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I love each of you a ton.
D can take a big D, if you catch my drift.Man, I do not know what happened, but the big D is kicking my a**. Started yesterday, no excitement, irritability, very tired.
I am getting decent sleep, eating Ok, taking my meds. Just one of those times depression is a random d*ckwad
Wow I honestly never would have pictured you having depression issues based on your posts in here. Just goes to show that you can never tell what someone is dealing with. Hope you’re able to find an outlet.I would also suggest trying someone else. There are a whole wide range of therapists. I assure you that I know how much it ####### sucks going through the process of finding one. I never wanted to do it and hate opening up, but eventually I did it. I went to one by myself, who provided some help. Went to one with my wife, who wasn't so great. Though he later recommended another therapist for me specifically, and he has been better. I will be honest and say that I am a pretty negative person with depressive tendencies, but I don't reach the depths of some of you folks in here, but I find that just releasing stuff with no consequences helps me a lot. I don't think that a therapist who would come to a conclusion like that so quickly is particularly good.
Depression is a silent disease. Most can function and look fine but the darkness lives inside..Wow I honestly never would have pictured you having depression issues based on your posts in here. Just goes to show that you can never tell what someone is dealing with. Hope you’re able to find an outlet.
I know. I’ve had my own demons in the past as well. But 4 years later and I’m in the best place of my life right now. Problems can be resolved over time. I’m hoping nobody in here ever gives upDepression is a silent disease. Most can function and look fine but the darkness lives inside..
update?I'm not rich beyond my wildest dreams yet. That makes me sad inside.
I got enough darkness for this whole board. Luckily for me my super power is repressing memories. The concussions actually help in that regard. Music is my drug of choice.Depression is a silent disease. Most can function and look fine but the darkness lives inside..
Well, my job has become infinitely more stressful over the past month and my wife had major knee surgery which has taken a lot out of me at home.Three years later, things have turned around. I have renewed my commitment to my faith, I have changed careers and seen my financial struggles turn around. There is still work to do, but since about a year ago I noticed a real difference and no longer considered myself depressed. I did some professional counselling along the way, but some personal steps are what really made the change and wikkid helped me get there. Realizing why you are reacting the way you are is a big part of recovery. Hard to overcome the disease if all you treat are symptoms and not the illness.
Agreed. Battling depression is work. It makes you tired which is part of the reason it's hard to get out of bed at times. It's a daily job to keep it in check with whatever works for you, just like your other daily duties.Well, my job has become infinitely more stressful over the past month and my wife had major knee surgery which has taken a lot out of me at home.
As a result, I was stretched too thin, stopped doing a lot of the things that helped get me out of my prior depression and now am struggling again. It has been difficult just getting out of bed every day for the last week or so and I am not doing a good job of focusing at work. I just want to run and hide from everything.
Difference is, this time I know what is going on and am not hesitating to get some help. I told my wife last night and scheduled a doctor's appointment today. Just those two things have helped lighten me up a bit this morning. However, had a bombshell dropped on me (key person I work with is quitting) first thing this morning and it has been difficult to get through mentally. I'm saying and doing all of the right things, but my mind is screaming at me just to run away from it all. Thought I'd run in here for some personal therapy as well as a warning to all that even though things improve, you have to stay on your game, or it can come back. Those pathways are easily rediscovered by the brain if you let it.
Frostillicus, you'll get through it. I know this is weird, but I hope you have the best night. Just...ride it out. There's always tomorrow and good stuff in the morning. Until then, keep with your pills and you'll see the morning .I’m in the process of moving to a new home (yay!) that’s more expensive than anywhere I have ever lived by double (scary!). In the process I have not taken my pill (celexa) for three days and had some drinks tonight.
Dont do this. I can almost feel the demons trying to rush in. But I know what is happening and I am fine and I will take my pill tomorrow and everything will be ok.
I hate having to write this but I think you will understand.
Never. I may regret certain details but unless I know a person well I don’t give their opinion that much sway.Do you ever let loose in here and then regret it and delete the next day? I feel that tonight. I can’t believe a pill has this much sway over my life. But I am greatful I have it.
It’s probably better to touch yourself in an impure manner.I’m going to go run into a wall head first and knock myself out. Seems like the best course of action. See you tomorrow!
This is a total “ mad libs” response.Frostillicus, you'll get through it. I know this is weird, but I hope you have the best night. Just...ride it out. There's always tomorrow and good stuff in the morning. Until then, keep with your pills and you'll see the morning .
You can’t receive PMs so thank you.Frostillicus, you'll get through it. I know this is weird, but I hope you have the best night. Just...ride it out. There's always tomorrow and good stuff in the morning. Until then, keep with your pills and you'll see the morning .
yes, but i never delete.Do you ever let loose in here and then regret it and delete the next day? I feel that tonight. I can’t believe a pill has this much sway over my life. But I am greatful I have it.
Good morning, @Frostillicus! Hopefully you and the wall made it through the night in one piece and at peace, respectively. Congrats on the new house ...seems to be an indication of your success, although that carries with it responsibilities.I’m going to go run into a wall head first and knock myself out. Seems like the best course of action. See you tomorrow!
Glad the morning finds you well, Frostillicus.I'm all good. This is good to have a place to vent. Thanks.
Sorry about what you’re going through. On the the bright side, no kids. That’s great.I'm in such a bad place in life right now
I'd like to vent in here. Please read all the way through if you can help me. I've always tried to help others about things I know at FBGs but now I need answers about life.
The good - about 18 months ago, I was diagnosed as diabetic. It depressed the #### out of me, I was overweight and felt terrible but still acted myself. I fell into a pattern of pretty bad anxiety. I locked myself up in the house for like 3 months until I decided to do something. I've now lost nearly 100 lbs and look better than ever and have more outgoing confidence (I'm at my high school wrestling weight). You can look at my backstory a bit in the Keto thread. I went to the doctor and my blood sugar dropped so dramatically, I was now "under" what they consider to be too low of an A1C blood sugar by a smidge. No meds, and that life is behind me. I kicked that things ###.
The dark - During those 3 months of depression, my wife and I, didn't drift apart but it was hard to be romantic and we spent more time doing our own things - something we were always comfortable with. I met her 6 years ago in Philadelphia and married her a year ago and we bought a house. She got offered a job in Virginia and I followed. Here I am 800 miles form where I grew up in Rhode Island and because of the anxiety issues, I didn't really manage to make many friends. This part is all my fault.
Wife travels a ton for work which is ok because we are both very independent and need our alone time. Friday night she got home from a trip and said "I'm not happy and I'm leaving", just a year into the marriage. Just like that. We had a GOOD relationship, we NEVER fought, we hardly ever argued. Honestly, my only criticism to her was she would never tell me if she felt a certain negative way about something I did or said. I implored her to please let me know if I pissed her off, annoyed her, she never did. I cherished her. She is absolutely an amazing person.
She won't listen to reason and took off to her moms in Philadelphia. She was planning this, sprung it on me. Refuses to try couples counseling, just says she is definitely not in love with me any more and is leaving. I can't do anything. She left me, trapped in our home, 800 miles from my original home for the weekend, alone. It's been agony. Alone, with my thoughts, and zero friends here
Now it gets deeper...
This is my 2nd divorce. 10 years ago, some might remember ( @General Malaise gave me especially good advice at the time I remember), my wife of only 6 months came home and said she is unhappy and leaving. Turns out, I found out later she was fooling around w another guy, who she eventually married, has since divorced and is now engaged a 3rd time at the age of 32. She also wouldnt listen to reason, no counseling, just DONE. I don't believe the current wife is having an affair, she's absolutely not that type but I'm suspicious that she could take vows a bit over a year ago and not be willing to try. Even try, even if it doesn't work.
What the #### is wrong with me?! I'm a kind person, I treat everyone with respect, I'm clean cut, well-off financially (self made), I've never even gotten a speeding ticket in my life, I'm an animal lover, a pianist, a personable and intelligent person, a friend to few but a dependable one.
Lets go back 10 years before that. High school, my father took a job in Florida, I was going to be a junior in high school. So they said I could stay back and live with my aunt. They didn't even fight to bring me with them. I rarely talk to my family to this day. Cordial, once a month phone calls.
On top of all this stress...we bought a house we could live in for life. It's loaded with furniture, a ####### grand piano for gods sake that I certainly can't take with me anywhere else to some smaller place. This woman wasn't just my wife, she was truly my best friend - no children (I don't want any and she doesn't either) - my closest friend I've ever had.
I don't know where to turn, who to talk to, what to do. My closest confidant is my boss, who is 4 states away and has been a father figure for me when I need advice but I can only lean on him so much, he's my boss. I'm 36. I'm definitely moving back home to Rhode Island when this is all settled to be closer to friends, but what in the #### do I do in the mean time. How do I handle the stress of all this.
I've seen therapists, I have a xanax rx. But seriously, why does every single person in my life abandon me?
I'm not suicidal at all, sometimes I think, well if I didn't wake up one day, that wouldn't be so bad but I don't think of doing it to myself, never have.
Where's the bright side, why does this #### keep happening to me and how did I become such damaged goods? Can anyone show me something positive. I get the physical changes and stuff but why is everything in else in my life and in my head so ####### broken?
Gah - thanks all.
ETA: one of the most dreadful things is my poor 10 year old, former abused dog who trusts no one and her and my wife are amazing together. She's the nurturer, I'm the provider. My dog has been freaking out all weekend and I swear if I move her away, she's going to die from heartbreak. She's almost like a child in our life. That part depresses me even more than thinking what I'll go through.
Not being glib. Sounds like you've had a run of bad luck, the effect of which you are compounding by taking personally.I'm in such a bad place in life right now
I'd like to vent in here. Please read all the way through if you can help me. I've always tried to help others about things I know at FBGs but now I need answers about life.
not communicating along the way and just blindsiding you really sucks. right now, try to keep the focus off of yourself. nothing is wrong with you to cause this. relationships are tough. honestly, it's going to be hard to get the self-doubt out of you in the future (I've only had 1 divorce and I know), so i'm not going to sit here and just give you a saul "it's not your fault", but try to remember as much as you can that so much of the world is not in your control and life moves around us in unexpected ways. but there will absolutely be better times ahead.I'm in such a bad place in life right now
I'd like to vent in here. Please read all the way through if you can help me. I've always tried to help others about things I know at FBGs but now I need answers about life.
The good - about 18 months ago, I was diagnosed as diabetic. It depressed the #### out of me, I was overweight and felt terrible but still acted myself. I fell into a pattern of pretty bad anxiety. I locked myself up in the house for like 3 months until I decided to do something. I've now lost nearly 100 lbs and look better than ever and have more outgoing confidence (I'm at my high school wrestling weight). You can look at my backstory a bit in the Keto thread. I went to the doctor and my blood sugar dropped so dramatically, I was now "under" what they consider to be too low of an A1C blood sugar by a smidge. No meds, and that life is behind me. I kicked that things ###.
The dark - During those 3 months of depression, my wife and I, didn't drift apart but it was hard to be romantic and we spent more time doing our own things - something we were always comfortable with. I met her 6 years ago in Philadelphia and married her a year ago and we bought a house. She got offered a job in Virginia and I followed. Here I am 800 miles form where I grew up in Rhode Island and because of the anxiety issues, I didn't really manage to make many friends. This part is all my fault.
Wife travels a ton for work which is ok because we are both very independent and need our alone time. Friday night she got home from a trip and said "I'm not happy and I'm leaving", just a year into the marriage. Just like that. We had a GOOD relationship, we NEVER fought, we hardly ever argued. Honestly, my only criticism to her was she would never tell me if she felt a certain negative way about something I did or said. I implored her to please let me know if I pissed her off, annoyed her, she never did. I cherished her. She is absolutely an amazing person.
She won't listen to reason and took off to her moms in Philadelphia. She was planning this, sprung it on me. Refuses to try couples counseling, just says she is definitely not in love with me any more and is leaving. I can't do anything. She left me, trapped in our home, 800 miles from my original home for the weekend, alone. It's been agony. Alone, with my thoughts, and zero friends here
Now it gets deeper...
This is my 2nd divorce. 10 years ago, some might remember ( @General Malaise gave me especially good advice at the time I remember), my wife of only 6 months came home and said she is unhappy and leaving. Turns out, I found out later she was fooling around w another guy, who she eventually married, has since divorced and is now engaged a 3rd time at the age of 32. She also wouldnt listen to reason, no counseling, just DONE. I don't believe the current wife is having an affair, she's absolutely not that type but I'm suspicious that she could take vows a bit over a year ago and not be willing to try. Even try, even if it doesn't work.
What the #### is wrong with me?! I'm a kind person, I treat everyone with respect, I'm clean cut, well-off financially (self made), I've never even gotten a speeding ticket in my life, I'm an animal lover, a pianist, a personable and intelligent person, a friend to few but a dependable one.
Lets go back 10 years before that. High school, my father took a job in Florida, I was going to be a junior in high school. So they said I could stay back and live with my aunt. They didn't even fight to bring me with them. I rarely talk to my family to this day. Cordial, once a month phone calls.
On top of all this stress...we bought a house we could live in for life. It's loaded with furniture, a ####### grand piano for gods sake that I certainly can't take with me anywhere else to some smaller place. This woman wasn't just my wife, she was truly my best friend - no children (I don't want any and she doesn't either) - my closest friend I've ever had.
I don't know where to turn, who to talk to, what to do. My closest confidant is my boss, who is 4 states away and has been a father figure for me when I need advice but I can only lean on him so much, he's my boss. I'm 36. I'm definitely moving back home to Rhode Island when this is all settled to be closer to friends, but what in the #### do I do in the mean time. How do I handle the stress of all this.
I've seen therapists, I have a xanax rx. But seriously, why does every single person in my life abandon me?
I'm not suicidal at all, sometimes I think, well if I didn't wake up one day, that wouldn't be so bad but I don't think of doing it to myself, never have.
Where's the bright side, why does this #### keep happening to me and how did I become such damaged goods? Can anyone show me something positive. I get the physical changes and stuff but why is everything in else in my life and in my head so ####### broken?
Gah - thanks all.
ETA: one of the most dreadful things is my poor 10 year old, former abused dog who trusts no one and her and my wife are amazing together. She's the nurturer, I'm the provider. My dog has been freaking out all weekend and I swear if I move her away, she's going to die from heartbreak. She's almost like a child in our life. That part depresses me even more than thinking what I'll go through.
So sorry. I wouldn't take her back if she asked. She obviously has issues herself. People who pull stunts like that and without any discussion, just leaves, are weak. Look at your first wife. Can't keep a relationship.I'm in such a bad place in life right now
Sorry, my friend - i find "venting" a colossal waste of time and usually an exercise in reinforcing self-pity and nothing i do except for online-forum rambles has anything to do with "right now". That's what you pay the drugs&excuses folks for and there are plenty caring and sympathetic ears in this forum/thread with whom you are well-advised to trust your cares & woes. I got some answers if you want to add structure to your approach on life. PM me anytime if you want to know more.Yeah I know it's hard to give advice to people like this. I don't have many people to talk to, and venting has always helped me. Just reading some new perspectives so I don't feel so worthless. @wikkidpissah I'm definitely interested in what you mentioned above. I'll take any guidance I can right now.
John, my situation isn't like yours exactly but there are some similarities. I don't have any close friends due to some of my history and general lack of interest and ability to get close to people.Yeah I know it's hard to give advice to people like this. I don't have many people to talk to, and venting has always helped me. Just reading some new perspectives so I don't feel so worthless. @wikkidpissah I'm definitely interested in what you mentioned above. I'll take any guidance I can right now.
All the time. But I got to the point where I needed some words from other people. It helped.(Just deleted what I’d written)
Am I the only one here who has trouble sharing because they just feel like it comes off like a friggin sad sack and no one wants to hear it? I don’t tell anyone in real life my issues, the wife doesn’t want to hear it and I struggle with saying anything here. Ultimately I’m so closed off from connecting with anyone. And there’s no prospect of things improving.
I know I’d like to hear what’s going on with you.(Just deleted what I’d written)
Am I the only one here who has trouble sharing because they just feel like it comes off like a friggin sad sack and no one wants to hear it? I don’t tell anyone in real life my issues, the wife doesn’t want to hear it and I struggle with saying anything here. Ultimately I’m so closed off from connecting with anyone. And there’s no prospect of things improving.
Why would your wife not want to hear her husband's struggles?(Just deleted what I’d written)
Am I the only one here who has trouble sharing because they just feel like it comes off like a friggin sad sack and no one wants to hear it? I don’t tell anyone in real life my issues, the wife doesn’t want to hear it and I struggle with saying anything here. Ultimately I’m so closed off from connecting with anyone. And there’s no prospect of things improving.
Say it friend.(Just deleted what I’d written)
Am I the only one here who has trouble sharing because they just feel like it comes off like a friggin sad sack and no one wants to hear it? I don’t tell anyone in real life my issues, the wife doesn’t want to hear it and I struggle with saying anything here. Ultimately I’m so closed off from connecting with anyone. And there’s no prospect of things improving.
tried to pm you...All the time. But I got to the point where I needed some words from other people. It helped.
Just type it out.
Keep posting here. Never ever think people won't care. A good group here.ChopMeat said:(Just deleted what I’d written)
Am I the only one here who has trouble sharing because they just feel like it comes off like a friggin sad sack and no one wants to hear it? I don’t tell anyone in real life my issues, the wife doesn’t want to hear it and I struggle with saying anything here. Ultimately I’m so closed off from connecting with anyone. And there’s no prospect of things improving.
It's like singing the blues - if you don't do it right, it's just complaining,ChopMeat said:(Just deleted what I’d written)
Am I the only one here who has trouble sharing because they just feel like it comes off like a friggin sad sack and no one wants to hear it? I don’t tell anyone in real life my issues, the wife doesn’t want to hear it and I struggle with saying anything here. Ultimately I’m so closed off from connecting with anyone. And there’s no prospect of things improving.
It's just your inner weather, my friend. Very little of it can hurt you if you don't let it.I take it by no posts since July that people are good?
Well, I am out of it today. I forgot to call in my prescription for my Limactil and Prozac on Thursday and havent taken any since Thursday morning. Just realized it last night. So everything is back full force (Racing thoughts, anxiety, no focus, etc.). My pharmacy is open today so I hope I can get it refilled today otherwise it will be Monday.
I will be OK, just will be a rollercoaster weekend if I can't get them until Monday
I Googled this and it translates to "I'm so small a virgin toad is sloppy". Please explain how this has helped you."nam myoho renge kyo"