Chemical X said:
step 2.
big ask here, but any insight on the roads during rush hour. i know the stories, but what do you avoid daily? is there a reverse? is light rail usable?
Depends on where you are and where you're going. In the morning: if you're going away from downtown L.A. things are reasonable. If you're going towards downtown you're ####ed. In the evening, the opposite.
If you land in some spot in the San Gabriel valley, you'll be taking surface streets to Alhambra so it'll be fine. Say you landed in Altadena (which does have some nice areas that are affordable), you'd be looking at somewhere between 20 and 30 minutes one way to Alhambra. Pasadena would be 15 to 25 minutes. Similarly for Arcadia. South Pasadena 5 to 15 minutes, similarly for San Marino, El Monte, San Gabriel. Eagle Rock, Glendale, Montrose, La Canada will probably involve a bit of freeway driving, I'd figure your commute there would be around 30 minutes. Similarly for farther east like Glendora or San Dimas. Like I said before, you could probably pull off living in downtown L.A. itself and have a 30 minute commute 1 way. Chinatown (right next to downtown) is sort of an up and coming hipster destination right now and would be a similar commute.
Avoid East L.A. and Monterrey Park - not so great areas I don't think.
If the commute is your main concern Los Feliz and Silverlake are a bad idea. It's not that far a way in miles, but the routes that are available are less than ideal and would put you up against some of the downtown L.A. traffic.
Light rail in Los Angeles is laughable. You'll need to combine it with bus rides to get anywhere besides downtown and select points in Pasadena. The area your wife will be working in doesn't have a train stop close by I don't think.
If you want to guarantee a 15 minute or less commute, stick with Alhambra, South Pasadena, San Marino, San Gabriel.