat with a friend, which of the following would you prefer?

A: a nice 4-star restaurant

B: a basic steakhouse

C: an undiscovered hideaway

D: a hole in the wall with great food

you sound like a man...-2

3. If you could take a dream getaway, where would you most likely choose to spend a week?

A: Paris

B: Hawaii

C: hiking in the mountains

D: a cottage by the sea

trick question you need to choose option E: and come up with some place creative...-3

4. Your idea of a romantic time would be:

A: a quiet candle-lit restaurant

B: rollerblading on the beach

C: cooking dinner together at home

D: getting dressed up and going to a dance club together

You did not answer D so +1 ....-2

5. How would you assess your verbal intimacy skills?

A: I am extremely comfortable talking about my innermost needs and desires.

B: With the exception of a couple areas, I'm comfortable being verbally intimate.

C: I'm still learning to be verbally intimate, but my skills are improving.

D: It's hard work for me to discuss my intimate feelings.

+10 - winner

They really don't have any great multiple choice questions to choose from, oh well.

Are we a match?

evaluation above

Which five should I choose? I'm replying to "Troid" (???), who sent the traditional gender roles question.

Be honest, if you don't like any of them - choose option E and say what is on your mind. I am guessing you don't like traditional gender roles (i.e. stay at home Mom), if you do then go with traditional.

No, no, that answer was obvious...I meant which five should I choose to send to him. But I just chose some in half-assed fashion.

 

[parasaurolophus]

yeah I think I logged onto FBG too late the next day, he delete a bunch of posts or something?

woz?yes

 

[krista4]

yeah I think I logged onto FBG too late the next day, he delete a bunch of posts or something?

A few whole threads got deleted. larry, you can change the range of where you'll accept matches from and limit it to a "___-mile radius". Go into "my settings".

 

[Kraft...]

out of curiosity, has there ever been a thread in the FFA that's been 100 pages long? this one should be there by this season's kickoff.

the What-If Sports draft that was held on football guys got to 500 pages...

Ol 500, how I miss her

 

[Alias]

Speaking of these personality tests, has anyone looked at the "Compatibility Matches" at POF? I hadn't really noticed it until now.

They only show the 36 highest rated. Of those, I'm only attracted to 2 or 3. My favorite of those just happens to be the girl I'm seeing tomorrow night.

Just tried this, found 1 that I thought was attractive:http://pics.plentyofsite.com/dating/39/o1f...sy_11826853.jpg

 

[larry_boy_44]

yeah I think I logged onto FBG too late the next day, he delete a bunch of posts or something?

A few whole threads got deleted. larry, you can change the range of where you'll accept matches from and limit it to a "___-mile radius". Go into "my settings".

yeah, it was already at 60-miles and I was getting girls 250+ miles away lol...I put it down to 30, hopefully they'll stay under 100 miles now...

 

[larry_boy_44]

out of curiosity, has there ever been a thread in the FFA that's been 100 pages long? this one should be there by this season's kickoff.

the What-If Sports draft that was held on football guys got to 500 pages...

Ol 500, how I miss her

ours some on the ground:

 

[KnowledgeReignsSupreme]

how many matches do you have at eHarmony? I have 24 and I close out like 5+ a day, might just be a lot of fish in NYC.

I usually get about 3-4 a day in Madison. Not bad, not great, but they do sometimes randomly match me with Chicago and Milwaukee, even though I tell it not to.

Nah, I'm pretty sure you're out of the age range I specified. They actually follow that strictly.

did you just call her old?

No, but she's older than a year older than me. My age range is set from 20-25. She's more mature than 25.

Just dawned on me.I thought you were married. WTF happened? Yes I was not here for several months.

 

[KnowledgeReignsSupreme]

2. If you went out to eat with a friend, which of the following would you prefer?

A: a nice 4-star restaurant

B: a basic steakhouse

C: an undiscovered hideaway

D: a hole in the wall with great food

you sound like a man...-2

Seems like this should be more than a 2 point deduction.

 

[krista4]

how many matches do you have at eHarmony? I have 24 and I close out like 5+ a day, might just be a lot of fish in NYC.

I usually get about 3-4 a day in Madison. Not bad, not great, but they do sometimes randomly match me with Chicago and Milwaukee, even though I tell it not to.

Nah, I'm pretty sure you're out of the age range I specified. They actually follow that strictly.

did you just call her old?

No, but she's older than a year older than me. My age range is set from 20-25. She's more mature than 25.

Just dawned on me.I thought you were married. WTF happened? Yes I was not here for several months.

 

[parasaurolophus]

yeah I think I logged onto FBG too late the next day, he delete a bunch of posts or something?

A few whole threads got deleted. larry, you can change the range of where you'll accept matches from and limit it to a "___-mile radius". Go into "my settings".

yeah, it was already at 60-miles and I was getting girls 250+ miles away lol...I put it down to 30, hopefully they'll stay under 100 miles now...

it could be worseyou could have to drive to Duluth.

 

[parasaurolophus]

how many matches do you have at eHarmony? I have 24 and I close out like 5+ a day, might just be a lot of fish in NYC.

I usually get about 3-4 a day in Madison. Not bad, not great, but they do sometimes randomly match me with Chicago and Milwaukee, even though I tell it not to.

Nah, I'm pretty sure you're out of the age range I specified. They actually follow that strictly.

did you just call her old?

No, but she's older than a year older than me. My age range is set from 20-25. She's more mature than 25.

Just dawned on me.I thought you were married. WTF happened? Yes I was not here for several months.

keys was married????

 

[larry_boy_44]

yeah I think I logged onto FBG too late the next day, he delete a bunch of posts or something?

A few whole threads got deleted. larry, you can change the range of where you'll accept matches from and limit it to a "___-mile radius". Go into "my settings".

yeah, it was already at 60-miles and I was getting girls 250+ miles away lol...I put it down to 30, hopefully they'll stay under 100 miles now...

it could be worseyou could have to drive to Duluth.

at least if I drove 5 hours, i'd have gotten laid for my troubles...silly woz, always wozzing everything up...

 

[parasaurolophus]

yeah I think I logged onto FBG too late the next day, he delete a bunch of posts or something?

A few whole threads got deleted. larry, you can change the range of where you'll accept matches from and limit it to a "___-mile radius". Go into "my settings".

yeah, it was already at 60-miles and I was getting girls 250+ miles away lol...I put it down to 30, hopefully they'll stay under 100 miles now...

it could be worseyou could have to drive to Duluth.

at least if I drove 5 hours, i'd have gotten laid for my troubles...silly woz, always wozzing everything up...

Larry is a closer.he gets

 

[KnowledgeReignsSupreme]

how many matches do you have at eHarmony? I have 24 and I close out like 5+ a day, might just be a lot of fish in NYC.

I usually get about 3-4 a day in Madison. Not bad, not great, but they do sometimes randomly match me with Chicago and Milwaukee, even though I tell it not to.

Nah, I'm pretty sure you're out of the age range I specified. They actually follow that strictly.

did you just call her old?

No, but she's older than a year older than me. My age range is set from 20-25. She's more mature than 25.

Just dawned on me.I thought you were married. WTF happened? Yes I was not here for several months.

keys was married????

I know he referred to a Lady Myaths constantly. Maybe it was a serious GF. Either way, wtf.

 

[larry_boy_44]

yeah I think I logged onto FBG too late the next day, he delete a bunch of posts or something?

A few whole threads got deleted. larry, you can change the range of where you'll accept matches from and limit it to a "___-mile radius". Go into "my settings".

yeah, it was already at 60-miles and I was getting girls 250+ miles away lol...I put it down to 30, hopefully they'll stay under 100 miles now...

it could be worseyou could have to drive to Duluth.

at least if I drove 5 hours, i'd have gotten laid for my troubles...silly woz, always wozzing everything up...

Larry is a closer.he gets

 

[Keys Myaths]

how many matches do you have at eHarmony? I have 24 and I close out like 5+ a day, might just be a lot of fish in NYC.

I usually get about 3-4 a day in Madison. Not bad, not great, but they do sometimes randomly match me with Chicago and Milwaukee, even though I tell it not to.

Nah, I'm pretty sure you're out of the age range I specified. They actually follow that strictly.

did you just call her old?

No, but she's older than a year older than me. My age range is set from 20-25. She's more mature than 25.

Just dawned on me.I thought you were married. WTF happened? Yes I was not here for several months.

keys was married????

I know he referred to a Lady Myaths constantly. Maybe it was a serious GF. Either way, wtf.

Engaged. Never have told this story on the boards, or to anyone, really. Most people just know it ended, and left it at that.Not so sure I want to make my failed engagement the topic of discussion.

 

[larry_boy_44]

Nah, I'm pretty sure you're out of the age range I specified. They actually follow that strictly.

did you just call her old?

No, but she's older than a year older than me. My age range is set from 20-25. She's more mature than 25.

Just dawned on me.I thought you were married. WTF happened? Yes I was not here for several months.

keys was married????

I know he referred to a Lady Myaths constantly. Maybe it was a serious GF. Either way, wtf.

Engaged. Never have told this story on the boards, or to anyone, really. Most people just know it ended, and left it at that.Not so sure I want to make my failed engagement the topic of discussion.

failed engagements =

 

[Keys Myaths]

how many matches do you have at eHarmony? I have 24 and I close out like 5+ a day, might just be a lot of fish in NYC.

I usually get about 3-4 a day in Madison. Not bad, not great, but they do sometimes randomly match me with Chicago and Milwaukee, even though I tell it not to.

Nah, I'm pretty sure you're out of the age range I specified. They actually follow that strictly.

did you just call her old?

No, but she's older than a year older than me. My age range is set from 20-25. She's more mature than 25.

Just dawned on me.I thought you were married. WTF happened? Yes I was not here for several months.

keys was married????

I don't think so, Keys is like 24, he might have been - it was probably a GF gone psycho.

That girl was someone different. She was 20, and was supposed to be a fling before everything got crazy.Ok, enough.

 

[KnowledgeReignsSupreme]

Engaged. Never have told this story on the boards, or to anyone, really. Most people just know it ended, and left it at that. Not so sure I want to make my failed engagement the topic of discussion.

I remember you always saying she was completely the opposite of all your old GFs. Was that the reason?

 

[Keys Myaths]

yeah I think I logged onto FBG too late the next day, he delete a bunch of posts or something?

A few whole threads got deleted. larry, you can change the range of where you'll accept matches from and limit it to a "___-mile radius". Go into "my settings".

yeah, it was already at 60-miles and I was getting girls 250+ miles away lol...I put it down to 30, hopefully they'll stay under 100 miles now...

Yeah, I think I'm putting mine down to 20. It's at 40 now, and I'm getting Milwaukee/Chicago occasionally.

 

[larry_boy_44]

yeah I think I logged onto FBG too late the next day, he delete a bunch of posts or something?

A few whole threads got deleted. larry, you can change the range of where you'll accept matches from and limit it to a "___-mile radius". Go into "my settings".

yeah, it was already at 60-miles and I was getting girls 250+ miles away lol...I put it down to 30, hopefully they'll stay under 100 miles now...

Yeah, I think I'm putting mine down to 20. It's at 40 now, and I'm getting Milwaukee/Chicago occasionally.

I only have 30, 60, 90, & 120...

 

[Keys Myaths]

yeah I think I logged onto FBG too late the next day, he delete a bunch of posts or something?

A few whole threads got deleted. larry, you can change the range of where you'll accept matches from and limit it to a "___-mile radius". Go into "my settings".

yeah, it was already at 60-miles and I was getting girls 250+ miles away lol...I put it down to 30, hopefully they'll stay under 100 miles now...

Yeah, I think I'm putting mine down to 20. It's at 40 now, and I'm getting Milwaukee/Chicago occasionally.

I only have 30, 60, 90, & 120...

Maybe that was Match then. I get confused between them sometimes. Let me check.ETA: You're right. Was at 60, moving down.

 

[krista4]

Keys, still waiting on your eHarmony personality profile.

 

[Keys Myaths]

Keys, still waiting on your eHarmony personality profile.

Mine was the same as Alias's. I'm tempted to spend the ten dollars to find out more about me.

 

[larry_boy_44]

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even though you found a different "cute boy" from WI...

 

[krista4]

Keys, still waiting on your eHarmony personality profile.

Mine was the same as Alias's. I'm tempted to spend the ten dollars to find out more about me.

I'm shuked. I didn't spend any extra or ask for an enhanced profile.

 

[krista4]

yeah I think I logged onto FBG too late the next day, he delete a bunch of posts or something?

A few whole threads got deleted. larry, you can change the range of where you'll accept matches from and limit it to a "___-mile radius". Go into "my settings".

yeah, it was already at 60-miles and I was getting girls 250+ miles away lol...I put it down to 30, hopefully they'll stay under 100 miles now...

Yeah, I think I'm putting mine down to 20. It's at 40 now, and I'm getting Milwaukee/Chicago occasionally.

I only have 30, 60, 90, & 120...

Geez, they need to have a "not outside the city limits" option here.

 

[Keys Myaths]

Keys, still waiting on your eHarmony personality profile.

Mine was the same as Alias's. I'm tempted to spend the ten dollars to find out more about me.

I'm shuked. I didn't spend any extra or ask for an enhanced profile.

Yeah, it's because yours is old.Spent the money, they ask more questions, and give you a bunch more categories. Not bad, actually.These are the first paragraphs under each.Agreeableness:Here's one important truth about you: you have a tender heart. Yes, you know that others need to learn to take care of themselves. Yes, you know they need to accept the consequences of their foolish or bad behavior. And sometimes, even when your instinct is to help them, you will let them fend for themselves and let them suffer the consequences of their choices or circumstances.Under agreeableness, they give me 3 sub-categories:Modesty:When you set your mind to it, and especially when your heart's in it, you listen carefully to the person in front of you and pay attention to their needs. With your closest friends or with a partner, what they say, what they want, whatever is on their minds matters to you. Which is where the part about "your mind" and "your heart" comes clear - you tell and show them you care.Generosity:"What's mine is yours." Okay, not everything that is "mine" is "yours" in your attitude and actions, but it moves in that direction. You are very generous. You make time when someone needs your help. You offer yourself even before you're asked, or anticipate a situation and bring a gift or make a call before your friend even knows they need you. And if someone needs comforting because they've lost a friend or a game or their pride in themselves, there's something about the way you wrap them up in your arms and your affections that relieves the pain and helps them move forward again.Social Awareness:Sometimes you just lay your cards on the table, whether it's aces and kings or a busted hand. "Here's what I've got." And people can play off that however they wish to play. At other times, you've got your cards pressed hard against you chest and no one knows if you're holding deuces or jacks. You hope the other person folds their hand so you don't have to lay your cards on the table, face up. Interesting, aren't you? Open with some things about yourself, closed tight about other things. Open with some people, closed like a drum with others.I'll post the other four major categories after I read them. It's actually interesting (and accurate).

 

[larry_boy_44]

yeah I think I logged onto FBG too late the next day, he delete a bunch of posts or something?

A few whole threads got deleted. larry, you can change the range of where you'll accept matches from and limit it to a "___-mile radius". Go into "my settings".

yeah, it was already at 60-miles and I was getting girls 250+ miles away lol...I put it down to 30, hopefully they'll stay under 100 miles now...

Yeah, I think I'm putting mine down to 20. It's at 40 now, and I'm getting Milwaukee/Chicago occasionally.

I only have 30, 60, 90, & 120...

Geez, they need to have a "not outside the city limits" option here.

I wouldn't mind 60 miles...but like 400??? Holy crap... going on a date of basically any sort is pretty much out when they're that far away...

 

[Keys Myaths]

Wow, this is deadly accurate. It's actually scary.

 

[krista4]

Wow, this is deadly accurate. It's actually scary.

Damn, now I'm going to have to buy it.ETA: I get to answer 60 more questions!

 

[Alias]

Mine is set at 30, 60 is like an hour plus away and I live in NYC, so I *shouldn't* have to go that far to land a date.

 

[larry_boy_44]

Agreeableness:

You are best described as: USUALLY TAKING CARE OF OTHERS Words that describe you: Understanding Unquestioning Humane Selfless Gentle Kindhearted Gullible Indulgent A General Description of How You Interact with Others Here's one important truth about you: you have a tender heart. Yes, you know that others need to learn to take care of themselves. Yes, you know they need to accept the consequences of their foolish or bad behavior. And sometimes, even when your instinct is to help them, you will let them fend for themselves and let them suffer the consequences of their choices or circumstances.But most of the time you are there to help when they need you. If they are in trouble, you offer compassion and go out of your way to be helpful. If they need someone who will listen, you are trustworthy and sympathetic. And you are direct with them; when they need advice or counsel, you offer it in a straightforward, direct manner, without beating around the bush.You're also smart enough to know that you cannot take good care of others if you fail to take good care of yourself, so you listen to your own wants and needs. If you've run out of sympathetic energy, you spend time restoring yourself. If you've ignored your own pain or frustration, you find a friend who will listen well, or go into your own private healing place and give yourself permission to focus on you. But before long, you're back at it with your friends, offering a sympathetic ear and compassion on which they learn to trust, also giving straightforward advice and counsel when they ask for it. You do know how to take care of yourself, but your genuine interest is in taking care of others. Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward You Selfish people might be embarrassed by you. While they're using their time and energy almost exclusively on themselves, they see you giving time to others, and your kindness puts them in a bad light.Maybe they'll think you're a phony, that you use your altruism to get others indebted to you so they'll then owe you a favor. Or perhaps they'll accuse you, directly or behind your back, of focusing on the needs of others so no one ever focuses on your foibles or your genuine wounds.All of these are false accusations; yours is a genuine compassion, because you truly have a tender heart. One criticism might be more substantial, though. People might notice when you let things get out of balance and spend so much time responding to others that you neglect your own needs.Perhaps it's true to some extent that you are more comfortable when the focus is on someone else's needs than when you and your needs are front and center, and this may be a criticism worth paying attention to. Positive Responses Others May Have Toward You Positive responses to you are likely to far outweigh negative responses. For many people, your genuine kindness will be an example of a way to treat others and a way we want others to treat us. They will see in you the traits of compassion and sympathy which they might want to focus on in the development of their own character.For those people you help you will be the friend they need, there at the right moment to help them when they've stepped into yet another thicket of pain or confusion. They will be grateful for your listening, for your straight talk when they need straight talk more than anything, and for the hand you extend so they can find their way, with your help, out of whatever tangle they've gotten themselves into.

Openness:

On the Openness Dimension you are: VERY CURIOUS Words that describe you: Imaginative Creative Intellectual Adventurous Unconventional Artistic Progressive Daring Inspired A General Description of How You Approach New Information and Experiences You are a very creative and imaginative person who is especially open to new ideas or new ways of thinking about old problems. You love to approach a conventional idea or a traditional way of doing things by walking around to the other side and explore it from a novel perspective. What's new is what interests you. Like an artist looking for a new way to see, you focus your imagination on envisioning ideas, events or problems in completely original ways. You are intellectually progressive, which means you like to think and feel your way into unexplored landscapes where you let your sense of intellectual adventure romp freely.Because you are so curious you can also be very teachable. You learn from personal and interpersonal experiences as well as from classrooms and textbooks. You crave new information, and toss and turn it in your vivid imagination. When you come across an idea from someone else or a thought in your own head that is particularly provocative or original, you light up. With wit and wisdom, Dr. Seuss describes you like this: "Think left and think right and think low and think high. Oh, the thinks you can think up if only you try!" Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward Your Style of Thinking Not everyone will be thrilled by your adventurous mind. Many people are content with the ideas that have served them and their culture well, and with visions they've grown accustomed to of what is and is not true. They're not lit up at the prospect of moving out of their comfort zone. Others are afraid of new ways of thinking and creative ways of solving problems because they are somewhat fragile in the sense that they have trouble maintaining serenity in their current worlds and don't want someone, like you, for instance, pushing out the edges of their intellectual and cultural cosmos. So don't be surprised if your unconventional ideas sometimes get you criticized, or if some people walk away from the explorations of new territories of the mind that you find so exhilarating. Positive Responses Others May Have Toward You Despite some negative responses to your style of thinking, many people will find your progressive thoughts and vivid imagination quite attractive. Some will find your openness to new ways of thinking and your willingness to explore what others shy away from a very compelling quality. Other creative souls will find in you a companion on the journey into the unknown, and will welcome the camaraderie. Conversations with them will be lively and innovative and will ignite your imagination, and theirs. Even some who are less curious than you will be impressed by your courage to think and believe what is for them unimaginable, and by your willingness to go on adventures of the mind that they would find dangerous or daunting. For these people you might become a mentor into the wilder side of thinking and believing, and nudge them toward the creative and progressive ideas that you find so interesting.

Emotional Stability:

On Emotional Stability you are: SOMETIMES STEADY, SOMETIMES RESPONSIVE Words that describe you: Adaptable Engaged Able to Cope Passionate Perceptive Flexible Receptive Aware Avid A General Description of Your Reactivity In some ways, you've got the best of emotional worlds. When emotions rise up from inside you or are brought forth from a conversation by a friend, you know how to engage them. You deal with sadness, fear, joy, anger - whatever comes up - in ways that are perceptive and flexible. You can adapt to whatever level of emotion is appropriate to the moment. At other times, you are able to cope with your emotions in a more reserved manner. Because you are aware of what does and does not make emotional sense in a particular situation, you will decide when it is an appropriate time to express your emotions and when it would be best to keep them to yourself.All of this gives you a rich emotional life. You are free to express your passions about certain subjects with appropriate people. But you are also emotionally adaptable; if the conversation needs to be more cerebral, you'll keep it "in your head" and talk calmly through whatever issue is on the table. This emotional awareness serves you well. You seldom get in over your head, either by opening up to the wrong person or by triggering in someone else's emotions they may not be able to deal with. Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward You When it comes to dealing with emotions we all meet some people with whom we don't match well. You bring a balanced approach to your emotional life. As such, those who are at the extremes are most likely to have a negative reaction to you. Those who live in their emotions may feel you tend to "live in your head" while those who go through life as an emotional rock may feel that you are a bit too "touchy feely" for their approach.And of course it is always possible that because you do balance your emotional approach to life you may misread others - we all do at times. So there have undoubtedly been those times when you have misread cues and stayed in your head with someone who hoped for a more open emotional approach or you may have opened up emotionally with someone who keeps their emotions bottled up. But these things happen and since you do have a good balance of being in touch with your emotions and not being overly impacted by emotional swings, you undoubtedly are able to adapt.Another potential problem is that as people get to know you well, they will discover that you have a great balance between emotional expression and emotional control. If they don't have this balance they may wind up envying you. They can't express feelings as well as you, or they are too often out of emotional control and resent you for your ability to cope so well with the very emotions that may trip them up. Positive Responses Others May Have Toward You Many people will be grateful to find a friend like you who can stay in control when emotions verge on chaos, but who can also go into the tangle of emotions when it is safe and appropriate to do so. Because of your ability to engage them at whatever level they are comfortable, to adapt to whatever changes in emotion emerge in the conversation, and to cope so well with all of it - well, they'll be very glad they found a person like you. You may, in fact, wind up as something of an emotional mentor. Your awareness of the emotional temperature of a situation, your ability to adapt to either heat or cold, and your ability to cope with whatever winds up happening in the conversation could be models for them to follow as they come to terms with their own emotional worlds.

Concienciousness:

Your approach toward your obligations is: VERY FLEXIBLE Words that describe you: Impulsive Instinctive Intuitive Sometimes Inefficient Procrastinator Rule-breaker A General Description of How You Interact with Others Rules are made to be broken, plans are made to be changed, and schedules are made to be altered. Anyone who's been around you for very long knows that is just part of the way you live. You don't like to be hemmed in by someone's idea of how a job should be done or a goal should be accomplished. Where others assume that the way to get something done is to follow whatever guidelines have been laid out, your idea of how to best get things done often involves making it up as you go along. You are as variable as a hawk in full flight - but like the hawk, you keep your eyes on the prize; even in the midst of turmoil you have a sense of where you need to go. You just have your own way of getting there.To the surprise of some of your friends and associates, you do get things done, though. But maybe not on the timeline someone else had hoped for. In fact, you likely have a reputation as a legendary procrastinator, not because you're lazy or disinterested, but because following your instincts and creative sense takes longer. But the upside is that often your instincts turn the ordinary into something quite amazing; and some of the times, when you get everything just right, the ordinary original plans become an extraordinary achievement. Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward You Let's be frank - it's not always easy to work with someone like you. Almost any group effort requires a certain amount of common understanding about where everyone is headed and what the plan is to get there. But with you on board, there is always the chance that you'll change the schedule, find an alternative route, or come up with a perfect argument for doing things in a completely different sequence than was planned. And that can drive some people to distraction. If that is often the case, if you find that your friends and colleagues live with a chronic sense of frustration with you; you may want to recalibrate your way of doing things when you work with them. Understand that we aren't suggesting that you change your ability to tap into your creativity or even your impulsivity. Rather we are suggesting you consider if you can stay in tune with your ingenuity in ways that will not frustrate others desire to stay on schedule and to follow predefined courses of action. Positive Responses Others May Have Toward You When you get it right -and often you do - it usually impresses even those who can get frustrated with your style. The new product line is so much more imaginative than what was drawn up on the original blueprints, and the new color scheme with which you painted the downstairs rooms is simply stunning. When your instincts are on target and your impulses energize an otherwise lifeless plan or when you infuse a social experience with the kind of fantasy and fun that no one else could bring to the task - when it works - you're the hero of the moment, and everyone's favorite eccentric.This ability of yours to color outside the lines, to think outside the box - is a gift of potentially profound proportions. The trick is to blend your gift for finding new ways of doing things with completing work in slightly more organized ways. Your colleagues and friends probably want in on your creative secret, too. There is just something about flexible, impulsive, creative you that reminds them that there may be something missing in their more orderly, disciplined and, frankly, somewhat boring lives.

Extraversion:

When it comes to Extraversion you are: OUTGOING Words that describe you: Friendly Gregarious Full of Life Unreserved Kindhearted Talkative Emotional Spontaneous Vigorous A General Description of How You Interact with Others People light you up. In conversations, planning meetings or almost any social situation, you bring your energy and your friendly, outgoing personality into these engagements with other people, and you come away pumped up. You can hardly wait for the next event, as long as other people will be there. And you're good at it. You know how to communicate. You listen well, the first rule of good communication, and then, when it's your turn, you talk vigorously and with animation; in your uninhibited way you give all that you've got to the encounter. In situations where you feel very safe, when you know and trust the people you're with, you can be very kindhearted and unrestrained. You let your affection for and pleasure in being with others flow freely. You're wide open And when you get back this same kind of unrestrained warmth, you are deeply satisfied. Because you are so friendly and full of life, these are among your favorite moments. Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward You As much as you like being with other people, not everyone will like being with you. Hard to believe, but your gregarious and warm manner is not everyone's cup of tea. Some people are more cautious than you in personal encounters; others think the work place should be more formal, more impersonal than is comfortable for you. Still others, who may want more of the spotlight, will find you too much to compete with once you get your lively and outgoing self in motion. Here's another word of caution. You've been at this warm and open way of relating for a while, but for some people it's a brand new experience. They may be protecting something inside themselves, some fear or guilt or shame, or some private part of their story that they're not yet ready to share. Your openness might threaten them, and they'll take a step back and be reluctant the next time to engage you in the kind of exchange you find so easy and satisfying but they find so dangerous. Positive Responses Others May Have Toward You Many people, most probably, will be glad to be in the room you're in. At work you make the environment livelier and the banter more interesting, so the time moves swiftly and the experience is a happier one. At home you keep everyone connected because you engage each of them in the conversational action, and as a result they are more connected as well with one another. You make home a warmer and more interesting place for everyone who lives there. You might also be helpful to some people. There are those who need to talk but aren't very good at it. They don't know how to begin the kind of conversation that would allow them to share whatever is in their personal stories that they'd like or need to talk about. You could make that easier for them with your way with words. Some people just need an example and a little encouragement to come out of their shell and get into the greater fun and personal connectedness that will make their lives so much more satisfying. Again, you might be just the right person to make that happen for them. So almost everyone will be glad to be with you, you make life more interesting for those you live and work with, and you could help some of your friends who need just a little encouragement to open up and find in themselves the kinds of energetic and warm connections that you thrive on. Not that you are a pushover; in fact, you are often quite assertive. In taking care of yourself you also make sure that others are engaged and energized.

I think its accurate...

 

[larry_boy_44]

Mine is set at 30, 60 is like an hour plus away and I live in NYC, so I *shouldn't* have to go that far to land a date.

in WI where I'm at 60 miles away is like 45 minutes... :lead feet:

 

[Keys Myaths]

Openness:

Like someone who can sleep comfortably on either side of the bed, you are equally at home with ideas and beliefs that you have held for a long time and with new ways of thinking and believing that grow out of your intellectual curiosity.

Your sense of who you are and what your place is in the world around you rests on values and principles that are the solid ground you walk upon. You've tested them, they work for you, and much of the time you are content to trust them, that is, until some provocative new idea slips in from a conversation, book or some flight of your active imagination. "Hmmmm. What's this. Never thought of it before." And off you go, exploring.

Information Processor:

Maybe it depends upon the kinds of information coming at you. Maybe it depends upon whom or what is delivering the information. Or maybe it depends upon which side of the bed you woke up on this morning. Whichever is the reason - and it could be some combination of all of the above - you are sometimes very adept at processing information and sometimes not so hot. Sometimes you can talk on the phone and be on the web and handle the data coming at your from both, or read an email from a friend and talk on the phone to your mother and take in what each of them is saying. At other times it's as if you're asleep at the switch; you read the same text for the second time and still can't figure out what it means, or hear the same story about your friend's brother-in-law without remembering who he's married to.

Do you understand this inconsistency in yourself? Perhaps it's what was mentioned above: who is delivering the data, or your mood, or whether you've had your morning coffee. Maybe sometimes you just don't care; the data coming at you is boring or dated or on some topic you find as interesting as watching paint dry. What is it? It will help if you can sort out your inconsistency so that you'll know, even if no one else does, why you're so adept at processing some information and so baffled with other types of data.

Inquisitive:

You've settled some questions in your life. "We use things and love people, and not the other way around". "Promises are for keeping". "U2 has replaced The Rolling Stones as the greatest rock n' roll band in the world". From the important to the trivial, you've arrived at certain answers and are willing to let these answers stand. But most questions are still open for you; your curiosity brings you back at yet another angle to issues you've considered time and again. "Why do some children from difficult childhoods grow up to be resilient, without signs of major damage, while others from similar backgrounds seem crippled by their pasts?" "Why are some men able to integrate a devotion to work with a devotion to family while others seem to manage either one or the other, but not both?" "Why haven't the Chicago Cubs won a World Series in nearly ninety years?"

Perceptiveness:

When you have your mind's eye open and your ears attuned, you don't miss much. You see what's going on around you, not just the obvious but also the subtleties of peoples' behavior and intentions. You hear what's being said by your friends and your work colleagues and even catch those nuances that many other people miss. When you are looking and listening carefully you know well how other people are reacting to you, and why, and you read them like pages of an open book.

But for some reason or reasons there are moments or circumstances when you just don't get it. Like the monkeys with their hands covering their eyes and pressed over their ears, there are occasions when you See No Evil and Hear No Evil nor much else of what is going on around you. It's as if you are momentarily struck blind and deaf to the obvious and the nuanced and you wind up the fool you don't ever want to be.