Spin said:
shadyridr said:
Out of sheer curiosity from a single guy, what's so nuts about marrying a girl after a year?
Are you willing to bet half your income that the girl you've known for less than a year will be the same 5 years down the road, 10 years, 35 years?
But whens the right time? He seems fairly confident she is the one. Sometimes you know right away. I knew with my wife right away and we still waited 5 yrs before I popped the question.
Maybe I'm just influenced by my own past. I dated a girl for 4 years, and if you would have asked me after the first year if we were going to be married, I would said absolutely, without a doubt. At that point, she was "the one". We lived together for a year or so and everything changed. Maybe if we had gotten married we'd still be together, as divorce is much more difficult then breaking up with a girlfriend, but I'm thankful that we stopped it before it got to that point. We just had different views on life, and that grew more and more apparent as we went through our life together. She was ready to graduate and go back to her hometown and buy a house near her parents etc, I wanted to stay in college a bit more, travel some before I got a full time job. Age has a lot to do with it as well, I was 22 then. Now that I think about it, I would say the age of the individuals probably has a bigger factor in it. If you're younger, you should wait longer.
Spin,
Before I proposed to my wife.....I had dated plenty of girls, and was in what I would consider 2 very serious relationships prior to meeting my wife. I was 29 when I got married.
By then I had learned plenty of life lessons, and after being in 2 very serious relationships, plus plenty of other 4-6 month dating types of relationships as well as some fun sowing my oats....I had a clear picture of what I wanted and whom I would be most compatible with.
I knew after 2 months of dating my wife I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. It was that easy to know. It all depends on how much life and wisdom you have lived, how much experience you have had with past relationships, and truly knowing yourself that you can easily plunge into a marriage.
It's all relative.