So this is like 100% against my nature, no one outside my immediate family has a clue I'm doing this at this point, but like Scoob -- I'm here most days, so...
I've known for awhile things had slipped away from me in the last ~10 years. I was always active enough and could carry weight well enough that I could get away with murder nutritionally until... I wasn't and couldn't. And then came two years of hellish stress eating to put the cherry on the proverbial sundae.
Decided it was time to get serious. So on 1/15 I got on a scale for the first time in awhile. Woof.
I'm down 13 pounds and 1.7 BMI points since then, but am looking to lose another 60 or so over the next year.
I haven't really ramped up the exercise too much yet -- I've just cut back cals to something sustainable long-term, around 2000/day, and been good about sticking to it. It hasn't felt onerous after the first few days.
Main thing for me is avoiding the carb binges in the late afternoon.
Few other things I've found that help a bunch:
- I've got a limited selection of stuff for b-fast and lunch that makes tracking really easy. Like maybe 5 main options for each. With some mixing and matching and doubling up the same thing for a couple days in a row here and there it's enough variety that I don't get tired of it.
- I bring fruit to my desk after breakfast. I'm lazy enough that I'll eat that as a snack instead of going in search of other stuff.
- Saffron frozen Indian meals (seriously these are amazing for 300-400 cals).
- Taking virtually ZERO calories in through liquid. I'm not a big drinker so this is probably easier for me than other people. Other than a little milk in oatmeal, coffee or scrambled eggs, it's just coffee and water.
- I measure ####! Mayo, butter, peanut butter, hummus, rice -- I take the time to measure it out so I have a more accurate read on what I'm actually eating. It's really easy to underestimate the fats and they add up fast. I'll probably buy a small scale for this reason too.
- Focusing on stuff I really want to eat and that tastes good, but is especially filling for the calories -- eggs, potato with limited butter, oatmeal, broccoli, pork tenderloin, shrimp, etc. Some of these are dirt cheap calorie-wise and I like eating them. This is a big one for me; not enjoying my food would really suck and I want to feel satisfied.
- Not sweating 1800 vs 2200 cals. I'm heavy enough right now that keeping it in that range means I'm going to lose weight. And if I'm more active than normal on a particular day I don't give myself additional calories. (If I started doing serious aerobic activity I'd probably have to change that.)
- I weigh myself every day and record each new low. For me it's a way to keep my head in the game each morning.
- I'm planning that this will take at least a year.
- Accepting that there are going to be work dinners or vacations and etc where I'm just doing damage control and might go quite a few days without seeing a new low.
- Also accepting that this is super hard. I looked up the stats on how many people succeed at this kind of weight loss, and it's daunting. I'm competitive, and use that as motivation. "#### you - I can SO do this."
- Even on good days, I think about being disappointed in my progress and how I'm going to plow through that anyhow when it happens, and trust that in another 7 or 10 or whatever days I'll see the progress again.
- And kind of stupid, but I'm carrying around small things to give to people who notice I've lost weight. Hasn't happened yet, but I figure that's a chance to celebrate.
- Overall it seems to me like the psychological side of this is harder than the mechanics of it -- dealing with the setbacks and staying focused and not giving up when I mess up. Every single time I go two or three days without improvement (let alone the week I lost after a weekend away), it's depressing and feels like I'm never going to get where I want to go. That's why a bunch of the stuff up there is designed around being mentally resilient and trying to make it sustainable.
YMMV, but hopefully something there is useful to someone else!