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The Hug Life Chronicles: :( (2 Viewers)

Kanil said:
This changes my read on the situation a bit too.  I think the bread was more of a way to show you she was thankful for the time you took to help by taking time to bake bread.  Sending the girl over reinforces this as it seems to be her wanting to make sure it wasn't taken for more than it was.

At this point, Stacy is moving to Texas and Marissa is not a long term relationship prospect.  Only solution is to proposition them both on the prospect of a three way (four if Marissa's Mom is around).
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Umm did we forget Stacy’s daughter? Could this be?  I thought it was a fable told by our great great grandfathers and passed down through generations.  The fabled 5 way.

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
A strange, perhaps unrelated thing happened a few weeks ago. I've got a few spare minutes here, so I'll bore you with this. Reading the following is probably just 2 minutes of your life you won't get back. 

I think it was about 3 weeks ago, best I can recall. Doorbell rings. I answer and it is Marissa's mom. (Side note: I've actually spoken to her mom and her dad several times when I've seen them outside at her place over the last year and a half. Super nice folks.) I had noticed her car there for a couple days and Marissa's car was gone. I say "hey Mrs. Marissa's Mom, everything ok?" She asks me if I would be willing to haul a set of mattresses away from one of the kids' room, and that she would pay my kids. I thought this was a bit of an odd offer, and I certainly didn't mind helping her out, but I assumed maybe it was just a kind gesture towards my children, so I agreed. I went over and grabbed the mattress set and brought them back over to my place.  Went back over and she hands me $40 and I head back home.

The next day, doorbell rings again. It's her again. She says, "I really hate to bug you again, but I have managed to shut Littlest Marissa's bedroom door (the room the mattresses came out of) and it's locked and I've tried unlocking it but it won't open. Do you think you could come take a look at it?"  I had nothing going on, so I say absolutely and I head over there. 

I enter Marissa's house for the first time in over a year and a half and I would be lying if I said the smell of her house didn't give me some serious flashbacks. I almost put that in my smell-memory thread a few days ago when I thought about it again, but I digress.

While I was working, I chatted with her some and asked if Marissa was ok and she told me that she  was attending a work training course out of town for a few days. I make a couple trips back to my place to grab some different tools, and eventually get the door open and take the broken handle off for her. She thanked me and I went on back home. Marissa gets back home a day or two later. No texts, calls, emails, nothing. Which is fine, her mom had thanked me, I just thought she might say something. Well, she did about a week later, which was when I saw her outside and spoke to her. She apologized for her mom asking me to come fix things. :lol:  

I just thought it was an odd turn of events, and it definitely may have slightly opened Pandora's Box of some old, buried feelings.  :wall:  
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And here's to you Mrs. Robinson....

 
Stacy and I just had a long, emotional talk. She admitted she has been very conflicted because she likes me a lot but she just thinks the new job and near-certainty of moving next year has just got her hesitant to be in a serious relationship. I told her I hate it, but I understand, and don't resent her at all for that. We do plan to see each other Saturday at the party and hopefully it won't be too awkward, as our talk didn't end on bad terms or anything. Maybe there will be some other newsworthy events for you guys at least. 

Back to square ####### one for me. Not going to lie. This one sucks. :kicksrock:  

 
Sorry to hear :( At least you know where you stand and you can move on.  You seem like a good dude.  Her loss.

Now go have yourself some fun (and maybe a hug or two) on the weekend !

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
Stacy and I just had a long, emotional talk. She admitted she has been very conflicted because she likes me a lot but she just thinks the new job and near-certainty of moving next year has just got her hesitant to be in a serious relationship. I told her I hate it, but I understand, and don't resent her at all for that. We do plan to see each other Saturday at the party and hopefully it won't be too awkward, as our talk didn't end on bad terms or anything. Maybe there will be some other newsworthy events for you guys at least. 

Back to square ####### one for me. Not going to lie. This one sucks. :kicksrock:  
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F-buddy down?  Seems perfect.

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
Stacy and I just had a long, emotional talk. She admitted she has been very conflicted because she likes me a lot but she just thinks the new job and near-certainty of moving next year has just got her hesitant to be in a serious relationship. I told her I hate it, but I understand, and don't resent her at all for that. We do plan to see each other Saturday at the party and hopefully it won't be too awkward, as our talk didn't end on bad terms or anything. Maybe there will be some other newsworthy events for you guys at least. 

Back to square ####### one for me. Not going to lie. This one sucks. :kicksrock:  
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That's where you drop the :

"Relationship?  Who said anything about that?  You're just fine as hell and I want to give you the LD as many times as I can before you take that sweet ### of yours to Texas."

Unless of course, you already sent her a bouquet of flowers weeks ago with a sonnet attached that you wrote declaring your undying love.

 
Evilgrin 72 said:
That's where you drop the :

"Relationship?  Who said anything about that?  You're just fine as hell and I want to give you the LD as many times as I can before you take that sweet ### of yours to Texas."

Unless of course, you already sent her a bouquet of flowers weeks ago with a sonnet attached that you wrote declaring your undying love.
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:lol: no sonnets 

And I actually do plan on dropping that hint on her at some point, but today didn't seem like the appropriate time.  But we do have some serious chemistry and it would be a SHAME to not tap into that (pun intended) again. 

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
:lol: no sonnets 

And I actually do plan on dropping that hint on her at some point, but today didn't seem like the appropriate time.  But we do have some serious chemistry and it would be a SHAME to not tap into that (pun intended) again. 
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You have to make her comfortable with just getting a steady dose of vitamin D while knowing there are no strings attached.  Play it uber-cool.

 
Skipdog77 said:
P.S.

Don't take offense when you find out the first thing she did when she got home was take a count on the contents of her panty drawer after finding out you had been in the house. 
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Does this imply you've had a female neighbor steal your underwear when your father needed help while you were out of town?  Or are you just the kind of guy that likes to steal panties and wear them to bed on weekends? 

 
Who said serious relationship? Tell her to enjoy the ride and see where it takes both of you.  :shrug:    I am sure she was enjoying the regular trip to Poundtown, USA and who better to drive her there than the good ol' Colonel!

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
Stacy and I just had a long, emotional talk. She admitted she has been very conflicted because she likes me a lot but she just thinks the new job and near-certainty of moving next year has just got her hesitant to be in a serious relationship. I told her I hate it, but I understand, and don't resent her at all for that. We do plan to see each other Saturday at the party and hopefully it won't be too awkward, as our talk didn't end on bad terms or anything. Maybe there will be some other newsworthy events for you guys at least. 

Back to square ####### one for me. Not going to lie. This one sucks. :kicksrock:  
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WTF?  She actually resisted the Saint tank and ball cap?  That Stacy has some serious self discipline. 

 
Brony said:
Does this imply you've had a female neighbor steal your underwear when your father needed help while you were out of town?  Or are you just the kind of guy that likes to steal panties and wear them to bed on weekends? 
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I don't think those two options are necessarily exclusive of each other. 

 
What am I missing here? She's not moving until next year? Why not keep the relationship going until then and see what happens? If you both decide you're each other's zing ( I do not say blah blah blah), then you do the right thing and move to be with each other or she stays to be with you.

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
:lol:  I'm not saying yet that she is "back in the picture," and yes you may ask, but I'm not telling. But I will make you guys a deal. If we end up going out again, I will post a pic. 
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Before we get our boners twisted, can you confirm that the pic will be a clear shot of Marissa? I don't wanna break my F5 key for a blurry photo of banana bread.

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
A strange, perhaps unrelated thing happened a few weeks ago. 

I just thought it was an odd turn of events, and it definitely may have slightly opened Pandora's Box of some old, buried feelings.  :wall:  
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This is like when George R. R. Martin publishes one of his "other" books. <_<

 
cap'n grunge said:
What am I missing here? She's not moving until next year? Why not keep the relationship going until then and see what happens? If you both decide you're each other's zing ( I do not say blah blah blah), then you do the right thing and move to be with each other or she stays to be with you.
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That was kind of my thoughts, but I think she's overthinking it too much and is just scared of being hurt then, because I won't really be able to move even if I wanted to, with my kids still in school here. 

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
....because she likes me a lot but she just thinks the new job and near-certainty of moving next year has just got her hesitant to be in a serious relationship. 
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Chick was ready to throw down on the first night IIRC.  "likes me a lot but".  Almost doesn't matter what she says after the but......

She's trying to be nice and get on with her life is my read........just from interpreting your words.  Women don't normally pull back from relationships if they think it realistically will work out.

Let her go

 
flranger said:
Chick was ready to throw down on the first night IIRC.  "likes me a lot but".  Almost doesn't matter what she says after the but......

She's trying to be nice and get on with her life is my read........just from interpreting your words.  Women don't normally pull back from relationships if they think it realistically will work out.

Let her go
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yep, that is almost verbatim what I told her

 
flranger said:
Chick was ready to throw down on the first night IIRC.  "likes me a lot but".  Almost doesn't matter what she says after the but......

She's trying to be nice and get on with her life is my read........just from interpreting your words.  Women don't normally pull back from relationships if they think it realistically will work out.

Let her go
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This is probably accurate.   She isn't looking for a relationship and only wants to bang.  Forget about a future with her but nail her occasionally until you find the next love.   

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
yep, that is almost verbatim what I told her
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I am saying this as an internet friend.  If you are looking just to bang chicks then by all means waste your time pursuing chicks like your tatted up neighbor or the girl you could screw on a random couch the first night you meet.  If you are sincerely looking for a relationship then these types of women are not going to give you what you want.  You need to crank up the scale on classiness on your woman meter.   Shoot for ladies with a little (well a lot in these cases) less baggage. 

But hey like I said if you just want to bang, and we have all gone through our single stages of this then keep doing what you are doing but in the end you are just going to get hurt if you get feelings for them.  Much like the past 2 or 3.  I know they all have given somewhat legit reasons in your mind but the simple truth is women like this are just too loose and free spirited to nail down.   And as always become the alpha in these relationships, make them want you.

 
pantherclub said:
I am saying this as an internet friend.  If you are looking just to bang chicks then by all means waste your time pursuing chicks like your tatted up neighbor or the girl you could screw on a random couch the first night you meet.  If you are sincerely looking for a relationship then these types of women are not going to give you what you want.  You need to crank up the scale on classiness on your woman meter.   Shoot for ladies with a little (well a lot in these cases) less baggage. 

But hey like I said if you just want to bang, and we have all gone through our single stages of this then keep doing what you are doing but in the end you are just going to get hurt if you get feelings for them.  Much like the past 2 or 3.  I know they all have given somewhat legit reasons in your mind but the simple truth is women like this are just too loose and free spirited to nail down.   And as always become the alpha in these relationships, make them want you.
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I am not going into it looking for anything or having any expectations honestly, but sometimes feelings develop when things are going well. It's going to happen.. I'm just going with good vibes and what feels right at the time and seeing where it ends up. Class is NOT an issue. I'm admittedly picky as ####. And you gotta be kidding yourself if you think anyone over the age of 30 doesn't have some baggage. We all do. If you have a magic source of women aged 30+  that don't have any baggage, by all means, please point me in that direction. 

As for "legit reasons," yes they surely have, but I'm not sure what you mean by "women like this?" Single women? And I know you guys are only getting the parts of the story that I choose to share. Some of it I haven't shared because it's just too personal (for me, or for them), so I realize you are just basing opinions and perspectives on the information I have provided, but I do truly appreciate the input. 

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
That was kind of my thoughts, but I think she's overthinking it too much and is just scared of being hurt then, because I won't really be able to move even if I wanted to, with my kids still in school here. 
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guess since I'm a dude I don't understand.....but the whole "I need to pull back now so I don't get hurt later" thing just makes zero sense to me....

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
That was kind of my thoughts, but I think she's overthinking it too much and is just scared of being hurt then, because I won't really be able to move even if I wanted to, with my kids still in school here. 
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Ah, yes women overthinking things and tying themselves into pretzels.

I have experience in that.  That might be the one thing that doesn't change with marriage.

 
Stinkin Ref said:
guess since I'm a dude I don't understand.....but the whole "I need to pull back now so I don't get hurt later" thing just makes zero sense to me....
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Me either, GB. I did offer my differing opinion, but said I wouldn't try to change her mind, because from my experience that never works out good for anyone in the long run. 

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
but I'm not sure what you mean by "women like this?"
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If you dont know what I am talking about here then thats probably a huge part of the problem.  I thought I was specific in reference to the two but maybe you didnt decipher what I was saying.  A chick with neck tats with kids and a dad thats not in the picture and a girl you met by proxy from another tinder date that wanted to screw you on her friends couch the first night you met are probably chicks that are not making wise life choices.  Hence the "if you just want sex keep doing what you are doing" advice.  If you are looking for a legit relationship then you may need to change things up.  And please spare me the retort that these girls are "classy".  If thats what you think is classy then again maybe thats part of the problem.

 
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pantherclub said:
If you dont know what I am talking about here then thats probably a huge part of the problem.  I thought I was specific in reference to the two but maybe you didnt decipher what I was saying.  A chick with neck tats with kids and a dad thats not in the picture and a girl you met by proxy from another tinder date that wanted to screw you on her friends couch the first night you met are probably chicks that are not making wise life choices.  Hence the "if you just want sex keep doing what you are doing" advice.  If you are looking for a legit relationship then you may need to change things up.  And please spare me the retort that these girls are "classy".  If thats what you think is classy then again maybe thats part of the problem.
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So anyone with a tattoo can't be classy? And anyone who had drunken sexual desires with someone is automatically a whore? Got it. I guess I do have it all wrong. I'll start passing out flyers at church. Smh. Nah, I think you are making a hell of a lot of inferences from bits and pieces. Perhaps I have painted the wrong picture for you in these scenarios (again, only being able to tell part of the stories for personal reasons), or perhaps you interpreted based upon your own experiences, but I think enough people have agreed with me for me to know I'm at least not completely off base.  And to be clear, I'm not looking for agreement, and I do appreciate conflicting viewpoints. It's pretty clear I don't know what I'm doing. I am at least aware of that much. 

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
So anyone with a tattoo can't be classy? And anyone who had drunken sexual desires with someone is automatically a whore? Got it. I guess I do have it all wrong. I'll start passing out flyers at church. Smh. Nah, I think you are making a hell of a lot of inferences from bits and pieces. Perhaps I have painted the wrong picture for you in these scenarios (again, only being able to tell part of the stories for personal reasons), or perhaps you interpreted based upon your own experiences, but I think enough people have agreed with me for me to know I'm at least not completely off base.  And to be clear, I'm not looking for agreement, and I do appreciate conflicting viewpoints. It's pretty clear I don't know what I'm doing. I am at least aware of that much. 
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I thought you learned from earlier in the thread.  Don't worry about Panthercub's opinion.

 
pantherclub said:
If you dont know what I am talking about here then thats probably a huge part of the problem.  I thought I was specific in reference to the two but maybe you didnt decipher what I was saying.  A chick with neck tats with kids and a dad thats not in the picture and a girl you met by proxy from another tinder date that wanted to screw you on her friends couch the first night you met are probably chicks that are not making wise life choices.  Hence the "if you just want sex keep doing what you are doing" advice.  If you are looking for a legit relationship then you may need to change things up.  And please spare me the retort that these girls are "classy".  If thats what you think is classy then again maybe thats part of the problem.
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In fairness, women in their 40s are not the same as younger women.  Some of the classy ones will throw down early, just because they are comfortable with who they are and know what they want (which I think is probably Stacy....likes to bang but doesn't want to be tied down).  

If late 30s to 40s is your target market (same as mine) the "classy" women that are going to want you to wait for sex are generally divorced #####es who became that way because they didn't give up the sechs when they were married.  At least in my experience...

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
So anyone with a tattoo can't be classy? And anyone who had drunken sexual desires with someone is automatically a whore? Got it. I guess I do have it all wrong. I'll start passing out flyers at church. Smh. Nah, I think you are making a hell of a lot of inferences from bits and pieces. Perhaps I have painted the wrong picture for you in these scenarios (again, only being able to tell part of the stories for personal reasons), or perhaps you interpreted based upon your own experiences, but I think enough people have agreed with me for me to know I'm at least not completely off base.  And to be clear, I'm not looking for agreement, and I do appreciate conflicting viewpoints. It's pretty clear I don't know what I'm doing. I am at least aware of that much. 
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Yea, the tat thing in this day and age isn't that big a deal. I'm rooting for Marissa to come around. 

For Stacy, though, I don't know the ages of everyone involved, but there is a life point where "out all night drunk winding up on someone's couch with unknown random dude popping in and someone else cheating in the bedroom" is not fertile ground for good relationship material. Not saying it can't happen, and not saying a random night of partying isn't fun at any age, but your odds keep dropping the further out from college you are.  Not surprised Stacy was/is super sexy-time fun, but not surprised she flaked either.

Carry on though - we love your stories!  

 
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Tonight is a celebration for Kate, focus on her. Seems like there will be plenty of drama with her crew so no need for you and Stacy to add to it. Just relax and have fun, let’s things come to you.

I have a strong feeling Kate banging the married dude blows up tonight.

 
JuniorGong said:
Tonight is a celebration for Kate, focus on her. Seems like there will be plenty of drama with her crew so no need for you and Stacy to add to it. Just relax and have fun, let’s things come to you.

I have a strong feeling Kate banging the married dude blows up tonight.
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Yep, that is the plan. I need a night out of the house anyway. 

 
Just dropped off some donuts for Marissa and the girls (thanks for whoever suggested that :thumbup:  ), and text her that I appreciated her kindness the other day. I wasn't having a particularly great day that day, and it really did make my day. So, IMO, nothing wrong with reciprocating an act of kindness. And it did make me feel a little better to do something nice for them. No expectations or strings attached, just sugary goodness, which is basically like a hug in food form. 

 
Galileo said:
It's not too late to ask Marissa to go to the party.  Just saying...
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:lol:  While I would love to do that, I'm rolling solo. Going to head over a little early and go have a beer and shoot some pool and listen to some music at a little dive Kate and I hung out at a few times and just chill before the party. I'm feeling much better today, so I'm ready for whatever.

 
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