Otis
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Curious about this.
Otis is the proud dad of 3 girls. I love them eternally and frankly think I’m a much more natural girl Dad than boy dad. Not huge into sports, not all that athletic, not a frat guy, and never the type to be like “oh man, I never got to have a catch with my son!” (I basically throw like a girl anyway).
Heres the one and only reason I would want a son: to name him after my dad, who is an amazing guy. Maybe the classiest guy I ever met. My dad named me after his dad, first and middle name both, and so I’m Otis the 2nd. Always imagined doing the same with a son one day. I also am the last male in my lineage, so if no boy, the Otis last name dies with me. We ain’t the Rockefellers or anything, so how much does that really matter in the grand scheme, but it’s a factor.
I didn’t care enough to try and do the timing and all the tricks. We just made whoopie and let the chips fall where they may. Otis has always gotten by well by trying to do the right thing in life and just relying on fate and trusting that what is meant to be will be. And that feels right to me.
Mrs. O is on the fence about a 4th. I have told her that I know that odds here — it’s like 99% chance our fourth would be a girl. I’ve also said I’m totally fine with that, and it’s true — Otis likes the idea of a big Otis clan, leaving a legacy and a tight knit crew to care for each other and have great extended family long after we are gone. And to have four girls would be bad ###. If we have a fourth, that will be it Mrs. O refuses to birth a 5th. I can’t say I blame her.
That said, Mrs. O tells me that these days you could select your gender. It’s thousands of dollars but I guess they pluck out her egg, choose a boy sperm, and pop the combo back up in there.
The money isn’t an issue. The issue in my mind is one of going against the fates. If we did this and selected a boy, I could do that thing for my dad I always wanted to. That would feel good. And our name would live on, for whatever little that matters. That said, if he ended up an ##### or serial killer, I’d probably always be left with this sense that it happened because we did something unnatural, we went against the universe’s will, and it was not accepted by the fates.
If you’re in my shoes, do you give it a go and make your 4th a boy? Or just make a fourth and let it be what it is? Or do you not have another kid, because three are already a colossal amount of work and cost as it is, and there’s something to be said for shutting off the factory while Oats is 41 and Mrs O is 33 and we can both get past the baby phase and just enjoy each other more again.
Not a huge deal, but wondering what others think about this.
This is the only AC forum post I’ll ever make.
Will answer yours.
Oats
Otis is the proud dad of 3 girls. I love them eternally and frankly think I’m a much more natural girl Dad than boy dad. Not huge into sports, not all that athletic, not a frat guy, and never the type to be like “oh man, I never got to have a catch with my son!” (I basically throw like a girl anyway).
Heres the one and only reason I would want a son: to name him after my dad, who is an amazing guy. Maybe the classiest guy I ever met. My dad named me after his dad, first and middle name both, and so I’m Otis the 2nd. Always imagined doing the same with a son one day. I also am the last male in my lineage, so if no boy, the Otis last name dies with me. We ain’t the Rockefellers or anything, so how much does that really matter in the grand scheme, but it’s a factor.
I didn’t care enough to try and do the timing and all the tricks. We just made whoopie and let the chips fall where they may. Otis has always gotten by well by trying to do the right thing in life and just relying on fate and trusting that what is meant to be will be. And that feels right to me.
Mrs. O is on the fence about a 4th. I have told her that I know that odds here — it’s like 99% chance our fourth would be a girl. I’ve also said I’m totally fine with that, and it’s true — Otis likes the idea of a big Otis clan, leaving a legacy and a tight knit crew to care for each other and have great extended family long after we are gone. And to have four girls would be bad ###. If we have a fourth, that will be it Mrs. O refuses to birth a 5th. I can’t say I blame her.
That said, Mrs. O tells me that these days you could select your gender. It’s thousands of dollars but I guess they pluck out her egg, choose a boy sperm, and pop the combo back up in there.
The money isn’t an issue. The issue in my mind is one of going against the fates. If we did this and selected a boy, I could do that thing for my dad I always wanted to. That would feel good. And our name would live on, for whatever little that matters. That said, if he ended up an ##### or serial killer, I’d probably always be left with this sense that it happened because we did something unnatural, we went against the universe’s will, and it was not accepted by the fates.
If you’re in my shoes, do you give it a go and make your 4th a boy? Or just make a fourth and let it be what it is? Or do you not have another kid, because three are already a colossal amount of work and cost as it is, and there’s something to be said for shutting off the factory while Oats is 41 and Mrs O is 33 and we can both get past the baby phase and just enjoy each other more again.
Not a huge deal, but wondering what others think about this.
This is the only AC forum post I’ll ever make.
Will answer yours.
Oats
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