What's new
Fantasy Football - Footballguys Forums

This is a sample guest message. Register a free account today to become a member! Once signed in, you'll be able to participate on this site by adding your own topics and posts, as well as connect with other members through your own private inbox!

What are the dangers of a 45 yo woman getting pregnant? (1 Viewer)

R

RokNRole

Footballguy
My "ex" from NY and I are considering staying together.

Her age has always been an issue since we met because I desire a family one day.

We love eachother very much and have a great relationship.  Neither of us is keen to try to meet someone new when we have something special together so we are discussing the idea of having a child and her moving to Texas.

What are the dangers of her having a child at 45? Are the concerns I'm reading about valid or overblown?

Has anyone had experience with this? How did things go? Any complications?

shes in excellent health and looks fantastic for her age.  She's also Asian if that matters.

TIA

 
Last edited by a moderator:
RokNRole said:
My "ex" from NY and I are considering staying together.

Her age has always been an issue since we met because I desire a family one day.

We love eachother very much and have a great relationship.  Neither of us is keen to try to meet someone new when we have something special together so we are discussing the idea of having a child and her moving to Texas.

What are the dangers of her having a child at 45? Are the concerns I'm reading about valid or overblown?

Has anyone had experience with this? How did things go? Any complications?

shes in fantastic health and looks fantastic for her age.  She's also Asian if that matters.

TIA
Click to expand...
This sounds like a fantastic idea that I support 100%.  Get to raw dogging homeboy. 

 
You should probably consult with her personal physician and gynecologist.  You could also consider adoption....

 
Rove! said:
You should probably consult with her personal physician and gynecologist.  You could also consider adoption....
Click to expand...
I don't want any kid that isn't from my loins

p.S. Pretty sure my credit score would prevent me from adopting a child anyway

 
Last edited by a moderator:
Go for it. Being a dad is one of the greatest things in life. And the fact that you were willing to move halfway across the country for your career means that you would be a great, attentive father.

Do it.  :thumbup:

 
RokNRole said:
We will get married if we have a child.

And she wouldn't leave me frivilously. I would really have to give her a reason which I wont

Isn't it 18years?
Click to expand...
Depends on the state.  Here in MA, 23 years is the standard unless the kid is self-supporting before then. 

 
Last edited by a moderator:
As a 54 year old father of an 8 year old, I would suggest becoming a community leader. Or volunteering. Perhaps a hobby? Maybe you could start serving in your local church?

My daughter's Asian mom was 43 when she had her first child. So far so good health wise. There seems to be a lot of unsettled questions about this issue. Here is one article.

My little girl is the joy of my life. The best 20 minutes of any weekday is picking her up and walking home. She has taught me so much about being gentle and sensitive. I love being her dad.

I would advise no one to have children when you are older than 40. Do it when you are young, energetic and will have time to recover a bit financially after they're out. I'm a super ambitious, motivated and energetic guy. I am not looking forward to her starting to date and go off to college when I'm in my 60s.

(ASIDE - I also have an 18 y.o. son who is a college freshman. IME boys are easy to raise. Girls will kill you. It's the sweetest death ever, but they're hard. So much more complicated.)

Do you and your "ex" have  a solid foundation to form a lifelong partnership. I don't know any specifics here other than your thumbnail view, but she's your ex for a reason.

You know Asian women are never happy, right? I mean never. I've had three serious relationships as an adult, all lovely Asian gals. YMMV

It's 18 in some states, 21 in others. My son's child support ended six weeks ago. My daughter's will continue for another 13 years.

Having a child in the first year of marriage puts a lot of undue strain on the marriage. I'm not an expert and don't have personal experience, but that seems like consensus opinion across the board. But let's just focus on her health, none of that other stuff matters.

Go for it!

(you've already made up your mind, doesn't matter what I say)

 
BobbyLayne said:
As a 54 year old father of an 8 year old, I would suggest becoming a community leader. Or volunteering. Perhaps a hobby? Maybe you could start serving in your local church?

My daughter's Asian mom was 43 when she had her first child. So far so good health wise. There seems to be a lot of unsettled questions about this issue. Here is one article.

My little girl is the joy of my life. The best 20 minutes of any weekday is picking her up and walking home. She has taught me so much about being gentle and sensitive. I love being her dad.

I would advise no one to have children when you are older than 40. Do it when you are young, energetic and will have time to recover a bit financially after they're out. I'm a super ambitious, motivated and energetic guy. I am not looking forward to her starting to date and go off to college when I'm in my 60s.

(ASIDE - I also have an 18 y.o. son who is a college freshman. IME boys are easy to raise. Girls will kill you. It's the sweetest death ever, but they're hard. So much more complicated.)

Do you and your "ex" have  a solid foundation to form a lifelong partnership. I don't know any specifics here other than your thumbnail view, but she's your ex for a reason.

You know Asian women are never happy, right? I mean never. I've had three serious relationships as an adult, all lovely Asian gals. YMMV

It's 18 in some states, 21 in others. My son's child support ended six weeks ago. My daughter's will continue for another 13 years.

Having a child in the first year of marriage puts a lot of undue strain on the marriage. I'm not an expert and don't have personal experience, but that seems like consensus opinion across the board. But let's just focus on her health, none of that other stuff matters.

Go for it!

(you've already made up your mind, doesn't matter what I say)
Click to expand...
Our foundation is that we love eachother very much

shes only my "ex" because I moved away

this is the only Asian woman I've been with. She seems pretty happy and even more so when we are together

 
Last edited by a moderator:
isn't the order of things... move to texas and then have the child? and if she's 45 now, by the time she's moved out and knocked up... probably 46 by the time she pops a kid out.

chances of down syndrome, autism... trying to think of more... all go up with older parents. as an older parent myself, these were all things we took very seriously. google that ####.

great to see @BobbyLayne

 
RokNRole said:
My "ex" from NY and I are considering staying together.

Her age has always been an issue since we met because I desire a family one day.

We love eachother very much and have a great relationship.  Neither of us is keen to try to meet someone new when we have something special together so we are discussing the idea of having a child and her moving to Texas.

What are the dangers of her having a child at 45? Are the concerns I'm reading about valid or overblown?

Has anyone had experience with this? How did things go? Any complications?

shes in excellent health and looks fantastic for her age.  She's also Asian if that matters.

TIA
Click to expand...
it's more difficult conceiving and you have to think how dedicated you 2 may be, and if looking for fertility treatment how much you want to spend to make it happen. I suggest you guys see a fertility doctor right off the bat, because they can give you this information the best after running some tests (how many healthy eggs she may have, etc.)

there are other complications as well, with the health of the baby and some things (like Autism) have correlated to age. But again this is one a fertility doctor can give you the best info

 
El Floppo said:
isn't the order of things... move to texas and then have the child? and if she's 45 now, by the time she's moved out and knocked up... probably 46 by the time she pops a kid out.

chances of down syndrome, autism... trying to think of more... all go up with older parents. as an older parent myself, these were all things we took very seriously. google that ####.

great to see @BobbyLayne
Click to expand...
Oh, it is that sentimental time of year, isn't it?

Besides the bolded for the child, she has much higher risks of cancer, heart disease and a host of other risk factors.

Apparently that whole letting something grow inside you and be a parasite for 9 months takes a toll on the body.

 
El Floppo said:
isn't the order of things... move to texas and then have the child? and if she's 45 now, by the time she's moved out and knocked up... probably 46 by the time she pops a kid out.

chances of down syndrome, autism... trying to think of more... all go up with older parents. as an older parent myself, these were all things we took very seriously. google that ####.

great to see @BobbyLayne
Click to expand...
I'm really afraid of having a mentally handicapped child

i will be really upset if they didn't inherit my genius

it would probably destroy me

 
Last edited by a moderator:
RokNRole said:
Nobody is getting any pics

shes beautiful and looks 10 years younger.

shes a clean living person. Never even drinks
Click to expand...
Good for you. I was laying the marker because usually some jagoff wants (shtick) pictures. 

I just imagine you're FWB with someone who looks like Gail Kim. 

 
RokNRole said:
I'm really afraid of having a mentally handicapped child

i will be really upset if they didn't inherit my genius

it would probably destroy me
Click to expand...
It's more work. But special needs children are often an amazing experience for their parents and their siblings as well. Funny how that works.

 
RokNRole said:
I'm really afraid of having a mentally handicapped child

i will be really upset if they didn't inherit my genius

it would probably destroy me
Click to expand...
hate to break it to you... but even completely healthy, that kid is going to come out it's own thing with its own genius. and it will hate you.

 
You must log in or register to reply here.

Similar threads

odin33
Seeking medical and legal advice- Handling of daughter's outpatient surgery
Replies
15
Views
522
Terminalxylem
Terminalxylem
Ministry of Pain
What's Normal? Baby Showers, when did this become a Co-Ed event?
2
Replies
99
Views
2K
Zow
Zow
Senor Schmutzig
I had a heart attack this weekend...
2 3
Replies
115
Views
4K
Mr.Pack
Mr.Pack

Users who are viewing this thread

Total: 1 (members: 0, guests: 1)
Back
Top