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What kind of conversations have you two had so far, Stu? She has that look that says either "I have my #### together & you'd better too" or "I am completely insane - wanna come along for the ride?".Random local myspace chick started sending messages tonight. I don't use myspace for dating, but apparently she does...
She was pushing for a meeting ASAP, which kind of caught me off guard. Maybe I got used to the coyness of these younger girls.
Damn it's late...
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Match will sometimes send winks from fake ads too. It seemed this happened when responses had slowed down for a few days - all of a sudden, I'd be getting winks from women from all over the country (& overseas - got one from Switzerland). All were incredibly hot, and most were much younger than my stated age range. Early on, I responded to a couple of the winks. But after I didn't hear back from any of them I started to figure out what was happening: Match is trying to keep you interested if response traffic slows down. I'd bet my house that they were models & that the profiles were written by Match.
And the drama loving girl is your goal huh?I don't bring in the drama (even though I think you're wrong in that some girls LOVE drama), it just seems to like to form around me. Honestly all I wanted on my first idate was to have a drink with the girl, have decent conversation, and go home by myself with the assurance that there are sane elligible chicks in my proximity. And the point of me texting while drunk was to get this girl NOT to like me so she saves face and her lawyer sister isn't mad at me enough to ruin me professionally here at the office. .Poppa said:Fixed - and verrrrrrry underrated. "Dating" / Life is supposed to be fun. Woz - Are you listening? Girls despise/loathe/want to ignore Drama Kings. They get enough drama from their girlfriends.Disco Stu said:
Annnnnd - texting while drunk is a horrendously BAD idea. Talking - face to face - drunk to a gal who's three sheets to the wind herself, is okay/acceptable...but you've no idea the potential reception when you do it from across town...and in written form besides. With no other visual/audio cues to go by...the recipient will likely figure that you're simply an *ss...and intentionally so.
I-dating gurus? Don't give up on Woz please.
Seemed like pretty basic conversations to me... myspace, kids, divorcing (we're both in the process), etc. Maybe 6 messages each on myspace, followed by 15 minutes or so on yahoo messenger. My last date was closer to her daughter's age (15) than to her age (34).What kind of conversations have you two had so far, Stu? She has that look that says either "I have my #### together & you'd better too" or "I am completely insane - wanna come along for the ride?".Random local myspace chick started sending messages tonight. I don't use myspace for dating, but apparently she does...
She was pushing for a meeting ASAP, which kind of caught me off guard. Maybe I got used to the coyness of these younger girls.
Damn it's late...
I don't think you'd be faced with that decision after only one date with each. Seems like you could keep seeing both for a while before getting there, right?As for me, not really going to join the iDating. Just slightly drunk and bored last night. It does seem like it would be interesting, except for the fact that I don't want to date, which seems like a bit of a barrier to the process.OK......my update.Had a good time with "No Nonsense" as I mentioned in a previous update. Have only chatted with her once since our date. I have a feeling it will be challenging for us to get out much she has FT custody of her daughter. I am assuming I will not be able to see until next weekend at the earliest. One thing I forgot to mention about her. She apparently had a role in a movie (A small speaking role). I will not share the movie because she could be googled (I checked). I just thought it was cool....I need to re-rent this movie to check her out."Tiny Shy Blond" all of the sudden is not so shy. This is the person I have talked to the longest. In all honesty we have probably been talking for 2 months. Timing and our distance apart keep us from meeting. Anyway, I was starting to get frustarated with the lack of progress and told her so. She then wrote me a really heart felt note and seems a little more aggressive and we are going to meet this coming Mon/Tues. Staying over-night at her place I think. We are deciding tonight. This is a girl I HAVE to meet, or I will always wonder what might hjave been. After meeting Tiny Shy Blond.......I am going to be faced with a decision. Which one to pursue for more long term dating. Pssst....Krista.....you fire over your profile write up for a guys point of view when you are ready.
So I should cancel my flight to Chicago?I don't think you'd be faced with that decision after only one date with each. Seems like you could keep seeing both for a while before getting there, right?As for me, not really going to join the iDating. Just slightly drunk and bored last night. It does seem like it would be interesting, except for the fact that I don't want to date, which seems like a bit of a barrier to the process.OK......my update.Had a good time with "No Nonsense" as I mentioned in a previous update. Have only chatted with her once since our date. I have a feeling it will be challenging for us to get out much she has FT custody of her daughter. I am assuming I will not be able to see until next weekend at the earliest. One thing I forgot to mention about her. She apparently had a role in a movie (A small speaking role). I will not share the movie because she could be googled (I checked). I just thought it was cool....I need to re-rent this movie to check her out."Tiny Shy Blond" all of the sudden is not so shy. This is the person I have talked to the longest. In all honesty we have probably been talking for 2 months. Timing and our distance apart keep us from meeting. Anyway, I was starting to get frustarated with the lack of progress and told her so. She then wrote me a really heart felt note and seems a little more aggressive and we are going to meet this coming Mon/Tues. Staying over-night at her place I think. We are deciding tonight. This is a girl I HAVE to meet, or I will always wonder what might hjave been. After meeting Tiny Shy Blond.......I am going to be faced with a decision. Which one to pursue for more long term dating. Pssst....Krista.....you fire over your profile write up for a guys point of view when you are ready.
Yeah, we're not really into MMF threesomes.So I should cancel my flight to Chicago?I don't think you'd be faced with that decision after only one date with each. Seems like you could keep seeing both for a while before getting there, right?As for me, not really going to join the iDating. Just slightly drunk and bored last night. It does seem like it would be interesting, except for the fact that I don't want to date, which seems like a bit of a barrier to the process.OK......my update.Had a good time with "No Nonsense" as I mentioned in a previous update. Have only chatted with her once since our date. I have a feeling it will be challenging for us to get out much she has FT custody of her daughter. I am assuming I will not be able to see until next weekend at the earliest. One thing I forgot to mention about her. She apparently had a role in a movie (A small speaking role). I will not share the movie because she could be googled (I checked). I just thought it was cool....I need to re-rent this movie to check her out."Tiny Shy Blond" all of the sudden is not so shy. This is the person I have talked to the longest. In all honesty we have probably been talking for 2 months. Timing and our distance apart keep us from meeting. Anyway, I was starting to get frustarated with the lack of progress and told her so. She then wrote me a really heart felt note and seems a little more aggressive and we are going to meet this coming Mon/Tues. Staying over-night at her place I think. We are deciding tonight. This is a girl I HAVE to meet, or I will always wonder what might hjave been. After meeting Tiny Shy Blond.......I am going to be faced with a decision. Which one to pursue for more long term dating. Pssst....Krista.....you fire over your profile write up for a guys point of view when you are ready.
I'll bring a 4th......we could swap....no?Yeah, we're not really into MMF threesomes.So I should cancel my flight to Chicago?I don't think you'd be faced with that decision after only one date with each. Seems like you could keep seeing both for a while before getting there, right?As for me, not really going to join the iDating. Just slightly drunk and bored last night. It does seem like it would be interesting, except for the fact that I don't want to date, which seems like a bit of a barrier to the process.OK......my update.Had a good time with "No Nonsense" as I mentioned in a previous update. Have only chatted with her once since our date. I have a feeling it will be challenging for us to get out much she has FT custody of her daughter. I am assuming I will not be able to see until next weekend at the earliest. One thing I forgot to mention about her. She apparently had a role in a movie (A small speaking role). I will not share the movie because she could be googled (I checked). I just thought it was cool....I need to re-rent this movie to check her out."Tiny Shy Blond" all of the sudden is not so shy. This is the person I have talked to the longest. In all honesty we have probably been talking for 2 months. Timing and our distance apart keep us from meeting. Anyway, I was starting to get frustarated with the lack of progress and told her so. She then wrote me a really heart felt note and seems a little more aggressive and we are going to meet this coming Mon/Tues. Staying over-night at her place I think. We are deciding tonight. This is a girl I HAVE to meet, or I will always wonder what might hjave been. After meeting Tiny Shy Blond.......I am going to be faced with a decision. Which one to pursue for more long term dating. Pssst....Krista.....you fire over your profile write up for a guys point of view when you are ready.
:X Just saw your new sig...I've never been sig-worthy before.So I should cancel my flight to Chicago?I don't think you'd be faced with that decision after only one date with each. Seems like you could keep seeing both for a while before getting there, right?As for me, not really going to join the iDating. Just slightly drunk and bored last night. It does seem like it would be interesting, except for the fact that I don't want to date, which seems like a bit of a barrier to the process.OK......my update.Had a good time with "No Nonsense" as I mentioned in a previous update. Have only chatted with her once since our date. I have a feeling it will be challenging for us to get out much she has FT custody of her daughter. I am assuming I will not be able to see until next weekend at the earliest. One thing I forgot to mention about her. She apparently had a role in a movie (A small speaking role). I will not share the movie because she could be googled (I checked). I just thought it was cool....I need to re-rent this movie to check her out."Tiny Shy Blond" all of the sudden is not so shy. This is the person I have talked to the longest. In all honesty we have probably been talking for 2 months. Timing and our distance apart keep us from meeting. Anyway, I was starting to get frustarated with the lack of progress and told her so. She then wrote me a really heart felt note and seems a little more aggressive and we are going to meet this coming Mon/Tues. Staying over-night at her place I think. We are deciding tonight. This is a girl I HAVE to meet, or I will always wonder what might hjave been. After meeting Tiny Shy Blond.......I am going to be faced with a decision. Which one to pursue for more long term dating. Pssst....Krista.....you fire over your profile write up for a guys point of view when you are ready.
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Planned overnight for first meeting? :X
IMO Myspace is the best site to use. I always had far more success with it than actual dating sites.Random local myspace chick started sending messages tonight. I don't use myspace for dating, but apparently she does...
She was pushing for a meeting ASAP, which kind of caught me off guard. Maybe I got used to the coyness of these younger girls. :X
Damn it's late...
I'm listening. :XI'll bring a 4th......we could swap....no?Yeah, we're not really into MMF threesomes.So I should cancel my flight to Chicago?I don't think you'd be faced with that decision after only one date with each. Seems like you could keep seeing both for a while before getting there, right?As for me, not really going to join the iDating. Just slightly drunk and bored last night. It does seem like it would be interesting, except for the fact that I don't want to date, which seems like a bit of a barrier to the process.OK......my update.Had a good time with "No Nonsense" as I mentioned in a previous update. Have only chatted with her once since our date. I have a feeling it will be challenging for us to get out much she has FT custody of her daughter. I am assuming I will not be able to see until next weekend at the earliest. One thing I forgot to mention about her. She apparently had a role in a movie (A small speaking role). I will not share the movie because she could be googled (I checked). I just thought it was cool....I need to re-rent this movie to check her out."Tiny Shy Blond" all of the sudden is not so shy. This is the person I have talked to the longest. In all honesty we have probably been talking for 2 months. Timing and our distance apart keep us from meeting. Anyway, I was starting to get frustarated with the lack of progress and told her so. She then wrote me a really heart felt note and seems a little more aggressive and we are going to meet this coming Mon/Tues. Staying over-night at her place I think. We are deciding tonight. This is a girl I HAVE to meet, or I will always wonder what might hjave been. After meeting Tiny Shy Blond.......I am going to be faced with a decision. Which one to pursue for more long term dating. Pssst....Krista.....you fire over your profile write up for a guys point of view when you are ready.
That's too bad, k. It would have been interesting to contrast a female's experiences here with the guys'. I have a feeling it would be quite a bit different.But if you don't want to take one for the team................I don't think you'd be faced with that decision after only one date with each. Seems like you could keep seeing both for a while before getting there, right?As for me, not really going to join the iDating. Just slightly drunk and bored last night. It does seem like it would be interesting, except for the fact that I don't want to date, which seems like a bit of a barrier to the process.
I meant to comment on that, too. IIRC, she lives an hour and a half away, yes? Still a very awkward way to have a first meeting... I was also wondering about the "really heart felt note"--seems a little serious for someone you haven't even met. Maybe we'll have a Woz-type Psycho Chick on our hands!Planned overnight for first meeting?
Not my first time either........Planned overnight for first meeting?
One nice thing about this one is she lives closer (probably 10-15 miles) than any of the other options. :lazy:Looking back at the transcript, it kind of looks like I blew her off. Here's how it ended...Seemed like pretty basic conversations to me... myspace, kids, divorcing (we're both in the process), etc. Maybe 6 messages each on myspace, followed by 15 minutes or so on yahoo messenger. My last date was closer to her daughter's age (15) than to her age (34).What kind of conversations have you two had so far, Stu? She has that look that says either "I have my #### together & you'd better too" or "I am completely insane - wanna come along for the ride?".Random local myspace chick started sending messages tonight. I don't use myspace for dating, but apparently she does... :X
She was pushing for a meeting ASAP, which kind of caught me off guard. Maybe I got used to the coyness of these younger girls.
Damn it's late...
Edit: And I agree about the look. I don't think we talked long enough to figure out which of the two options is more likely. I'm also not sure if she's looking to take advantage of her new freedom with a casual fling, or if she's looking for Husband Version 2.0.
Yeah, but wasn't that a planned casual hookup? Where this is more of a relationship possibility? Or did her "heart-felt note" include the words "I want you to drive here to do the sex to me"?Not my first time either........
LOL...no. There will be no secs, I don't think anyway.Yeah, but wasn't that a planned casual hookup? Where this is more of a relationship possibility? Or did her "heart-felt note" include the words "I want you to drive here to do the sex to me"?Not my first time either........
Maybe it's my old age (45) but I automatically equate AIM-speak with airheadedness. I know that's stereotyping on my part and I'm sure that's not the case anymore, as writing that way is more efficient in chat. Those that write their profiles that way, though.....Anyway, what's your feel here Stu? I mean, she's close & she's attractive. Does she come across as intelligent, well-educated, self-sufficient, etc..? I'd say if there's anything there that interests you (& doesn't scare you), you have to meet her.One nice thing about this one is she lives closer (probably 10-15 miles) than any of the other options. :lazy:Looking back at the transcript, it kind of looks like I blew her off. Here's how it ended...Seemed like pretty basic conversations to me... myspace, kids, divorcing (we're both in the process), etc. Maybe 6 messages each on myspace, followed by 15 minutes or so on yahoo messenger. My last date was closer to her daughter's age (15) than to her age (34).What kind of conversations have you two had so far, Stu? She has that look that says either "I have my #### together & you'd better too" or "I am completely insane - wanna come along for the ride?".Random local myspace chick started sending messages tonight. I don't use myspace for dating, but apparently she does...
She was pushing for a meeting ASAP, which kind of caught me off guard. Maybe I got used to the coyness of these younger girls. :(
Damn it's late...
Edit: And I agree about the look. I don't think we talked long enough to figure out which of the two options is more likely. I'm also not sure if she's looking to take advantage of her new freedom with a casual fling, or if she's looking for Husband Version 2.0.
I am learning that meeting sooner rather than later is the way to go. I am sure you won't bat a 100%, but in the long run it is a time saver.One nice thing about this one is she lives closer (probably 10-15 miles) than any of the other options. :lazy:Looking back at the transcript, it kind of looks like I blew her off. Here's how it ended...Seemed like pretty basic conversations to me... myspace, kids, divorcing (we're both in the process), etc. Maybe 6 messages each on myspace, followed by 15 minutes or so on yahoo messenger. My last date was closer to her daughter's age (15) than to her age (34).What kind of conversations have you two had so far, Stu? She has that look that says either "I have my #### together & you'd better too" or "I am completely insane - wanna come along for the ride?".Random local myspace chick started sending messages tonight. I don't use myspace for dating, but apparently she does...
She was pushing for a meeting ASAP, which kind of caught me off guard. Maybe I got used to the coyness of these younger girls.
Damn it's late...
Edit: And I agree about the look. I don't think we talked long enough to figure out which of the two options is more likely. I'm also not sure if she's looking to take advantage of her new freedom with a casual fling, or if she's looking for Husband Version 2.0.
That's probably true. I'm struggling to find the time though, so narrowing the field online seemed wise.
Yep, nothing wrong with that.That's probably true. I'm struggling to find the time though, so narrowing the field online seemed wise.
AIM-speak on AIM is fine, although I'm not completely comfortable doing it myself yet (which slows me down). In emails it's questionable. In profiles it's a problem.I really don't know that much about her. Nothing about college on her myspace, so I'm assuming she didn't attend. I was ready to go to bed, so I didn't ask her what she did for a living.I'll probably meet her for drinks or something unless she starts giving "looking for serious relationship" vibes...
Didn't I offer this advice pages ago?That's probably true. I'm struggling to find the time though, so narrowing the field online seemed wise.
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The "move for a meeting early" advice? Probably. I know I've heard a few people say this.For me, I don't mind wasting online time (which I have) if it means I can be more efficient with my B&M time (which I don't have much of). If I only have two free nights in a week, I want to feel fairly confident that I'm picking the right girls to fill those slots.Didn't I offer this advice pages ago?That's probably true. I'm struggling to find the time though, so narrowing the field online seemed wise.
That's kind of the point though. Picking someone based soley on i-interaction does not always translate well to face to face. In fact, I would say it translates well only about 25% of the time.The "move for a meeting early" advice? Probably. I know I've heard a few people say this.For me, I don't mind wasting online time (which I have) if it means I can be more efficient with my B&M time (which I don't have much of). If I only have two free nights in a week, I want to feel fairly confident that I'm picking the right girls to fill those slots.Didn't I offer this advice pages ago?That's probably true. I'm struggling to find the time though, so narrowing the field online seemed wise.
And my point earlier was that you will find in retrospect that you wasted a ton of iTime on girls who you immediately cut loose in real life...That's kind of the point though. Picking someone based soley on i-interaction does not always translate well to face to face. In fact, I would say it translates well only about 25% of the time.The "move for a meeting early" advice? Probably. I know I've heard a few people say this.For me, I don't mind wasting online time (which I have) if it means I can be more efficient with my B&M time (which I don't have much of). If I only have two free nights in a week, I want to feel fairly confident that I'm picking the right girls to fill those slots.Didn't I offer this advice pages ago?That's probably true. I'm struggling to find the time though, so narrowing the field online seemed wise.
Say you are busy with work.....seems to work for me.
You're doing well so far, dmd. You've got three meetables. For #2, unless you are just dead-set against dating anyone with kids, don't worry about it right now - you may not feel an attraction to each other anyway. And if you do see some potential there, it'll either be workable for you or it won't. These things tend to work themselves out.
I hear you with number 2. I actually don't really have a problem with her having a kid, as long as there isnt a constant battle with the ex...i dont want to deal with a psycho ex when a kid is involved. So its not the kid that bothers me. In fact, my mother had my older sister already from a previous marriage, so if my dad had a problem with it I wouldnt be around =). And then my older sister was also married once before and had two kids, she is now remarried to my brother in law who took both her kids and treats them like his own. So i have no problem following in their footsteps because my dad and my brother-in-law are two of the people i respect most!
Oh, and stop with the "ugly" crap. First, no one wants to hear it. Second, haven't you heard the ladies in this thread say that looks aren't the be-all and end-all? You're doing something right if you've already got three meetings scheduled. Be confident & things will go fine.
I havnt read the entire thread yet, how old did you say you were?
I still havent recieved the link yet to the underground. Can you resend?Sounds promising. Now set us up the pics.
ugly thing was a joke..i know im sexy
Thanks, krista. I've been around this block a few times (two different i-dating plunges wrapped around a marriage) & know what worked/didn't for me at least. I do understand, though, that my experiences have been with older women than our guinea pigs heroes are dealing with, so there may be some differences there. Anyway, regardless of age differences, I've found that common sense, decency, & honesty will get you the farthest if you're looking for a relationship.Uruk-Hai, don't know where you came from all of a sudden, but you're giving some solid advice.
And sorry for not throwing my hat into the iDating ring. I agree with you that it would be interesting to see how a woman's experience would compare.
ditka, sounds like you're doing great...in fact, everyone is. Hoping that means some good stories this weekend!
I don't like the sound of that...
Sounds promising. Now set us up the pics.
