What would you do? - parent of middle schooler edition (1 Viewer)

[Jobber]

Update?

I agree with the others that you need to go to the administration versus the parents. Any kid who acts like that gets it from mom and dad our the lack thereof.

 

[Mr. Ected]

My daughter is in 6th grade, kind of a shy kid but has a handful of good friends, and a very good student. Yesterday she was trying to get to her locker at lunch when a boy she doesn't really know and has never interracted with but she has a few classes with is in her way. She asks him to move, he refuses and stays there, blocking her locker. She tries to reach around to get to the lock, and he and his friend slap at the locker and the lock as she opens it, knocking it to the ground. Kid stays in her way, she says "I'll step on your lunch if you don't move", and he replies "if you do, I'll stab you." She nervously laughs and said she was joking, gets her lunch out of her locker, and gets out of there. But that evening, she's upset, nervous, anxious, etc.

Just tell her it's kids being kids? Treat it as threatening language that needs to be reported to the administration? Other?

Other factors, that may or may not influence your take:

Spoiler

Kid has been disciplined in the past for saying something unknown to my daughter's friend that necessitated banning any contact with her on threat of suspension.

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Kid's name is Jaquann.

Parents of middle schoolers in particular, I'm interested in your take.

I know the boy stepped way over the line with the bit about the knife, but did your girl get anything for her initial comment that could be construed as a 'threat' by the boys folks? I know her comment is minor compared to his, but if you look at it from the side of potentially obnoxious parents of the boy, they could say that she did something too.

I hope that it all blows over smoothly, no kid should have to deal with stuff like that.

 

[SoylentGreen]

Update?

I agree with the others that you need to go to the administration versus the parents. Any kid who acts like that gets it from mom and dad our the lack thereof.

VP replied to my email this morning saying he would start a "bullying investigation", and we're going in to meet with him in about three hours.

My daughter is in 6th grade, kind of a shy kid but has a handful of good friends, and a very good student. Yesterday she was trying to get to her locker at lunch when a boy she doesn't really know and has never interracted with but she has a few classes with is in her way. She asks him to move, he refuses and stays there, blocking her locker. She tries to reach around to get to the lock, and he and his friend slap at the locker and the lock as she opens it, knocking it to the ground. Kid stays in her way, she says "I'll step on your lunch if you don't move", and he replies "if you do, I'll stab you." She nervously laughs and said she was joking, gets her lunch out of her locker, and gets out of there. But that evening, she's upset, nervous, anxious, etc.

Just tell her it's kids being kids? Treat it as threatening language that needs to be reported to the administration? Other?

Other factors, that may or may not influence your take:

Spoiler

Kid has been disciplined in the past for saying something unknown to my daughter's friend that necessitated banning any contact with her on threat of suspension.

Spoiler

Kid's name is Jaquann.

Parents of middle schoolers in particular, I'm interested in your take.

I know the boy stepped way over the line with the bit about the knife, but did your girl get anything for her initial comment that could be construed as a 'threat' by the boys folks? I know her comment is minor compared to his, but if you look at it from the side of potentially obnoxious parents of the boy, they could say that she did something too.

I hope that it all blows over smoothly, no kid should have to deal with stuff like that.

No consequences so far for my daughter's initial comment, although I told her it wasn't the best way to deal with this and that she might face discipline when we reported this initially. That is still a possibility, I would imagine, and I'd be ok with that as long as they were appropriate.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

Update?

I agree with the others that you need to go to the administration versus the parents. Any kid who acts like that gets it from mom and dad our the lack thereof.

VP replied to my email this morning saying he would start a "bullying investigation", and we're going in to meet with him in about three hours.

The VP does know that the kid threatened to stab your daughter, right?

 

[Scoresman]

Your daughter should not face discipline for initially standing up to the bully. I've always had a problem with the "turn the other cheek" mentality. I think your daughter handled it perfectly. She defended herself up to the point where physical violence was threatened and then she quickly backed down and got out of there.

 

[El Floppo]

Our kids are younger (3 & 7- 2nd grade), but we've told the older one that if somebody says or does anything threatening to tell the kid directly and specifically to stop and why. After that, immediately tell the kid to stop or he'll tell administrator. It's gotten to the second stage twice, IIRC, and the kid stopped both times... without any problems later. Only time it didn't really work was when he was trying to protect a friend from other kids bullying him.

 

[Sinn Fein]

Update?

I agree with the others that you need to go to the administration versus the parents. Any kid who acts like that gets it from mom and dad our the lack thereof.

VP replied to my email this morning saying he would start a "bullying investigation", and we're going in to meet with him in about three hours.

The VP does know that the kid threatened to stab your daughter, right?

Only if she ran.

 

[BroncoFreak_2K3]

Go right to the school management. No other answer here.

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[boots11234]

I would arrange for the Baltimore PD to drive him to school tomorrow. All joking aside, totally tell admin. I have a 6th grader and I'd be terrified if she came home and told me what yours did. I'd be at the school the same day, no phone call but a physical visit.

 

[boots11234]

Update?

I agree with the others that you need to go to the administration versus the parents. Any kid who acts like that gets it from mom and dad our the lack thereof.

VP replied to my email this morning saying he would start a "bullying investigation", and we're going in to meet with him in about three hours.

The VP does know that the kid threatened to stab your daughter, right?

Wow. WTF threatening to stab your daughter is more then bullying, it is first degree Assult. Your daughter could absolutely press charges against the kid. I'd be pissed if I got that email. Like I said I'd be down at the school not emailing them.

 

[Mile High]

A middle school boy stabbed a girl at school in the Denver area today. It all started with a joke.