I call it the Eeyore complex. Kal El is right. Bad and/or negative personality is a major factor.Negativity- I hate people that just complain about everything.
Some people are dealt an overwhelmingly negative hand in life and are understandably depressed about it.I call it the Eeyore complex. Kal El is right. Bad and/or negative personality is a major factor.
So wrong.Some people are dealt an overwhelmingly negative hand in life and are understandably depressed about it.
People that are absurdly positive are just as, if not more unattractive than negative people.
People that are so positive that it comes off as fake certainly do suck.Some people are dealt an overwhelmingly negative hand in life and are understandably depressed about it.
People that are absurdly positive are just as, if not more unattractive than negative people.
Yeah I'm not talking about someone that's depressed because their spouse died, moms sick, lost their job, etc.So wrong.
Annoying maybe but constant negative people can weigh you down even when they are 100 miles away from you.
That’s pretty much all of them besides the people born rich and sheltered with no concept of reality.People that are so positive that it comes off as fake certainly do suck.
Do you equate rational thinking with being constantly negative?So wrong.
Annoying maybe but constant negative people can weigh you down even when they are 100 miles away from you.
People can be positive without being fake. Everyone should strive for that.That’s pretty much all of them besides the people born rich and sheltered with no concept of reality.
What sense does that make? Most spoke can be positive and hopefully if it’s reasonable to be so but most other dreams, aspirations and goals are long shots.People can be positive without being fake. Everyone should strive for that.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4yIfq4amclEPeople that are so positive that it comes off as fake certainly do suck.
Being positive isn't about being unrealistic or looking on the bright side of life. I would almost boil it down to simple situations. A stranger trips and falls, do you laugh at them or go to help them? The server messes up your order, are you polite and understanding or do you use it as a chance to humiliate/berate/dress down the person? Being positive has got nothing to do with where you are in life, it's about what you are putting out into the world.What sense does that make? Most spoke can be positive and hopefully if it’s reasonable to be so but most other dreams, aspirations and goals are long shots.
Either way, positive or negative, it only matters how unrealistic that outlook can be, whether negative or positive.
Would you go around the tent cities if the US and tell them to look at the bright side of life?
https://www.inc.com/jayson-demers/7-traits-only-happy-people-have.htmlSome people are dealt an overwhelmingly negative hand in life and are understandably depressed about it.
People that are absurdly positive are just as, if not more unattractive than negative people.
Exactly.People can be positive without being fake. Everyone should strive for that.
In school, it's so obvious how corrosive a negative mentality is to a person. There are some kids who just have such a negative attitude about everything and they are miserable. I have one student that is new to the district this year and she hates the school and is always upset because she has no friends here, nobody helps her, etc. What she is missing and I have tried to point out is that she is really rude and nasty so kids avoid her. Here are things she says on a regular basis:Exactly.
It's not just "think positive" it's the mentality that you are in control of your future, at least to a large degree. You make choices that make an impact. That mentality is key. Those who don't have it are extremely unattractive. Those who do, and actually try to improve their life and help those around them get a significant upgrade on the attractiveness scale. They also drag people down around them.
Just one anecdotal example, my BIL married a very physically attractive woman a decade ago. But over the past 5 years or so she's let herself go and constantly complains about how difficult her life is. My wife and I basically laugh at her. Thankfully he's now getting divorced from her and he is the happiest he's been in years. It's great to see him with that weight off his shoulders. He had gotten to the point where I strongly disliked being around him, now he's back to being his old self.
You have to feel for kids like this, they're learning this from somewhere. You're right of course but it's sad when a kid acts this way. It's pathetic when adults do the same.In school, it's so obvious how corrosive a negative mentality is to a person. There are some kids who just have such a negative attitude about everything and they are miserable. I have one student that is new to the district this year and she hates the school and is always upset because she has no friends here, nobody helps her, etc. What she is missing and I have tried to point out is that she is really rude and nasty so kids avoid her. Here are things she says on a regular basis:
"This whole school is ######ed" "I hate this school and all the freaks that go here." "My old school was so much better- this place ghetto (which mom says is how she talked about her old school)." "I hate all these stupid kids in this class".
The other kids are actually very nice because they just ignore her. I can imagine many of them want to tell her off. One girl did. The negative Nelly told a girl in art class "why are you drawing a horse, horses freaking suck" to which the girl replied "you chose to paint a brick wall so shut up and mind your own business". The negative Nelly started crying and punched the wall in the hallway, hurting her hand. Then she complained to the counselor about how mean everyone is and nobody likes her.
Where does this mindset and behavior come from? Does she really not see that she is bringing all of this on herself? Does she know that but is just stuck in a pattern of behavior? I don't get it.
It seems like this is her 3rd district- she is in 11th grade. That's not too atypical these days. With all the charter schools and how transient much of our population is, changing districts 3 times in 11 years isn't out of the norm. She has 1 or 2 kids that are friends with her, but they seem to be pulling away because she is mean to them. I feel bad for her in some ways but in other ways it is just tough to be around her because she's such a blackhole.You have to feel for kids like this, they're learning this from somewhere. You're right of course but it's sad when a kid acts this way. It's pathetic when adults do the same.
How often has she moved? Seems like this a defense mechanism, maybe she's afraid to let others get close.
But yes, it's unattractive in anyone.
What class are 11th graders drawing pictures of walls and horses ?It seems like this is her 3rd district- she is in 11th grade. That's not too atypical these days. With all the charter schools and how transient much of our population is, changing districts 3 times in 11 years isn't out of the norm. She has 1 or 2 kids that are friends with her, but they seem to be pulling away because she is mean to them. I feel bad for her in some ways but in other ways it is just tough to be around her because she's such a blackhole.
Art classWhat class are 11th graders drawing pictures of walls and horses ?
Well if it isn't my old friend Mr. McGreg, with a leg for an arm and an arm for a leg.Limbs growing out of the forehead.
These are usually easy to spotPeople who play the victim card that put everyone else down and drag them through their crap.
Even Angela Merkel can be attractive to some people.90 to 95 percent of the population is undateable
I've always visioned you as an ugly sum#####. Now I know why.Always seeking attention all the time.
Smoking
Yeah I'm not talking about someone that's depressed because their spouse died, moms sick, lost their job, etc.
I'm talking about people who are like:
"Football is so dumb"
" Oh god it's Christmas time, can't wait till it's over."
"Her shirt is so ugly, what was she thinking"
"Everything sucks and everyone is stupid"
laughing at people when they make a mistake, mocking people that took a risk tried something new
agreeAlways seeking attention all the time.
Religious belief.