Here's her text to me that I received while in class:
"I'm sorry for being so heartless. I told you already I'm leaving him and I'm coming back to you. I know it's hard to understand but I am leaving him to try and work things out between us. I can't promise you I will call you every night. If I promise and end up not doing it then you'll be upset. I'm trying my best to be honest with you that's why it's irritating me because it's never enough."
Probably shouldn't have but I replied....
"After what you did to me with him words only are not enough. Actions are the only thing I can fully trust right now and if you're not willing to put in the effort then why should I?"
let's break this down:"I'm sorry for being so heartless." - i'm feeling guilt for cheating on you, and can't believe you [finally] called me on it.
"I told you already I'm leaving him and I'm coming back to you." - i find it hard to believe that's what she told the PT. and she says this right after she tells you, "Honestly, I'm not sure yet what I want. I'm not sure I can make you 100% happy." so which is it? is she coming back to you, or just leaving the PT to string you along so she can find what she
really wants.
"I can't promise you I will call you every night." - translation: i don't want [you] as a boyfriend and to be held accountable for anything.
"If I promise and end up not doing it then you'll be upset." - trying to throw a little guilt your way. also, making an excuse as to why she doesn't want to "promise" and then have to be held accountable for her actions.
"I'm trying my best to be honest with you that's why it's irritating me because it's never enough." - i can't believe you showed some spine and aren't letting me continue to steamroll you. it's irritating to have to think about someone besides me. also, why should someone who you loved and presumably want to love again have to "try" to be honest. i think that should come naturally from an honest person.
as to your reply? it wasn't epic, but didn't hurt your position much.
See, this is her doing what she didn't prepare to do at dinner. I don't agree with some of the above analysis, but clearly this was an attempt to rewrite history. Pretty clear to me she's 100% covering tracks because she dropped the ball. Believe her at the restaurant - that was spontaneous truth. Why in the world would you ever text with a person this duplicitous? I honestly don't get why you responded at all, much less immediately, much much less asking an open ended question. You basically just flopped yourself out of the lake and all the way down the street to the bait shop.
I honestly hoping she would be willing to bone tonight and do everything I asked but this is what she replied with:"I'm sorry"
To which I replied:
"Pick up the dog by tomorrow or he's mine forever. I will block your phone number again so that I won't have to deal with you anymore. Not matter how sorry you are, you're not making me a priority in your life, so I don't want u to be a part of mine any longer."
After she sent:
"I just don't understand why you can't see I'm staying up here because I want to work things out with you. I'm gonna stop talking to PT because of you. even though I'm not exactly sure if we''ll work out 100% I'm still willing too do that for you. Those are many actions to prove that I choose you! But I guess it's not enough so fine"
I sent this to her:
"Yah because there's no need to see him. You have family and friends. How the hell did you get home the past 6 years you've been living up here? It should be easy to call me every night. You have a cell phone. You should want to spend as much time with me as possible before you go by spending the night in a hotel.
These are all things I would do for you if it were reversed. If you can't do all these things for me than yah that's fine.
Pick up the dog by tomorrow or you'll never see him again"
She replied...
"Keep him."
Then I said...
"Good bye Alyssa. Hope PT is worth it. Btw I'm gonna text him tomorrow that we've been seeing each other. You deserve to be alone."
That didn't make her happy:
"#### you No.16! Seriously! You are such an #######! I'm already going to end it! Why don't you ####in understand that. I ####in hate you@!!!"
Then she called me. I picked up and pretty much said more of the same. After she hangs up we exchange a few more heated and profanity laced texts and our convo end me...
"3 simple requests: Stay with me tonight, do not see him on your trip back, and call me every night. That's all I ask. Nothing crazy. That's it. Reasonable requests from someone who was cheated on. Ask [GBs GF]. Ask [CLOSEST COUSIN]. Ask anyone. Nothing unreasonable if you truly wanted to end things with him and work things out with me."
And that's how it has been left. I probably didn't need to add that I would tell the PT about us, but I just wanted to make sure she knew I was serious and also just to piss her off a little.
Don't want to stay awake anymore. Just want to sleep it all away.
I don't envy how you're feeling and/or will be feeling soon. And this story probably isn't done yet. But that's a HUGE move on your part. Not only did you make the mature decision, you were the one who got to initiate things. That's a much more powerful feeling than being on the receiving end. Congratulations and best of luck to you. Way to take control. Massive kudos for making the right move. If I were in your neck of the woods I'd buy you a drink. 
ETA - damn, should have continued reading before responding. Quint broke down the text exchange beautifully.
