When do gifts for nieces and nephews stop? (1 Viewer)

[TheFanatic]

Thanks for this. Just realized my niece started College in the fall. I already have something for her, but that's the end of that. She has rolled her eyes and huffed at everything since she was about 14 so we've been doing GC's or cash at this point. So it's not like we were finding anything heart felt for her anymore anyway.

 

[Warhogs]

I think we stopped when they were about hitting the teenage years. A rough guideline might be when you stop having b-day parties for them and their friends no need to send them gifts anymore. Kids are given so much anyway these days.

 

[Bossman]

When my nephew started buying gifts for my family (me and the wife and my 2 kids) ... so the gifting to him never stopped.

You have a 24 yo working full time that doesn't reciprocate the gift giving, I'd be all done with that.

 

[Warhogs]

We talked with our brothers and sisters and agreed on a cutoff age. Bottom line is Christmas is busy and gets expensive so it was easy to agree to at age X we will stop buying for your kids and you will stop buying for our kids. It wasn't a big issue at all.

 

[cosjobs]

 they make chia trump now

Where do they find orange chia seeds?

 

[mphtrilogy]

In our extended family once the kid graduates college, that's it, they can join the grab bag option then if they want to jump into the festivities...

 

[sbonomo]

I've been wondering the same thing.  I was set not to buy my nephew a gift this year, since he's 18, in college, and has never sent me a thank you for a single gift I have given him his entire life.  Then a couple of days ago, I received my annual direction from my brother as to what I should be buying him, so  

 The first year I would have told my brother, the second year gifts would have stopped. 

 

[sbonomo]

Out of curiosity what is everyone spending on these gifts?  20-50 or hundreds?  I have a buddy who's father buys them 1000's each year.  He is on his second BK. At some point it has to stop right?

 

[Mrs. Rannous]

I've been wondering the same thing.  I was set not to buy my nephew a gift this year, since he's 18, in college, and has never sent me a thank you for a single gift I have given him his entire life.  Then a couple of days ago, I received my annual direction from my brother as to what I should be buying him, so  

 The first year I would have told my brother, the second year gifts would have stopped. 

Yep.

 

[Clown Car]

I guess each family is different. This year I'm taking both of my sisters and their families, and my elderly mother to all spend New Years in vegas together- and all of us are super excited about it. Small things like this helps keep families together and thinking about each other. I personally believe a family is only as strong as the amount of time/effort you put into it. With that being said- each and every family is different.

That's not a small thing. That is a wonderful gift. 

 

[TakiToki]

One of them is pushing 250 and the other is very Jewie

What a disappointing thread. How about let's start this one over, and your sibling has twin stepdaughters that are pushing 250 combined and either saving up for or just received asset enhancements.

 

[krista4]

The no thank you note thing really chaps my ###. We are adamant about our kids sending them to anyone that gives them a gift.

 The first year I would have told my brother, the second year gifts would have stopped. 

Every bday present, every Christmas gift, graduation gifts for 8th grade and high school, and I flew across the country to go to both those graduations.  Nada.  Up 'til now, I didn't blame him - he's a really good kid, and I figured he just hadn't been taught, but at some point he has to know, right?  I felt like 18 is that time, but since I got the email telling me, as usual, what I should get him this year, I'd rather just do it than make waves. :(

 

[sbonomo]

Every bday present, every Christmas gift, graduation gifts for 8th grade and high school, and I flew across the country to go to both those graduations.  Nada.  Up 'til now, I didn't blame him - he's a really good kid, and I figured he just hadn't been taught, but at some point he has to know, right?  I felt like 18 is that time, but since I got the email telling me, as usual, what I should get him this year, I'd rather just do it than make waves. :(

You are a much better person than I am   

 

[Spin]

Every bday present, every Christmas gift, graduation gifts for 8th grade and high school, and I flew across the country to go to both those graduations.  Nada.  Up 'til now, I didn't blame him - he's a really good kid, and I figured he just hadn't been taught, but at some point he has to know, right?  I felt like 18 is that time, but since I got the email telling me, as usual, what I should get him this year, I'd rather just do it than make waves. :(

Especially now a days, it takes 2 seconds to send someone a text. 

 

[[scooter]]

Every bday present, every Christmas gift, graduation gifts for 8th grade and high school, and I flew across the country to go to both those graduations.  Nada.  Up 'til now, I didn't blame him - he's a really good kid, and I figured he just hadn't been taught, but at some point he has to know, right?  I felt like 18 is that time, but since I got the email telling me, as usual, what I should get him this year, I'd rather just do it than make waves. :(

First off, you deserve better.

Second, you won't be doing anyone any favors if you buy him what he wants. He'll continue to be spoiled and ungrateful, and you'll continue to feel used.