Valentines Day Kind Of Sucks
A few thoughts:
If this is the one time a year you buy your person flowers, you can do better.
If this is the one time a year when you're extra thoughtful or nice to your person, you can do a lot better.
Moreover, Valentine's Day is a manufactured, made-up, BS day. Supposedly signifying something many of us should be doing every day. Suddenly caring more about your person on the 14th day of February is like suddenly caring about the direction and path of your life on the 1st day of January. It's better than never caring. But not by much. These are things you should do all the time.
Here's the big point though. Shauna Niequist writes about this and it's dead-on truth: You don't need a "significant other" to be "significant". Forget what the world and the Hallmark Channel tells you.
Tons of people find themselves today, not in a relationship. They may be divorced, or broken up with, or never been in a relationship or a widow or widower or plenty more. All fancy ways of saying "Single".
And please let me speak some truth to you: "Single" is neither superior nor inferior or equal to "Married". It's just different. And just like married, single can be great. Or single can be not where you want to be. But don't fall into the trap that somehow "married" is superior. Because that's a lie.
Don't get me wrong, if you know me, you know I'm crazy in love with my wife and I love being married. I hit the lottery there and I can't imagine my life any other way than the way it's been for the last 32 years. But that's me. I'm not you. You're not me.
My advice to folks in both the married and single category is the same: Be the best possible version of you. Today. Tomorrow. Rinse and Repeat. This works for everyone.
And to be super clear, being the best version of you does not mean it's all about you. Actually, the opposite. In my opinion, the best version of people is when they're empathetic and kind and thoughtful and selfless. In my opinion, doing more of those things is the key for all of us. And interestingly, these traits are also wildly attractive so for you single folks that want to stay single, watch out.
So enjoy tomorrow. But understand it's just a day. And do your best to be the best version of yourself. You married folks, make the rest of the year like tomorrow. You single folks, don't believe any of that "less than" BS the world tries to tell you. You are beloved. Rock on.
A few thoughts:
If this is the one time a year you buy your person flowers, you can do better.
If this is the one time a year when you're extra thoughtful or nice to your person, you can do a lot better.
Moreover, Valentine's Day is a manufactured, made-up, BS day. Supposedly signifying something many of us should be doing every day. Suddenly caring more about your person on the 14th day of February is like suddenly caring about the direction and path of your life on the 1st day of January. It's better than never caring. But not by much. These are things you should do all the time.
Here's the big point though. Shauna Niequist writes about this and it's dead-on truth: You don't need a "significant other" to be "significant". Forget what the world and the Hallmark Channel tells you.
Tons of people find themselves today, not in a relationship. They may be divorced, or broken up with, or never been in a relationship or a widow or widower or plenty more. All fancy ways of saying "Single".
And please let me speak some truth to you: "Single" is neither superior nor inferior or equal to "Married". It's just different. And just like married, single can be great. Or single can be not where you want to be. But don't fall into the trap that somehow "married" is superior. Because that's a lie.
Don't get me wrong, if you know me, you know I'm crazy in love with my wife and I love being married. I hit the lottery there and I can't imagine my life any other way than the way it's been for the last 32 years. But that's me. I'm not you. You're not me.
My advice to folks in both the married and single category is the same: Be the best possible version of you. Today. Tomorrow. Rinse and Repeat. This works for everyone.
And to be super clear, being the best version of you does not mean it's all about you. Actually, the opposite. In my opinion, the best version of people is when they're empathetic and kind and thoughtful and selfless. In my opinion, doing more of those things is the key for all of us. And interestingly, these traits are also wildly attractive so for you single folks that want to stay single, watch out.
So enjoy tomorrow. But understand it's just a day. And do your best to be the best version of yourself. You married folks, make the rest of the year like tomorrow. You single folks, don't believe any of that "less than" BS the world tries to tell you. You are beloved. Rock on.