pats3in4
Footballguy
At the end of this month is a birthday party in which there will be a big family gathering. At this party will be my girlfriend's sister, her husband and their 3 kids (ages 12-15). The husband was just caught cheating for the 3rd time. While I suspect more people know of it than realized, the official count of people at the party who are in the know is about 8 -10 and all are disgusted with him, including the wife*, but yet they'll both still be there.
The husband is a fun guy to drink and watch sports with, but like the others I am also disgusted with him. I don't want to acknowledge his presence, let alone shake his hand. I know he'll come up to me for the bro hug when I get there and I don't want any part of that. Yet I don't want to enhance the drama as this party isn't about me. But the thought of giving him that bro hug, making small chit chat and otherwise pretending everything is okay sickens me.
Any advice on how to stay true to myself without making even a minor scene or gossip topic? One idea I had was just being straight with him, but also polite, telling him when we meet, "You know, I'm not happy with what you did to your wife. So excuse me if I don't want to hug you, shake your hand or talk to you. I'm here for the birthday boy and his parents, so I don't want to make this about us. If you have a problem with this, I'm fine talking about it sometime after the party." I don't like this, so if you have better ideas, I'd love to hear them.
* Why the wife stays with him has everyone shuked, but that's not the point of this thread.
The husband is a fun guy to drink and watch sports with, but like the others I am also disgusted with him. I don't want to acknowledge his presence, let alone shake his hand. I know he'll come up to me for the bro hug when I get there and I don't want any part of that. Yet I don't want to enhance the drama as this party isn't about me. But the thought of giving him that bro hug, making small chit chat and otherwise pretending everything is okay sickens me.
Any advice on how to stay true to myself without making even a minor scene or gossip topic? One idea I had was just being straight with him, but also polite, telling him when we meet, "You know, I'm not happy with what you did to your wife. So excuse me if I don't want to hug you, shake your hand or talk to you. I'm here for the birthday boy and his parents, so I don't want to make this about us. If you have a problem with this, I'm fine talking about it sometime after the party." I don't like this, so if you have better ideas, I'd love to hear them.
* Why the wife stays with him has everyone shuked, but that's not the point of this thread.