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Wife In a Fender Bender - Guy Seems Too Nice - Scam Check (1 Viewer)

ClownCausedChaos2

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My wife was sitting in the row of a parking lot yesterday, waiting for a spot to open.  A late 50s-early 60s guy in a spot perpendicular to her gently backed into her Jeep.  The running board is scraped and there is a dent low on the door, but the paint is not damaged.  You can't really tell unless you get really close.

He gets out and is very apologetic and very kind.  They exchange contact and insurance information.  He goes on to explain that he's never been in an accident that required him to involve his insurance and doesn't want to report it, because his afraid of his rates going up.  It later comes out that he owns his own business and was supposed to be at the office yesterday, but "played hookie" and didn't tell his wife.....That's why he doesn't want to report the accident.  He told us to get an estimate, fax it to him, and he'll gladly reimburse us with a little extra for our trouble.  My wife told him that the little extra wouldn't be necessary.

My wife told him that she wanted to speak to me first.  I'm a pretty easy-going guy and after checking the very minor damage, I told her that if he just wanted to reimburse us, that would be fine (anything more substantial and I would have gone through insurance to make sure we got paid).  She called him and got his voicemail.  His business name was on his voicemail - Although, I realize this could have been faked.  He called back and thanked us for our understanding and generosity.  He asked us to get the estimate to him as soon as we can, because he'd like to just put the whole thing to rest.  He's not asking anything from us.

I tend to think this guy got caught with his pants down figuratively with us and doesn't want to get caught with his pants down literally with his wife.  I know there will be those who say "everything should go through insurance".  Normally, I agree, but this really is minor.  Is anyone aware of this being any sort of scam?  Again, he's not asking anything of us.  Am I being overly paranoid?  Or is this just a nice guy who got himself in a bad spot and wants to get out of it?

 
You are probably right that he is hiding something from his wife, but overly paranoid about the scam. Let him pay for it move on. 

 
if you're prepared to not get paid, sure.  

Sounds like you're probably right.  Dude shouldn't have been there, will get in deep ####.  Paying you off will be cheaper than a divorce. But keep in mind if he's lying to his wife, there's a fair chance he's lying about other things.  I wouldn't trust him but as you said, it's minor damage.  A lot of us probably have larger damage on our vehicles and haven't bothered to get it repaired.  

 
This is a bit of a unusual situation, so I'd say in this case you should, at the moment, only consider sleeping with his wife.

 
You typically have "x" amount fo time to contact insurance over it.

He doesnt pay an hour before the deadline, you get on the horn to his insurance... provided you have his details

 
I don't want to go into guessing about if the dude is a scammer or not--but I will comment on this.  If the damage is truly minimal and if you can get things taken care of outside of using insurance--it might be best for both sides.  The issue is this--once you report it on insurance--your car will now have a history of a collision on its car fax report.  This will hurt the future resale value of your car.   If I were you--try to get the estimate asap--and try to collect the money from him asap as well.  If he resists/stalls--you then report it through insurance before any statute of limitations becomes an issue.  

 
If the damage is minor enough that you wouldn't mind getting it repaired(or not getting it fixed) out of your own pocket if the  guy was a scammer......go for it.  

 
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Where’s the potential for a scam? Fax the estimate and if he doesn’t pay right away, go through insurance.
Because they both left the scene without reporting it? Can you go back and report it after the fact? I don't know, I'm asking. Seems to me if they do, the guy could just claim she's making it up and he wasn't even in the area.

 
Because they both left the scene without reporting it? Can you go back and report it after the fact? I don't know, I'm asking. Seems to me if they do, the guy could just claim she's making it up and he wasn't even in the area.
I think it varies state to state, but in Michigan you can report after. 

 
Because they both left the scene without reporting it? Can you go back and report it after the fact? I don't know, I'm asking. Seems to me if they do, the guy could just claim she's making it up and he wasn't even in the area.
Reporting to the police?  In most areas the police don't want to be involved in these minor accidents.  If you mean reporting to the insurance company, a few days shouldn't matter.   

His wife should have taken pictures though.

Something else to always consider in parking lots is if the store has security cameras.  I know someone who was hit in a parking lot at a Chinese restaurant.  The insurance company of the at-fault driver didn't want to pay at first.  The restaurant was nice enough to provide a clip of the accident and once that was submitted, everything changed. 

 
It's probably not a scam, but I'd still throw him a vague threat just in case. Vague threats are tragically underutilized. And start out being nice too, something like: "I'm really glad you're doing the right thing here, it's refreshing to know there are still decent people in the world. Of course, if you screw me, you and everyone you care about will wish they'd never been born." 

 
I think it varies state to state, but in Michigan you can report after. 


In NY, you have to file the report within 10 days, but you only need to file a report if the damage is over $1000.  But it is hard to imagine any body shop doing any work for less than that unless it is just scraped paint.  

 
I'm assuming you have his insurance information, right?  If so, then there's not much to worry about as long as you get it resolved quickly.  Get an estimate tomorrow, get it to him quickly, and get paid quickly.  Otherwise, go through insurance if it's that expensive and you feel the need.  Not much to lose here.

 
Perhaps "scam" was the wrong choice of words here.  Maybe I should have asked if it raised any red flags.

Regardless, I appreciate all of the advice.  We're going to get the estimate this week and pass it along to him.  If he skips out, I've got all of his information.  How hard can it be to find his wife and turn this into a blackmail that would make @McGarnicle proud?

 
probably what will happen is that he is cobra commander in disguise as a kind old man and if you would have just called the cops then snakeyes would have shown up and got him but now cobra will take over the eastern seaboard so thanks for ruining america take that to the bank gi brohan 

 
ClownCausedChaos2 said:
Perhaps "scam" was the wrong choice of words here.  Maybe I should have asked if it raised any red flags.

Regardless, I appreciate all of the advice.  We're going to get the estimate this week and pass it along to him.  If he skips out, I've got all of his information.  How hard can it be to find his wife and turn this into a blackmail that would make @McGarnicle proud?
Faxes are the latest way to hack people. 

 
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