With how many people do you have that vibe where... (1 Viewer)

[Gary Coal Man]

With how many people do you have that vibe where you know that if they weren’t married and you weren’t married you’d probably be hooking up, but you never will hook up because both of you are married.

This isn’t just you feeling that way about the other person.  This is you also getting the sense that other person feels the same way about you.

What’s your guesstimate as to how many people currently fit that description in your life?  How do you know?

 

[bigbottom]

Spoiler

https://redpepper.land/its-a-trap/

 

[Ilov80s]

Three right now- though one is divorced so she technically doesn’t fit the description. 

 

[belljr]

all of them

 

[ChiefD]

all of them

Yep. I'm a legend in my own mind.

 

[comfortably numb]

Pretty sure talking about hypothetical infidelity relations is not allowed here.

 

[Gary Coal Man]

Pretty sure talking about hypothetical infidelity relations is not allowed here.

But we’re acknowledging that there never will be any infidelity.  Just mutual interest that would likely manifest itself if people were never married in the first place.

 

[Buddy Ball 2K3]

It's not a matter of IF, but when

 

[wikkidpissah]

I'm a fat ol' man, retired from sex, but good friend's gf/wife is one of my favorite relationships. When the friendship's strong enough that i can be bawdy & intimate & dishy & gay & brotherly & in my fullness with a good woman without wondering where it lands, that's just perfect for me. In those spots, i would actually be disappointed when my pal wouldnt have the same kind of feeling toward my gf. My discipline was good enough to pretty much avoid letting the relationship turn if one of us became a free agent - slipped once and it convinced me that staying friends even after was the best policy and, if it grew it grew, whatever.

 

[Ilov80s]

Pretty sure talking about hypothetical infidelity relations is not allowed here.

I don’t think we are talking about cheating- we are talking about certain connections, flirting, etc. It was even acknowledged in the OP that we know there will be no infidelity.

 

[Buddy Ball 2K3]

Is @Gary Coal Man going camping this weekend?

 

[Ned]

I don’t think we are talking about cheating- we are talking about certain connections, flirting, etc. It was even acknowledged in the OP that we know there will be no infidelity.

You need to wipe these impure thoughts from your mind ASAP.

 

[Ilov80s]

You need to wipe these impure thoughts from your mind ASAP.

I had some weird teacher in HS who was in his early 20s and super Catholic. He would tell us when he had impure thoughts, he would force himself to take a freezing cold shower for an hour or wouldn’t allow himself to eat for a whole day. Do you think that would cleanse me Father Ned?

 

[Ned]

I had some weird teacher in HS who was in his early 20s and super Catholic. He would tell us when he had impure thoughts, he would force himself to take a freezing cold shower for an hour or wouldn’t allow himself to eat for a whole day. Do you think that would cleanse me Father Ned?

I read something similar in here.

 

[nirad3]

Mmm, probably one or two.  Maybe three.  Could just be in my own mind though.  Very possible.  OK zero.  

 

[Don't Toews Me]

17.22 according to my calculations 

 

[In The Zone]

Someone has been watching too much "Love Island". 

 

[Jayrod]

One I can think of, a former co-worker that I will possibly never see again.

My work is pretty male dominated, my social circle consists of couples from church and football/basketball referees.  Outside of that, I spend time with family.  Not a lot of opportunity for these types of relationships to form, which is a good thing.

 

[Sullie]

Is @Gary Coal Man going camping this weekend?

This, genuinely, made me laugh out loud! Kudos!

 

[Gary Coal Man]

Is @Gary Coal Man going camping this weekend?

 

[Bob Sacamano]

I don't know if I'm ready for a lifestyle change yet, but I'm pretty sure Trump wants to #### me.

 

[Judge Smails]

Probably the same # as my wife would say

 

[Arizona Ron]

... but you never will hook up because both of you are married.

Why? :whoosh:

 

[Gary Coal Man]

Why? :whoosh:

Because thou shall not commit adultery.

Of course I’m overlooking that whole thing about not coveting your neighbor’s, but I could just claim ignorance over what “covet” means.

 

[DallasDMac]

My work is pretty male dominated,

He never dictated it had to be a hetero hookup. Plenty of same sex marriages nowadays.

 

[Gary Coal Man]

He never dictated it had to be a hetero hookup. Plenty of same sex marriages nowadays.

Yep, I specifically left it as “people” because I was thinking of Jayrod exploring.

 

[DallasDMac]

Yep, I specifically left it as “people” because I was thinking of Jayrod exploring.

I have a male coworker that we just hired on our team that mentioned he had three ex-husbands. It was weird, but only because he looked nowhere near old enough to have been married and divorced three times.

 

[AAABatteries]

Zero - not a single person I can think of that would fit that category.

The funny thing is the female that I have the best rapport with other than my wife is someone who I would never in a million years hook up with and/or date.

 

[cheeseypoof]

Mutual:  probably zero, as far as I can tell.

Attraction from my end:  There was only 1 person that would have had tested my faithfulness if the feeling was mutual.  But it wasn't so the point is moot.

 

[-OZ-]

A few potential, but it gets squashed quickly.  Two come to mind quickly, but will never be. 

I'm 42, been with my wife since I was 21, haven't tried to flirt in years. 

 

[bentley]

Oh wow. This question speaks to me.

 

[bentley]

Three.

 

[bentley]

Wait, how do you define “never?” Like, “not this week?”

 

[OrtonToOlsen]

With how many people do you have that vibe where you know that if they weren’t married and you weren’t married you’d probably be hooking up, but you never will hook up because both of you are married.

This isn’t just you feeling that way about the other person.  This is you also getting the sense that other person feels the same way about you.

What’s your guesstimate as to how many people currently fit that description in your life?  How do you know?

Me: 5

You: -7

 

[Ilov80s]

Oh wow. This question speaks to me.

Bish don’t kill my vibe 

 

[msommer]

None.

I'm not married.

 

[Dezbelief]

How do you know?

Did they smile at you? They want you.

 

[Godsbrother]

Funny, I was getting that vibe from YOU Gary

 

[Gary Coal Man]

Funny, I was getting that vibe from YOU Gary

Let’s do some ungodly things together.

 

[Gary Coal Man]

Wait, how do you define “never?” Like, “not this week?”

Nope, think of “never” as the same odds of the FFA going XXX.