Your baby is not invited (1 Viewer)

[Ditka Butkus]

What's the level of debauchery at said beach party?

No reference or past years' pics were provided. OP failed on this point.

Does it really matter......Adults are sitting around having a few drinks, trying to relax and this toddler is running around getting in the way with its boogered up fingers, making annoying toddler sounds , screeching, crying, babbling etc. .....Why should the other couples have to put up with that.

 

[TobiasFunke]

What's the level of debauchery at said beach party?

No reference or past years' pics were provided. OP failed on this point.

Does it really matter......Adults are sitting around having a few drinks, trying to relax and this toddler is running around getting in the way with its boogered up fingers, making annoying toddler sounds , screeching, crying, babbling etc. .....Why should the other couples have to put up with that.

They shouldn't have to. But if all they're doing is sitting around having a few drinks they should not mind that much if this guy's friendship is important. An 18 month old doesn't really interfere with cocktail hour very much. OTOH, if they're doing copious amounts of blow and double-teaming hookers ... well I don't think I have any friends I like enough to put up with a toddler in that scenario.

 

[Gianni Verscotchie]

What's the level of debauchery at said beach party?

No reference or past years' pics were provided. OP failed on this point.

Does it really matter......Adults are sitting around having a few drinks, trying to relax and this toddler is running around getting in the way with its boogered up fingers, making annoying toddler sounds , screeching, crying, babbling etc. .....Why should the other couples have to put up with that.

OP wrote

"A group of friends and I have rented a beach house every year for while now. The goal is to go and let it all out once a year. Noise, booze, irresponsible behavior, no sleep, whatever you can think of. What happens at the beach house stays at the beach house"

Well, I can think of a lot! I picture AZ Ron type of activity all over the place and I want stories.

I couldn't care less if the kid goes or not. I don't even care if the OP goes.

 

[comfortably numb]

What's the level of debauchery at said beach party?

No reference or past years' pics were provided. OP failed on this point.

Does it really matter......Adults are sitting around having a few drinks, trying to relax and this toddler is running around getting in the way with its boogered up fingers, making annoying toddler sounds , screeching, crying, babbling etc. .....Why should the other couples have to put up with that.

OP wrote

"A group of friends and I have rented a beach house every year for while now. The goal is to go and let it all out once a year. Noise, booze, irresponsible behavior, no sleep, whatever you can think of. What happens at the beach house stays at the beach house"

Well, I can think of a lot! I picture AZ Ron type of activity all over the place and I want stories.

I couldn't care less if the kid goes or not. I don't even care if the OP goes.

Knowing more in detail what kind of party will help determine our level of outrage.

If it's this kind of party

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v733/kid8/CIMG0383.jpg

your friend is a dingleberry!!!

If it's this kind of party

http://losingit65.files.wordpress.com/2014/01/nerd-party.png

you're all dingleberries!!!!

 

[pollardsvision]

When I hear "what happens at........", I assume someone is referring to a pretty tame ordeal.

I doubt AR and EG utter that phrase very often.

 

[Zow]

I have plenty friends

This is where I stopped reading.

I'm not talking about Facebook, champ.

 

[Courtjester]

As the OP describes, this is a once a year event that is described as adults only. There is only one couple with a kid--the others don't have to adapt because one of them has a kid. No one is advocating dumping the guy as a friend, because keep in mind there are 363 other days of the year they can see him. I mean, OMG!! how will he survive missing one party?

This kid is old enough that I can guarantee if these parents are any kind of parents, the minute the first guy throws out a loud "F" word or the music is blaring at 2:00 am, you are going to get that look from the Mom. And then we all know what happens next: the guy disappears in the other room with said wife--and not for some lovin: 10 minutes later he emerges with that look of a dog that has been beaten with a belt: here it comes "Ah, guys Junior is sleeping and my wife was wondering if we could keep it down to a loud roar. Um, we can still party HARD (just said to make it seem like he still has one ball left), I just don't want him to be grumpy tomorrow. You guys understand, right?"

Like I said In my earlier post, as a parent you have to make a choice for what is best for your child and sometimes you have to just stuff your inner Frank the Tank to the side and say no. My wife and I have been together 25 years. We have a 14 and 9 year old daughter. We waited to have kids for almost 10 years to get those party years out of the way. During which time we went to Vegas twice a year, played poker every weekend, my wife loved fantasy football and we went to bars and movies all the time. We decided when we were 29, now is the time and we timed it out (because my wife has summers off her being a teacher) just the right mix of Coors Light for me and the irresistible rhythms of the COPS theme in the background (I work quick) and Viola little baby Jester #1 was on the way.

 

[Binky The Doormat]

As the OP describes, this is a once a year event that is described as adults only. There is only one couple with a kid--the others don't have to adapt because one of them has a kid. No one is advocating dumping the guy as a friend, because keep in mind there are 363 other days of the year they can see him. I mean, OMG!! how will he survive missing one party?

This kid is old enough that I can guarantee if these parents are any kind of parents, the minute the first guy throws out a loud "F" word or the music is blaring at 2:00 am, you are going to get that look from the Mom. And then we all know what happens next: the guy disappears in the other room with said wife--and not for some lovin: 10 minutes later he emerges with that look of a dog that has been beaten with a belt: here it comes "Ah, guys Junior is sleeping and my wife was wondering if we could keep it down to a loud roar. Um, we can still party HARD (just said to make it seem like he still has one ball left), I just don't want him to be grumpy tomorrow. You guys understand, right?"

Like I said In my earlier post, as a parent you have to make a choice for what is best for your child and sometimes you have to just stuff your inner Frank the Tank to the side and say no. My wife and I have been together 25 years. We have a 14 and 9 year old daughter. We waited to have kids for almost 10 years to get those party years out of the way. During which time we went to Vegas twice a year, played poker every weekend, my wife loved fantasy football and we went to bars and movies all the time. We decided when we were 29, now is the time and we timed it out (because my wife has summers off her being a teacher) just the right mix of Coors Light for me and the irresistible rhythms of the COPS theme in the background (I work quick) and Viola little baby Jester #1 was on the way.

This is the way to do it. Not everyone can - but the obnoxious couple in question gets grandma fefe to sit the kid or they don't get to come to the orgy.

 

[Insein]

I'm definitely surprised by the number of (amusing) responses and won't try to address them all, but I think the bottom line is it probably won't be safe for the baby to be crawling around all weekend, even if it's not quite as wild as I suggested, and one of us needs to tell him even though he should know this already. And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

18 month olds don't crawl around. They also sleep like rocks 12+ hours a day. They're not newborns.

I think people need a little more detail on this. Basically, anything more than weed and monogamous sex going on? If not, an 18 month old kid isn't gonna mess up anything. They're actually kind of hilarious when you're stoned ... as long as you're not the one who has to be responsible for them and whoever has to be responsible for them isn't stoned.

If you're ripping lines on the coffee table and getting midday BJs that's a different story.

Both my kids were crawling all over by 18 months with one of them attempting to walk. Thats also when everything they can grab they put in their mouth.

 

[Insein]

And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

And this represents the disconnect for me, because looking after the kid WAS fun for me- in fact, when my daughters were babies, there was nothing else I would have rather been doing. It wasn't a burden.

Come on Tim. We love our kids but I can think of hundreds of things Id rather do.

 

[timschochet]

And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

And this represents the disconnect for me, because looking after the kid WAS fun for me- in fact, when my daughters were babies, there was nothing else I would have rather been doing. It wasn't a burden.

Come on Tim. We love our kids but I can think of hundreds of things Id rather do.

For a few hours, sure. For a whole weekend? When your kids were babies? I'm not criticizing anyone else, but for me that wouldn't have been any fun.

 

[Johnny Rock]

What's the level of debauchery at said beach party?

No reference or past years' pics were provided. OP failed on this point.

Does it really matter......Adults are sitting around having a few drinks, trying to relax and this toddler is running around getting in the way with its boogered up fingers, making annoying toddler sounds , screeching, crying, babbling etc. .....Why should the other couples have to put up with that.

I'm firmly in the kids are not invited camp. Pics and stories of the debauchery is all I care about, as Gianni Verscotchie quite eloquently wrote in post 153.

 

[Homer J Simpson]

And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

And this represents the disconnect for me, because looking after the kid WAS fun for me- in fact, when my daughters were babies, there was nothing else I would have rather been doing. It wasn't a burden.

Come on Tim. We love our kids but I can think of hundreds of things Id rather do.

For a few hours, sure. For a whole weekend? When your kids were babies? I'm not criticizing anyone else, but for me that wouldn't have been any fun.

Luckily you were never invited anywhere.

 

[Sarnoff]

After they reach 6 months of age, all children should enter a faraway private boarding school to be trained until they reach 18.

 

[SIDA!]

Thanks for the detailed info, OP! Great thread.

 

[Insein]

Thanks for the detailed info, OP! Great thread.

Hit and run fishing.

 

[Henry Ford]

Ask him how he'll feel when this is the year you all get arrested and the kid is put with CPS in whatever ####hole beach town you're in.

 

[sbonomo]

will someone delete this thread.....so much potential that so far has been such a failure.

 

[The_Man]

As the OP describes, this is a once a year event that is described as adults only. There is only one couple with a kid--the others don't have to adapt because one of them has a kid.

This kid is old enough that I can guarantee if these parents are any kind of parents, the minute the first guy throws out a loud "F" word or the music is blaring at 2:00 am, you are going to get that look from the Mom. And then we all know what happens next: the guy disappears in the other room with said wife--and not for some lovin: 10 minutes later he emerges with that look of a dog that has been beaten with a belt: here it comes "Ah, guys Junior is sleeping and my wife was wondering if we could keep it down to a loud roar. Um, we can still party HARD (just said to make it seem like he still has one ball left), I just don't want him to be grumpy tomorrow. You guys understand, right?"

Can't really improve on this posting.

It's perfectly natural for parents to make their kids the center of their lives. It sucks when those same parents try to make their kids the center of other people's lives too.

 

[Ditka Butkus]

Hang out with a group who's kids are grown......now one couple started bringing their grand kids around on occasion....I guess I've turned into a silverback cause when these little monkey's head my way, I growl show my teeth and send the little chimp running to one of the females in the troop.

 

[cstu]

Hang out with a group who's kids are grown......now one couple started bringing their grand kids around on occasion....I guess I've turned into a silverback cause when these little monkey's head my way, I growl show my teeth and send the little chimp running to one of the females in the troop.

Great job mixing monkeys, gorillas and chimpanzees into that story.

 

[jonessed]

I'm definitely surprised by the number of (amusing) responses and won't try to address them all, but I think the bottom line is it probably won't be safe for the baby to be crawling around all weekend, even if it's not quite as wild as I suggested, and one of us needs to tell him even though he should know this already. And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

18 month olds don't crawl around. They also sleep like rocks 12+ hours a day. They're not newborns.

I think people need a little more detail on this. Basically, anything more than weed and monogamous sex going on? If not, an 18 month old kid isn't gonna mess up anything. They're actually kind of hilarious when you're stoned ... as long as you're not the one who has to be responsible for them and whoever has to be responsible for them isn't stoned.

If you're ripping lines on the coffee table and getting midday BJs that's a different story.

Both my kids were crawling all over by 18 months with one of them attempting to walk. Thats also when everything they can grab they put in their mouth.

My kids were fully mobile as well. This isn't described as an appropriate place for a toddler. Maybe this couple is just struggling with the transition from party couple to parents. That's not all that uncommon. I had many a friend go through this transition. You can still do a bit of partying, but events are either kid friendly or the aren't. This pretty clearly isn't and that's on them to come to grips with.

If the parents can't figure it out on their own then it's fine to tell them. Find a babysitter or we'll see you next year.

 

[Baloney Sandwich]

Epic fail by OP

 

[Maik Jeaunz]

Hang out with a group who's kids are grown......now one couple started bringing their grand kids around on occasion....I guess I've turned into a silverback cause when these little monkey's head my way, I growl show my teeth and send the little chimp running to one of the females in the troop.

Great job mixing monkeys, gorillas and chimpanzees into that story.

all that's missing is Dr Zaius.

 

[Fennis]

Hang out with a group who's kids are grown......now one couple started bringing their grand kids around on occasion....I guess I've turned into a silverback cause when these little monkey's head my way, I growl show my teeth and send the little chimp running to one of the females in the troop.

Great job mixing monkeys, gorillas and chimpanzees into that story.

all that's missing is Dr Zaius.

Can I play the piano anymore?

 

[CBusAlex]

Hang out with a group who's kids are grown......now one couple started bringing their grand kids around on occasion....I guess I've turned into a silverback cause when these little monkey's head my way, I growl show my teeth and send the little chimp running to one of the females in the troop.

Great job mixing monkeys, gorillas and chimpanzees into that story.

B-Deep alias confirmed.